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ok so me and my boyfriend love eachother very much but it doesn't seem like he shows it at all and hes still friends with hes ex and doesn't want to stop talking to her and says I don't trust him what should I do??? it feels like im second best
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You say you love each other. People have different ways of showing love. Its called love languages, and there are 5. One is giving of affirmations, acts of service, giving of gifts, quality time, and physical touch. For example, how do you show your family you love them, do you tell them only...then your love gift is giving of affirmations. Lets say the way your mom communicates love is by quality time. You tell her you love her but dont want to spend any time with her, she won't feel loved by you.
I have no idea how much boyfriend is talking to ex and if she contacts him at all so its hard to tell. But I would say that if anything makes you uncomfortable and he really cares about you that he would be taking your feelings into consideration.
For him to put it back on you and say you don't trust him shows he will look for the easy way out(whether its true or not) in any conflict that naturally can come up in a relationship. It takes both partners working equally hard on a relationship to make it work. Happily ever after doesn't happen just because you wish it so. It only happens when both parties put in maximum effort to make it so. Time will tell just how much he wants this relationship with you
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This is a really tough situation for you.
In my opinion, no one should be friends with their ex when they are dating somebody else. They can be friendly and nice to them but it doesn't mean that it's ok to hang out and text them all the time. It just causes drama and makes the relationship strained.
You can't make him do anything. Just because you don't like the idea of him hanging out with his ex, it doesn't mean that you don't trust him.
So tell him that it just makes you uncomfortable. If he wouldn't stop talking to her even if it makes you feel that way, he doesn't respect how you feel about the situation. And that's when you should move on.
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An ex is old baggage that should not be in someone's life unless there are children involved.
While we never have a right to tell someone who they can and cant be friends with, An ex is not going to help your relationship nor your avoidance for drama.
You talk to him, If you must you give him the ultimatum.
I firmly believe apart of moving on is leaving the past the past. Perhaps to some aspect he still has feelings for her he will never truly admit too. Given an ultimatum will show his true fate. For you, Except it or let him learn the hard way
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