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What does my teacher think of me?
Ok, so there's this teacher at school (who I guess I quite like...) and I'm really desperate to know what he thinks of me... Basically,
1. He always compliments me on my intelligence (oh, you're the best student I've ever taught) and sometimes my looks (he told me I looked pretty at a school party for instance).
2. I'm always welcome to go and sit in his classroom (be it after school or at lunch time) and he'll happily sit and chat about pretty much anything. Normally, when people go in his room he keeps the door open but when it's just me and him he always goes and shuts the door...
3. He gave me one of his old books as a present and wrote an inscription in it for me. He told me that he's never done that before and won't be giving away any more to anyone else.
4. He's always really nice to me but also jokes around a lot and is comfortable making fun of me.
5. He's leaving soon and has said I can add him on Facebook (he literally told me exactly how to find him) and that he wants to keep in contact.
I don’t know if I’m thinking too deeply into this, or trying to imagine something that isn’t there so please help!
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This does sound a lot like someone else!
I will tell you what I told her. You're leaving school soon, so what's the big deal? I'd just take it as a compliment he sees you has intelligent and wishes to remain in friendly contact, but you need to accept the fact that it will only remain friendly.
I know many people who have added my old primary school teacher as a friend on facebook-it doesn't mean anything-other than they're friends!
With all this stuff on the news about naughty teachers, I don't blame you for reading into it a lot. But I'm telling you not to, otherwise you'll end up hurt.
Also, as you move up through your school career, you'll find teachers may even have lunch with their students etc. But its not sexual of whatever, its just because they share a common interest in the subject.
Check this out: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Its a link to the other person the user above was talking about-who sounds a lot like you! Read that advice for any more help.
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wow, this sounds identical to someone who wrote in a while ago. There must be an epidemic of teachers getting too friendly with their students.
While the teacher may be innocent in all his attention, during the teen years, what had one effect in building the esteem of a shy child in grade school is in danger of having a different affect on a teen during the years of their hormones going crazy.
What worries me is that I don't know what you mean when you say you like this teacher and are desperate to know what he thinks of you. Teen girls all go through the experience of needing validation that she as a female is a very nice person and pretty or attractive. I did at that age. Many are unaware they are hungry for this input. My dad pointed out that I was asking his opinion more often of what my outfits looked like on me and that I was asking for more hugs from him. All very innocent. It becomes tricky when a female student is not getting that from a dad figure or uncle or grandpa but some male outside the family. It's even trickier when that person is someone you see on a daily basis, your teacher at school.
Many schools are starting to notice that teachers and students are friending on facebook. While right now only some schools are banning that, some school districts are choosing to do so until guidelines can be created and set. Some states at state level are already looking into this. To have his personal email even if you were not his student, could put his job in question if the school he's moving to has banned it.
This is going to be a bit long. Theres much I didnt say to the last girl who wrote in but now i see its a really big issue.
Tell me, what signs does a teen girl look for in a boy to know that he is interested in her? You know the usual, looks at her a lot even if not talking yet, finds excuses to be near her a lot. Boy more self assured have conversations with you, give you gifts and hang out in your company and call and text and friend you on FB. You have an inborn need for this kind of attention if youre young. But I dont know your age here. If you are in college, you are of legal age, no problem. But if in high school or younger, he is making everything appear on the line if anyone cared to look. However one example of strange behaviour on his part is what he said when giving you a gift. Teachers sometimes give gifts to their students but from what my daughters told me, everyone got something, usually a bookmark, like LOTR when the movie came out. your words were: He told me that he's never done that before and won't be giving away any more to anyone else.
All he had to do was give the gift. But he added that he had never done this before and no one else was getting a gift from him...because he WANTED you to know how he feels about you. If a boy gave you a gift and says he's never given a girl a gift before and you're the only one he ever will give gifts to, I'd say the kid has a major crush on you and you two will be dating in no time. But a teacher? No he hasn't propositioned you or said anything wrong. But he's leaving you all the clues that he's got a crush on you. At his age though...I wouldn't call it a crush. He knows what he is doing, a fine game of cat and mouse. You think you're trying to imagine something that isn't there. If I had a male teacher treating me that way when I was your age, I would have felt warning bells going off in my head and stopped approaching him. Because you continuously seek him out for alone time to chat, you are also showing him as plain as it could be that you are attracted to him as well. Its as plain as it would be if you were crushing on a hot guy in your grade and doing the same thing with him. It's a good thing he's leaving soon. My advice would be to not add him on facebook. I am betting your parents and friends are not aware of this. If your parents know and other teachers know and your friends all know and still think what he's doing is ok, then why did you write us?
I think deep down your gut is telling you no matter how much you like him as a person that right now is not the right time to be close to him. Keep his name written down somewhere and when you turn of legal age, then find him on facebook and friend him if you haven't already found a sweetheart your own age.
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If he were flirting or attempting to make a relationship out of this then yes, he would need to be reported. My opinion on the Facebook thing is if it were me, I would never add a teacher, boss, manager to my Facebook. Facebook is where people post stuff and its a personal thing that should be kept that way. I am sure he is nice but remember you are his student and should be kept strictly that way. You are better finding friends your own age, A teacher is supposed to be a role model and a mentor not a best friend.
Facebook is YOUR private and personal thing. Keep it that way. Sometimes we need to know when to distance ourselves with people and you have a valid reason.
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