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Regaining trust In cheating boyfriend
Hi, so I'm a 15 year old female. My boyfriend rescently went to another state for family issues. He was there for about a week, so we didn't get to see eachother alot, only talk. When he was there he started txting this girl that goes to our school. They sexted and sent nudes back and forth. We kinda went on a break because he claimed that he lost his feelings for me. When he got back we were still on a break/ broken up. He made out with the girl that he was sending nudes to. This was a couple months ago but I still can't let it go. It bothers me so much, were still together now, but he didn't tell me about all this, I had to find out about it. I have no trust in him whatsoever. I was wondering how I would be able to forget this, and regain my trust in him. Because he has moved on from it, I haven't.. And it really bothers me. Thanks
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He obviously doesn't care bout you. Can't you see that? And of you're that uncomfortable, let him go. He lost feelings a long time ago, when he cheated on you with an easy catch, of all things. Dump him. You don't need that type of person in your life. Trust me.
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Regaining trust is one of the hardest things to do.
It really seems like there is more to this. Were you guys on a break when he went to see family? Or did you go on a break after that?
Either way, he moved on really fast. It was almost like he never even had feelings for you. I'm sure he did but it doesn't seem like they were very strong feelings.
So he lied to you and broke your trust. Like I said, it's the hardest thing to forgive someone for that and start trusting them again. Obviously, without trust the relationship won't work.
Of course he moved on from this, you're not the one who broke his trust and went and made out with another guy.
You deserve time to get over this. He doesn't deserve your trust and I wouldn't stay with a guy like that but if you are planning on staying with him, you'll have to give yourself time and he has to prove to you that he loves you and only you.
If he doesn't start showing you all this, you won't be able to trust him.
And if you can't seem to get over this, don't stay with him. You're 15 and I'm sure you know he's not the only guy in the world. So you need to be happy and not waste time on a guy who lies to you about important things.
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I'm sorry this happened to you, it really hurts to have someone you care about be unfaithful to you. Your 15 yrs old and the great thing about being your age is that you have your whole life ahead you. There will be more relationships in the future because nine times out of ten you won't be with this person when you're 19 or 25 yrs old. This shouldn't break you. I know that your hurt and you have every right to feel that way but sweetie you don't have to put up with that. Boys that age can like you, but will they stay with one girl? NO they won't. You shouldn't either... You can date, have fun but don't stress about it, you're to young for all of those problems. If he's sexting and kissing another girl then obviously you're not his priority. Because if you were he wouldn't do that to you. Don't settle for things that make you unhappy, don't let ANYONE disrespect you. There is no excuse for what he did, I don't care if you were on a "BREAK", No Excuses! If the shoe was on the other foot and you did what he did with another guy. You really think he would've given you another chance... and said "Oh that's okay we were on a break and you've moved on from it. I will forgive you and move on also". Heck No! He probably break up with you, tell his friends, start rumors, etc: You're to young to have stressful relationship issues... Like I said before Be Young, Enjoy Life, Friendly Date. If you're gonna have a serious relationship, don't settle, let anyone hurt/disrespect you and know your worthy of better. Don't let anyone get you down especially a TEENAGE BOY who will look at anything with female body parts... I hope everything works out for you. :)
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Let me get this clear. You call him a boyfriend. Does that mean he was a male friend at school and you hung out together but were not dating, or were you a couple? He lost feelings for you. What feelings? Did he ever profess to love you, be crazy about you or something like that? He had to have something to lose it. Or maybe he never really felt serious about you to begin with. It would seem so if he never did the sexting and having sex with you. Why was it so much easier with the other girl?
Either he is a player who just wants a gal who will give it up for him so he gets his needs taken care of, or he is a liar for pretending to be someone with you when he has a secret past. Either does not sound good. Does he weaken you or strengthen you?
Right now i see one thing weakened...your trust. Is there more? Does he strengthen or build you up in any way? These are the things to learn now that will help you in finding your long term mate some day in the future. I think you know the answer
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You shouldn't trust him
He betrayed you. As much as it hurts to hear, To some degree you were cheated on.
A week? No, A week is far to quick to just claim you both took a break. He gave it a title so he can stay in the "safe zone"
Sweetheart, He had feelings for someone eles for awhile. You don't just one day decide you are going to send nude photos to someone randomly unless you have feelings for tgat person. This is not a healthy relationship for you and someone who would betray you in that way certainly isn't someone to be in a relationship with... You are best to find someone eles who appreciates you.
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