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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

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17/f
My friends always touch my (butt( and call me a trucker butt and other horid names. These people whom are supozed to b mi frienz. is this molest?

Unwanted touching in a sexual manner is sexual assault. Sexual molestation is something else. If they are fondling your butt then they are both sexually assaulting you and molesting you at the same time. If they are doing so and you have said "NO, don't touch me," once you say those words every action where they touch or fondle you is a criminal act that you can have them arrested for.

Frankly speaking they are not very good friends if they harass you in this manner and say unkind things about you body features. With friends like these you really don't need any enemies.

If you wish to charge them with a crime that is up to you. But to keep them as friends; I would advice against keeping them as friends.

I started masturbating when i was around 15 by sticking foreign objects like highlighters washing pegs and colouring pens up my vagina as well as my own fingers. At the time i didnt know much about stds and i dont think i washed these objects before i stuck them in. My hands were fairly clean from what i remember and to the best of my knowledge i had no warts or anything on them. However since i turned 18 two years ago Ive noticed these papules on my fingers which weren't painful unless u pressed them hard. Now the same patches r dry and hardened. Also Ive noticed random pustules near but not inside my vagina first filled with just pustule then later with blood... Am i being paranoid?

We are not doctors,we really cannot make diagnoses. I most certainly would not be putting random objects up there as it's very unsanitary and they not belong up there.

Do you have an STD? Anything is possible though I doubt it. Since it is both on you fingers and around your vaginal area I would say you may have some type of dermatology problem that should be seen by a doctor as soon as you can make an appointment. I would suggest you start with your GYN.

What is possible and you will need to have the doctor make this diagnosis is. If you have ever had a cold sore. A cold sore is; herpes simplex virus type 1. This virus stays in the area of you mouth and is related to but not the same as herpes simplex virus type 2 which is an STD and is generally found in the vaginal area.

What I can't say as I don't know is could the type 1 virus become a type 2 virus if you somehow spread it to your vaginal area. This is why it is important to see your doctor. It is also important that you through out any of the toys you have been stick into your vagina as they may not be able to be cleaned to the point of removing any of either virus from them.

18/f

I was hooking up with my boyfriend the other day and we were both down to just our underwear when his mom walked in on us! I feel super awkward and embarrassed and now I don't want to see her because I feel like she's going to hate me or something. What can I do?

My advise is to face her and apologize for her seeing or catching you that way. As long as both you and he are adults,18 years of age or older, you have the right to have a sex life with or without parental approval; so their is no need to apologize for being caught having or preparing to have sex.

You say you are sorry you were both not more careful and will try to be more careful in the future. His mom may ask you questions such as how long the two of you have been having sex? Are you using protection and so forth? You need to decide if you want to answer them or tell her that those questions are personal between you and her son.

I'm sure she is just as embarrassed as you are about this ans is not sure how to approach you. So go ahead and as I said; apologize for not being more careful about the where when or how she was able to walk in on you. That is respectful. As for having sex their is no need to apologize as you are an adult and entitled to a sex life.

I'm 16 years old, female. When I was 15 I was in a bad place in my life and during my freshmen year of high school I slept with three guys. I wasn't ready to have sex and I regret it but I've moved on from it and I now have a completely different outlook. I'm not having sex again for a long time and I have good values and completely respect myself. Now that I have come to terms with my mistake and have completely changed I want to tell my mom what happened. We've always had a very open relationship and I don't like having secrets. I kept my 'bad girl' phase very well hidden so she has no clue I've done anything bad or immoral. I'm afraid if I tell her she'll think I'm a slut and won't believe that I've changed. I know she'll be disappointed in me but I feel like she should know . Should I tell her or continue to keep my secret?

Moms' have away of knowing what their children are up to. She may not have known you were having sex but she may have suspected so. Not knowing your mom personally I will say that I believe if she knew for certain she would probably have said something.

Now being disappointed and being disappointed in you are two different things. I believe if you tell mom as you have said here; "that you were in a bad place" I think be disappointed and maybe a little hurt that you did not come to her so she could try to help you.

As for being disappointed in you I don't think so. I think, again based on what you have written, she will be happy that you have come to her. That you feel secure enough in your relationship with her not only to come to her but to unburden yourself to her.

Secrets are a burden. Trying to keep a secret causes stress for the person trying to hide something. Your mom probably sees something is bothering you and if hoping you will come to her.

Will she be disappointed and maybe a little angry that you had sex at such an early age. Probably, though she will also be relieved that you have come to her. This will give you both an opportunity to have a new and frank discussion on all things sexual and sex in general.

The fact that you regret having sex doesn't surprise me. Sex like many things is an experience that is enjoyed as you get old enough and mature enough to enjoy the pleasure it can bring. At 15 you were not mature enough, you or your partner, to have the type of relationship sex requires to have an enjoyable experience.

My vote is to talk with your mother but not to blind side her with this. Ask her to go shopping or to a coffee shop someplace where it is just the two of you. Tell her you have something you wish to tell her that is personal and private. That you would like to have her complete attention away from brothers or sisters and other distractions. Then turn off the cell phones and talk to her.

so my penis is 4.7 inches is it too small?

I would say your in the average area, especially if that is measured when flaccid, not erect.

Depending if you are still going through puberty your penis may still grow and measure longer in the erect position.

Just so you know the following is the vital statistics for the average vagina. IF this is going to be you penis size for life you are a perfect fit

Average Vagina Size

Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch

Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches

I have to say, I've done my best to defend my father. I saw the frowns on others faces when I had to tell them "Daddy couldn't make it." Worst of all, it took 7 years to find out he didn't even try but only twice. A play I was in because I had a lead role, and graduation. I was in marching band and had tons of competitions that weren't far from him. He never came to a single one. I was in 10 plays in high school. He promised me when I was little that he'd take me to the county annual father-daughter dance. For 5 years he promised. When he cheated on my mother when I was 10, I saw everything and understood everything. I couldn't afford to be naive. He was never home. It was either work or music for him. Music still rules everything he does. He's actually the music director at his church. My father delved into drinking (he doesn't anymore) when he was with my 1st stepmother. The day they ended everything, she went psychotic and began yelling and throwing things and even broke 2 of his ribs. I understand he was hurt, but he left me (11) and my brother (5) alone with the same woman the rest of the day. He just ended his 3rd marriage with a wonderful woman who tried hard to make him involved in my life. I finally snapped at him. It started off with him saying that "it hurt his heart" to see me influenced by awful people. Talking about my future inlaws. The very people who saved me from my lonliness. I was so alone before them. Then their middle son and I fell in love and I couldn't be any happier! All my dreams are coming true with the support of this family. Ever since I told my dad everything I've felt for the past 12 years of my life, he said they weren't my feelings and I was being told to feel this way. I was destroyed by those words. He hasn't listened. I've tried to talk to him. I've been the one to fix everything before. But now I want him to try. Which he's never done a day in his life. He's even asking my mom to cut his child support in half. My mother has to get a 2nd job and he's going out getting tatoos and a new truck! He fasted for a month and in my heart I hoped God would show him how he's hurt me, my mom, and my stepmom. It's been a month since he's finished and he still hasn't spoken to me. I'm not hiding from him. My birthday is in a few days, and something inside of me just knows, he's not going to call. I'm getting married in a few months. And he may not even be the one to walk me down the aisle. I don't hate my father. I really don't. I just want him to try. And to accept me for who I am for once. I've prayed for weeks. Prayed for him to just say he's sorry and mean it. That's all I want. Understanding from him that he's actually done something wrong. I'm still hurting. I'm looking for someone who's willing to help me. And be willing to talk to me through this. My fiance hates seeing me hurt but he doesn't know what to do. Please? Someone help?

The first thing you need to understand is that you have done nothing wrong. Most children, especially when young always feel they had something to do with parents divorcing and is why one parent ignores them. This is very, very wrong. Children have nothing to do with their parents divorcing.

Some parents, such as your father, just never grow up. It is always me first and everyone else is second. They feel they brought you into the world and the rest is up to the other parent. Wrong. Again not your fault, but you do get hurt as you love both your parents and want both of their attention. It is hard to understand when your little whey daddy isn't there to see you preform.

I have only two suggestions for you. The first is you find a therapist to talk with. You need to vent all the pent up anger issues you have with your father to someone who will keep you confidence. A therapist is a great option for two reasons. 1) The therapist is a total stranger, a PHD that you can be totally open with knowing that what is said will stay in the room it is said in. @) once said the therapist can help you deal with those issues that come out and help you relieve the stress you are under. WE are not going to change your dad, though we can help you deal with the anger.

As for your Wedding. Dad has never been their in the past so I wouldn't count on him now either. If I were you I would give serious consideration to not inviting him, but that's just me.

You can have your mom walk you down the aisle or you mom and her current husband if she is married. Another choice would be to have mom and your current step mom do the honors.

You also speak quite highly of you future in=laws. Another consideration is to ask your future father in-law to walk you down the aisle. Then of course are a brother if you have one or Uncles.

As far as I know it is not written anywhere that it must be the father of the bride that walks her down the aisle. Just someone who loves her.

hi i was adopted when i was ten, eight years ago. my brothers and sister do not accept me. they were grown and out of the house. they told my mom that they didnt want her to adopt me before i was adopted and later said that they hoped she could be as great a mother as she was to them. i had a lot of ups and downs growing up and my non-adopted siblings got to hear all about it. they and i are very distant apart and when they are around. they sometimes act like they hate seeing me. i would never call them on my own nor would they call me. i'm afraid that they will never like me and we will be a dysfunctional family like my mom said. earlier this year before my parents went out of town, they went out to eat with my brother and the next day went out to eat with me. it could not be at the same time. i'm afraid it will be forever like this. this year my brother that lives out of town and his wife had a baby and he invited everyone down to see him but me. sometimes they act jealous and beg my mom not to give me a dime for anything. though i dont ask and wouldnt ask her for anything for that reason. i hate being adopted. maybe it would be different if i was an adopted baby but i wasnt. i never was able to know my real family because i was adopted and now i have no family because i was adopted. i recently learned of my real family and they dont seem to care that i exist. i call my great aunt and she seemed to hurry me off the phone. i met my great grandma once before she passed and she seemed very sad that i never got to know my family. she loved me very much. when i was a little girl and i was with my real parents, no family helped us when my parents came to them in need. none would take me in and they knew my parents were struggling.
i never experienced the specialness of having a family. i experience what the great qualities of family vicariously through television. i enjoy the special bond between a mother and a daughter on tv. and more. i have visited my real family and there seems to be a special bond between us though we never knew each other. possibly because the idea that we share dna? i use to dream up of becoming a millionaire and giving great gifts to all my family. as i grew older i realized that i couldn't buy anyone's love. im never around my real family, they live too far away but they never call or write. the family i was adopted into, i dont know how to win their affection and be a family like i always wanted us to be. they would never love me by choice. how could they if they dont have to be around? should i even care about having their affection? i could always marry and have a family but it would be sad for the children to see that the majority of the family that cares about them would be on the father's side.

I'm sorry your adopted family treats you as they do. Adopted children are special and your adopted mother is your mother who loves you and cherishes you or she would not have adopted you especially at the age of 10.

I have a cousin who is adopted. He is 2 years younger than me. He was adopted as an infant by my godparents who I loved dearly. We were both told he was adopted at the same time. It had to be explained to us what adopted meant as we were that young. He's my cousin plain and simple. Adopted, bio makes no difference.

What the problem is with your adopted siblings I can't say. What I can say, and write this down, is one day they will need you. When that day comes and it will, you can be gracious and help them or you can turn your back on them as they have on you. I would hope you would be gracious and help them though I would understand the satisfaction of turning your back on them.

For now the heck with them. You just go on and be the best you can be. Get yourself a good education. Find yourself a good man who will love, honor and cherish you the way you deserve to be cherished. Have a family you will love and keep safe.

What you can do for yourself today is; find a good therapist to talk to. Someone that you can confide in, who will keep your confidence and help you get right with all that is wrong.

Being adopted is not something you did wrong and not something you should be blaming yourself for. Yet in all you have written I hear and underlying scream that this is what you are saying. That is so wrong. There is no blame here for which you need to take responsibility. Any blame here is all on others and this is why I am suggesting you speak with a good therapist.

My dermatologist said that I have to take Accutane. I don't have sex and I don't plan on having sex.I'm 18, I'm not going to be pregnant anytime soon, but the iPledge booklet and doctor says that you need birth control?????? Is it required to use birth control pills if you're a virgin?? Please tell me! thanks.

Short answer to your question: Yes, you need to take this medication if you want to take Accutane. That is the simple long and short answer to that.

The following information on Accutane was taken from the Website drugs.com. The following is the URL to the page:

http://www.drugs.com/accutane.html

You need to go to this page and read the information contained on it as there is much more than I copied.

In brief if you are of child bearing age? Which you are. You must agree to take birth control medication. This medication can cause severe birth defects if you become pregnant. Because you are of child bearing age you must take birth control medication. Even women who have had their tubes ties, because their is still a chance of pregnancy, must agree to birth control if they are going to take this medication. Also regular pregnancy test will be given by your doctor to insure you are not pregnant while you are taking this medication.

Important information about Accutane

Accutane can cause severe, life-threatening birth defects. Never use Accutane if you are pregnant.

Women of child-bearing potential must agree in writing to use two specific forms of birth control and have regular pregnancy tests before, during, and after taking isotretinoin.

Accutane is available only under a special program called iPLEDGE. It is dangerous to try and purchase Accutane on the Internet or from vendors outside of the United States.

Do not take vitamin supplements containing vitamin A while you are taking isotretinoin. Do not donate blood while taking Accutane and for at least 30 days after you stop taking it.

So my boyfriend and I had sex with a condom and I know I shouldnt worry of any pregnancy but I am still scared I could be ? Should I worry??

To answer your question; you are probably safe. Condoms are 85% effective when worn properly. You are probably safe.

You are now suffering the effects of having under age sex. Think about this before giving into your boyfriend again. Is the few minutes of his pleasure worth all this anxiety and worry?

17/f

I've had sex but now I'm planning on getting on birth control because I'd at least be responsible about it.
I don't want my parents to know.
I was thinking to call my doctors office and schedule an appointment but I have no job and I don't have a lot of money.
I live in California and I heard that planned parenthood might give you it for free. Does my normal doctor do that for you or is it only planned parenthood?
Thank you!

By Federal Law anyone over the age of 14 has patient confidentiality when it comes to their reproductive system. The law is known as HIPPA. Since you are 17 you are have been covered by this law.

This means you can seek medical help, prescriptions and any other services for reproductive helth just as you would any other medical condition covered under your parents medical insurance. This would include coverage for your birth control medication. No one, neither your doctor, anyone in the doctors employ, the pharmacist or employees of the pharmacy can release any information concerning medical treatment without written permission from you. To do so is a 5 year prison term and $5,000 fine. Also mom can no longer demand to be in any exam room with you without your consent.

Knowing this there is no need to go to a strange doctor who does not really know your medical history. You can and should go to your own gynecologist and discus the proper birth control medication for you based on your known medical history. You are aware that the same medication prescribed for birth control is also the same medication prescribed to regulate you periods. Doctors routinely give this medication to young women who suffer from painful or excessively long periods.

My advice: If you have medical insurance with prescription drug coverage. Make an appointment to see your doctor. By law you do not need parental permission to do so. Discuss with your doctor what is the proper birth control medication for you. Then if your insurance has coverage for prescriptions, have the prescription for birth control filled at your regular pharmacy as you would any other prescription paying an applicable co-pay. This prescription for birth control is no mandate for coverage under federal law as well.

hello! how can i get a big penis! because mine is not that big!
is there anything will help me?
please advice!

What you are born with is what you have got. There are no pills or devises tat will make your penis larger. The average vagina when Aroused
5 to 6 inches deep and has a Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches. The average vagina will accommodate, comfortably a penis no larger than those dimensions any any penis less than those dimensions. Any penis larger that that will be uncomfortable for the lady to down right hurting.

So as long as you penis falls at or below those dimensions you should be able to show a young lady a good time in bed.

Ok so 13/f and I recenttly started masterbating a bit for my own pleasure and because I've been feeling stressed lately. I read online that masterbating was like fingering yourself (2 fingers) I started out with one finger and Ive used one finger for a while now. Today, I wanted to try 2 fingers and in the shower I masterbated and it hurt to get both fingers in my vsgina and I only got the tips before it hurt too much. I didnt want to force my body but I did and I shoved both fingers up my vagina as hard as I could so I could loosen it abit. I pulled my fingers out and I noticed blood on my fingers. I am not currently on my period because that doesnt start for about 2 more weeks and I dont know why I had blood on my fingers and Im keeping a pad on just incase it leaks. Help? Idont knoww why im bleeding!

From what you have written I will believe you are a virgin with a fully intact Hymen, also known as your cherry. When you shoved your fingers up your vagina you may have torn or separated you Hymen which would cause some bleeding. It should stop in a day or so. If it doesn't you will have to tell mom and see a doctor so the doctor can remove the remnants of your Hymen.

You don't have to tell mom you were masturbating. Your Hymen could have separated from doing many things from bike riding to exercising. All you need to do is tell mom your bleeding and it is not time for your period and yes you are still a virgin.

Don't be embarrassed or concerned about masturbating, its natural and according to a recent survey 85% of us do it, which would include your parents. Parents do it as part of foreplay for sex an is called mutual masturbation which includes HJs, BJs and oral sex. Yes parents actually do these things.

Yes you are still a virgin even if you tore or lost your Hymen. By current definition you are a virgin until a boys penis actually penetrates your vagina and you have intercourse.

I'm completely out of answers with a current problem and I'll try to be brief yet give enough detail necessary.

I have been clean off of drugs for 10 months with the help of Narcotics Anonymous meetings. I met the man that I am currently involved with in the meetings and after a casual friendship we took it to the next level. At the beginning, we had what I would consider to be the perfect relationship; we loved each others company, never argued or had conflicting opinions, etc. He is the single most genuinely chivalrous man I've ever met.

After about a month together, he relapsed in his recovery for the first time and it was a stressful day, however, I mainly felt bad for him because of his struggle. We quickly got back to where we were and he restarted with his program. On the third time this happened, it really started to affect me. He has 2 children (whom adore me and I, them) from a previous marriage, an unsupporting ex-wife (who gives him the drugs in the first place), and a lot of pain from feelings of failure from having to give up the life he'd worked years for (the house, family, cars, etc.) and also from losing his father tragically a few years back.

I know these things bother him daily and I know that he desperately wants to get and stay clean but my feelings towards him and our relationship have completely changed. I've become very stressed and sometimes go as far as really just not wanting to spend as much time with him as I used to.... I truly love him very deeply, and so does my family, but when he gets himself into these moods of extremes self loathing, we fight like mad and have actually begun this chain of breaking up and getting back together withing a span of a few hours.

I told him that I never wanted to be in a relationship like this.. I need stability and I really expected it because of our mutual love but he just delves so deep into depression at times that he leaves me to "save me from him." It's just killing me inside.. I feel like my heart just breaks for him, just completely shatters and I have no idea what to do...

I love him so much but part of me wonders if this is a type of (and I hate to even say this) abuse.. It mentally wears me down. I truly think he may be bi-polar because of his EXTREME mood changes. One day everything is literally perfect, and the next, just absolutely awful.

I don't know what I need right now... I don't know if it's help, advice, suggestions... I just need someone to talk to about this.
I thank anyone that takes the time out of their day to help me by reading this and know that I truly appreciate it.

The first thing I think you need to do is talk with your sponsor. My brother in-law is 25 years sober and a member of AA. If he was to be writing this I believe he would tell you that you are too early in your recovery to subject yourself to relationship problems. I believe part of the 12 step program you follow covers this as well.

While it is good that you are sober and have managed to remain sober through all this with your BF. The stress of this relationship, I believe, could have adverse effects on your recovery. I agree you two need a break. I very much would like you to talk with your sponsor as well.

Now your boyfriends ex wife is his enabler, based on what you say. Because of the children he has to have contact with her if he wants to see his children. There is a remedy for this but first he has to get sober and remain sober.

Once he is sober he can contact social services and ask for their help in seeing the children. They can arrange for the children to be brought to them and for him to pick them up there without having contact with his ex wife or Social services will bring the children to him after picking them up from the mother. This is the better way as it allows social services to inspect the children's living conditions on a regular basis.

If the mother is abusing drugs and social service can prove this, they can also void any court order concerning physical custody of the children and place the children with him, if they feel it is safe, or with a relative while still allowing him visitation.

Now as to whether he is bi-polar or simply deeply depressed. I'm not a doctor so I can't say. What I can say is he needs to be screened and properly cared for. There are drugs for either problem that are not narcotic or subject to abuse.

My advice is that the two of you do separate. That you encourage him to see a doctor and be properly diagnosed for depression if that is in fact what he is suffering from. To my mind being properly diagnosed and treated for depression can only aid in his recovery. While he is recovering he can ask for help in seeing his children and keeping them safe from social service, child protective services is who he should contact.

I would also recommend you consider finding a good therapist. Someone you can speak openly to who will keep your confidence. I know your sponsor will keep your confidence but a good therapist is also trained to help you in ways your sponsor is not.

my left boob is a little bigger and noticeable to some people who know me very well. i really hate it. i just noticed it when i was close to getting my period. could it be hormones. please help? By the way i am 14 and have only had my period for a few months.

First, relax your normal. It is the norm, especially in someone so young and still developing for one breast to be a little smaller than the other. Yes it is hormones per say but not as you mean it to be.

While I am not an expert I have seen and felt my share of women's breasts and can say that I have not seen or felt any breasts that are exactly the same size. My wife had plastic surgery because of breast cancer and still the surgical implanted breast is not the same size as the natural breast that was tucked.

What you should look for as you continue to develop is a large difference in the size of your breasts. While this is a rare condition it does happen. What you would be looking for is a full cup size or more difference. If this happens then you need to see a doctor and have the condition surgically corrected. which won't happen until your about 17 or 18 and have completed puberty.

The chances of this condition effecting you are about 1 in 700,000 so I would not worry about it.

Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work?

How you fall in love with someone is always different than how someone else falls in love with someone.

Having sex with someone is a very intimate act even when it does not involve a great deal of love. Through this intimate act love can flourish. I have heard of people who have been f*ck buddies that have fallen in love. Why? Well I believe that in order to be that intimate on that type of basis a friendship of sorts must exist.

Friendship first is the best way to form a relationship. From relationships love grows, long lasting love. The why of this is the superficial is set aside and we get to know the real person, the person below the exterior and we fall in love with the person mot the gift wrapping.

So my answer is a unqualified yes. My wife and I met, had really not much in common, had sex on the third date. We were married 41 years ago today.

hey! how long the penis should be to make a perfect sex! or to make her gf feel good?

What you are born with is what you have. There is no way to enhance, or enlarge a penis even with surgery. Penile surgery is usually done to assist those with erectile dysfunction when there is no other medical solution that will help.

Average Vagina Size

Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch

Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches

As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.

well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.

well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?

+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'(

It would help to know what happened 4 years ago that would cause him to say he can't trust. You have been going out for only a year. Anything that happens prior to that is ancient history and frankly none of his business. You are dating, or were dating him and he should only be concerned with your relationship and trusting in and with him.

Frankly I think he is being rather shallow and immature. I really don't care what happened to you 4 years ago and that includes sexually. I would only care that you be true to me now.

If you would like to write me a private message with more detail as to what was so earth shattering as to cause him to break up with you; I may be able to give you more insight into your question. For now though I think he is being shallow and giving you an excuse for something else he wants .

Ok so im a 16/m and I have been having these random erections out of nowhere. I mean my penis just rises out of nowhere for no reason.
Like I usually always be getting erections at school when im sitting down , and I ALWAYS get an erection when Im riding the bus and it doesnt go away untill after the end of my class or it usually just stays till lunch break, so that means I have to hold my bag on my penis when I walk (makes me feel awkward)
I dont even think about sex, and I dont even really care about the girls in my school. I hardly never get excited.
But my little friend in my pants usually always gets excited.

I need advice, How can I stop my erections from happening?

I'm old enough to be your grandfather so hopefully you will believe me. YOU ARE A NORMAL TEENAGE BOY SUFFERING THE PROBLEMS OF PUBERTY.

Female. 18. Sometimes I will take in a quick breath and I will get a sharp pain in my chest, feels like my heart, but it will go away quickly. But right now I am having pain in my chest and shoulders. I hardly slept from it. It is more internal pain than anything else. Could this be anything serious? What is wrong with me?

PS. I have been around my grandpa, a smoker, all my life. He lost his battle with cancer in Feb.

Thank you.

If you are still having these pains pick up the phone and call 911.

Chest pain that extends into the arm and shoulder are not something to to brush off. None of us are doctors and we can't make a diagnoses. Only a doctor after using the proper diagnostic tests can tell you if you are having muscle spasm, anxiety attacks or something more serious.

For know though if in fact you are still suffer pain as you describe and shortness of breath call 911. A trained paramedic dispatched by 911 can make an initial evaluation and start treatment in the field as they transport you to the hospital. So please call 911 now.

If the pain has subsided for now and you are not having any trouble breathing; either call your family doctor or go to a walk-in clinic or hospital emergency room for an evaluation. This is not something to be put off to a more convenient time. Do it now.

14/f
i dont have a phone.
ok, my mom will not get me a phone no matter what.
my b-day is on sunday, and i on the 4 of july my moms bfs phone got stolen so he bought a new phone then he says that another person can get a new phone for $50 so my mom starts complaining about her phone, before i sugest me get it, so jason gets her the phone now they are talking about getting my brother a new and expencive phone, but when i ask for a phone she simply says that we have no money, BUT MY MOM AND JASON AND MY BROTHER GET A NEW PHONE, and i get nothing.
i almost yelled at her today fixing to say that she has payed over $120 and she cant buy me a phone?!

im not sure i can hold my anger for more than two more days, i blow before then.
so please help i dont know what to do.
any advise will be very thankful!!

Can I make a small suggestion here.

Today is Wednesday,your birthday is Sunday, four days away. While I may be old fashion and feel a cell phone at 14 or 15 is not a necessity. It may just be that mom and her boyfriend are looking to surprise you on your birthday.

If you were to blow up at them on Friday wouldn't you feel awful foolish on Sunday if they hand you a phone. Or would you think your tirade on Friday forced them to get you your phone.

If I were your father and I had the phone hidden in the house someplace and you had a tirade because we gave your brother a phone and decided to wait until your up coming birthday to surprise you. The phone would be returned to the store and you would get some clothes if anything for your birthday.

My advise hang in there until you mother and her boyfriend do whatever they have planned to celebrate your birthday on Sunday.

Have a Happy Birthday

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