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Question Posted Tuesday July 10 2012, 6:51 pm

14/f
i dont have a phone.
ok, my mom will not get me a phone no matter what.
my b-day is on sunday, and i on the 4 of july my moms bfs phone got stolen so he bought a new phone then he says that another person can get a new phone for $50 so my mom starts complaining about her phone, before i sugest me get it, so jason gets her the phone now they are talking about getting my brother a new and expencive phone, but when i ask for a phone she simply says that we have no money, BUT MY MOM AND JASON AND MY BROTHER GET A NEW PHONE, and i get nothing.
i almost yelled at her today fixing to say that she has payed over $120 and she cant buy me a phone?!

im not sure i can hold my anger for more than two more days, i blow before then.
so please help i dont know what to do.
any advise will be very thankful!!


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adviceman49 answered Wednesday July 11 2012, 2:36 pm:
Can I make a small suggestion here.

Today is Wednesday,your birthday is Sunday, four days away. While I may be old fashion and feel a cell phone at 14 or 15 is not a necessity. It may just be that mom and her boyfriend are looking to surprise you on your birthday.

If you were to blow up at them on Friday wouldn't you feel awful foolish on Sunday if they hand you a phone. Or would you think your tirade on Friday forced them to get you your phone.

If I were your father and I had the phone hidden in the house someplace and you had a tirade because we gave your brother a phone and decided to wait until your up coming birthday to surprise you. The phone would be returned to the store and you would get some clothes if anything for your birthday.

My advise hang in there until you mother and her boyfriend do whatever they have planned to celebrate your birthday on Sunday.

Have a Happy Birthday

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GemmalGD answered Wednesday July 11 2012, 9:52 am:
Your not going to like what I say but you have to be patient and don't get angry. Showing your anger to your mum over something small like a phone makes you seem like a child in her eyes. I've been there and done it many of times, trust me it gets you know where.

If your brother is older than you then it makes sense that he will get a phone (if he isn't then he must act more mature or need it for a specific reason), but at 14 you should be going out with people and having fun instead of using technology, and if you need to contact them, use the land-line. At your age when I finally got a phone I barely used it because I was with my mates and used the computer to talk to them, so having one wasn't a big deal.

I think you are also focusing too much on money. It will not be because she doesn't want to spend money on a phone for you, its more the principle of having to treat you like a child until in her eyes, you grow up. Then I believe she will get you a phone. It wont be doing you any favours over reacting, at your age everyone is in a rush to grow up. Have fun instead of having arguments and getting angry in life over a phone. You will look back when you get one laugh at yourself over the fuss made over nothing.

One point you could say calmly to your mum is that at your age, if you constantly want to go out with friends then it is a peace of mind for parents if you have a phone so that you can contact them if you get in to any trouble, because in today's world streets and parks are no longer a friendly place to be in. That's the reason I got a phone so that I could ring my parents if i'm in danger or need picking up from my friends etc. Hope you finally get one when she thinks your ready.

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angelitak96 answered Wednesday July 11 2012, 7:51 am:
man suck it up! its just a damn phone...people have it worst than you! if they dont want to get you a phone then they dont simple as that. Before thinking about your "phone" why dont you think about behaving good and not "BLOWING UP" & trust me you will never blow like i have before!
i hate to see people feel so "ANGRY" just because of a damn phone...imagine beign in a mental hospital for a month with out seeing your family?!!! just because you have flashbacks!
suck it up little girl & im 16
#reality check

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quiesha answered Wednesday July 11 2012, 2:12 am:
Maybe your mom doesnt want you to grow up fast or she feels as if you dont need one or dont deserve it. If so , show her you deserve a phone by chores . How old is your brother ? You have to be patient and just until two weeks . Keep asking and it will show you really want a phone.

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