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Whenever I give my boyfriend a hickey it fades super quick or doesn't even leave a mark. Any tips?

Why is it important to you that the mark remains, I wonder? It is just to prove you're able to do it, or perhaps to mark him as 'being taken/not available'?
Practice on yourself first if its that important. Grab a spot on your arm and start sucking hard and dont let up, check your progress, if its not good enough, do it some more.
Heck, we did this as little kids just to amuse ourselves, making marks like this on our arms. If I could do that successfully on myself as a grade schooler, I am sure you can perfect yours.

If that still fails and you want to brand him as yours, Sharpie your name on his neck and maybe add a heart.

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Does really your past life regression affects your life or in your future? I've experienced that years ago and the hypnotist said that I've lived like 15th century ago. I always dream when i get extreme fever about the people and things that the hypnotist described (old windmills, deep well, and grinders) and (the man in the railway and the lady named Mary). the hypnotist said that the lady I always see in my dreams was re-incarnated in me. And I always hallucinate after I wake when I dream about them and those things. I don't believe those things because I don't believe in any spiritual thoughts coz it's not proven by science. But it's hunting me, I've dreamt about those few days ago when I was extremely cold. I hallucinate but I really know that I'm NOT mentally ill. Pls help me about this.

Just as there are Quacks and charletans in any business, there are also those who aren't. That being said, it is difficult to know which are for real and which arent when the subject matter is arts and practices that no one can really measure thoroughly to prove it does or does not exist. Things like Past life regression, using pendulums, hypnosis, energy healing, Reiki, psychic abilities, divination of any kind, tarot cards, etc.....
Where is the proof for those experiences?

There's a old adage which originally went: "The proof of the pudding is in the eating,"
which basically means that the quality of something is uncertain until it has been tested directly or I say 'experienced'.

There are lots of things I have come to believe in that I did not before because of the experience.
Like air, God can't be seen. But those of us who have experienced a move of God or any supernatural experience, sometimes repeatedly, can no longer deny it. Our inner voice tells us that this is real. Whether this experience is worth our focus or attention really depends on if it helps with the life we're currently living, or is it a distraction to pull us off course. Is it something that feels full of love, light and peace, or something that brings on fear, anxiety and unrest?
I cannot tell you if the hypnotist was a quack, but it seems what they shared did not add to and enhance or help out in any way your current life.

I will share a story of my own to demonstrate what I mean. I used to live a Christian life, which meant I was taught that reincarnation does not exist. During those years, I was troubled by dreams in which I was as strong as a muscle builder man but yet female. In these repetitive dreams, there were bad people trying to come into our home to harm us and I tried to lock the door but found it had shrunk to not fit the door frame to be able to lock it. The killers knocked the door down and all I could think of was protecting the family and as these people came pouring in one by one, I would grab them and break their necks with my bare hands. It bothered me because i had these dreams often, never watch scary, killer movies, and disliked the idea of killing people, I'm a lover not a fighter. Then came the day I was on a Spiritual path but no longer identifying exactly with the Christian faith. God told me reincarnation was for real. I was shocked and it took some time to come to grips with it. End result though, next time I had that same dream again, I asked God why I kept having this dream. The answer I got is that in a past life, one of the few I chose to be a man in, I was a warrior meant to defend our village, not go on the attack. We came under attack and with my bare hands, having no weapons, I killed men by snapping their necks. I was remorseful for having had to kill but I had done so to protect our village. I was told that if I could come to grips with the fact that I killed but did so in self defense and could forgive myself, then I would no longer have the dream. God had no issue with me over those deaths, it was all about my soul needing to forgive itself. When I did so, the dreams disappeared. I haven't had a single occurance of those dreams in 10 years now.

Other people can tell me all they like that it was all in my head, I never really talked to God, I never really lived that past life...but they did not have the experience and also they may be a younger soul, not at the same belief level that my soul is at, and thats okay. They'll get there in a few more lifetimes. So I try not to tell anyone whether what spiritual or supernatural thing they believe is true or not because I have come to know that God will work with us at the level of belief that we are at. Only Gods spirit can tell us what we really need to know in order to bring growth and change in us. Trying to get all your answers only through someone else is not a good idea, no matter if they are truly gifted or not.
If you believe in God or guardian angels try talking to them consistantly. You won't hear anything back at first. Its like a muscle that needs to be exercised. Same thing I was told in church on how to pray to GOd and hear him.
At first you may get an impression about something, not actual words or pictures or scenes in your mind in answer to questions.
Because you do not believe in reincarnation and "these kinds of unexplainable supernatural things" does not mean their existance isn't real. You may have no explanation for why you see actual persons from your dream while awake. If caused by schizophrenia or something like that, medication from a doctor would help some.
If you are experiencing the supernatural, there isn't a pill that makes it go away. So the help that you want, if its help to stop the dreams, no one here can tell you what to do to make them stop. If you wanted help to understand what is going on if you are Not crazy, then this is my best explanation.
I know I am not crazy or mentally ill either but some of the things I have experienced are things that people used to be burned at the stake as witches for. People tend to fear that which they cannot explain or try hard to disprove it by any means. Luckily we live in a time where that is no longer the case.

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15/f
I'm straight but I love masturbating with lesbian porn. Ive always wanted to do things with a girl but idk if its normal and idk if any girls my age feel.this way.

As has been stated, yes it's normal. I can't say what percent of teen girls are bi-sexual or bi-curious as I haven't found any recent studies yet, howeever I can guarantee you aren't the only one in your school.
Here's a site that covers different aspects of bi-sexuality for teens. Hopefully it is helpful or at least encouraging for you.

http://gayteens.about.com/od/glbtbasicsforteens/tp/bisexual101.htm

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So there's this guy named Brandon whom I go to school with (we're 14 by the way). I think he likes me. We always hold hands, and hug and sit together at lunch but I don't know if he likes me. I don't want to ask him out, have him day no, and then ruin out friendship, or date, break up, and then still ruin our friendship. I think when we hold hands it might just be for the physical comfort because we are really good friends, like when you would hold hands with your parents when you were little. So do you think I should risk asking him out or what?

You're both 14 so you're both going through puberty. This is a time when both are very aware of the changes in their body and become aware of their sexual orientation, such as attracted to the same sex, the opposite sex, etc...
If the two of you have been friends for years and this is typical behavior between you as friends, then using just the hand holding and hugs as an indicator of his being attracted to you might not be enough.
If he is a fairly new friend and out of everyone else, he chooses to find times to be near you like at lunch and hold your hand and hug alot...finding natural excuses to touch you, then this is something a guy will do when attracted to the girl. My guess is he's not attracted to you only as a friend but also romantic attraction as well.
So are you wanting to ask him as your friend to go out or are you wanting to ask him to start dating as a boyfriend? Either way, you have to ask, since you can't read his mind and he can't read yours either.
You can't sit around and guess or worry about the what if's. If you get too worked up and worried to ask, someone else may come along who asks him and he starts dating her. You don't want to go on your whole life thinking about all the relationships that never came to be, all the what if's because neither of you made the first move. Guys get as scared as girls do about rejection so they don't ask. Rejection is more likely if you want up and ask someone who doesnt know you well or isn't attracted to you. If the attraction is there, there's very little chance of rejection. So ask him. I'm sure he'll be glad you did.

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18yr old female
So every time i exercise i find a white stain on my underwear
It looks boogery and sticky and it doesn't have a smell but i can feel it coming down my vagina and sure enough when i go check its there
Does anyone else have this problem ? What can i do?

It's not a problem at all. Rather, if your body didn't do it, you might actually have a problem.
The fluids you are talking about are the vagina's natural cleansing system making sure that you do not get any infections. Its like its own little ecosystem, specially balanced to keep you healthy down there by having a proper balance of good bacteria and bad bacteria. If your body were unable to cleanse itself, you would be prone to having infections often. If off balance, you can get yeast infections or bacterial vaginitis, etc.
Get used to what your natural body smell down there is so if it is off and smells real bad like something rotten, or if you have itching that wont go away or redness and soreness, you should see a doctor as it could be an infection.

One way to get an infection easily is to wash all the good bacteria away by douching or getting soapy water in there to try to cleanse yourself. Just plain water is enough, anything else can cause a problem..no matter what the advertisers say to the opposite.

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I have a cool idea for a comic but I am looking for an artists that is willing to work for the art and nothing more. At least not right away. I think it's a great idea that could develop a large cult following but I need someone reliable. Do you all know where I might find someone? Honestly, I don't want to sign up for forums but I'd be willing to if you think I'd get a good response. Thanks.

When people are looking for great artists who aren't looking for pay but just the experience, a good place to look are at any prestigeous art colleges in your area.

We had a daughter in a famous art college for CG (computer graphics) Developers of computer games would peruse the colleges for students who were willing to work on their projects for the experience besides keep up with their schooling and she worked on quite a few such projects while finishing school.

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A few months ago, my girlfriend and I won a partner karaoke contest at the most successful counter-service restaurant in the city and we each won 3 free meals a day. They serve a variety of hotdogs, burgers, fries etc. Both of us work in offices a few floors above the restaurant in the same building and we live down the street so it's really easy for us to go there 3 times a day and take advantage of our free meals.

There are a lot of benefits to eating for free. We've been saving a lot of money since December when we won. We've been able to buy ourselves new clothes because they all started shrinking in the wash (we go to a laundromat).

But our friends seem really jealous and haven't been inviting us out as much. Last time we hung out with them, they wanted to go for a group bike ride. We went for a little bit, but we couldn't breathe in the thin winter air. We asked if they wanted to go watch TV at our place and they basically told us off. Are they jealous of us winning that contest back in November? Or what?

I'll start with this sentence of yours:But our friends seem really jealous and haven't been inviting us out as much

There are two things mentioned in the sentence, one based in reality and the other based in your mind.

They aren't inviting out as much is the reality.
The other has to do with your thoughts in your mind and are not a reality because there has been nothing to verify or back that up in the real world.
If you had asked them if they are jealous of you for any reason and they say yes, only then would this be based in reality.
I am not sure I understand your last invite by them, going on a group bike ride but the two of you wanted to stop and do something different because you couldn't breathe thin winter air? Maybe at high elevations the air is too thin for certain activities but I highly doubt you were biking in the tops of the alps.
So you are trying to say you both couldn't breath properly? It might be connected to how physically fit you are. I don't know what your friends said exactly to you at the point but perhaps they've seen a change in you two related to your health...less energy, less drive, and your hearth may not be in as good a shape as before. Before you laugh at me....I have facts that can prove this is possible in reality.
There is a movie called 'Super size me' about a man who eats just high fat high carbohydrate diet for one month and the drastic health changes it makes on him in his one month long experiment.

The food you are eating, although free, its not healthy for 3 times a day for 3 months let alone for one month as this guy found out. He was checked out by his doctor before starting, during and after. Its not good news girls. You may want to drop the rest of the meals immediately and get in to see your Doctor for a physical ASAP!!!!

In 2003 A guy named Spurlock produced a movie of himself going on a strictly high fat high carb diet by eating only McDonalds. The name of the movie "Super size me" I'll put a link to it at the bottom.
After five days Spurlock had gained almost 10 pounds. Soon after he finds himself with a feeling of depression, and he finds that his bouts of depression, lethargy, and headaches are relieved by a McDonald's meal. One doctor describes him as "addicted." He has soon gained another 10 pounds, putting his weight at 203 lb (92 kg). Because he could only eat McDonald's food for a month, Spurlock refused to take any medication at all. At one weigh-in Morgan actually lost 1 lb. from the previous weigh-in much to the surprise of those supervising, but it was hypothesized by a nutrionist that he lost muscle (which weighs more than fat.)

Spurlock's soon to be wife, verifys the facts that Spurlock has lost much of his energy and sex drive during his experiment. Doctors, friends and family worried for him and didnt want to see him complete the full month of the high-fat, high-carbohydrate diet.
Around day 20, Spurlock experiences heart palpitations. Consultation with his concerned internist, Dr. Daryl Isaacs, reveals that Spurlock's liver is "pâté," and the doctor advises him to stop what he is doing immediately to avoid any serious health problems. But he continues for the one full month. You've already done more than that. It doesn't matter if its McDonalds or a Diner that serves the same food. Eat strictly the same, you jeopardize you health.

Here's a link to watch it yourself. I highly recommend you do because the diet you've been having has the obvious physical effects but can affect your moods too, bring on even depression.

http://putlocker.bz/watch-super-size-me-online-free-putlocker.html

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My best friend thinks she's fat and ugly and I don't know how to tell her that she's not. Sure, she's a bit overweight and she's not the prettiest person I know, but I wouldn't call her ugly. She always asks me for the truth if she's ugly or not and I say she's not, but she doesn't believe me. Please give me a way to tell her properly about her looks without hurting her feelings!

Its a typical reaction, asking but not believing someone close to you. We tend to think, she has to say something nice cus she's by friend, she has to say something positive cus she's my mom or he has to say something complementing cus he's my husband/boyfriend...
She may find it easier to believe coming from strangers, or lets say from some videos i am putting links here for. Everything adviceman said is right. She is suffering from a low self image. The majority of females do. Unfortunately young males also tend to buy into the impossible to meet images we are bombarded with in media and advertising. A good amount of young boys look only for the perfect airbrushed model type because they are responding out of lust and haven't figured out yet that it's not even real. Some guys even think they arent as handsome as male actors which again is made up.
Here's the first by Laci Green, she has lots other good helpful videos for young people.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X21X_aYS4i4

Laci mentioned how airbrushed photo shopped photos of models make us believe that humans can actually look that perfect. It's all falsified by machine. Heres an article on it with a video just over a minute long that shows on fast speed how quickly, easily and drastically they changed the look of the model.
http://www.beautyworldnews.com/articles/6456/20131105/photoshop-model-airbrush-democracy-now-edit-body-images-self-esteem.htm

And...when we are feeling sorry for ourselves no matter what about, it always helps to see that there is someone worse off than ourselves. There is a gal in her twenties who gives inspirational talks for a living. She can't do anything to improve her looks due to a condition she was born with but she after going through the rough stuff chose to have a good attitude, high self image and
and here is the link to that wonder young lady, Lizzie Velasquez.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sohGDfNQV7M

Show your friend these links. If that doesnt help shape up her thinking, then as was suggested by another, it might be a good idea for her to get in for counseling. However she'd have to talk to mom to get that kind of help if she is not an adult yet.

Good luck with that.

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My GF and I got a new roommate because we have extra room in our apartment and it lowers the rent. He loves to cook and is really outgoing. He makes big breakfasts, lunches, dinners and delicous desserts. He also insists that he will take care of shopping, errands, etc. if we just sit back and try one of his pies or something.

But he has also been doing all the laundry and over the past few months my GF said a lot of her shirts and pants were getting tighter and a lot of mine were too. We think he might be accidentally shrinking them in the wash. How can we go about doing something about this nicely?

Did it occur to you that a reason the two of you find your clothing fitting tighter might be due to the constant big meals and lots of desserts? If you were eating less before he became a room mate, that would be my first guess.
Wool shrinks are far as laundry, jeans dried too long can be tighter but will relax and expand out with wearing, and material like in t-shirts takes more than just a few washes to shrink over time, more like 2 years for me.

I agree that it is weird to have someone else doing your laundry. Each of you should be doing your own. So instead of one central dirty laundry hamper, how about each of you have a separate container for your own clothes in your room and do your own. You are most familiar with your clothing and its needs in washing and also in drying. Some do better left to dry on a drying rack rather than going through the dryer.

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Hi
I have feelings for one of my guy friends. We are 21, I have known him for about a year and there has always been sexual tension between us. We would always talk and we always saw each other because he works at the gym I go to.

About 4 months ago he started seeing a girl, and recently I realised that I have feelings for him. He is VERY flirty towards me and he asks to hang out but then he bails last minute.

Last week i was out and saw him, we were all drunk and he kissed me on the lips just a peck. Then a bit later he sat down with me and was cuddling me on his lap and stroking my leg and I tried to kiss him but he wouldn't kiss me back he just kind of kept his face straight. Sooo then I tried again but the same thing happened. I brushed it off and we walked back and the next day I said sorry I was really fucked but he pretended like nothing happened and said all we did was cuddle.

I don't understand we talk ALOT but I always start the conversations. But the way we talk seems like he is interested. Should I just change gyms so i can get over him or is that weak?

First of all, we can't take seriously what a person is like when they are drunk because they'll act differently and do things they wouldn't if they were sober, so I won't even address the meaning of any of that.
Flirting is fun. Many do it simply for that reason, not because they are really seriously wanting to go after the person they are flirting with.Then others use it as a tool to let a party now they are attracted to them. Often it can be very subtle and not everyone might pick up on it as flirting, just depends more on what a person is picking up non verbally that give it away as flirting, not so much the actual actions or words said.
So end result, I wouldn't count heavily on just this one fact that he flirts as meaning he is seriously interested in you as more than just a friend. Both my husband and I have friends who will flirt with us at times and while it seems serious to any onlooker, all it is, is the teasing words, but there is no substance to them, no actions behind them.

Yes, its very possible to start out as best friends with a male and later develop the stronger feelings. That is all good as long as both people feel the same way, but that is not always the case.
You say you talk a lot but you are always the one seeking him out and starting the conversations. He may be a generally talkative guy and friendly towards anyone who approaches. But when it comes to people he tends to gravitate toward specific people he feels he has more in common with, and really--we all do that. If a guy is interested in a girl, he will be making overtures to pursue her, in conversation starting, calling, texting, asking to hang with her or take her out. If he is not doing these things he is not interested. There are things that some women do that turn off a guy, its something they pick up on subconsciously like when a gal is acting desperate for a guy by doing all the contacting and all the chasing. The moment you stop, he can put things in perspective and decide if he wants to really pursue you cus now you act indifferent to him. The other is not being confident. It means you don't know what you really want in life or in a guy and you will take the first one that seems to look your way. Confidence in a woman is as visible to a guy as what she is wearing and most men tend to find confidence very sexy and appealing so much so, that he'll choose the confident gal who is easy on the eyes over the one who looks like a model but has no self confidence.
If you are still hoping for a chance with him, then switching to another gym may send the wrong message. If you're ready to get over him, and you feel it will help you, then switch.

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If I skip my time on my pil and drink it still but not the same time what will happen? Can I get fat taking the pil to not get pregnant?

If you skip or miss taking your pill on time, nothing will happen as long as you as not having sex. Missing a day or even taking it at a different time is enough to disrupt it's ability to keep you safe from getting pregnant.
To remember to take it on time, set the timer on your cell phone or whatever device you use, to remind you daily to take it the exact same time. Pick a time of day you're likely to be home to take it, otherwise, if you're not guaranteed to be in the same place from one day to the other, carry your pills with you in your purse

Now the second question, can you get fat taking the pill. The pill has a variety of side effects that many women who take it do experience and weight gain is one of them.
Gaining more weight that what is your normal weight with the pill is one thing, becoming very overweight is another and means that there could be another yet undiagnosed medical condition contributing to it.

All medications can have side effects that effect some of the people using them. The type of side effects may vary depending on the type of pill you are taking so if you are concerned, look up the name of your pill online and side effects associated with it. It is good to know what type of side effects are associated with the pill because you may be experiencing another one and not realize its because of the pill such as being irritable all the time, migraines, headaches, loss of libido, tenderness in breast and more. There are a few serious side effects as well that occur in very few people but its good to know what those are.
If you can't find it on line, then ask your doctors office who prescribed the pill for what side effects and if you should be seen again because of the weight gain issue.

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What does it mean when you have a real achy pain in your back, about in the middle? Anyone ever have this before?

Yeah, I've had it before. What does it mean? Depends on what is going on for the person in question. In some cases, I had done something to stress my spine so it was out of alignment and I needed to see a Chiropracter to have my spine worked back to the right position. Sometimes if it isn't a sudden change, it could be due to bad posture that over time eventually brings on the pain.
Not getting enough regular exercise for the muscles of your back and then all of a sudden starting a new activity or picking it up again after a while of not doing it can stress those muscles to feel achey. In this case it would be harmless, just muscles aching in reaction to being used again and the pain will subside as your muscle strength grows. I love to garden and after a winter of no pulling weeds or clipping hedges, starting those activities in the spring again when having no alternative exercise during the winter indoors, I found my first forays into the yard producing an achy mid back every spring.
If its a sharp unbearable pain, go see a doctor right away. If your achy mid back doesnt go away after a couple weeks of strengthening exercise, then see a doctor.

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When me and my girlfriend met we were both very slim and fit. We watched what we ate and were always at the gym. We also used to make fun of the fat people in our group of friends.

We have been living together for years now (since graduation) and the scale has risen and so have our thighs. I have got a big potbelly now, and her buttocks have gotten huge. I guess it's just overindulgence in the sweets (cakes and pies on dates, donuts with our feet up watching TV).

Bottom line, though, our friends from college (we all graduated 2 years ago and have been quite busy) invited us to wing night to reunite again (and it does sound fun). But, the last time they saw us we were wearing tight jeans, nice shoes on me, heels on her. Now, I wear sweatpants with socks and sandles, and my girlfriend wears stretch pants with slippers.

On top of that, they have all been dieting and spending time in the gym, so they all lost the weight.

So my question is: should we go to wing night, a night that involves eating messy food with your hands, when we both got fat? (even worse, we used to be the skinny couple that made fun of the fatties in the group), now I can barely button my pants, she complains that she can't see her slippers when she looks down, and we both are out of breath, grabbing our knees after we go up a few stairs.

I just dont want the people who know us as the "fitness elitists" to see us walk in slowly, breathing heavily. Not to mention, the sight of us sitting with a pile of wings, with sauce all over ourselves, eating with our hands.

I also feel bad for my girlfriend because one of our friends whose weight my girlfriend joked about a lot, will be there, and she too has lost it all. It doesn't seem fair that she should be able to watch her pig out on a sloppy meal.

So, should we go?

I see this is a classic "Cant' judge a book by its cover" or the belief that "What goes around, comes around."

As souls, we are all here on earth to learn specific lessons, experiences we are meant to go through and learn from to better ourselves. So it's not so much that fact that you messed up in your past that should be the focus. We take tests in school as a measurement of where we are at in our learning status, what do we comprehend and what lesson are we just not getting yet? Where do our weaknesses lie, where do we need to work harder? Guess what guys?

Life in general is the same way. From your day of birth til the day you die, life is one BIG long educational process, Life is School. Its not the mistakes we make that are the problem. The problem is not learning from our mistakes.

People shouldn't be defined by their past but where they are at currently.
However, I am not totally convinced you two have learned from your past. Why do I think so?

The Condemning evidence of your own words: "I just dont want the people who know us as the "fitness elitists" to see us walk in slowly, breathing heavily. Not to mention, the sight of us sitting with a pile of wings, with sauce all over ourselves, eating with our hands. AND It doesn't seem fair that she should be able to watch her pig out on a sloppy meal."

You are STILL more concerned with outer appearances, even though the shoe is now on the other foot. You still have not learned that what is more important is the condition of your heart as far as how you love and treat others.

You are more embarrassed to be seen in this state than embarassed for the way you treated them in the past!!! You say nothing of feeling repentant of your past treatment of them or of wanting to ask for forgiveness. Thats what the crime is here. That you have not yet learned.

Yes, I think you should go. I think any embarassing/humiliating experience that could possibly shake you both awake to the state of your souls is very important.

Do I sound harsh? Maybe, but hey its like that for every human being alive, having their lessons to learn and all have to go through what it takes to turn them around and learn to change for the better. for some it takes hearing a wake up message from another person. For others, it takes hitting a brick wall. I hope it doesnt take a Brick wall to wake you guys up and cause you to have a sincere change of heart.




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I have a corn snake around 5 /6 months old i have been feeding him pinkies but today i tries him on fuzzies at the start he wouldn't touch the fuzzie but after about half an hour he started eating but then he struggled to eat it but eventually did... But im just wondering if i should still keep him on pinkies which i give every 7 days or start him on fuzzies any help and advice will be appreciated

Hon, I think the fastest way you can get an answer to this is to ask at the pet store where you or your parents purchased the corn snake. Until someone purchases a pet, there are employees who are responsible for the care of and feeding of all the pets in the store, included some of the more unusual ones besides cat and dog. So if you don't get someone on this site who can answer you, thats what i would do. A cashier may answer the phone at the pet store, so you'd have to ask to speak to someone who handles caring for the snakes and ask to speak to them because you have a concern regarding a snake you bought from them.
Good luck

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Is there one trustworthy horoscope place to get yours every day? I keep going to different ones and they all say different things! I am beginning to think they are all just made up! Help?

Not really. If you are looking for some kind of guidance as to what is going on in your life, you need to realise the horoscope is a poor tool for the job is it is the only tool you are relying on. For example, When doing a good job on your gardening, you need the right tools. There is no "One" gardening tool that does it all. You cannot mow your lawn or aerate it with a hand spade, nor can you trim your bushes with a hand spade. There is a group of tools that are needed to whip your yard into shape. A horoscope uses only the date of your birth and does not take into account the exact time of birth, and the place of birth meaning the city and state, not hospital or home or car. So you see, using the extra information into pin pointing a personalized guidance chart for you makes a big difference. There are some very 'basics' that are the same about sun signs, like Aquarians. I have two daughters who are Aquarian. While there are those stereotypes of the Aquarian sign that I can see in each of them, the similarities stop there. They have different dates of birth in the range of dates that are labeled Aquarians, different cities and different times of birth. It is actually a very precise science. My husband does some astrology. He has an old computer astrology program no longer created so I can't recommend it. He also has many in depth astrology books he will go to the exact page in there that the computer program indicates applies to the individual at any particular time. My mom is passed on, so I couldnt ask her for my time of birth and it can't be a wild guess because an hour can change the description of the person. Well, since we had no clue, He began to read off to me the many many different personality descriptions. He knew me well enough to exclude those of night time and knew I'd fit somewhere in the daytime. So he'd read one after another and it didn't sound anything like me at all until we got to one. Bingo! Just to be sure, we went over others that were similar and read over our narrowed down selections. Hopefully you know your time of birth if you are serious about using your birth chart and astrology? Ask mom if she's alive, if it was daylight or dark out, what she was doing at the time she went into labor, how long was labor to job her memory and narrow down the time selections.

Heres a link to About.com's description of astrology
http://astrology.about.com/od/foundations/p/Astrology101.htm

You may want to find a professional astrologer to help you come up with your detailed birth chart, the sun, the moon, the rising sign, what was trined or squared, etc.... Make sure to save that information. Then purchase a computer program into which you put your info and save your astrology profile and then find the current month and date and the program should be able to tell you what interpretation to read such as the page for Jupiter trined with Mars. Sometimes its not just one day but a two week or two month period that the same instructions apply to before they will change. It may be best to ask other people you meet if they are into astrology and what they use. Try meetup.com for groups of people interested in astrology for your area and go to hang out with them and learn from them. It is too overwhelming to learn it all and figure it all out on your own.

If your simply want a fun way to have a guidance just for a particular day but not as precise as astrology, you can purchase guidance cards or a tarot card deck with interpretation book for beginners. Even knowing very little about Tarot, I have found that often, my subconscious mind is led to pull just the card or cards out of the deck that I needed to confirm something I am going through or bring some clarity or focus. It would not work as well if someone else pulled your cards, it's 'your' energy that makes the difference in what you pull. A good metaphysical shop/bookstore will have them. You can find them on line but i suggest going into a shop where you can view samples of the artwork of the cards and some of the advice listed. I find I am drawn to some card decks and others I don't like at all. Even a regular bookstore will carry a few, but not a very good selection. If you chose to go this route, one good creator of daily guidance cards is Doreen Virtue. There are many others though. Thats the only name I remember off the top of my head. Good luck in exploring.

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is it ture that if you eat 5 suger free gumydears youll lose wight?

Where did you hear this? If a person trying to lose weight looks long enough you can find all sorts of crazy claims to weight loss. Eating gummy bears whether sugar free or not, is not a way to lose weight. Some one is having fun with you cus you are very gullible, meaning it is easy to fool you or mislead you.
Here just for fun or some other outrageous weight loss claims.

http://thestir.cafemom.com/healthy_living/106208/5_seriously_crazy_weight_loss

http://news.msn.com/rumors/rumor-caffeine-laced-workout-pants-burn-fat

http://www.xojane.com/fun/worlds-first-weight-loss-perfume-prends-moi

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I want to get a puppy to surprise my boyfriend so what are the absolute cutest puppies? I know he doesn't want pets, but if I get the most adorable puppy EVER he won't be able to say no, right?

Razhie is absolutely right. I agree totally with her.
I have heard the "he doesnt want pets' growing up. It was Dad not wanting pets. So it didn't matter if the rest of us wanted one. Perhaps you didn't get to have a pet growing up and now you want one.
I don't know your age but if you are old enough to happen to live with this boyfriend and the two of you discussed pets before, and you are committed to this relationship with him, then the answer is no. In a healthy relationship, where an issue has the possibility of compromise, then certainly compromise, how ever if one partner votes no on any particular idea or issue, then its no.

What you are proposing doing is controlling and manipulating the outcome of a situation. I certainly hope you are not like this in other areas of life or you will never be happy in relationship cus any healthy individual will not put up with that behavior in their mate for long.

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I say my self he is he says his not but he wouldnt have aex with me itz been 3months he says I been actin up thays qhy he wouldnt have sex with me them he says itz him I said no itz not becuZ he stands in one place like hes stupid doesnt talk nothang just stands ther dreamin awake in hes dick gets hard help me what u think it is

He says you've been acting up. And thats all he has given in explanation. Thats not very helpful. No examples of what you are doing that is causing him to feel sexually turned off by you?

I am not saying he has a valid complaint. But just in case he does, from listening to relationship and dating experts, I have come to know that there are indeed things that a female does that will kill a guys interest in her...not just for sex but in having any kind of relationship at all. So if he hasn't left you/broken up with you and is still hanging around and being a friend, just without the sex now whereas he was sexual with you before, then something happened in His life, nothing likely that you have done to kill his sex drive. He may not be ready to deal with whatever it is in his life that is causing these changes. It could be family issues, stress, a change in his hormone levels which can cause loss of interest. There isn't a clear way to tell if someone is gay. too many assume you can tell by their behavior. The greater majority of gay people I've ever met and known showed no visual clue on the outside. Why does there need to be a label.
If he really was gay, what difference would that make to you? Couldn't you still be a friend to him, or would you prefer to be friends only with males who are straight and more likely to have sex with you. Not saying thats a bad thing. Just have your priorities straight in your mind. If you are currently looking for a boyfriend with whom you can be sexual and he won't be, then something needs to change. If he will not fess up what his real issues are, then the only change left possible is that you change who your 'boyfriend' is. This doesnt mean you have to stop being his friend, just not official boyfriend/girlfriend anymore.

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I want to lose weight before summer. How do I do this easily?

Make sure your goals are realistic and attainable. I know there are charts that will indicate what is a healthy amount to lose per week and per month. Weight doesnt add on to your body quickly or overnight, therefore, it really can't be lost any faster than it was gained.
What helps though is diet and taking into account your bodys particular metabolism. I have a high metabolism which is the rate at which I process food into energy, how I burn up calories. A person with a higher/faster metabolism isn't going to need to exercise as hard as someone with a slower metabolism.
Wiki how has an article that explains what it is and how to increase the metabolism to help lose weight. Heres the link:
http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-Your-Metabolism

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Right now I'm sucking a ring pop. I could go through an entire pack of gum no matter how big in 5days. At the most. Every time I finish a gum piece, or a lollipop, I want another one. And when I'm not, I'm sucking or chewing on something else…THAT ISN'T FOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This could include, hard objects, squishy objects, toenails, etc. What is wrong with me? Now I'm gonna get another lollipop. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I concur with the other advice giver. It sounds like an addiction of sorts or A habit pattern that formed due to.?? .....whatever changed in your life to start it.

You only asked what is wrong with you. You did not say whether you wanted to change this. If you do, want to stop doing this, you would need to see a professional counselor who specializes in helping people break habits and addictions. It helps greatly to discover what happened in your past to start this kind of behaviour. It's highly unlikely that you were born doing this from birth on. So you would need to be able to provide a specialist with information on yourself and what life experiences or changes happened at which point you began to have a need to have something in your mouth at all times. You can try as was suggested to slowly wean yourself from doing this. But if it doesnt work, you'd need to go see someone to help you break it.

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