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Our friends are behaving differently. What does it mean?
A few months ago, my girlfriend and I won a partner karaoke contest at the most successful counter-service restaurant in the city and we each won 3 free meals a day. They serve a variety of hotdogs, burgers, fries etc. Both of us work in offices a few floors above the restaurant in the same building and we live down the street so it's really easy for us to go there 3 times a day and take advantage of our free meals.
There are a lot of benefits to eating for free. We've been saving a lot of money since December when we won. We've been able to buy ourselves new clothes because they all started shrinking in the wash (we go to a laundromat).
But our friends seem really jealous and haven't been inviting us out as much. Last time we hung out with them, they wanted to go for a group bike ride. We went for a little bit, but we couldn't breathe in the thin winter air. We asked if they wanted to go watch TV at our place and they basically told us off. Are they jealous of us winning that contest back in November? Or what?
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I'll start with this sentence of yours:But our friends seem really jealous and haven't been inviting us out as much
There are two things mentioned in the sentence, one based in reality and the other based in your mind.
They aren't inviting out as much is the reality.
The other has to do with your thoughts in your mind and are not a reality because there has been nothing to verify or back that up in the real world.
If you had asked them if they are jealous of you for any reason and they say yes, only then would this be based in reality.
I am not sure I understand your last invite by them, going on a group bike ride but the two of you wanted to stop and do something different because you couldn't breathe thin winter air? Maybe at high elevations the air is too thin for certain activities but I highly doubt you were biking in the tops of the alps.
So you are trying to say you both couldn't breath properly? It might be connected to how physically fit you are. I don't know what your friends said exactly to you at the point but perhaps they've seen a change in you two related to your health...less energy, less drive, and your hearth may not be in as good a shape as before. Before you laugh at me....I have facts that can prove this is possible in reality.
There is a movie called 'Super size me' about a man who eats just high fat high carbohydrate diet for one month and the drastic health changes it makes on him in his one month long experiment.
The food you are eating, although free, its not healthy for 3 times a day for 3 months let alone for one month as this guy found out. He was checked out by his doctor before starting, during and after. Its not good news girls. You may want to drop the rest of the meals immediately and get in to see your Doctor for a physical ASAP!!!!
In 2003 A guy named Spurlock produced a movie of himself going on a strictly high fat high carb diet by eating only McDonalds. The name of the movie "Super size me" I'll put a link to it at the bottom.
After five days Spurlock had gained almost 10 pounds. Soon after he finds himself with a feeling of depression, and he finds that his bouts of depression, lethargy, and headaches are relieved by a McDonald's meal. One doctor describes him as "addicted." He has soon gained another 10 pounds, putting his weight at 203 lb (92 kg). Because he could only eat McDonald's food for a month, Spurlock refused to take any medication at all. At one weigh-in Morgan actually lost 1 lb. from the previous weigh-in much to the surprise of those supervising, but it was hypothesized by a nutrionist that he lost muscle (which weighs more than fat.)
Spurlock's soon to be wife, verifys the facts that Spurlock has lost much of his energy and sex drive during his experiment. Doctors, friends and family worried for him and didnt want to see him complete the full month of the high-fat, high-carbohydrate diet.
Around day 20, Spurlock experiences heart palpitations. Consultation with his concerned internist, Dr. Daryl Isaacs, reveals that Spurlock's liver is "pâté," and the doctor advises him to stop what he is doing immediately to avoid any serious health problems. But he continues for the one full month. You've already done more than that. It doesn't matter if its McDonalds or a Diner that serves the same food. Eat strictly the same, you jeopardize you health.
Here's a link to watch it yourself. I highly recommend you do because the diet you've been having has the obvious physical effects but can affect your moods too, bring on even depression.
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Seriously?
It seems bizarre to me that your first assumption is that they are jealous of something that first started over five months ago, when a much simpler, more realistic explanation, would be that you aren't up for doing the stuff they wanna do and that bugs 'em. Perhaps all the time you spend eating out at this one place, maybe they feel you aren't willing to spend time with them other places, or doing other things. If my friends only ever wanted to hang out at one, counter-serve spot, that'd piss me off.
Take an honest, hard look at your behaviour. If something is getting your friends backs up it is far, far, far more likely that isn't not just your good luck, but something that you are doing. It may be connected to your free meals, but when I hear someone suggest that other people are 'just jealousy' that usually means they are being 'just jackasses' about their privilege or luck.
Maybe there is something going on here, but you need to stop making petty assumptions about these people, and start talking to them. Assuming they are jealous is just strange. I have friends that make more than me, and friends that make less. You have to be respectful of those sorts of differences when you get together, but if you go around jumping to the assumption that everyone is jealous of a few hundred dollars you are saving each month then you are going to have a damn hard time making, and keeping, adult friends.
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