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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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I have an unreadable micro sd card which had personal details like passport and pan card scanned copies. Now before giving it back to store for replacement under warranty, I want to make sure that the data is not readable by the service guys using any recovery software. How to do it without any physical damage?

Will micro wave or soaking in water work?

I agree with rain horse 68. I would rather loose the cash than take the chance of having the kind of data you have on your SD card fall into the wrong hands.

In general most manufactures are trust worthy and your data is secure. What you do not know is what are the arrangements the manufacturer has with the retailer or repair facility as to what to do with card(s) once they are deemed non repairable.

Having worked for manufactures I can tell you there are a variety of agreements out there none of which include return to the manufacturer for destruction. Most of the agreements for returned non-repairable goods is for field destruction. This is where the big problem is. There are no instructions as to how to do this. They can simply throw the item in the trash if they so wish to do so.

This is why I suggest you follow rainhorse68's suggestion of destroying the SD card yourself. This is the only sure way you can know the data cannot be read by anyone else.

Male/17. I have never had sex and have never done illegal drugs. I went to urinate a little while ago and it had a slight burning sensation, after that I took a look at the hole, and pulled out a small sample of white goo. It's a little thicker than semen. I usually would mastrabate once or twice a day. But I stopped for a few days then mastrabated about 7 times yesterday. I did not mastrabate today at all. I'm worried that there might be some infection or rare STD being transmitted without sex or drugs. The ONLY sexual activity I have done is mastrabation. What is this goo? And what should I do? I don't wanna tell my mom, and I'm scared to pee now. This has never happened to me before. I shower daily, all I've had to drink today was one can of ginger ale and a lot of water. I don't want any problems with my area down there.

flare is right; the only person who can tell you for sure is a doctor.

Now that you are over 14 years of age you do not need your parents permission to make an appointment with your doctor or to see a doctor. By a Federal Law known as HIPPA you have medical privacy for anything related to you reproductive system. What you have written us about qualifies under the description in the law.

This means that no one in the doctors office can release information to anyone without your written permission.You must even sign a release for the doctors office to send the information required by the insurance company to pay the doctors fee for the visit. This is something you should sign.

Neither mom or dad can be in the exam room with you during the examination or treatment. They must wait in the waiting room unless you ask for them to be with you. These are your rights once you turn 14.

You must and should see a doctor as soon as possible you should even consider going to one of the 24 hour walk-clinics if you cannot see your own doctor today or tomorrow. Urinary infections need to be gotten on top off asap before they do serious harm.

By the way masturbating 7 times in one day is a little excessive. It may just be a coincidence or you may have strained something by masturbating so much. Whatever the cause you must inform the doctor about masturbating before experiencing the problem. The doctor won't judge you. Masturbation is normal for all teenagers and adults too.

As I said masturbating 7 times in a day is a bit excessive. If this is the norm for you I would suggest talking this over with your doctor. There is a hormonal war going on inside you that is causing you to masturbate this often. The doctor can help with this.

Alexa/13
I was talking with my best friend about my boyfriend and told her that I had sex with him and that the condom broke. She then said I was becoming a slut and that she was gonna ask my mom to get me help. I was so upset and dont kno why she would say that she made me cry. Why would she say that? It really hurt my feelings and now she wont talk to me.

Frankly your friend called you what she did, I don't like that word so I won't use it, because 13 year olds should not be having full sexual intercourse. There are any number of reason why and hopefully your parents have told you.

You set yourself up for her calling you this when you told her that you had sex with your boy friend. When it comes to sex teenagers can be very discriminating in how they feel about teenage sex and what may be the appropriate age. By bragging, which is what you were doing, you set yourself up for her to say what she said and worse.

You have set yourself up for gaining a reputation in school you do not want or need. If you think she is going to keep this information to herself you are sadly mistaken. I am sure you are not her only friend, she has others and she is bound to tell one or more of them who will probably tell others. Before long every young man will be looking for you in school.

This I think is what she meant by what she said. Are you one? No far from it. But you need to do some disaster control before you gain a reputation you do not want or need. You made a mistake and had sex. Leave it at that and don't do it again. Hopefully you are not pregnant that would really be a disaster.

One suggestion and the discovery network there is a program call High School moms. I think you should watch it.

ok im a 13yr old female and have been a cutter for 2 years.i know its a terrible thing,im getting some treament but stin ill kinda confused:im covered with cuts and scars,shoulder to ankle.i think there soooo ugly but hate when they fade.i want them to stay fresh and bleeding forever it seems,and dont know why.i do NOT want to stop cutting becousse it helps a ton becouse i m bullied and all that shit.i get sad when i take a shawer becouse all the blood washes away and it helps me so much and i dont want them to go.some day i may want them to go but not any time soon.im also triggered by bare wrists.in a way im just ashamed of what ive done to myself and want to be free of it.but i dont want to have scar free wrists and i cut more if i notice if they have perfect skin becouse im jelous in a way i geuss ..its become an everyday thing were i cut a ton pleases help im scared ill kill myself even though iv tried before.have i gone crazy????

Please send me your comments in a private message so I can help you. You asked a lot of thins more than I can. Answer in an edited message.

This is not normal but you are not crazy either. In fact what you may be going through might be what your doctor could be calling teenage depression. Doctors today are making this diagnosis more and more often and why shouldn't they. Depression is all about stress. Today's teenager has a lot of stress placed on them especially young teenagers entering puberty. Female teenagers probably face the most stress.

First you have the physical changes your body is going through. No longer can you wear comfortable undershirts as you now need to wear a bra. The new hormones puberty brings on have triggered your period and you have to deal with that once a month. Then there are boys OMG overnight they went from almost totally ignoring you to being all hands; something else you have to deal with.

Then there are the social changes of going from elementary school to middle school or middle school to high school. If that is not enough parents and teachers are expecting more of you. All of this seems to happen overnight.

Frankly I don't know how any of us ever got passed being a teenager without totally loosing it. Your doing the right thing by getting professional medical help. You need to continue with the therapy as the cutting is bad. You say it yourself; "i'm also triggered by bare wrists." You need to find out why this is a trigger and how to deal with it., When you do you will be able to start to lift the depression that is eating away at you.

I know how depression hurts. I've been down that road and it was a long road to recovery. But I am in recovery and I can attest to the fact that this is a much better place then depression. So work with your therapist and get on that road to recovery. You will be much happier on that road, that I promise you.

I am always here if you need to talk. You can private message me at any time .

Hi there,
I am 19 years old and I have been having binge eating problems for abouuuut 2 years now. My weight has yo yoed for a long time. I am so tired of it because it affects my whole life plus its really bad for my health. I've tried everything even intuitive eating but I keep having bad binges about 2-3 days a week. It is always on very sweet sugary foods and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed afterwards. I am not overweight because I work out so much but I know i'd be happier if I was slimmer. Absolutely nobody knows how much I struggle with this because I am so embarrassed about it. I think I need to see a counselor or something but I do not want my parents to find out (I still live with them and I am on there insurance etc.) What do I do? If I go to my doctor will they help me? Also will it be free?

Any advice would be very much appreciated,
thank you

THere are three questions here that need answering.

1) Will it be free. Are you asking if your insurance company will cover the cost of treatment? Most insurance companies will. The best thing to do is to cal the customer service number on the back of your insurance card to see just what your insurance covers.

You really don't have to call yourself as any doctor who treats you will need to call for authorization and will be told ahead of time the how and what of what is covered.

13/f
found out yesterday that my dad was adopted! and, my 'foster grandma' also died last weekend. i felt so bad but now im just realizing all these things, like, I used to think Iwas scottish but now i have no Idea what I could be. I know im being dumb but I feel like Ive been lied to. I just wish I knew my reall backround. like, at the doctor when they (the doctor) asked if there was any past of liver cancer in my family, my mom said, 'on my side, but I'm not sure about her fathers' now I get what she meant! I just want to know how I should take this.

First lets do a little house cleaning so to speak. Your dads mom was not his foster mother she was his adoptive mother. There is a big difference between foster and adoptive.

For all intensive purposes she was his mother maybe not by gestation but by all other meanings of the word. His biological mother gave him up, your grandmother had so much love to share that she took him in and made him her own. Just as she made you her grandchild her own as you surely are.

I have an adopted cousin. He is my cousin in every meaning of the word. When my Aunt and Uncle told him he was adopted I was there, I'm 2 years older. We were told together so we both understood what being adopted meant. His parents were my god parents. There gone now but they truly were godparents always there for me and he and I although thousands of miles separate us now are still as close as we were when he was told he was adopted.

Now you do have a valid concern as to your family medical history. You have your dads medical history but not your paternal grandparents. The laws on adoption have changed considerably since your dad was adopted. If you have the adoption papers you can contact the adoption agency and ask then to contact the birth mother to get medical information on her and his father.

You can also ask if you want if your biological grandparents have any interest in meeting you. Times change and as the saying goes time heals all wounds.

A very good friend of mines parents had a child out of wedlock. They were forced by their parents to give this child up for adoption. When his father passed away his mother went looking for her first born son. She found him just after his last adoptive parent passed away.

Mama as we all called her was thrilled to find him, he was thrilled to find he had a family that wanted him numbering almost 40 people. When mamas health went bad he took her into his home and cared for her until her death.

Will lightening strike twice and your biological grandmother will be thrilled to hear from you. I can't say. What I can say is that with the change in the laws if you have any interest in finding her you can. I would suggest speaking with your dad before doing so as he might not want to meet her.

The one thing is certain, you really have not been lied too, mislead maybe but not lied too. You are not without a background as back when your father was born all attempts were made to place children with parents of similar heritage. You also have you moms heritage which is the overriding heritage.

The only thing you are missing is your fathers family medical history. As I said if you contact the adoption agency they should be able to help with this. If you don't have the adoption papers but know where he was born. Contact the court house records clerk give them your fathers family name and the date and year of his birth. They can do a records check to find a file copy of the adoption records.

If nothing else please do not feel like a lost person for you are not. You are the product of your parents love and that is what really counts.

Hello, you have helped me before on answering my questions a little better by changing my format.

Since you seem very familiar with this site, give good advice, and mentioned you are older I was hoping for your honest input.

I've been getting private messages from people that are inappropriate, so inappropriate that I am not going to repeat them. I have rejected all of them, which is not a big deal.

Then, today someone (a male) asked me about girl's putting their hand over a guy’s mouth and nose. I answered that I'm not sure the purpose of the question but I tried my best to be diplomatic about it.

The same person came back describing themselves, in detail to me asking me "how much noise,” I think they would make if MY hand was over their mouth "from behind." I responded saying if this was something sexual, I found it very inappropriate and felt that if I was going to answer any more questions I'd like to know what the reason is for them. I even asked if the person was writing a murder mystery novel since he claimed to be a writing looking for "input."

He didn't care for my last response, but my question is, do you think I was wrong to assume that there was something veiled behind his question?

Let's start with the private questions. Each of us are shown as the featured advisor at different times. When you are the featured advicer you will receive more private messages at that time then any other time. As you answer more questions you will also build a following of those people who you build a trust in you and they will private message you when they want advise.

You are not required to answer any question you feel is inappropriate or that you are not able to offer any positive advice on. When it comes to inappropriate questions you may if you wish too, report these question as abuse to the moderators. They will review the question and if the find the question abusive and outside the guidelines of this site. They will ban the user from this site.

As you answer more and more questions you will get to know when there is something beyond what is written. There have been many times when I have answered a question with an answer totally different from the way the question was worded. In almost every instance the writer has replied, "How did you know that is what I mean."

Part of it is I'm older and raised my own children and I am able to can at times see beyond the question. Another part is I must have answered and read several hundred questions.

As I said you are not required to answer all questions. Private message questions can simply be rejected or as I do in some instances I send back a reply saying this is not an area of expertise for me. Try putting your question on the open forum or I might recommend another adviser.

I would not say you were wrong to assume something that wasn't asked. The writer may not like your answer. Most important is you have to be comfortable with your answer or you should not answer the question.

I hope I have answered your question.

so im a virgin and my boyfriend is a virgin but we have fooled around. we have been together for almost two years and i just found a bump on my vagina. is there something wrong. do i have something. i have polysystic ovarion syndrome but i dont know if its from that. should i be worried. should i go to the doctor. if so what doctor?

After reading about polycystic ovarian syndrome I don't feel one has anything to do with the other.
I do believe that since you do have this syndrome anything that can be related to your reproductive system needs to be checked out by a doctor. This is the overly cautious thing to do.

Fooling around, which is normal, does elevate your hormone levels to some degree. Since polycystic ovarian syndrome has to do with hormones and the bump is on your vagina you need to have it checked out.

If you are over 14 you can, by a Federal Law called HIPPA, ask to see the doctor in private. Meaning mom waits in the waiting room. The doctor will support you in this request. This will allow you to speak openly with the doctor about your concerns.

As I said fingering is normal but I doubt you want your mom hearing it. It is okay to tell the doctor for if you are 14 or older the doctor(s) cannot tell anyone what you tell them or what you are examined or treated for. This law specifically provides for your medical privacy so that you will see a doctor for concerns about your reproductive health and be open and truthful with the doctor(s).

Once you obtain the age 14 you are responsible for your reproductive health. Neither mom or any court will force you to under go any procedure you do not want with the exception of a life saving procedure.

So see the doctor, tell the doctor what you were doing and see what the doctor thinks the problem is.

Hello, I'm studying in England and doing Psychology and Criminology. I didn't really know what I wanted to do with my life but I knew I loved Psychology and I thought Criminology would be interesting and good to add to it.

Anyway, in the first year we had a counselling class and I rather enjoyed it, but now I don't do any counselling classes, just basic Psychology and the foundations to Criminology. I was planning on being a therapist, getting a Masters in Psychology etc etc, but now I see I don't have a counselling class any more, is that going to cause me a problem?

I think I can swap over easily enough because the first year didn't count for anything apprently, and since Psychology is my core subject they don't mind (unlike Criminology where I wouldn't have any common knowledge) Somebody who maybe is in the field, or understands how jobs work could you please help?

Thank you x

I'm in the USA so my knowledge is based on what is done here in the USA.

Here the money and the interesting work in psychology requires a Doctorate in psychology. Now I realize things in England are different so I suggest before you make any drastic changes in your schedule you talk with your advisor.

The thought that you have combined your schooling in psychology with criminology piques my interest. The use of the combined degrees may be limited. I would think it would also be rewarding as the field would be in law enforcement. Criminal psychology can be very important to the detectives in solving crimes and in getting convictions.

The reward to you is knowing you played a part in making the streets safer for the law abiding citizens of the area you serve. All public service has its own rewards but service in emergency services has rewards that frankly you have to experience to understand.

Both my son and I are firefighters. He has gone on and obtained he paramedic license as well. When he first came into the service he asked me why we did this. Like I said it is not something that can be put in words. One day he ran a call, that at the onset was a fairly standard request for an ambulance that quickly went bad. Thanks to his efforts the patient survived. This was not his first save.

When he returned to the station he came over to me and said; Dad I understand now" Listening to the radio I knew this would be the call that would answer his question and it did. You had to be there too understand.

The pay is not the greatest in public service though the rewards are. I believe you have selected two two majors that will set you up for a very rewarding career. Before making any drastic changes please speak to your class advisor and get the straight information on just where you can go with this.

20/f
This is really embarrassing & I'm not totally sure how I can describe this, but I'll give it a shot. There's something wrong with the small patch of skin between my breasts. It's gross. I'm not quite sure how to describe it but I suppose the best way I can put this is that is basically looks dirty. it's darker than any of the rest of my torso (& no, it doesn't just appear that way because of a shadow or tan). It's even kind of almost wrinkly-looking. It's NOT dirty because due to this issue, if anything, I scrub that area harder & pay more attention to it than the rest of my entire body when I shower, but it's been the same way for years now. It's really embarrassing; mind you, I don't even have to wear something slutty for it to show -- I have to make sure any top I wear shows NO cleavage, because even if you could see just the very top, it looks gross. Kind of the way that area would look on a much older woman or one with larger boobs, but I'm young & only a B-cup, so I don't understand what this could be... does anyone know what it could be? Or what I could do about it? (Scrubbing and exfoliating does NOTHING).
As you might be able to guess, it's kind of hard to ask about this because of the area, it's embarrassing, I can't exactly show you any pictures, & needless to say, Googling "dirty cleavage" wouldn't bring up the results I would hope for. :/

Even if you were to have provided a picture there is no way we could diagnose this over the web and we shouldn't as none of us are doctors.

You need to see a Dermatologist. This is a doctor who specializes in problems of the skin. You may need to see a Plastic Surgeon as well to have that area of skin excised. This all starts with a visit to a Dermatologist to find out just what the problem is.

Since it can be seen while clothed you may not have to bare your breast to the doctor and if you do it should not be a big deal. I can assure you there is nothing sexual to the doctor and it should not be to you to have to examine your breast area. Doctors see more breasts in a life time than most porn stars do. If it makes you more comfortable look for a female dermatologist.

As I said to begin with I am not a doctor so I'm guessing her but the one thing I'm almost sure of is it is not something cancerous considering how long you say you have had it. If I were a betting person I might put some money on it being some type of freckle. So see a doctor and get a definitive answer.

Katy
Me and my bf have been going out for a while, Im 14 and hes 17. At the beginning of our relationship it was just kissing and hugging, but now hes starting to ask me for sex and I feel like im just not ready and hes not getting it.Sometimes when we're kissing hell put his hands down my pants and start fingering me. I always tell him no but he just keeps doing it. And earlier today I was in his bedroom and we were kissing he starts rubbing my boob and I let him but then he put his hand down my panties and starts fingering me I tell him stop but he wouldnt listen so I pushed him off me and left. I just dont understand why he keeps doing this and why he keeps asking me when every time I say no. I just want to go back to just kissing and hugging, how do I tell him to stop ,and show him that I mean it. Please help me.

ANYTIME YOU SAY NO OR STOP IN A SEXUAL SITUATION AND YOUR PARTNER CONTINUES. IT IS NOT PRACTUCALLY RAPE, IT IS RAPE.

No and stop mean just that, no and stop. When he continues doing whatever it is he is open to the charges of sexual harassment and rape. The fact that you are 14 and he is 17 can compound this even more depending on the law in your state.

You are most definitely a minor, meaning you cannot in anyway shape or form consent to any type of sex as you are under the age of consent. Your BF is 17 and could be consider and adult. IF so another charge of contributing to the delinquency of a minor and being a pedophile could be added to the list of charges against him.

This is generally the problem when girls your age date boys 2 to 3 years older than themselves. These boys are more sexually mature than you are. In general they date girls your age for they believe they can more easily get sex from someone your age than someone their own age.

There are three ways to handle this situation. The first is to just stop seeing him he is to old for you and continued dating him can only lead to trouble for you if not outright rape.

The second way is to tell your dad this boy is all hands and no matter what you say he continues to touch you in places you don't want to be touched. That he won't take no and stop for an answer. If your dad is anything like me he will take care of this and you won't have any more problems and you won't see him any more.

The third way is just to call the police and press charges. They are real charges and carry real penalties. Since you are 14 your parents would have to file the charges with you.

Whatever you decide to do, just walk away or have your dad talk to him. These charges have a 5 year or more statue of limitation. So if he were to harass you or bully you in school you have a minimum of 5 years to bring charges against him. It would be in his best interest to go quietly and not bother you in the future or harass you in anyway; or he could face real prison time and have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

Red bumps occurred about 2 weeks after shaving bikini area and not sure what it is a rash but itches like crazy. Tried many things but it doesn't seem to want to go away. The hair is starting to grow back is that why it is so itchy?

Sounds like razor burn. Not all razors are made alike especially if you are using your dad or brothers razor. If you are going to shave you need to have your own razor made for a woman, there is a difference in how the head of the razor is angled and how the blade is constructed.

Wash the area to be shaved first, then apply some shaving gel or cream before shaving. When finished apply a good skin conditioner and rinse your razor under hot water, then dry and store it until your next use it.

While you and your mother have similar needs for a razor you should have your own razors just as father and son have their own razors, this is simple hygiene.

There is not much that can be done about the itching. This will happen as the hair grows back. Continued shaving will relieve that to a degree. When shaving let the razor do the work. In other words don't press down. This will help with the razor burn. If you have to press hard to shave it means the blade is dull and you need to change blades. Using a good skin conditioner should help with any razor burn.

If the rash continues then you may need to see a doctor as it is something other than a razor burn. Possibly an allergic reaction to the cream or skin conditioner.

Shaving your pubic area has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with hygiene so talking with mom about this should not be an embarrassment. Would you be embarrassed to talk to your mom about shaving your under arms. I don't think so. Just because this area is close to your vagina; shaving there has nothing to do with sex so you should be able to talk freely with mom or dad if you wanted too.

As my screen name implies I am a male. While I do not have any daughters I do act as a father to two nieces. I have told them and they have come to me with questions when they have them. Dads do know about these things. Remember we live and sleep with our childrens mothers so we learn about many things as life goes on.

I desperately need $500 by September 8. I have applied for multiple loans at Banks and Credit Unions and I don't qualify for them.

I can't afford the quick loan places cuz their interest is too high and Ive heard horror stories about how they rip you off.

I have already sold and pawned everything I can :'( That was really hard but I am desperate.

I don't have a car to sell.

What should I do?

I do have awesome credit and could probably qualify for a credit card. But I know nothing about them. What's the best and safest credit card? Where do I go to get one? Are their specific qualifications? And is there a way to get a safe one without going to a bank or credit union? What do you all think of Visa Credit Cards?

Is there something better that I can do to get the money fast?

The two things I refuse to do are: Sell sex and Apply for welfare or any other kind poor people program. (Nothing against those who do it).
PLEASE H5LP!!!

Credit cards were at one time the easiest things to get; now I'm not so sure. One thing I am sure of is you will not get one by September 8th.

Even if you applied today you have the holiday weekend here in the USA to contend with so any application will sit until Tuesday morning which is 9/4. While the approval process may only take a day or two, printing and delivering the actual card can take 10 to 14 business days.

You don't say what you need the $500 for. I will offer this advice though. BE absolutely sure that whatever you need this money for is something that absolutely is something you need not just something you desire. For when we act out of desperation is when we fall into perils we find hard to get out of. When it comes to money it usually means agreeing to extremely high interest rates were you may end up paying back double of what you borrowed so please be careful..

Ok so I have been masterbating for the past month and then i got my period for like 2 days light flow and then the 3rd day it stopped so i masterbated that same day. and my period came back 2 days later. its been 10 days and dots of blood come out idk what to think of it

I have serious doubts that your masturbating has anything to do with your period or spotting. In fact depending on your age and how recently you have started having periods the problem you are writing about could all be normal.

It would not be unusual as your body adjust to a normal menstrual cycle for something like this to happen. Your concern though is valid and if this is not the first time or if your period happens to do this again next month; then it would be time to consult a doctor, preferably a gynecologist.

Do not be concerned about having to tell your mom what is happening. Your period is not sex, it is a normal bodily function of a female. You can leave out the part about masturbating. As I said one has really nothing to do with the other. The reason you need to talk to mom is if you are under 14 years of age mom needs to make the appointment with a doctor.

If you are under 14 years of age mom can be in the exam room as well. If you don't want her there and you may not. Just ask her to wait in the waiting room while the doctor examines you, then she may come in. I'm sure the doctor will support this request if you ask. This will allow you to speak freely with the doctor just as you have with us.

When speaking with the doctor do not be embarrassed to tell the doctor everything that you are concerned about. Including if you want about masturbating. First, there is nothing wrong with masturbating. Second, there is nothing you will say that the doctor or the nurse has not heard before. Third, the more factual information you provide the better the doctor can treat you.

My kitchen sink is stopped up and the water is going from one side to the other. It took forever for the water to go down in both sides and everytime you put something in one side it goes to the other sink. The pipes are metal.We tried drano, it didn't work. How do I fix it without spending a lot of money?

One thing you can try before calling the plumber and does not require a lot of mechanical aptitude is a s follows.

You will need the following: A bucket, An 8" or 10" Pipe wrench. If you don't own a pipe wrench you can get one fairly cheap at Lowe's or Home Depot.

Look under the sink. Follow the drain pipe down from the sink until it comes to a place where it starts to bend into what looks like a "U". This is called a "Trap"

Probably 90% of all clogs happen in the trap from built up grease, hair, soap scum and anything else we put down the sink.

Unless you live in a really old house, you will find two threaded couplings on either side of the "U" shape. These couplings are installed this way so the trap can be removed and cleaned out.

Put the bucket under the trap. Take you pipe wrench and adjust it so that it closes snugly around the coupling and loosen the couplings. Remember left to loosen and right to tighten. You only need the wrench to loosen the coupling then you can fully uncouple using your hands, holding the trap in one hand and the coupling in the other.

Once uncoupled turn the trap over into the bucket to drain. Even though the trap is plastic it may be heavier than expected if it is filled with sentiment.

Tape the trap outside and using a screwdriver or a wire coat hanger clean as much of the sentiment as you can from the pipe. Then rinse with a garden hose. When clean reinstall the trap first hand tightening the couplings then take your pipe wrench and give the couplings no more than another half turn. Run some water to check for leaks if there is a leak tighten the coupling a little more to stop the leak.

Your problem should be solved.

IF, if you happen to break the pipe DON'T PANIC. take the pieces to the plumbing department at home depot or Lowe's and they will find the correct pieces needed to replace what has broken and will even put them together for you.

I'm an 125 lbs 11 year old. I'm 5 ft 7 inches. How can I loss weight? I want to be slimmer before school or at least on the road to be. I don't want to be skinny but just a healthy weight. Help!

At your age you concern should not be on your appearance but if you are the right weight for body frame and age. Below is a copy of what your weight should be for the three different frame sizes doctors judge by. These are the minimum weight ranges for these frames at your height.

Height Small Frame Medium Frame Large Frame

5'07" 122-131 128-143 137-154

At your age the female body is going to go through more changes than the male body and your body will continue to evolve well into your upper teens. The first thing to happen is you loose what we parent call your baby fat. Your breasts, which may have already started to develop will either continue to develop or begin to develop. You develop the curves that all women do.

Now if you want to properly develop your body to have the slim stomach, sleek thighs and legs. Then you should talk to your physical education teacher about PROPER EXERSISES you can do to PROPERLY firm and tone the muscles of your stomach, thighs, calves and butt.

Dieting is the worst thing you can do for yourself at this time as it will inhibit exactly what you are trying to do. Proper nutrition and exercise is what you need to obtain the look you want AS YOU GET OLDER and your body continues to mature.

Proper nutrition is 3 good healthy meals a day, with a proper snack in between. An occasional junk food meal or snack is okay as none of us can really live by proper nutrition alone as it gets boring. Proper exercise is a proper work out designed to meet your goal done two or three times a week. Her again your physical education teacher can be a great resource to help you.

Dieting is the wrong answer to a slim sleek body. There are no short cuts. You have to work at it ant the work is a regimented diet and exercise program.

I'm 11 and I have big boobs already! I'm pretty sure I'm A 38 or something like that. My mom has really small boobs so I'm skeptical. My dad does no have boobs of course but I was just wondering if by this rate I'm going to have big boobs? I started wearing a bra in 4th grade but... I'm just hoping to know if this will unfortuntly lead to big boobs. Reply soon?

There are a lot of factors that are at play here. There is even the possibility that your breast will grow smaller as your body becomes accustomed to the new hormones now coursing through your body.

One of the biggest factors at play here is your total body weight and body fat index. This is something your doctor or even your physical education teacher can help you with.

Since breast tissue is largely made up of fat tissue; the lower your body fat index is the smaller your breast could become. Just something to think about.

He called me today and told me that he and his wife decided to divorce yesterday. Apparently, she wanted to end it as well. Since she lives in another city, he is flyer there tomorrow to take her things to her, and get his things from her place.

When he gets back, he wants to go to dinner and "see where things go"

I want to go see him and I'm glad he waited to call me after they decided to divorce. But, I agree with what you said before, I don't want to be in the middle of a mess. It makes me feel better that they came to an agreement on the divorce but I still feel a bit uneasy.

Should I go see him? I can say that I will go to dinner and then go home, but I may not because to make myself go home and not go to his place.

Dinner may be to intimate for right now. I believe it is best that you keep him at arms length for now, at least until the divorce and the lawyers are done. At any time between now and then you can be drawn into the middle of his divorce.

Meetings in public, non intimate settings is fine. Being friends is fine. But neither of you should be seen leaving the others residence, especially in the morning hours. This is in both of yours best interest.

You two should meet and discuss things, not for dinner. Lunch at a cafe or in a mall is the safest place for you and he to meet.

Keeping him at arms length for awhile also allows you to make sure he is not playing you. I'll get kicked out of th man's club for saying this; though understand there are many a man who play at divorcing their wives to get other women into a bed with them. Yet they have no intention of divorcing.

I don't know him so all I can do is caution you not to lead with your heart. You sound like a nice girl and I would hate to see you hurt.

Hi My gf is a virgin and yesterday we fooled around so my penis was brushing around her vagina but i was inside of her at all. she was holding it as i was brushing around it ,

i did not cum inside at all

could she be pregnant if

- i cum around her vagina opening , even if she is pregnant

- i cum outside and far from her vagina

she is a virgin

thanks

timtim

timtim the answer to your question is yes. When you sex play as you and she did you may as well have been playing the game of Russian Roulette with a fully loaded revolver.

The fact that you came far away from her vagina helps in not getting her pregnant. What about when you two were playing before you came. Was there any pre cum on you penis. The precum is emitted without you noticing it. It is meant as a lubricant while you are having sex and inside a woman's vagina. The pre cum has almost as many sperm cells as when you cum.

It only takes one sperm cell to make a women pregnant if all other factors that are required are in place. In theory coming on or near a woman's vagina can result in a pregnancy.

IF you are going to be naked with a woman and you penis is going to be anywhere below her waist were a condom to prevent pregnancy. If you are not willing to do that. You should both keep your clothes on.

I have started to wonder if my wife has totally moved on from her sex partners just before we were married.

She had at least two partners, both men were best friends and they shared everything including her, and at times both at the same time.
OK... I would have done that too.

What bothers me is, since we are from a small town, and everyone of our friends know everything. So when we get together she always asks my closest friend "how is Wayne". Wayne is one of the men and he is the cousin of my best friend. One in awhile this would be OK, but not every time.
Now it has escalated to stalking Wayne's wife, on Facebook, who we met once twenty years ago, really not much in common, she is talking to her friends about this woman as though they are friends.
Is she just trying to re live her earlier sex-capades?
Or would she like to replace the wife?

Please tell me what you think

The first thing that comes to my mind is the old saying; "YOU ALWAYS REMEBER YOUR FIRST..."

Your first sex partner always seems to be at the top of that list especially for a women. The boy/man who she gives her virginity too always seems to be special in her mind. Being from a small town where there are constant reminders of this event may be behind your wife's inquires of Wayne.

None of us are doctors so it would be really hard, impossible actually for any of us to give you a professional diagnoses to what is behind your wife's thoughts.

I would think if you have been together for twenty years as it appears you two have been or longer; why are you wondering about this now or is this something new. Not just the facebook stalking that is.

I am getting the feeling it is not something new and it just may be that she has a soft spot in her heart for Wayne. Not a big deal as you are the one she sleeps with. What she may not be aware of is your feelings since you have not mentioned this to her. She may assume/feel that you have no problem with her asking about Wayne or in your terms, stalking his wife.

I would think that given the fact that you two have spent the better part of your lives together you could ask her, not confront her, the why or what of this situation with her interest in Wayne. Once you know her reason then you can tell her how you feel and then ask or discuss her stopping her inquires.

This would be my suggestion based on what you have written.

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