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My best friend called me a slut
Alexa/13
I was talking with my best friend about my boyfriend and told her that I had sex with him and that the condom broke. She then said I was becoming a slut and that she was gonna ask my mom to get me help. I was so upset and dont kno why she would say that she made me cry. Why would she say that? It really hurt my feelings and now she wont talk to me.
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Your friends a moron, tell her to look up the word's meaning before she uses it. A "slut" is a girl who has sex with many different guys and has low standards. You had sex with your BOYFRIEND, one guy.
Yes 13 is a very young to be having sex:
1. You have no idea what your doing
2. You cannot deal with the consequences
Meaning you would be a horrible mother ( your immature and don't have a career, your still a child yourself)
You dont know if your ready for it; if you did you wouldn't be here worried about who might find out and what they'll say
If your going to be having sex I suggest you stop before getting to home plate (oral at the most). You might also wanna read up on stds
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Frankly your friend called you what she did, I don't like that word so I won't use it, because 13 year olds should not be having full sexual intercourse. There are any number of reason why and hopefully your parents have told you.
You set yourself up for her calling you this when you told her that you had sex with your boy friend. When it comes to sex teenagers can be very discriminating in how they feel about teenage sex and what may be the appropriate age. By bragging, which is what you were doing, you set yourself up for her to say what she said and worse.
You have set yourself up for gaining a reputation in school you do not want or need. If you think she is going to keep this information to herself you are sadly mistaken. I am sure you are not her only friend, she has others and she is bound to tell one or more of them who will probably tell others. Before long every young man will be looking for you in school.
This I think is what she meant by what she said. Are you one? No far from it. But you need to do some disaster control before you gain a reputation you do not want or need. You made a mistake and had sex. Leave it at that and don't do it again. Hopefully you are not pregnant that would really be a disaster.
One suggestion and the discovery network there is a program call High School moms. I think you should watch it.
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Hi Alexa. I'll be honest. At your age it isn't that unusual to be enjoying a fair bit of sexual 'horseplay' like handjobs etc, I don't have to more precise I'm sure. But mostly girls don't start full sex for a while yet. So you're probably setting yourself a bit apart from friends of your own age. A sort of 'alienation'. And yeah, I'd be surprised if they were not highly curious themselves, and more than a little envious of you. So expect the odd sharp comment, some criticism. Try to patch things up with your mate. Try not to come across all 'Hey, I'm having sex...don't you wish you were?' Get my drift? And don't rule out the possibility that your friend is genuinely pretty shocked at such an 'in your face' confession from you. Try and keep her close, good friends of your own sex are important and will always be. So, whatever anyone says, you've chosen to have a full relationship with your boyfriend. OK, at a pretty young age. But I'll tell you somrthing, you're DEFINITELY too young to be using terms like 'slut' about each other, so cut that out for a start!
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psh. you wanna know why? 'cause you are one. your 13! its just sad. i hope you rethink your life and make some better choices.
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Um you say your only 13, trust me, you dont wanna be called a slut. It can start a chain reaction and others could call you it too. And also, you had sex when your 13? What are you thinking? You dont want to do that because you do not wanna risk the chances or becoming pregnant! Even though you used a condom, you say it broke and thats not good at all. I would try a pregnancy test just to make sure.
In regards to your friend calling you a slut, you just talk to her about it. I know it hurt your feelings that she said that, but maybe you shouldnt talk about your sexual life in front of her... Does she have a boyfriend? If not, then I think she might be jealous.
Dont ruin your life by having sex at this age, it can cause a bad reputation for you in high school saying you lost your virginity at this age. But, just talk it out with your friend and try to get along with her. And also, if your ever in a position where you have to choose between your best friend and boyfriend, choose your best friend. Friends stay together, guys are whatever :) Hope this helps!
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