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Update on my married ex-boss
He called me today and told me that he and his wife decided to divorce yesterday. Apparently, she wanted to end it as well. Since she lives in another city, he is flyer there tomorrow to take her things to her, and get his things from her place.
When he gets back, he wants to go to dinner and "see where things go"
I want to go see him and I'm glad he waited to call me after they decided to divorce. But, I agree with what you said before, I don't want to be in the middle of a mess. It makes me feel better that they came to an agreement on the divorce but I still feel a bit uneasy.
Should I go see him? I can say that I will go to dinner and then go home, but I may not because to make myself go home and not go to his place.
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Dinner may be to intimate for right now. I believe it is best that you keep him at arms length for now, at least until the divorce and the lawyers are done. At any time between now and then you can be drawn into the middle of his divorce.
Meetings in public, non intimate settings is fine. Being friends is fine. But neither of you should be seen leaving the others residence, especially in the morning hours. This is in both of yours best interest.
You two should meet and discuss things, not for dinner. Lunch at a cafe or in a mall is the safest place for you and he to meet.
Keeping him at arms length for awhile also allows you to make sure he is not playing you. I'll get kicked out of th man's club for saying this; though understand there are many a man who play at divorcing their wives to get other women into a bed with them. Yet they have no intention of divorcing.
I don't know him so all I can do is caution you not to lead with your heart. You sound like a nice girl and I would hate to see you hurt.
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