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me & my boyfriend been togather for almost a year , i realy love him . im suppr compfortable with him . he wants to hae sex. and im nervous about it .
idk why . maybe i feel to young(im not 13 or anything) ? or my parents will find out . or it will hurt . and im super scared of getting pregnate . but forsure we will use protection and hes not presuuring me ? i make the descison that i will do it , but thenwhen we r alone i chicken out . what should i do ?
When we have a fear of doing something this is our internal alarm system kicking in telling us this may be harmful or is wrong.
Your internal warning system is telling you that you are just not ready yet and this is fine. Each of us mature at different rates and when we reach the point in our maturity that we are ready for sex then our alarm system stays silent. This point could come when your 18 or when your 21 it depends on a lot of different factors. When your ready for sex you will know it. Until then listen to your body. Their is nothing wrong with waiting.
I am going to supply a link to a website that will answer a lot of questions for you about are you ready for your first sex. I suggest you read it along with your boyfriend so he too will know what he needs to do to help you when you are ready.
Sex for a male is mostly a mechanical function once he has an erection, which for teenage males takes little to no stimulation. For a female it is a lot more complicated then that and it needs to be for she is the one that can be come pregnant.
Other than not being 13 you do not say how old you are. Whatever your age there is nothing wrong in waiting until you are truly ready. Their are other ways to show your boyfriend you love him and other ways for the two of you to relieve your sexual tension.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
How do I get this one girl to let me touch her butt at school out side and we are both eleven she has a good butt
A gentleman never touches a woman's private parts without permission and never, ever in public. This is something you need to know now and remember if you ever wish to have a girlfriend.
I know some boys in school may walk up to girls in school or out of school and grab their butts or even their breasts. This is very wrong and is considered sexual harassment. If done in school or on the way home from school you could be in big trouble with the school and punished severely as there is a zero tolerance for this in most schools today.
A persons butt is part of their private parts, girl or boy. To pinch, grab or slap in fun or out of meanness is very wrong and can lead to big trouble for you.
If you want to get to know this girl better then talk to her and walk with her. When she is comfortable with you being close to her you can put your arm around her waist and walk with her. This show her that you respect her as a girl/women and you will find she will be much more fun Tobe with then if you walk up to her and touch her butt, especially if you do so in public.
is it okay to masturbate at age 11?
Short answer is yes. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. Fact is you have probably been doing so since you were an infant. Most babies rock themselves,especially boys. Why because it feels good. The rocking rubs their penis or causes the diaper to rub their vagina and it feels good. This is a form of masturbation.At this age parents think it is cute.
When you get older the need to masturbate comes back as your hormones kick in at puberty. I cannot tell you why parents tell their children it is wrong to masturbate. Especially when you consider that according to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate.
That is rights right one or both of your parents masturbate, although they won't admitted to you if you were to ask. Most adults masturbate as part of foreplay to sexual intercourse. Yes your parents still have sex. Masturbation prior to sexual intercourse is usually called mutual masturbation were one partner masturbates the other.
This survey also pointed out that none of the organized religions, including the Catholic church condemns masturbation. Remember there is a difference be condemning and condoning.
None of the religious organizations came right out and condoned masturbation but none of them condemned it as a sin. This leads me to conclude that the biggest problem parents have with masturbation is. That the Churches and Temples as well as parents; see masturbation as a prelude to entering the world of sexual activity.
I have probably given you more information then you asked for. Since you did ask if it was okay to masturbate I felt it was incumbent to go a little further. As a parent I would prefer my children masturbate to relieve and explore the world of sex. So as to put off having sex before they are truly mature enough for sex. The biggest problem with this is your bodies mature before you do. Masturbation helps you put off having sex until you and your body are at the same point of maturity.
Okay before i start. I would just like to say up front that I've never really been introduced to him or anything formally but we have messaged each other before.
So I'm 20F and I just moved to a new town and I've gotten to know some of the people who live here (people my age) i knew of the people here because we have mutual friends and so far everyone seems cool. I'm not close with any because I just got here. But there's this one guy whom I saw who actually visited my hometown for a little musical show him and his friends came to perform him. Ever since that night for some reason I managed to have a little crush on him. Knowing I would be moving to his area soon made me a little hopeful that we would eventually become friends. When I was at the show my friends were there with me. One in particular is 14 yrs old and she's pretty close to me. She doesn't have much friends her age but she lives back in my hometown. Anyway so I told her I thought the guy was cute and maybe I'll get to know him when I move. We added him on fb together and out
Of nowhere he messages her! Liked her pic! And idk he just started taking to her. Not flirting but talking in general and he even offered to give him her #. She doesn't have a phone though. Anyway he doesn't send me anything. Keep in mind he's my age, maybe a few months older.
I know he was in a previous relationship which ended pretty badly according to our mutual friend. But anyway so my friend and I were at this function at a church (btw hes a musician.)where we saw him and though none of us talked to him, he still managed to message her again on fb. I decided to message him. Now keep in mind I'm never bold about anything so this was kinda huge for me. I congratulated him on his performance and we talked a bit and I honestly thought we were off to a good start. I was just thinking that it needed a push and considering how he maybe felt about his past and girls, I would break the ice.
Well eventually he never replied. Time went on and I never saw him again. He's still active on fb. Just the other day my little friend liked some of his pictures and he liked one of hers back that I tagged her in so I got the notification. I was so happy to see that i got a notification from him saying he liked one of my pics. Well it turned out not to even be of me! It kinda hurt. Then he left her a wallpost. I don't see him actively use his fb so i again was a little jealous and she replied accordingly and nicely , Like she would to anyone. He didn't reply but then she posted a status and he commented on it like back and forth.
Do you see why I'm a little jealous. He doesn't even talk to me. And it's not like he doesn't see me enough because both me and my friend have seen him the same amount of times.
I'm starting to get the vibe that I'm way in over my head and I'm over thinking but part of me is worried that he doesn't find me attractive at all. I mean he's 21 and she's 14! And they message each other from time to time.
My mutual friend with him is also close to his brother and I've heard that he's only interested in slutty girls. And that his brother agrees to. My friend isn't slutty but she's at that age where she wants to look cute and grown. I'm not sure if that's what he likes but I don't know. I'm also aware he could be talking to other girls now. And he is aware there are girls out there that like him.
I would really like a 3rd person view on what you think.
My first question is does he know her true age. for if he does the 7 year difference in age brings on a host of problems for him. Yes it may be a FB relationship for now but FB and other social websites are being monitored by the FBI and other law enforcement agencies for just these types of relationships.
They are looking for sexual predators who may be using FB and other social websites to find young people having inappropriate sexual meetings.
While you may be jealous of the relationship; your real concern should be is he a sexual predator trying to earn her trust. The only way to do this is to find out if he knows her true age.
If he does you need to do one or all of the following. A) advise her of how inappropriate this relationship may be. Is she just a fan of his or has the relationship grown beyond that? B) Inform her parents of the relationship and allow them to handle it. I'm almost positive they are not aware of her relationship with him. C)Inform local law enforcement that this relationship may not be what this young lady thinks it is and allow them to do what is they do best, investigate and find out if he is actually a sexual predator.
I would opt for "C" as this is in the best interest of the young lady. She may end up hating me if she finds out was the one to notify the police. But if it is found he has other relationships such as this one, then he would be looked at as a sexual predator and I may have saved her life. To me this is a trade off I can live with and hope it is long, long hate she has for me.
I've ordered a vibrator online before without issue and I just ordered another a few days ago. Then it hit me, will the post office know I ordered a vibrator? I was checking the tracking number and it was on my towns post office under "arrival scan" and that scared me because I know two people who work at my towns post office and the box will obviously have my name on it. But I don't want anyone to know what I bought.
Will these people know exactly what you purchased; no. If the company you purchased from sends a lot of items to your town the may recognize the shipping address but these companies rarely use a name to identify themselves on the shipping address.
Unless they have personal knowledge of the shippers return address. They should have no reason to question what is in the package.
I'm currently a junior in high school. I plan on majoring in dentistry when I graduate, but I'm not exactly sure how I should go about it.
Right now I'm enrolled in AP classes, and I'm taking classes like Biomedical Careers that will give me my CNA by the end of the school year. The type of high school that I'm enrolled in will let me take college classes for credit my senior year as well.
So the next thing that I'm sure of is what classes I'm to take during college. Is there a such thing as per-dentistry classes? What are they?
I also can't decide what college I'm trying to attend. I've narrowed it down to several colleges in state (NC). One option is to go to UNC Chapel Hill since they have a graduate program in dentistry, but I'm not sure if I can afford the tuition. I'm wondering if I could attend a local community college for a year or two and then transfer to UNC Chapel Hill. Another option is that my high school band is potentially offering me a full ride scholarship to a HBCU as long as I stay and join the marching band there. But would I be able to leave and then finish my degree? I live relatively close to several HBCUs and that could work IF I could transfer the appropriate credits.
Please help!
Most of the answers you are looking for are best answered by your guidance counselor and the schools admissions office at the schools you wish to attend.
As a general rule all in State schools will accept credits earned at in state community colleges. As to whether or not those credits can be used against the final degree you are looking for will depend on the degree you are trying to earn. It is best to look at the school you wish to finish at and take the prerequisite courses at the community college and the requisite course at the college of your choice to finish your degree.
Most colleges do not offer a pre-med course or courses. That is actually a misnomer. Here again is in your undergraduate school you take classes that will be needed in med school. These classes will be outlined for you either by the med schools you wish to attend or by a course counselor at the college you are attending.
As to what School of Dentistry to attend I would suggest talking to your own Dentist. Who best to ask for advice on this but the person you have been trusting to take care of your dental needs. Who knows your dentist may just allow you to intern with him or her for a time to make sure this is the career you want. You will never know unless you ask. Worst that can happen is he or she will say no to the internship but will tell you all about the school of dentistry they attended.
12/F
Hello! My Name Is Amira And I'm 12 Years Old.
So I've ALWAYS Counted Calories. And I'm Just So Fat That I've Been Excersizing Lately. But, I Don't Know How Many Calories I Burn When I Excersize!
I Would Really Like To Know How Many Calories I Lose During These Routines (Not All Together, But Seperately):
-Jumping For 10 Minutes Straight
-Running A Mile In 15 Minutes
-100 Situps
-100 Pushups
I Really Need To Know These! Thanks!!
-Amira
Hi Amira,
I can not tell you how many calories you are burning with your exercise routine, I'm not qualified to do so. What I can tell you is that based on your routine you may be exchanging fat weight for muscle weight.
Muscle weight weighs more than fat and can make you look heavy which is actually good as it is a healthy type of heavy. What I can't tell from your writing to us is if you are over weight and just what your BMI is. There are two people that can do that for you. The first of course is your family doctor or pediatrician. The other is your PE teacher at school.
At 12 years old you should not be this concerned about your weight as you have not yet entered your teens and are probably in the early stages of puberty if you have even entered puberty at all. Some of what you are calling fat is what we parents call your baby fat which will redistribute itself as you adult hormones kick in turning your body from that of a girl child into that of a young lady and eventually a young women.
Your hips will form, your breast will grow, your legs, thighs and butt will define themselves. The belly fat you may now be seeing will in large part slim down as you and your body grows and defines itself.
My advice is that before you end up with a hard body, unless that is what you want. You either ask your PE teacher for help with an exercise routine to help you shape and tone your body and ask just what your total BMI and weight should be. The second option is to ask mom to arrange to visit the doctor and ask your doctor what your weight and BMI should be as well as have a complete physical should you need to diet as well as exercise.
No one should start any exercise program or diet without first visiting their doctor and getting their doctors okay and guidance while doing so. Even someone your age.
Help!! I had sex and he wore a condom and came inside the condom. I took a test a few days before my period and it came out negative. I'm still waiting for my period and I was supposed to start on the 15th. Am I pregnant or could it be stress? The comdom did not break. I think I just might be stressed. However I am getting cramps down there. Should I start soon?
We get a lot of questions of this type. You most likely are not pregnant and stress will cause your period to be late or even skipped.
Condoms though are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. For the best birth control you should be on some form of birth control as well as using condoms. Yes; I know your mother won't allow it or your afraid to ask your mom.
Instead of lecturing you on the evils of having sex at a young age how about I tell you about the law and birth control instead.
If you are over 14 years of age, and hopefully you are. There is a Federal Law called HIPPA,which stands for; Health Information Personal Privacy Act. Within this law is a section for young people over the age of 14 and their sexual reproductive health.
Under this law you have medical privacy for any condition related to your reproductive system. You can make doctors appointments and be seen by a doctor with or without parental permission for any problem concerning your reproductive system. This would include your breasts. You can ask for and receive birth control with or without parental permission. Anything you see the doctor for, say to the doctor, be treated by the doctor for is totally confidential.
No one, including your parents can be told why you have visited the doctor or what you are being treated for without your written permission. You mother or father for that matter, may not be in the exam room with you if they accompany you to the doctor without your permission.
You cannot be forced, by anyone including your parents, to have any procedure dealing with your reproductive system; such as an abortion. There is one exception and that exception is any life saving procedure for which by law parental permission is required to preform.
So under the HIPPA law if you want birth control you can get it. You can go to your doctor or any of the free clinics that may be in your area.
The only other advice I can offer you is that if you are going to be this stressed out after sex that your period is late or skipped altogether? This amount of stress is not good for you at all.
You might want to reconsider abstaining from sex until your older. If your boyfriend is saying anything like you need to have sex with me or I'm out of here. Find another boy friend for he doesn't love you or respect you. What he has is lustful desires that he wants you to fulfill. That is not love.
i love my boyfriend more than anything in this world, i can only see myself with him, but he is very aggressive, and he knows he has anger issues, but wont do anything about it, he has stopped me wearing make up, stopped me talking to friends or going out, even with my own family, he tells me im not good enough for him thats why he has to look at other girls and if i argue back , he grabs hold of my, either my neck or wrists and screams in my face, chucks me about or just punches me, the thing is he is very sstocky, im 5ft7 and i do kickboxing, so for a girl i thought i could handle myself, but he is 5ft10 and literally tripple my size, he overpowers me so much.hes not always like it though, he often cries and tells me he is going to change,but i doubt this will happen at all, he is nice when im on "the right side of him", he takes me to the cinema, for meals etc and buys me things, we spend cute weekends away together, but despite that , if i step out of line, he goes mad, puts the blame on to me, says its my fault, and the sad part about it is im actually starting to believe that its my fault why we argue. ive been warned about him , and ive been with him nearly a year.i cant find the strength to leave him, cos he always rings or texts etc if i go to leave him. what can i do? i love him so much, but i just want him to realise he cant take his anger out on me, maybe to get anger management?
I do not understand how you can love someone who treats you like this. You can't possibly like being punched and thrown around. Neither should you let anyone, other than your parents, tell you what to wear, who you can see and talk too. He tells you,"he tells me i'm not good enough for him." What more do you need to hear from him to know you are in an abusive relationship. One that is dangerous and could cause you great physical harm.
I realize love is blind though even a blind person can see things in their mind. From what you have written taking him to anger management classes would be like leading a horse to water. You can lead the horse to water but you can't make it drink.
He has to want to change in order to change. His problems with anger management is a personality fault one that there is no cure for. He has to realize his problem; work with a professional to change himself. Then work every day for the rest of his life to keep his anger under control. On top of his anger management problems he is a controller as well.
Be your boyfriend a teenager of an adult. Asking him to over come both of the personality disorders is asking a lot of one person.Frankly that line,"i'm not good enough for him," tells me he is not truly in love with you. You are someone that is convenient and willing to take his grief.
My advice is to give him his walking papers and no matter how much he begs or promises to change you turn a deaf ear to him. You deserve a guy who will respect you and honor you. I know sounds corny but it is true. IF your looking for someone to make a life long commitment with. You want someone who respects you as a women and a partner in life.
Hi my name is Jacob. Im 13 years old and I have a twin named Justin. Since we were 7 we would alway foundle each other and sleep together. Then at the age 10 we would have sx all throgh the night and we still do today. Is this alright?
No it is not. Not for the fact that it is gay sex, their is nothing wrong with gay sex and their is nothing wrong with two boys your age experimenting with gay sex, if that is what you are doing. It is part of how you learn about your sexuality.
What is wrong here is that you two are brothers and sex between family members is incest. Incest is not only wrong it is illegal in every state in the USA and just about all western countries. Yes even though it is Gay sex it is still wrong.
Help, it is 9.3 inches long but only around 4 inches in girth. Will it get bigger, especially thicker? Please give real answers. I measured from the end of it to the tip. I started puberty at 11.
As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.
I can't say whether your penis will get any bigger. According to the survey below you are already well endowed and may find girls a little intimidated at your endowment.
This may sound a bit crazy but you are going to need to learn how to have sex with a young lady without hurting her. The only way to do this is to find someone who may be familiar with handling a tool such as yours.
To this end I am going to suggest you speak to your mom. Yes it might be a little embarrassing at first to talk about this. But if you are endowed this way it is possible your dad is too.
I would suggest you say something like. Mom I have an embarrassing question to ask you but I need to ask it of someone because I need some help with his question.
Then when mom says go ahead; You say you feel you are overly endowed and when the time comes, in the future, that you could hurt the girl you love trying to have sex with her.
I think mom will be able to take it from there.
According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.
Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.
What you are born with is what you have. There is no way to enhance, or enlarge a penis even with surgery. Penile surgery is usually done to assist those with erectile dysfunction when there is no other medical solution that will help.
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
Okay, so my name is Allison &' I'm f/14. So, my guy friend James is 15 and we both really like each other. Except that I know that he really wants to have sex.... I want to know if its wrong that he fingers me &' we get a little more intimate. I honestly think that I love him &' I think he loves me too.
Hi Allison,
You have received several good answers from advisers all close to your age. I'm a lot older, old enough to be your grandfather so my answers will be more of the grandfatherly advice type.
Is allowing him to finger you wrong? The answer to this question is both yes and no. What he is doing is masturbating you by fingering you. If you are doing the same to him by masturbating him, giving him a hand job as it is called. What you are doing is called mutual masturbation.
There is nothing wrong with self-masturbation. The only thing wrong with mutual masturbation is that is generally a part of sexual foreplay and in young people such as yourselves leads eventually to sexual intercourse. This is were the answer becomes wrong.
You are putting yourselves in a position where you may not be able to stop yourselves and end up going further than you intended. This is how you become pregnant as you are not prepared to have intercourse. Sure you may think you can stop but statistics say otherwise.
You may try to stop and he may force himself on you. Of course this is rape as once you say stop any further sexual activity is rape. You may not think so as you may feel partially at fault or too embarrassed to report it. But it is what it is.
It is not wrong to masturbate or to participate in mutual masturbation. The later of which should be reserved until you are much older. Again the answer is yes and no. Masturbation is a very safe way to relieve sexual tension. So no masturbation is not wrong.
As for being in love. I'm sure the feeling you have for him is love but it is a first love. What we parents use to and may still call puppy love. You will have many more boyfriends before you find your true love. In fact the kids you are friends with today are friends you will grow away from in a few years when you go off to college. Most if not all of these friends are people you will hardly ever see or speak to again once you finish college and move into the world of being an adult.
Your teenage years are a time to find out just who you are and what you want from life. Why ruin it by having sex at 14 and possibly becoming pregnant.
For most males this is a time when love and lust are greatly confused. They believe that sex is love. It is not. Sex is a very intimate act between two very loving individuals who are mature enough to understand the responsibilities that come with being in love. Not a lustful young man who has a love em and leave them attitude that most teenage males have.
My advice is to go no father. In fact back off some and have him either keep his hands to himself or at the very least above the waist line. Sex can wait until you and your body are at the same maturity level.
I've told it to you straight the rest is up to you.
17/f.
Hey everyone!
Random question, but I was just kind of wondering, is there any sort of significance in calling someone 'pretty' as opposed to another word like cute or hot?
My friends, they always say that I'm very "PRETTY", they put an emphasis on the word, like it means something else than being, say, cute.
I kinda thought it was slightly more grown-up looking than cute, but not as attractive as someone who is beautiful or hot. Sound about right or no?
Sometime we put way to much emphasis on words. I really never put much thought into the difference between "Hot" and "Beauteful" or "Pretty and "Beautiful."
My wife for instance is a beautiful women who is pretty that can be hot when she dresses to be hot. So in one sentence I have used all three words to describe one person.
A beautiful person = someone who is loving and caring for me and all people she meets.
Pretty = Is her outward appearance which initially attracted me to her. I grew to love the beautiful person that she is.
Hot = Sexy. She only dresses that way for my benefit and generally when we are alone and a prelude to a night of hot sex.
You do not have to be pretty or cute to be a beautiful person. The beautiful person is the person who lies below the ski. Remember beauty is only skin deep.
As for hot. There is an old saying which goes back as far as man kind. what men want in a women they want to marry is a women who's outward appearance to others is one of a Nun or school teacher. Though in the bedroom they want her to be a world class whore. In other words a wife is a women who looks untouchable to others but in our bedroom should be sexually pleasing to her man.
Probably not exactly the way things are seen today but still the every man thinks of his future wife.
I know this is not exactly the answer you may be looking for. It is the answer your question evoked from me.
I have been having bad acne for 9 yrs, Im 18 yrs old and its really bad. The bumps on my face get really big and they are very painful. I have tried everything you can think of in the stores for acne. Some of the medications only work for a while and then my acne just comes back and gets worse. I get really big bumps around my nose and my chin. I have some right now and they are big and painful. These bumps burn when I try to put acne medication on them. The bleed and sometimes they are really red and embarrassing. I wash my face and use everything. Ive tried proactive, witch hazel nitrogen and everything you name it and it doesn't work. Ive been to the dermatologist and she gave me medicine but it worked for a while and the acne just got worse, she told me that my face got used to the medicine and that's why the medicine stopped working. She gave me some new medicine and it doesn't work its pill and lotion. I can only go to the dermatologist 2 times a year and I cant pay for high priced medicine. I have been getting teased since elementary school and now school is about to start back and Im a senior and I don't want to be made fun of this year. People call me zit face and pimple face, Ive cried sometimes because of that, some people treat me like I have a disease. I have tried EVERY acne product you can name. I've been to the dermatologist and they give me medication but my face just gets worse after a couple of months.and my insurance doesn't pay for everything
My acne kind of looks like this: http://dermimages.med.jhmi.edu/images/cystic_acne_conglobata_1_050322.jpg
It hurts really bad most of the time and I have tried everything.
I understand the problem you have with your Insurance company only allowing you to see a Dermatologist twice a year. The type of acne you have may not be fully a Dermatological problem. It may be related to an underlying medical condition.
While I had a different problem then you; I did have a problem of getting a proper diagnoses and treatment for my problem. I got tired of being shuttled from one doctor to another and problems with the insurance company.
Fortunately I live in an area where there are several of the best hospitals in the country. I called one of them and spoke to their patient referral coordinator. Like you I thought I needed to see a specific specialist. They felt I should see another specialist. It was the best call I ever made. I was properly diagnosed and treatments were begun.
The hospital I chose to call also happened to be a level one trauma center. I chose this hospital because they have to have a number of specialist on staff 24/7 in order to be a level one trauma center.
I would suggest you look for the closest level one trauma center. If you need help locating it ask your local fire department as they would know. Then call their patient referral number and explain your problem to them.
You will be seeking a second opinion something your insurance company should be willing to pay for if they refer you to their dermatology department. If they do I suggest you keep the appointment they make for you. As they should have the best doctors and the best testing available to get to the root cause of your problem.
If by chance you live close to Baltimore, Maryland you have two great hospitals to chose from. The University of Maryland Medical Center is also the Home of Maryland shock Trauma Center. The only Park Level Trauma Center in the Country. This is the highest level of Trauma medicine practiced and they have some of the best doctors on staff at the hospital. The other hospital is Johns Hopkins Hospital a level one trauma center. Both are teaching hospital turning out some of the best doctors in the country.
In fact any hospital associated with a school of medicine is a good hospital to try. The young doctors in residency training are always trying to prove to their supervising doctors how talented they are. So they are always looking for the so called pickle in the hearing barrel.
I went to a teaching hospital and it was a young Fellow who finally made the proper diagnoses. Give my suggestion a try. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain. If you have a problem with the insurance company. File a complaint with the state insurance commissioner. You are entitled to get a second opinion. Second opinions are not counted towards your twice a year visits or shouldn't be.
This coming week is my last week on earth. I have decided that next week by this same time, I would be dead. I'm not asking for an answer or any kind of empathy for my person. Life sucks and it not going to suck any less next year or tomorrow.
Something hard changes your life, you tried to make your life go back to the way it was, but you do not succeed. Then you've lived so LNG in the situation that ou got used to it, then surprise, something even worse happens. Again you tried to get used to it and again and again and again you get hit every time you get up. (if that makes any sense to anyone, then you surely understand me).
I have tried to make it more like I would like it, I have tried very hard but I'm still miserable everyday even more. I guess this is my final note because I assume no one will read this until it's done and I'm gone.
My life is like a sand at the beach, no matter how different it is, it's still a piece of sand and one less would definitely not even be remembered for a long time and it won't even do any thing to anyone. Us humans don't care about something unless it actually affect us personally or someone in our entourage.
If this is true, then The sun will continue to shine and everything else will be the same for all of you who don't know me.
Whoever read this, please tell my parents that I'm so so so sorry and they were good to me.
To the rest of the family I love you. I love you all but I can't take it anymore I'm sorry I just can't. Please forgive me and try to make your lives matter and I hope that you guys live for a long time.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
Your right, life can suck but running away from it will not make thing change. Suicide is a final solution to a solvable situation. More over suicide hurts or the attempt to kill oneself hurts and more often then not ends in failure. I know for I have spent the last twenty-five plus years as part of a fire department rescue squad.
Most suicide victims who do not succeed. They end up in a worse position than before their attempt. Not only that but if you are one of the few who are successful think of your parents and family. You say you love them and they have been good to you. How can you hurt them in this manner. They will be hurt so bad by this I cannot explain how much as the words do not exist to do so.
Other than saying "life sucks" you have not said why you want to die. There is nothing so bad that can't be fixed with the right kind of help. If you are being bullied at school, that can be fixed you just have to tell someone. If school work is a problem speak up help can be gotten for you. If there are social or sexual problems or concerns you have; they too can be helped. You just need to ask the right people for help.
I would like you to give life one more chance. TO speak with people better capable then me who have the ability to actually speak to you one on one and help you find the professionals in your neighborhood or home town who can help you.
I would like yo to call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.
I do understand how you feel. I also believe you have tried to change things. What I don't know is if you have had the proper support in trying to change things. How you are feeling requires help, professional help from a psychologist to make things better. A psychologist is someone you can talk with in total confidentiality who will help you make sense of whatever is bothering you and help you put things in prospective so that life can change for the better.
Three people have read your note. Two of us have answered. So there are people who care, people who do not even know you. You owe it to us to try again one more time by calling the hotline I supplied or going to the nearest hospital ER for help.
I am the second born in my family and sometimes, I feel like everyone's more important than I am, especially my older brother. People call me by his name, ask about him more than the rest of us, and always remember stories that are actually about one of the rest of us as being about him. My parents say that they don't have a favorite child and they swear that my older brother's not the most special just because he's the oldest. My mom even wrote an essay for a class about what made us all equally special to her and I've always believed it, but lately people have been telling me that first borns are always the special ones and the ones that would be the hardest to lose. I researched it on the internet and a ton of people said that parents would rather have one of their younger kids die than their first born. I decided to try to find out, so Tuesday night, I disappeared and my parents couldn't find me until Thursday morning. My mom found me first and after she was done hugging me, she was angrier than I've ever seen her and yelled at me the whole way home. When we got home, my dad (the harder parent) was even more mad. They said they hadn't slept, eaten, or done anything else since I left and they even had to call the police for help. Neither of them have calmed down about it and when I asked them if that was as bad as if they couldn't find my oldest brother, it just mad them more mad that that was my reason for doing what I did and that I believed strangers over them. Could I really have scared them as bad as my oldest brother could? Does it sound like they have a favorite child?
I have heard this before. I don't believe parents actually favor one child over another. Loosing any child is hard on a parent as this is not the way life is suppose to be. A parent is never suppose to bury a child.
While I suppose there are parents that might favor one child over another I do not believe that favoring and loving are synonymous. A parent might favor one child athletic ability over the other children's abilities and still love each child equally.
To answer you question: Yes you did scare your parents as much as your brother could. This was a very horrible test of their love that you put them through. It was extremely selfish of you to do so. Something you need to apologize for. You have very loving parents. While it is possible they favor something your older brother does or is accomplished at. They love you both equally. This is what is important.
I am expecting a baby boy and everyone is driving me crazy. The first problem was with his name. I've always liked the name Matthew and it's one of few I feel I'll always like. I planned to call him Matt, but after I became pregnant and already decided on the name, my sister started dating a guy named Matthew. I asked people if they thought it'd be weird to have a son named Matt and a possible future brother in law named Matthew, and a couple people jumped on me saying that I should ask my sister and her boyfriend if I could use the name since they might get married and want it for their son one day. I've always felt that no one owns a name and names should be first come first serve and when I asked, my sister felt the same way. However, when I told people that, they told me to pick another name and get over it. When I did choose the only other name I feel I can live with, one of my friends accused me of stealing it from her. The second problem was with his due date. He was supposed to come on October 8th, which is my brother's birthday. People insisted that I induce labor before then, but after having had a small baby, I was nervous doing so. Now that he's late, everyone's worried he'll come on the 20th, my other brother's birthday or the 26th, the anniversary of my grandmother's death. They want me to induce, but I want him to come when he's ready. Is it the hormones, or are people overly irritating?
Wow. Hold the phone. Who's baby is this, yours or the families.
This is your baby. You and the baby's father are the only two people that have any say in what the babies name should be. If you want Matt or Matthew then that is the name you give him. The baby will come when he is ready. The doctor, your OB, will be the only one who should make the call as to whether you should be induced. We are talking about what is best for your child. I seriously doubt your doctor would induce you anyway unless it was in the babies best interest to do so, so forget about that idea.
My wife an I were having the same problem. When wee were having the first child to bear the family surname. If it was a boy, which it was, it meant the name would live on for another generation at least until he had children. If one of them were a boy then the name would again live on. We are a very, very small family.
My wife like you was getting very upset with all the sage advice and demands. Finally I told her what I am going to tell you. This is our baby to love and enjoy. If they don't like something we have chosen or anything we do it is their problem not ours. We will never please everyone so we will please ourselves and to hell with everyone else. This is what I am telling you. You will never please everyone so stop trying. Please yourself. Enjoy your pregnancy and the birth of your son when he is ready to be born. If someone in your family doesn't like something well that is their problem not yours.
Frankly though once that bundle of joy arrives all those things go out the window and everyone gathers around to enjoy the baby. So relax and stop worrying.
Hello,
I m 23 n my g.f is 19 N we r both virgin, from D day we met i always tried to force her to hv sex wit me i even fingered on hr pussy. But in fact she did punch me on my face twice. She nvr allows me 2 hv sex wit her. but i cnt ressist my desire 2 hv sex wit hr any longer. sud i stop dating hr? But i love hr like hell too.. does she loves me?
I must be getting old since we seem to be getting this question more and more often. Since when is it okay to force a girl to have sex with you? Have they changed the RAPE LAWS?
Yes I said RAPE. The definition of rape is when you force a girl to have sex with you. Even fingering her pussy is consider rape if you do so after she has said no or has said stop and you continue. You're 23 years old, you should know this. Not only could you be committing a low grade felony if you are doing things after she has said no or stop. You are by what you have written sexually harassing her. This is also a felony.
I really question your love for this girl. It seems to me you are more lustful than in love with her. The fact that she has not filed a complaint against you says that she is either madly in love with yo or not knowing of the laws. Or just to embarrassed to do so.
You need to:
1) Stop trying to force her to have sex with you.
2) Apologize to her for harassing her.
3) If you cannot love her unless she has sex with you. Find away to leave her without making it sound like you are doing so because she will not have sex with you as this too is a form of sexual harassment. As in essence you are saying sleep with me or I'm out of here. That is sexual intimidation.
You also need to reexamine what is the right way to love a women and woe her into having sex with you. You cannot and never, ever should you attempt to force a women to have sex with you. Doing so will only eventually land you in jail and for ever have you registering as a sexual offender when you are released from jail.
You have been very luck. The next time you may not be.
Ok so now I'm 12 and had sex with my boyfriend a couple of times and I had sex with two other guys and don't give me a lecture about that! Anyway I didn't get my period last month and I'm late this month and don't think I'm gonna get it. I've bEen feeling really sick lately and been having stomach cramps and been feeling tired. I've also had headaches. Is it possible that I'm pregnant? We didn't use a condom any of the times we had sex
I don't like the answer I am about to give you, so I'm not sure you will like it. No, I'm not going to lecture you.
I hate to say this but the odds are you are pregnant. Worse being 12 years old you have no say in what happens once you parents find out. Sure there are way to hide this from them for a while but at some point you will have to tell them.
Whenever your parents find out they are in complete charge. The boy or boys you had sex with could be in legal trouble depending on their age. You could be forced to have an abortion or to give the child up for adoption.
The part of me that studied psychology says that there are reasons girls your age turn to sex. Whatever that reason may be things are about to get a whole lot worse for you. You may find the following website helpful in finding out the best way to tell your parents you are pregnant. http://kidshealth.org/kid/index.jsp?tracking=K_Home. It is the best that I found when I research looking for some type of online support you might get help from.
I would suggest that you talk to a trusted teacher and let them contact social services to have them help you tell your parents. I'm not concerned that you parents would physically harm you. I am concerned for the mental harm that could befall you.
Your parents, rightfully so, will freak when they learn you are pregnant, as the article I have referred you to points out. I believe it is best if you have another adult, someone you can trust to protect you and your interests, be with you when you tell your parents. That is why I am suggesting you tell a trusted teacher and ask for their help.
Can someone please help me. When I am having sex it is wonderful and I feel great, but the only problem is that i takes me up to two to three hours to cum and then sometimes I don't at all. It doesn't worry me but my girl really loves my cum and wants more. Is there any way I can cum faster?? - Thanks in advance
There is a great deal more information needed before I could even to venture to answer this question. Information as to:
How old are you?
Are you wearing a condom?
If so what type of condom?
Do you cum faster when you masturbate?
Do you masturbate often?
Are you circumcised?
Do you smoke?
Do you drink?
Are you taking any type of medication or drugs?
I know these are very personal questions. The answers to them may point to the reason why you are having trouble. Then there is the big question of the problem being psychological; that being the fear of getting your girlfriend pregnant. This has caused this problem for more than a few males.
Most importantly is; if you are over 14 you can get medical help for this without having to tell your parents. A federal law known as HIPPA grants young people 14 and older medical confidentiality for any problems related to their reproductive system. What you are writing about qualifies.
Under this law you may make your own doctors appointment. Speak with and be treated by a doctor in the strictest of confidence. Your doctor cannot tell anyone and this includes your parents what you are being seen and or treated for without your written consent.
If mom or dad were to accompany you to the doctors office they would be asked to remain in the waiting room while you are examined and treated. No court can order the doctor to break confidentiality. There is only one exception and that is any life threatening condition that requires parental permission to treat. In most instances this would mean you were in a condition were by law you are unable to give informed consent.
I would suggest you start with your family doctor who will first examine you to see if there is any organic reason for this. Smoking, drug abuse and drinking and certain prescription medications are major factors in the problem you write about. If none of these are present and there is no other reason you family doctor can find he/she should refer you to a Urologist for examination and treatment.