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I Don't Know if I Can Take This Pregnancy Much Longer
I am expecting a baby boy and everyone is driving me crazy. The first problem was with his name. I've always liked the name Matthew and it's one of few I feel I'll always like. I planned to call him Matt, but after I became pregnant and already decided on the name, my sister started dating a guy named Matthew. I asked people if they thought it'd be weird to have a son named Matt and a possible future brother in law named Matthew, and a couple people jumped on me saying that I should ask my sister and her boyfriend if I could use the name since they might get married and want it for their son one day. I've always felt that no one owns a name and names should be first come first serve and when I asked, my sister felt the same way. However, when I told people that, they told me to pick another name and get over it. When I did choose the only other name I feel I can live with, one of my friends accused me of stealing it from her. The second problem was with his due date. He was supposed to come on October 8th, which is my brother's birthday. People insisted that I induce labor before then, but after having had a small baby, I was nervous doing so. Now that he's late, everyone's worried he'll come on the 20th, my other brother's birthday or the 26th, the anniversary of my grandmother's death. They want me to induce, but I want him to come when he's ready. Is it the hormones, or are people overly irritating?
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You're way overthinking this.
This is YOUR baby. You name it whatever you wish. That there is someone else around you with a similar or same name is immaterial. Don't let people control you unnecessarily.
Besides, the boyfriend may ultimately decide to break up with your sister, so then you may regret not calling the kid what you wanted to begin with. Do what you want to do here. Nobody is being hurt and you're the one going through all the sturm und drang that comes with nurturing a child in your body for 40 weeks. You earned the right to name it. Mazeltov.
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Wow. Hold the phone. Who's baby is this, yours or the families.
This is your baby. You and the baby's father are the only two people that have any say in what the babies name should be. If you want Matt or Matthew then that is the name you give him. The baby will come when he is ready. The doctor, your OB, will be the only one who should make the call as to whether you should be induced. We are talking about what is best for your child. I seriously doubt your doctor would induce you anyway unless it was in the babies best interest to do so, so forget about that idea.
My wife an I were having the same problem. When wee were having the first child to bear the family surname. If it was a boy, which it was, it meant the name would live on for another generation at least until he had children. If one of them were a boy then the name would again live on. We are a very, very small family.
My wife like you was getting very upset with all the sage advice and demands. Finally I told her what I am going to tell you. This is our baby to love and enjoy. If they don't like something we have chosen or anything we do it is their problem not ours. We will never please everyone so we will please ourselves and to hell with everyone else. This is what I am telling you. You will never please everyone so stop trying. Please yourself. Enjoy your pregnancy and the birth of your son when he is ready to be born. If someone in your family doesn't like something well that is their problem not yours.
Frankly though once that bundle of joy arrives all those things go out the window and everyone gathers around to enjoy the baby. So relax and stop worrying.
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It's not the hormones I definitely got irritated reading this too. This baby is yours and the fathers and everyone else needs to but out a little. There is no reason to induce labor because your family doesn't want your sons birthday on their birthday. It's ridiculous, the baby will come when it's ready and will have whatever name the TWO of you choose.
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First off, this is no one's baby but yours and the father's. You name the baby whatever you wish, its your right and no one else's. The due date issue sounds just ridiculous to me. Tell everyone in your family to shut up. The baby WILL come when he's ready. Your baby and his uncle can have the same birthday; a lot of people actually love having nieces and nephews with the same birthday as them.
Its not the hormones, I got extremely irritated while reading this question. Everyone needs to chill. You decide what you think is best, don't ask anyone for anymore advice, especially when it comes to the due date and his name. That's YOUR choice, not theirs.
If you feel you need to ask for their advice, go ahead. But my advice to you is to figure all of it out on your own. You decide what is best for your baby. Try to get through a few more days without killing anyone lol. :) I hope I helped. And please tell everyone that you need to relax for the baby's sake; that being said, you might tell them to screw off and let you be.
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