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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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In Paul Wall's song "Oh Girl" Does anyone know who originally sang the chorus part of the song
"Oh girl, i'd be in trouble if you left me now, cuz i don't know where to look for love, I just don't know how. Oh girl"

I really want to get that song and I have NO clue who sang it originally.

Thank you sooo much (link)
The Chi-Lites. :)


What is the thing that Ron Serling says at the begining of "The Twilight Zone"?

I know it is something to the effect of: "You are dazed, bewildered and trapped in a world without time..."

Help would be appreciated.
I will rate high if you can give me the whole thing.
Thanks!

*Turtle* (link)
There were actually 3 different opening narrations. But I couldn't find any that said what you did! Here they are anyway.

Season 1

There is a fifth dimension beyond that which is known to man. It is a dimension as vast as space and as timeless as infinity. It is the middle ground between light and shadow, between science and superstition, and it lies between the pit of man's fears and the summit of his knowledge. This is the dimension of imagination. It is an area which we call the Twilight Zone.


Season 1 alternate

You are about to enter another dimension, a dimension not only of sight and sound but of mind. A journey into a wondrous land of imagination. Next stop, the Twilight Zone!

Season 2

You're traveling through another dimension, a dimension not only of sight and sound but of mind. A journey into a wondrous land whose boundaries are that of imagination. That's the signpost up ahead - your next stop, the Twilight Zone!

Season 3

Used the season 1 alternate

EDIT****

Sorry sasi721 we posted at the same time!


About 3 years ago a girl that I thought was a close friend of mine did something quite mean to me. She uninvited me to her sons first birthday party and told me over a nasty email. She claimed that the last time I was over at her appartment I laughed and thought my behavior was "extremely rude". She also told me she didnt' want to be my friend anymore. I was really upset and sent an emailing apologizing (although I wasnt sure what for). She never responded. I was really hurt at first because I had been a good friend to her.
Well that was 3 years ago and I've moved on and have new friends and a new job now.
Yesterday when I was at work in the shoe aisle at the superstore I work in she was walking down the aisle with her son in a cart. I ignored her because I thought she still hated me. I thought she'd ignore me to but she actually said hi to me. I said hi back and she introduced me to her son. Then she asked if I liked my job. I said yes and then she said she'd see me around. But the thing is I don't think she was sincere because she had a scowl on her face when she first started talking to me.
Does anyone have any idea as to what her intentions are? I don't trust her after what she did and am scared to be her friend again. Why would she start being nice to me again after being so mean 3 years ago? If anyone had any advice I'd really appreciate it. Thanks! (link)
If she didn't say lets get together Monday for lunch or if she didn't ask for your phone number or give you hers, chances are she was just being polite.

I doubt she has any intentions of contacting you or trying to be friends again. It was nice of her not to totally ignore you but I don't think she'll be calling or anything.


ok so im 14/f and this is kinda embarassing but i've never kissed a guy before. I'm afraid that when it does happen though i'm not going to be ready or be a "bad kisser". Please help! (link)
Here is a website for you to check out. It has lots of tips and how tos. :)

http://www.kissingbooth.com/how_to_kiss.htm


i got a gift from a friends friend and its perfume by healing garden and its called sheer passion.. i got it a wicked long time ago and i dont know wehere to find this.. does anyone know where to get this perfume cause i love it ! ive been trying too look everywhere, i still cant find it.. please help and thanks! (link)
I tried hunting down sheer passion perfume but came up with nothing.

Walgreen's drugstores carry Healing Garden products though. If you have a Walgreen's in your area check there and see. It is possible if the company still makes it they would be able to order you some.

Unless your friend remembers where she got it...which I will assume you've already tried. :)


Do you think it's necessary to know your partners past sexual experience? Would you want to know? Would it bother you? I learned from personal exp. never to ask, yet I found out how much experience my girlfriend has had accidently and when I confronted her about it she didn't deny it. Something changed with me when she admitted it. I feel really insecure about it now. I hate finding out. What would you do?? (link)
I think these days with AIDs being out there and everything it is important to know your partner sexual history. We don't here about it everyday anymore so its easy to forget about.

I can really understand how you wouldn't WANT to know about it, and I can understand it changing your feelings if the number is bigger than expected. But I think it is need to know info. :)


At school I have liked many girls and everyone shoots me down. Mostof them tell me that I could be cool enough to go out with them if I didn't hang around with the nerds. I am not a nerd but I hang out with them because they're nicer than the popular people I could hang out with. Every time I tell A girl that they still shoot me down. What should I do? (link)
You'd be cool enough to go out with them?
Hows about if they weren't such superficial boobs
maybe they would be good enough to go out with you?

You hang out with the people who make you feel welcome and comfortable. Those who are fun to be around.

In all honesty, if they did agree to go out with you and that was their attitude...you'd be miserable.

Look for a nice girl who doesn't care who you hang out with so long as you hang out with her too. You will be so much happier if you do. Shes out there, you're just overlooking her. :)


Im a 14/f and i just started my period like a day ago ... well i only have a dad and 3 brothers(18, 17, 15) I have to share a room with the 13 year old and i have NO privacy whatsoever... and i mean i know hell find out that i started and all but like i wanna kinda tell him ahead of tym so he knows what coming..lol but like how do i tell my dad i mean hes the manly man "lets go hunting" type of guy..... IDK what to say to all of them

HELp
Thanks (link)
I think your dad is probably expecting you to say something at any time! He may be a manly man but he probably knows all about it. Hes the only one who you have to tell. Just tell him quick and get it over with.

If you have a grandma or aunt living close by they may be able to help you tell him if you think it will be to embarrassing for you.

You also really do need your own space. I realize it may not be affordable though for your family. BUT, if you have one bedroom that is bigger than the other, maybe you could suggest a set of bunk beds and one single bed in the larger room for all the boys.

If you have a good sized garage, a room could be made for you there also. Even if it was small at least you would have your own space.

Just some suggestions you might use.


Okay im 14/f and im about to graduate 8th grade.... well this year has been very stressful for me and i mean latly everyhting has been catching up with me and i think im begeninng to feel the early signs of depression.... i think i need to go to a counsiler.... but i dont know i mean how do i ask my parents to go to a consiler without them freaking out (link)
Don't ask to go to a counselor. Tell them you would like to see a doctor because you have been feeling down lately.

Your doctor can then refer you to a counselor if he/she thinks it would be beneficial to you. He will tell your parents and you won't have to.

Know that teens often go through periods of depression. Most of the time it goes away on its own, and its perfectly natural to feel that way. :)


Do you know anything i can wear (besides strips) that can make me look taller?? (link)
Here is a web site that has some tips I think you will find useful! :)

http://www.ehow.com/how_5130_look-taller.html


Hey im 15/f and i have to get my gall bladder taken out within the next month. Im kind of scared. But i had a couple questions for anybody who thinks that they could "help" me. Okay my first question is do u have to stay over night? Because some of the people i asked said Yes and some said No. Do u have a big scar? And i know that you dont really need your gall bladder it just stores bile. But what is going to happen to my body when i dont have it? Thanks alot i'll rate 5s!!!! (link)
I had mine removed a few years ago.

You should come home on the same day if they do laparoscopic surgery.

If they have to do a different surgery you will be in a few days. That doesn't happen often these days though so don't let it worry you.

You don't have a big scar. They make the biggest incision where your belly button is. If you have an innie belly button, you probably won't see it at all.

Then you will have 2 very small places...I think it is 2, they are such small scars I hardly can see them anymore. Guess that tells you how small they are!

I haven't noticed any changes to my body since having the surgery.

I know its scary for you but it will be okay. You won't be able to lift anything over 10 pounds for a couple of weeks. Other than that recovery is really quick. AND...you will feel oh so much better!

Good luck. :)



Im 14 9th grade and im homeschooled. The local high school is having the prom. I feel really left out especially when prom comes around. My mom wants to homeschool me through high school, but I know I dont want to be. My question is can someone help me to make my mom feel more comfortable with going to school? Homeschooling is great but I just want a little experience at school. (And I want to go to prom!!) Help! Thanks (link)
Just tell her that and see what she says.

Tell her you want to be more social with kids your age. I don't know why she wouldn't understand that. :)


Alright, to start out I'm fifteen years old and looking for a job. I have applied at these two places, either of which I would really like to work at. One of them isn't hiring anymore I don't think but I am supposed to call back tonight to check. The other restaraunt, I talked to a girl who works there (she's also 15) and she is quitting this weekend, so I'm pretty sure there will be a position open. The thing is, I went in to pick up the application two days ago and I talked to the stand-in manager who wasn't sure if they were hiring (it would be bus work, btw) but he told me the manager would be in all day Friday. So I filled out the application and I think I am going to stop by the restaraunt after school tomorrow. The thing is, I'm nervous! I don't know what to say, or even if it's a good idea to go in person. Any ideas? I will rate high, I promise! Please think through your answers.

I will love you forever! ♥ (link)
Its a great idea to go in person. If they need someone badly they may look over your application and hire you on the spot.

No need to be nervous. Well, you will be a little but its natural. Don't wear your worst outfit. Dress nice but don't overdo it. School clothes might be okay so long as it isn't jeans and t- shirt. They know you will be nervous and take it into consideration.

Good luck! :)

Edit*********

If they are nice jeans then they will be okay. Keep away from those kinds that look like they are dirty. Know the ones I mean?

Wear a nice shirt or something though if you can. Nothing to revealing or anything (unless the restaurant is a Hooters or something LOL).

Just go in, ask for the manager. Tell him/her that that you are wanting a job and that you filled out an application a couple of days ago. Ask if they are hiring and if so, ask if he/she has had a chance to look at your application.

Hopefully if they are hiring and haven't looked at your application yet, they will go take a look at it. If not, ask when you might check back.

I hope you get the job! :)


I am a teenage girl with a boyfriend. What do I do if I see him with another girl? (link)
That would depend on what he was doing with the other girl. If he is just talking to her you can ask who she is if you don't know, but its nothing to get upset about. People have a lot of friends, not all of them are the same sex they are!

Now if hes hanging all over some other girl and kissing her...that's different. You need to find out what is going on and probably need to get rid of him and find someone else. :)


Ok well, my mom and dad are divored and have been i just found out ill be spending the summer with my dad, ok well thats not a big deal, but the thing is hes making me go to this place the "YMCA." while he is at work and well i dont know anyone there except my half cousin Alex, and she i know will just leave me there and go off with her friends and i will be alone. please help me i dont want to go, i was BAWLING my eyes out earlier. i want to i just, dont want to go to this YMCA because i know ill just be left alone while the only person i know will wonder off with her friends and i wont be invited. can anyone help me?? (link)
If she wanders off you will make new friends. Bet it won't take long either.

YMCA has swimming and all kinds of things to do there. It might be fun to spend the days there. :)


A guy asked me to go to the movies with him this Friday and I said yes. Well we were talking and he asked me if I was going to bring anything with me. I was thinking, "Hm...I thought this was a date?" So I told him that I wasn't planning to but I will if he brings someone. So we decided that we both were bringing someone. Then, about 10 min. later he said that he'd really like it if we went alone. So at that point I was just like, "Uh, wtf? Does this guy not know what he wants?"


Well, I've talked to him for at least an hour and half each day since Monday and now I don't think that I really like him. Like, at all. Not even as someone I'd hang out with as friends.


So my question is, do you think it's too late to cancel? Or would it be rude of me to cancel the day before? I was also thinking about saying that I want to bring a friend after all. What do you guys think?
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I think it would be rude to cancel. Go and give him a chance.

My guess is he is really nervous. He wants to go out with you but maybe suggested friends go along to prevent it being awkward.

Then decided that wasn't really what he wanted. He is nervous. Maybe he hasn't been out with a lot of girls, or maybe he considers you special.

Go and see what comes of it. You can always politely say no next time. Let me know how it goes! :)


I have no clue how to play softball. All I know is it's like baseball with a bigger softer ball. I know you hit the ball with a bat and run around some bases. That's pretty much it. Please tell me everything there is to know about softball before I humiliate myself playing it again. (link)
This site looks is easy to read and looks like it covers everything.

Have fun playing! :)

http://www.stanford.edu/group/Intramurals/softballrules.html


There is this guy at my work that I'm about 95 percent sure likes me. The think is that he is really shy. He's also one of the supervisors at the store (not mine). I'm a basic worker. He is only 21 but very mature for his age and I am 28.
Well about a month ago I got invited out for drinks with some coworkers and he was there. Although he didn't talk to me I caught him smling and staring at me when I danced on the speakers. But at work the next couple of weeks he didn't talk to me so I thought he didn't like me.
A couple of days ago I asked someone in his department about him. She said he was single and very shy and embarrassed easily. I think she caught on that I was interested and told him.
Well yesterday was I ever shocked when He came up to me and shyly asked if he could use my pricing gun. This is the first time he's EVER started a conversation with me. I suspect that he was just using this as an excuse to talk to me- after all he's a supervisor a huge department a has a million things to do- he could have sent one of his workers to do this. I also caught him staring at me later.
So my question is do you think he's interested in more or am I just imagining this? Also how should I act around him at work now without getting all embarresed? Note- I am also shy. (link)
How did someone so shy get to be a supervisor? Wow.

It sounds as if he might like you. I think you may have to be the one to make the first move though. Just try to find excuses to talk to him whenever you can.

The more you talk the more comfortable you will both be. Soon, with luck, he will start some of the conversations and ask you out. If he doesn't then ask him out for drinks or something and see
what happens.

Try to get to know him a little better first. Enlist the help of that co-worker you asked about him if it helps. :)


ok so as i asked earlier..there is this guy that found out about my rapes and hes a jerk so he keeps taunting me and telling people about it!! and he imed me again (by the way i cannot tell authorities because then i will have to tell them about my rapes and re-live it..plz dont tell me to tell someone either!!)

here is some of the conversation::
Buccaneeirs ATW: hey sam wanna fuck?
Buccaneeirs ATW: want me to RAPE you?
CutiSammy: uhh too bad yourr a nasty freak who prolly has genitle herpiessss
Buccaneeirs ATW: you know you want me
CutiSammy: HAHAHAHAH
Buccaneeirs ATW: yeah go fuck your rapist hore

see what i mean?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=427841

--->this was my other question it might help to read it!
(link)
Look, I know I will probably get a 1 for this but
oh well.

You send a question (many of them) about people finding out about your being raped.

You tell us not to tell you to tell someone or get counselling...which is what you should be doing.

You say you don't want to re-live your alleged rapes yet you do it here almost daily.

What is the difference? Seek professional help
You aren't helping your situation by egging on those who are having these IM conversations with you.

Since the whole world knows about them, talk to someone about it who can be of help.

Sorry to be so harsh. :)

*******EDIT

You can change that label you have of not being truthful. It might take some work but it can be done. :)


im not just here for the rating. Wehn you ask a question and you give the honest answer and you answer the question they asked. Why do they rate you a one.? Is there anything to do about them rating you a one when you deserved something like a four or a five? (link)
If someone gives you an undeserved rating, or leaves nasy comments in your feedback, file an abuse report.

The link for it is http://www.advicenators.com/abuse.php
and it is in the blue column on the left under misc. Report Abuse.





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