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I have the potential but not the friends
At school I have liked many girls and everyone shoots me down. Mostof them tell me that I could be cool enough to go out with them if I didn't hang around with the nerds. I am not a nerd but I hang out with them because they're nicer than the popular people I could hang out with. Every time I tell A girl that they still shoot me down. What should I do?
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don't change your friends for one person. you need to find somebody that will except the fact that you like the nice nerds better than the popular bitches. :]
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No matter how much potential you have, DON'T LET PEOPLE CHANGE YOU. People can be very shallow, especially girls, but you shouldn't change to fit their standards. If girls aren't going to go out with you because of your friends, it's their loss. The girl should like you for you, not who your friends are and how popular you are. You'll find that girl one day, and when that happens she'll be the lucky one. Those girls who turned you down will be the losers. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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people sure are getting shallow these days. DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE, no matter how much potential you have. its not worth being someone your not just to have a girlfriend. and if she doesnt like who you hang out with- then tough. her loss. you desereve someone better than that. wait for the girl who likes you for you and your friends. and who accepts you. and doesnt want you to change. no offence, but it sounds like the otehr girls are snobs. so what should you do? wait for better girls to come around to liek you - FOR YOU. be yourself. and if thats not good enough, niether are they.
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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if they shoot down because who you hang out with than you dont need them. just be patient that right girl will come and except you and who you hang out with.
Jazzy**
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i think that u shouldnt change for anybody. Its your choice of who u shoud hang out with but just think about it before you do it. These girls are probably not even good enough for you. but in a few years they should change and get out of that snobby stage in life. You should try to find a girl that likes you for you and not about who you hang out with. hope i helped!!
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hey, well dont change for anyone. i guess its your option with what group you want to hang around with. but dont label them, they arent soup and shouldnt be labeled. cait♥
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What do you do? You wait until you meet decent people to spend time with and date, not superficial snobs with the intelligence of snails like the ladies (and I use that term loosey)you are currently persuing. You sound like a really stand-up human being, don't demean yourself with these silly girls.
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Find nicer girls.
In a few years most of them will grow out of judging everyone but what social "level" they hang around with so you could either wait around for that or look around at the girls, perhaps in the "nerds" who have already let go of the crippling fear of being uncool. Short of ditching your friends (which i'd suggest is not a good idea) these are really your only two options as you will not change these girls' minds right now.
This kind of crap won't last forever.
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Sounds to me like these girls aren't really good enough to hang out with you and your friends, it's the other way around.
I'm not sure by what you mean when you call these friends nerds, but I don't think that you should sterotype your own friends as nerds because usually being a nerd in school comes across as an insult.
You hang out with these friends because they treat you like a human being and they accept you for what kind of person you are and not for who you hang out with.
Maybe if these girls don't like people who are actually nice, they aren't good friends. The truth is that they don't want to be seen with you because you are around people who are considered uncool and that would just ruin their reputation.
-TheTeenGirl
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You'd be cool enough to go out with them?
Hows about if they weren't such superficial boobs
maybe they would be good enough to go out with you?
You hang out with the people who make you feel welcome and comfortable. Those who are fun to be around.
In all honesty, if they did agree to go out with you and that was their attitude...you'd be miserable.
Look for a nice girl who doesn't care who you hang out with so long as you hang out with her too. You will be so much happier if you do. Shes out there, you're just overlooking her. :)
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Heres the simple answer: be yourself, if those girls cant see past poularity and they are that shallow aneught to turn you down for that reason then they probably wernt right for u or not worth it anyways.
I hope I helped, good luck
<3
~Alana~
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