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me and my friend was texting each other and then she was telling me her sad story about what happended between her and her crush.and i got really emotional and i told her"that makes me cry" and she started saying"y ur crying it didnt happended to u?" is that bad that i cried?
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Its not at all bad that you cried. It means you care for your friend and feel bad for her.
Caring is never a bad thing. :)
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I will try to make this as simple as possible. Im a 42 yo male, however I do not feel like it nor do I look like it or act like it. Most all my friends are 20-25, I can hang with them and act just as crazy( with out being ingnorant) but I can also be the adult when I have to be. My question: Is it wrong for me to enjoy the company of the younger crowd, meaning, I am attracted to a 20yo female, Im not like some sexual preditor chasing/hunting down the teen hotties, Im just more attracted to them.Part of me feels totaly wrong for having these feelings.Give it to me strait and tell me how terrible I am. Sincerly mndfrk (link)
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I don't think it is wrong. You are both adults.
We tend to gravitate toward people who have like interests regardless of their ages.
Being attracted to a 20 year old is not a bad thing. If part of you feels wrong about it though
I don't know that I would pursue it much beyond friendship. Listen to your instincts.
I don't think you are terrible. But you are just
adult enough that a 20 year old might at times make you nuts.
When you have to be adult and she doesn't see the need to, it could cause some problems.
Some 20 year olds can be mature. It depends on the girl. It is something I think you need to give some serious thought to before pursuing though. :)
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I have been seeing a 31 year old recently (about 6 months ago) seperated guy. This guy is great and I am finding myself falling for him. We have a strong sexual chemistry and i cant stop thinking about him ...
He seems to feel the same.
Problem: He was married , has 2 kids (2 and 4) and his wife cheated on him. He sought counselling at the time with her, however she was adament that there was to be no reconcilliation.
He continued to see a therapist up until we met about 2 months ago...
He still contacts his wife weekly to see his children once a fortnight...
Im worried i am just a rebound??? I really see myself falling for this guy... (link)
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Being the rebound for a man recently separated is
a definite possibility to consider. If you are the first person he is dating it is very likely.
He isn't divorced yet.
His good points are that he did want to try and work it out with his almost ex. He wanted counselling which means he is at least loyal. It may also mean he isn't quite over her yet.
It may be a safer thing to back off a little and wait. See how things go. Easier on your heart!
Also easier said than done. If you want to continue seeing him by all means do. Just so long as you realize what MIGHT happen. I wish you luck. :)
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How to stop nose bleeding as of my 6 years old son often have it. He got it not regulary but he often had it when he is tired. Thanks
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This website should gives you the steps to take to stop a nosebleed. :)
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/nosebleeds/page6_em.htm
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ok so does birth control make you gain weight or not?? does it make your boobs look bigger? what can i do to make my boobs bigger beside a breast implant? thanks ill rate high (link)
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Nothing can make your breasts grow but maturity and the genes you were born with.
There are plenty of things that will make the claim to enlarge them but like weight loss pills...they don't work.
Birth control pills might make you gain a pound, any weight gain is very small. It isn't a reason not to use the pill if you are sexually active and want a good form of birth control. They don't make your boobs look bigger either. :)
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On one of my mySpace pictures, this guy wrote "Rawr! that's hot *tssss*" I don't get the "*tssss*" Is that supposed to be like a sexy cat noise, or does it mean "Rawr! That's hot---no"
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Maybe it means you sizzle!
You know...like when you put a drop of water on
a griddle?
That's my guess anyway. It was meant to be a compliment. :)
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hi! Ok I know you answer a lot of questions so I will make this short:
I was having sex with my bf.
He came (in the condom).
When he pulled out, there was very little cum in the condom (unusual) so we got worried it broke.
We filled it with water, and no water came out from anywhere even when we squeezed it.
There is no way it was ripped if the water didn't come out of it, right? Do you think I'm ok? I was on the last day of my period as well... and I heard that you are least likely to get pregnant during that time anyway!! THANKS!!!
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If it didn't break then I wouldn't worry about it. Occasionally men can ejaculate just a small amount. Sometimes not at all.
That doesn't mean you couldn't still get pregnant
by that small amount, and it doesn't happen very often. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't not use protection because it happened that way once. :)
I honestly don't think I'd worry to much about this incident though.
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i have a wart on my leg. i have heard that putting duct tape on it helps or something. is this true? by the way, i am 15/f and i already have a doctor's appointment for this so don't tell me to go to the doctor. (link)
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Duct tape wouldn't work.
The doctor will probably freeze them off for you.
Works very well. :)
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14/f. My boyfriend of about two weeks is named Dylan. I really like him and I love being with him but the problem is my friends (both girls and boys). They ALL don't like him because of mainly two reasons. One is that he is sort of mean to them (jokingly though). And two, they say I ditch them for Dylan. I actually only ditched them once for him but still. It was so much easier when I was single to hang out with my friends and have a good time and remain part of the group. All of my friends REALLY make it seem like I have to choose between Dylan and them. And when I asked them about it, they said they didn't know what I was talking about. But their actions speak louder than their words. I know if I break up with him things will be a lot easier for me but I would still like him. I feel almost as if my friends have forgotten me because I'm with him. What do I do?
THanks
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Once boys come into the picture, girlfriends tend to feel left out.
Don't let them worry you with it. Once they get boyfriends they will be doing the same thing. That's just the way it goes.
That doesn't mean you ditch the girls all the time, you may just have to set up a time to just be with the girls.
Just tell them that when a girl gets a boyfriend she has to spend time with him. Doesn't mean you like them any less. They need to accept that or they will just make themselves miserable.
Don't break up with your boyfriend over this. Time for your friends to grow up. If they aren't ready to do that, then you may have to get along without them for a while.
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i know people must hate these questions..but this could save me from doing something really dumb to myself. i've been through a lot lately and i'm not afraid to do things that would hurt myself..i'm getting a lot better but there's one thing that might help if i knew. i'm 14/F, and i weigh about 130 pounds, and i'm 5'4". is that overwieght? thank you! (link)
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If it is it isn't by much. I'm 5'3 and my ideal weight is 120. Bone structure has something to do with it though too.
If you're worried you're fat...stop worrying! You aren't.
Here is a site for you to check out. It has lots of good things on it. This section I'm linking you too is on nutrition. If you want to tone up your body or know that you are eating properly, this is the place to go. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/fitness_nutrition.htm
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I think I may have an yeast infection but I'm too embarrassed to tell my mom so she can get me something for it. Is there any other way to get rid of it besides using creams..? (link)
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You can try the creams of course, I've never known anyone who had luck with them though.
More than likely you will have to visit a doctor and get something for it. Which will mean saying something to your mom.
They are very common and nothing to worry about. She won't think you've been up to something if that is your worry. :)
Here is a website for you to read.
http://www.coolnurse.com/yeast.htm
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i'm going to be 19 soon and so far i've had a lot of life experience, but about 10 years ago my parents got divorced which i understand happens my dad was an alcoholic and my mother didn't think that i was a good environment for me and my brothers to be raised in. for about two years me and my brothers would spend every other weekend with him, but once i started middle school and started hanging out with a lot of friends i didn't go see him as much because i'd be busy...on my 14th birthday i waited all day for him to call me, i checked the mail everyday for a week for a card and i got nothing. it really bummed me out, i asked my mom when the next time i'd get to go to his house to see him and after she called him to find out when we would get to see him, he said that he couldn't for a while because of work, i didn't see or hear from him for two years after that. then on my sweet 16 i went to dinner with my grandmother and my then boyfriend, i was talking to her about the job that i wanted when my old bf asked about my dad, i don't think that my grandmother was thinking when she said this but she accidently slipped out that before i was born that my father wanted my mother to abort me when he knew that it was going to be a girl, after that i just broke down i spent two weeks without talking to anyone, i tried to stop thinking about it, it got toward the end of high school and i was preping for my graduation, without telling me, my older brother sent my dad an invite to the graduation ceremony. i started to panic while i was waiting to walk because i was afraid that he wasn't going to show i even started crying until i saw him walking down the hall towards me, HE SHOWED, i thought "oh well he wants to be in my life again" after he left to go back home (he lives two hours away) i stopped hearing from him again, it really sucks because i get really jealous of all my friends because i'm the only person in my whole circle of friends who's parents aren't together, i have maybe one friend who's parents aren't together but he still sees them both, why would a parent just abandon his kids like that? i have to spend three weeks in the same town that he lives in to do training for work and i leave for there on my birthday, i'm really afraid that if i see him he'll just act like everything's ok or even ignor me completely, is it just that he doesn't care about me or could it be something else? i know he doesn't have a job right now because he's been dating this stupid bitch of a woman since my parent's split and she hates me and my brothers so it's hard to tell if it's him or her that's stopping the connection HELP!
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If it is the bitch of a woman stopping him from seeing you, he's a weak man. That could well be part of the problem.
He may not have been ready for fatherhood way back when. That happens to a lot of young guys. I wouldn't take the abortion thing to much to heart. Many times people regret thoughts they may have had. That to could be part of his problem. Guilt.
Then there is the alcoholic guilt. Does he still drink? If not, he missed a lot of your life and he knows it.
He came to your graduation so I would say he cares. He may just not know how to express that.
He lives 2 hours away. Time does have a way of getting away from a person. You don't see them for a couple of weeks and its easy to get get so wrapped up in things that months pass by before you know it. That may be what happens with him. Pile on some more guilt!
I think it would be really great...though also very hard, for you to take him out for coffee or dinner (no girlfriend allowed), and talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel, find out how he feels. Clear the air and see whats there.
He has never been much of a father to you. That doesn't mean you can't have some kind of relationship now that you are an adult. He may find it easier to talk to you now than he did when you were a child.
Call him up. See what you can do about meeting him while you are in his neck of the woods. Tell him you just want some father daughter time alone with him.
I hope you can work something out and get some of your questions answered. Good luck to you. :)
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hey, you give really good advice so i figured i would ask you my question. So, my boyfriend and i have just started having sex recently and we have bene using condoms and my mom said she would get me some birth control soon. I was suppoised to goet my period today and i kno sometimes can it be alittle late, but i dont even have any of the sypmtoms of getting it anytime soon so i am worried i might be pregnant..i also dont feel any symptoms of being pregnant though, what do you think? Thank you. (link)
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I wouldn't worry about it just yet. If you have been using condoms you've been pretty safe.
A lot of things can cause a missed period. Give it a couple of weeks before you really start worrying to much. You'll probably wake up with cramps in a couple of days! :)
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Okay, once I was looking at some questions, and I came across this girl who had this problem. Though after she was done explaining her problem she gave a list of ways that she would like the question to be answered. The most non secencial one was when she said, "For all you people who TlaK lyk DIs" Don't bother answering. That just pissed me off because if you REALLY need help, then you wouldn't care how people answered your question, as long as it gets answered in the first place. My question is: If people list ways to answer their question, then how are we suppose to answer it honestlly if we can't fully express our feelings due to their moranic limitations? (link)
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I usually delete those. If one makes it through rate it down if you are a moderator.
As for answering, I personally wouldn't bother.
I'm with you. If you know the answer then why ask the question. All they are wanting is approval on something they have already decided on. Anything you say to the contrary will probably get you a one rating.
However, if you want to answer it anyway then go ahead. If they rate you badly file an abuse report.
They only thing I would agree with is if they didn't want someone answering who can't write a sentence. Nobody wants to look at that mess! :)
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to continue on my other question (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=429287) i dont know how to explain how she acts on here because theres a tiny chance she might read this but like.. if you could (even make a fake screenname) let me talk to you on instant messanger it would help sooo much! well if its okay with you anyway my screenname is lovesummerr =) thanks a lot (seriously) (link)
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which instant messenger you want to use? I have
msn, yahoo and even an aim messenger.
Email me at karenrickel50@hotmail.com and let me know.
I have a few things going on at the moment but will sure talk to you later if you want to. Maybe around 5 or so?
email me and let me know. :)
Oh, put advicenators in the subject line so I know its you!
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I am very upset by a particular rating that I received and this is more of a statement than a question. I guess this one is simply the straw that broke the camels back because in every answer I give I honestly hope I am helping someone in some way or at least opening a whole new avenue of thought process that may lead to the answer that will help them. I do not think myself impervious to mistakes. I know I make them and unfortunately will make them again. In the past I would stick to those "feel good" questions only to try to keep my ratings up. I don't feel good about that because it isn't really an honest effort at being there for people. I've started answering questions of a more controversial manner. Now my ratings are plummeting. unfortunately we cannot truly try to help mentally ill people because we can't always tell them what they want to hear and if we don't we are punished for our efforts through ratings. (I have included the article for you to view and my 2nd response she is going to give me an even lower rating for my second one.) I wasn't nice, though I didn't use inappropriate language and I was honestly trying to wake her up though I know it's no good. I want you all to know that from my heart I am here to help people no matter how misguided it may be at times. I post this because I am concerned that there are people who ask questions that they do not want to truly know the answer to. They want us to give them flowery feel good answers that won't help them at all. They simply want us to play into their illusions and allow them to repeat and perpetuate their problems rather than help them. I realize there needs to be some kind of governing system that keeps everyone in check. If they didn't have them this whole site would be in an uproar all the time and people would be truly mean to each other rather than helpful. I for one never say anything to be mean but to be helpful, even if it may come across mean. But, this system isn't fair to those of us who make an honest effort and yet I don't have the answer as to how to make it better, I wish I did. Now, below is my response only. I didn't think it appropriate to repost someone else's question. But to sum it up the question was written by a 15 yr/o girl who got in a fight w/another girl in school. The other girl posted her picture on the net by posting naked pictures w/her face imposed upon them. This 15 yr/o says this girl tried to ruin her rep, but she ruined her life instead and got her kicked off student council. She doesn't go into what her actions were, but whatever they were it lead the school to believe that she needed counseling. Her mental health professional diagnosed her as being a sociopath and she couldn't believe it. She felt that it was the other girl and not her that was the sociopath. She rated me a 2 and said that she didn't care if I had ADHD or had been diagnosed w/depression. This question was about her. Here is my response and my counter response:
A sociopath is someone who can fit in well w/society and mimic appropriate behavior because they are taught to. They can be extremely popular and likeable. They don't have empathy for others or remorse for what they do. They can't deal with the reality of their behavior and can't accept their flaws. They are talented in turning things around on people and making it appear to others that they are responsible for what is going on so that they don't have to take responsibility for their own behavior. It's less painful that way. They are really good with the technique of projection. This means that they project their flaws onto others and say things like "I'm not the sociopath, she is", or blaming others for why they have to do whatever it is that they are doing, such as your blaming this girl for your getting her into trouble. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights because they are incapable of understanding or caring about the damage they impart onto others. They usually make great serial killers.
Now having said all of that...I don't know where a mental health professional gets off telling a teenager that she's a sociopath. All teenagers are sociopaths. They are always laying blame elsewhere and doing truly mean things to each other w/o remorse. They do not want to take responsibility for their behavior and blame others. They lie and have no empathy for others and their situation. They are narcissistic and think the world revolves around them...AND THAT is normal. That's being a teenager. Oh, man, some of the things I use to do when I was young...I look back and can't believe it was me. I could never hurt anyone today physically or mentally. I was a cheerleader too. I had this one guy pay me $5 a week so I wouldn't beat him up. It was simply pathetic some of the things I did and said to people back then. At the same time I had some kids under my protection too (they didn't have to pay anything I just liked them). It's an unfortunate part of growing up. I was diagnosed w/ depression and as an adult w/ADHD (they didn't have this diagnoses when I was a child). It's up to the adults to help young people see where behavior is problematic and personally I don't think you are a sociopath. That's an awfully strong diagnosis. Most mental health care professionals won't diagnose this until a person is an adult. I think you suffer from a well known condition which is simple to diagnose, you're a TEENAGER. Yes, I know, that in itself is pretty scary, but that's all I think that is going on. If it were up to me I would insist on a second opinion. You would be w/in your rights and deservedly so. Just because someone is a therapist does not mean they know what they are talking about all of the time. Also, you might want to take a second look at your behavior in all of this too. Even though this girl did some pretty appalling things, you might need to look at what you did and how you did it. Were your actions the best course of action? Could you have achieved your goals w/o stooping to her level? I agree, she needed to be punished for what she did. That was not right, but there are always other ways to achieve the same goals. I can't go into them because I don't know what you did that lead your school to recommend counseling. It had to be pretty big considering what that girl did to you. Whatever you do, don't let someone else label you. We do that too much in this country and once someone is labeled they start becoming the label. You were hurt and reacting out of anger. Sometimes we let the anger cloud our better judgment. Sounds to me you need more anger management counseling then labeling. I feel for you in all of this. Don't loose sight of who you are and you know deep down who that is. Don't let anyone's mis-diagnosis take that away from you.
IF YOU HAD READ MY ANSWER COMPLETELY WITH HEART AND COMPASSION (WHICH YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T HAVE)YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THAT I WAS SHOWING YOU HOW, I THOUGHT, YOU WEREN'T A SOCIOPATH. YOUR LACK OF APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING AS WELL AS YOUR INABILITY TO SEE THAT THIS WHOLE ANSWER WAS ABOUT YOU ONLY PROVES TO ME THAT YOUR DIAGNOSIS BY YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AUTHORITY WAS CORRECT. YOU ARE AN UNGRATFUL AND HEARTLESS PERSON AND NEEDS SERIOUS HELP. I WAS SHARING AND RELATING ONLYTO SHOW YOU THAT IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. YOUR NARCASISTIC ATTITUTE PROVES THAT YOU NEED SERIOUS HELP AND I DO HOPE THAT YOU GET IT. YOU'RE A SAD, SAD PERSON WHO I DO BELIEVE IS BEYOND HELP AS ARE ALL SOCIOPATHS AND YOUR RESPONCE TO AN HONEST EFFORT AT HELPING YOU ONLY PROVES IT TO BE SO. TO ALL MY READERS, I APOLOGIZE, BUT I AM TIRED OF UNGRATEFUL SPOILED PEOPLE WHO SET US UP SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES BY PUTTING US DOWN. I FELT SHE NEEDED A GOOD TALKING TO, EVEN THOUGH I REALIZE IT WILL DO NO GOOD.
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Ratings isn't what its about you know? Its the advice.
Not everyone will like what you tell them. That's just part of it. Anyone who answers questions honestly and don't kiss the tushie of the questioner will probably never see a rating that high. If they do it probably won't last long.
It would take a lot of ones to pull your ratings down low enough to lose your moderator status. Don't get upset about. It happens to everyone. If you have been here a while and are just now getting a taste of it you are lucky!
It is usually best not to retaliate in an edit. Sometimes if you nicely explain why you answered the way you did they change their rating.
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In the last weeks of school, I'm finding it hard to focus on school...especially when I rather rate questions than do an assignment. But if I fail my mom will literally kill me. So I'm asking you to ban me until next Friday. I dont have self control when it comes to the internet, if I'm blocked off by advicenators... I wont have any other choice than to do my work.
I feel so stupid for giving up my ratings, and another 6 weeks to become a moderator. But I know that this is the best way to go. Just because passing high school is more important than becoming a L2 one day. Well to me, their equally important....but to my mom...school is more importnat =)
So can you do this for me?
I'm going to regret this totally but oh well.
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Let me see what I can do. Are you positive you want banned?
I will talk to DN. And see if I can do it and then get your mod staus back when you return instead of having to wait.
I will let you know whats up soon as I hear from him. I will ban you in the morning if I don't hear from him...and if you are sure its what you want.
I hate doing it girl!
Cute sis by the way. :)
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one of my good friends, taylour, just got suspended, which is not good at all, because she is leaving tomorrow, far away, but she has to go with her dad, but she is wanting to stay with her mother here. Her step mom is a complete lunatic, and really phsyco.
The thing is that there had been a plan for her mother to take her in the middle of the night, but now, they cant do that, because her step mom will be there!
Does anybody know who i can call for her or anything, to try and save her from having to go, and live with complete torture?
please please please please please please..... help, she really does need it, like asap!
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There probably isn't a lot you can do about it.
More than likely it is a court ordered visitation or move and not obeying can get people in trouble with the law.
If she has a problem with her step mom, she needs to discuss it with her dad. :)
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Is there any way to improve your aim in base or softball so you actually hit the ball most times? (link)
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Try this site for some good hitting tips. :)
http://www.beabetterhitter.com/
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I work with this really great girl that I didn't initially have feelings for, but as I've come to know her, I can't stop thinking about her. I'm not good at picking up girl's signals, but it looks to me like she flirts with me a lot. Laughs at my jokes, smiles a lot, I'll catch her staring every now and again, but I've misread these signals before.
Plus she's got this boyfriend who's kind of clingy, emotional, neurotic and all this. They've been going out for awhile and live together, but they won't anymore starting this fall. He'll be in another city and she has said that they don't have near the chemistry they did earlier(I guess that can be said for everyone though) and that she hadn't broken up with him yet because of the way he might take it.
So I guess the question's pretty obvious. When should I tell her how I feel? I don't want to be passive about this and wait, yet I feel like maybe now just isnt the right time. Thanks for your time. (link)
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Oh wow. Fall is a long time away. My instincts tell me you should really get to know her over the summer and she you. First night he is gone take her out so she won't be lonely....
But, that is a long wait.
The fact that she has told you this info is a sign that 1) She does like you and 2) She doesn't necessarily see a future with the current guy. Which is good for you!
The statement that she hasn't broken up with him "yet" is kind of telling you she could be available soon. That's how I'm taking it anyway.
You might have to move slow on this. It will probably be worth it though. I would flirt with her. Maybe offer to take her out for a Pepsi or coffee sometime to start off. See what she says.
If the opportunity comes up for you to tell her you like her then do it if you don't think it will scare her off.
Be sure if you do tell her you like her, and she is still with this other guy, that you mention that you realise she isn't currently available.
BUT, if she ever should be, you are interested.
Good luck. Hope it works out for you. :)
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