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its a balancing act.........please help me
14/f. My boyfriend of about two weeks is named Dylan. I really like him and I love being with him but the problem is my friends (both girls and boys). They ALL don't like him because of mainly two reasons. One is that he is sort of mean to them (jokingly though). And two, they say I ditch them for Dylan. I actually only ditched them once for him but still. It was so much easier when I was single to hang out with my friends and have a good time and remain part of the group. All of my friends REALLY make it seem like I have to choose between Dylan and them. And when I asked them about it, they said they didn't know what I was talking about. But their actions speak louder than their words. I know if I break up with him things will be a lot easier for me but I would still like him. I feel almost as if my friends have forgotten me because I'm with him. What do I do?
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I know exactly how you're feeling. My friends were not a big fan of my boyfriend of about 3 months. You need to explain to your friends that Dylan is very important to you and point out the good things about him. You should tell Dylan to be more respectful of your friends because theyre very important to you. Also you should take some time from Dylan and hang out with your girl friends more often. Don't break up with him if you two really like eachother. Hope i helped and good luck!!
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the best thing to do it to talk to them.. let them know your situation. if their your REAL freinds then they shoould want you to be happy.. but then again they could very well be jealous.. just think about it.. but if that doesnt work then talk to dylan and let hmi know you want to spend more time with your freidns to to fix things... but tell him why you are not hanging out with him as much.. then your freind should realize it and accept the fact that u have a b/f
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Balance things out.
Make plans with your boyfriend and then the next day, hang out with your friends.
And even after school plan a movie party? with your friends or something.
You can tell your boyfriend that your friends don't like his sense of humor. You can have him try to get into the group so you all can hang out.
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ok i know this situation, and no you shouldnt leave your bf, but you shouldnt neglect your friends, if they fel that way then try to do things with your bf and your riends together then they can maybe start to like him. do what you can to make both ahppy and let your friends know that you hvae a bf now and that you might not be there as much as they woudl like but that doesnt change anything about your friend ship, ture friends will stick by. but remember chicks before dicks. ! lol good luck
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Once boys come into the picture, girlfriends tend to feel left out.
Don't let them worry you with it. Once they get boyfriends they will be doing the same thing. That's just the way it goes.
That doesn't mean you ditch the girls all the time, you may just have to set up a time to just be with the girls.
Just tell them that when a girl gets a boyfriend she has to spend time with him. Doesn't mean you like them any less. They need to accept that or they will just make themselves miserable.
Don't break up with your boyfriend over this. Time for your friends to grow up. If they aren't ready to do that, then you may have to get along without them for a while.
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