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Please help me.
I work with this really great girl that I didn't initially have feelings for, but as I've come to know her, I can't stop thinking about her. I'm not good at picking up girl's signals, but it looks to me like she flirts with me a lot. Laughs at my jokes, smiles a lot, I'll catch her staring every now and again, but I've misread these signals before.
Plus she's got this boyfriend who's kind of clingy, emotional, neurotic and all this. They've been going out for awhile and live together, but they won't anymore starting this fall. He'll be in another city and she has said that they don't have near the chemistry they did earlier(I guess that can be said for everyone though) and that she hadn't broken up with him yet because of the way he might take it.
So I guess the question's pretty obvious. When should I tell her how I feel? I don't want to be passive about this and wait, yet I feel like maybe now just isnt the right time. Thanks for your time.
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Oh wow. Fall is a long time away. My instincts tell me you should really get to know her over the summer and she you. First night he is gone take her out so she won't be lonely....
But, that is a long wait.
The fact that she has told you this info is a sign that 1) She does like you and 2) She doesn't necessarily see a future with the current guy. Which is good for you!
The statement that she hasn't broken up with him "yet" is kind of telling you she could be available soon. That's how I'm taking it anyway.
You might have to move slow on this. It will probably be worth it though. I would flirt with her. Maybe offer to take her out for a Pepsi or coffee sometime to start off. See what she says.
If the opportunity comes up for you to tell her you like her then do it if you don't think it will scare her off.
Be sure if you do tell her you like her, and she is still with this other guy, that you mention that you realise she isn't currently available.
BUT, if she ever should be, you are interested.
Good luck. Hope it works out for you. :)
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