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It seems as if all my kids have their problems anymore. It's hard as a Mother to hold things together sometimes.
I am not quite sure how to deal with my Son's gf who has bipolar disorder. (they are 21 & 22) It's like walking on egg shells when I am around her. I do like her, it's not that, but she can be so mean sometimes. Her angry comments are hurtful, to our entire family, including my son. They really don't get along that well, but there is nothing I can do about it, I know that. He has to deal with staying or leaving because he owns that situation, not me. However in order to maintain a relationship with my son, I feel like I have to accept her. However, because of her treating myself and my other children badly. I am really confused. She is not on medication because she can't afford it and her own Mother kicked her out. We are really all she has right now.
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First of all if she is living under your roof...put an end to that. You and your other children should not be subject to her nasty comments. Then just limit the time she can visit when she is having a mood. Not to mention there is no escaping her for your son. If he did want to break up with her (not saying that's the case),
he may feel obligated because she has nowhere else to go.
If she were on her own and working, she might qualify for help from social services for medication and medical help. She probably won't qualify living with you.
Even if her and your son are an item, even if you like her when she isn't in a funk, you are not obligated to subject the rest of your kids to her. The younger ones do not need to learn that behavior like hers is acceptable in anyway.
Its time to take your household back. Your son and his girlfriend are adults. Harsh as it may seem they need to start taking responsibility for themselves. You don't have to accept anything.
I realize I don't know the entire situation. Just know your obligation lies with those in your household who depend on you. They can't leave the situation so you may have to change it
to benefit them. :)
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Ok so I took some people's advice and asked my grandmother if I could go on the pill and surprisingly she said YES!!!
But she said she is coming with me to the doctors.
What kind of questions will the doctor ask? like am I sexually active? I'll have to lie to the doctor and say no because she will be there.
I told her it was to regulate my period which needs to be done anyway but she said the doctor will put me on a light dosage.
Will this mean that it wont be as affective with birth control?
I will rate a 5 for all questions answered thank heaps.
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She can come with you to the doctor but can be left in the waiting room. Just tell her you would be to embarrassed if she were to come in the exam room with you.
They will ask when your last period was, are you regular, probably ask if you're sexually active.
You will have a pelvic exam and will have to have one yearly to get your prescription renewed.
If you have questions about anything related to sex, now is the time to ask. Write them down if you think you'll be to nervous to remember them.
Last I knew a birth control pill was made to prevent pregnancies. There are different brand
names with different dosages because not all ingredients are the same. They all prevent pregnancy. Grandma may just be trying to scare you a little so you don't have sex.
A very good site, if you haven't been there before, is www.coolnurse.com it has info on what to expect if you've not had a pelvic exam before.
It has lots of other great info too and is well worth the time. :)
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I was just wondering, is Rice University concidered an "Ive Leageue" school? (link)
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This is the list of Ivy league colleges. This list was on several sites so I'm going to guess they are THE ones! :) No Rice University on the list.
Brown University
Columbia University
Cornell University
Dartmouth College
Harvard University
University of Pennsylvania
Princeton University
Yale University
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PLEASE HELP.
Im 13 and my mom started her period when she was 14 i feel late.
what should i doo?
PLEASE HELp.
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Here is some info for you. Its about halfway down the page. :)
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/menstrual_problems.html
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ok i juss got like one of my first like real boyfirends... and like we kissed today... and like i dunno it was my first time and im nto sure if it was his... and lets just say im not the best kisser ..yeah.. but i mean hoo would be on there first time rite?? but still.. im scared for the next time... cuz he like went far with the kiss like it wasn't jsut a peck or w.e.. i dunno i wanna tell him but im too scared too like tell him its my first time but still... i dunno ..yeah .. im confused.. so should i tell him?? or isthere anyway to learn how to kiss? yeah i kno its wierd (link)
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There are several sites believe it or not that have tips on kissing! Here are a couple of them. :)
http://www.links2love.com/dating_tips.htm
http://www.partyhearty.com/kissingadvice.html
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My biggest weakness of all, is that I worry too much that my friends are going to turn against me. I never use to be like this. It all happened in 7th grade when all my friends just suddenly stopped talking to me, and being very rude. I couldn't figure out why they turned against me. I then found out that the reason why they treated me like that was because of something that happened in 6th grade. I hated 6th grade because I turned against my one friend. I regret that so much! I wish I could go back and change it.
Well after I found out why they turned against me, everything was ok between all of us, except that I felt like I was meeting them all over again. I started acting real shy around them.
I don't any more, but I'm constanly worrying that they're going to do the same thing again. Even though I'm going into high school (and I'll be making new friends) they're all comming to the same school. If my one friend doesn't call me, I get worried that she turned against me and doesn't want to talk to me. Even though sometimes I don't feel like talking, just knowing she called makes me feel relaxed. I can't stand this! Its driving me crazy. I wish I could move somewhere else or go to a different school so I get leave it all, but I don't think thats gonig to happen.
I also get scared if my one friend doesn't say something like "i love you" in just a friendly love type of thing, that she is mad, or if its not in capitals or something like that. I'm very paranoid and I hate it.
I'm sorry this is long. But I really needed to tell someone. Thanks! :D (link)
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They seem to have forgotten about it you need to also. It happened, you apologised and everything is okay.
They aren't going to abandon you again because knowing the consequences, I doubt you will repeat the mistake. :)
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I took a picture on my cell phone. I want it on my computer. How can I transport the picture from my phone onto my computer?? (link)
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My daughter emails her pictures to her computer.
That's the only way I know of. I'm sure someone else has a better solution though. :)
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Ever since I was about three I've been best friends with two people, Dan and Irene. Now we're all fourteen, Dan is moving back to Ethiopia where his dad comes from in August. Irene and I are going to miss him so much, but he acts like he doesn't care. He has all these new friends and pays hardly any attention to us. He was always a bit like that since we started high school but out of school he was always nice to us. But recently he's even started being like that out of school. He argues with us at every chance and when he's not arguing he doesn't say much. We've tried telling him that it really upsets us but he doesn't take any notice and acts embarassed of us. I really don't want him to leave when we're not getting on and I'm scared that I'll lose all the good memories I've shared with him because of all the bad ones that are happening at the moment.
I'm also terrified that if he leaves I'll lose Irene too. She's started getting into drugs and making new friends and I feel so left behind. Before Dan would always keep her feet on the ground and stop her from getting too deep into the drink/drugs scene but now he doesn't care so much and once he leaves there'll be no one to stop her. I don't want to hold her back and be posessive but I feel so left behind. I don't even want to do the drugs but I feel like I'm going to have to if I want to keep her as a friend. I don't have many friends I'm scared of meeting new people because people always think I'm a bitch.
I feel so lonely and pathetic but at the same time I feel like a bitch for being so selfish. I don't know what to do. (link)
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As far as Dan goes, it could be hes trying to distance himself from you now so leaving won't be as hard. Then again, sometimes people just go in different directions as they get a little older. The teen years are pretty tough. Lots of changes physically and mentally.
I do think you need to try and talk to him every chance you get and see what is going on with him.
Explain to him you want to remain friends even after he goes back and that you want things to be good between you all when he goes. Hes probably at that awkward age where the other boys tease him for hanging out with girls or something. I'm sure he isn't embarrassed.
If Irene is getting into drugs real bad, being left behind isn't such a bad plan! Thats a path you really don't want to get started on. Its to hard to get back on the right one. The sad part is that nobody but can keep someone hell bent on doing drugs from doing it. You can try,and should but its mostly up to Irene.
If she is truly hanging with the wrong crowd then tell her parents and put a stop to it before it gets way out of hand. Don't play along and do drugs just to fit in. Those doing the drugs really could care less. Not because they are bad people necessarily, they are just more concerned about doing the drugs than they are with their friends. The drugs will become their
best friend after time, not you or anyone else.
Could this drug use have something to do with Dan backing off? Thats a very real possibility too. We tend to be judged by those we hang out with. Making new friends won't be hard though. A little effort and a friendly smile goes a long way.
Don't feel like a bitch either. Sometimes in this old world you have to be selfish to get where you want ot be. I'd start by going to her parents. It will be a tough thing to do but it may be the only way to save her years of trouble.
If her parents are smart, they can find a way to keep your name out of it.
Good luck to you. Let me know if I can help in any other way. Feel free to email me too if you'd like. karenrickel@gmail.com :)
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Hey today I asked my husband to fix me 2 pop-tarts you'd think all the work involved was poppin em' in the toaster but no he puts butter on the back of them. Have yall ever heard of this? 5's for all thoughts. (link)
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I've never heard of it either. Was nice of him to go to the extra effort though! Maybe he had never made one before? :)
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if i were to but baby oil on me when i am tanning, would that get me darker a little faster than not putting baby oil on? (link)
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If you use baby oil you will burn big time! I don't recommend the use of baby oit at all. :)
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Lately, I've been getting pretty serious with my guy friend who just happens to be 18. The problem is, I'm 15.
He, however, is still in highschool and still has one more year to complete.
Is this consider child molestation or anything like that? Could he, or I, get in trouble?
Also, I turn 16 in about a week, when I'm 16 is that still illegal?
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If someone 18 or older has sex with someone who isn't of age (16 is considered "of age in most states) then it is called statutory rape.
Here is a site that will tell you the age of consent in each state, since I don't know where you are from. It is 16 in most states. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm
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Where do I go to get birth control pills prescribed for myself? Do I have to go to a ob/gyn, or can I just go to my regular doctor? Thanks. (link)
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You DO NOT have to go to a ob/gyn. If your doctor is a family/general practitioner he/she does it all. If your particular doctor doesn't, they will refer you to someone when you call for the appointment. But most doctors do.
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i was always told that going on the pill would make your period stop completely (by freinds, not doctors) and lately i've been seeing a commercial about a pill that can reduce your period to only 3 days?? now, is it true that there is such a thing as a birth control pill that can make your period stop altogether, or is that just a myth? (link)
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I'm sure if there was everyone would be on it.
You have your period in order to shed the lining of your uterus. I can't imagine doctors prescribing something that would cause that not to happen. 3 days would be OK. I don't think anything makes it stop completely. :)
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Do you guys think it's weird that my parents grounded my brother who's 21(I actually think it's funny)?
He's staying with us for a few weeks and he got a $300 citation for punching a guy on the beach yesterday. My dad didn't actually say the words "you are grounded" but he won't let him do anything. I mean he is an adult and everything haha.
My dad and brother have been arguing all morning because of it and I don't think my dad is right because my brother would have paid for it on his own. I want to say something but I just wanted a few opinions before I do so. (link)
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It is kind of funny. Your dad has rules your brother needs to respect but I doubt at his age grounding is the answer.
The answer would be tell him to move out. But since he is only there a few weeks I assume that is already in the works.
Dad can tell him when to be home if he doesn't want locked out. He can say you can't use my car.
Those kinds of things. Oh and he can of course say I'm not paying the fine, which isn't a problem anyway. But, that's about it.
Go tell dad happy fathers day. :)
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On December 16th, my cousin was raped by her neighbor/exboyfriend. She has been in deep depression ever since, she just told me two days ago that she was raped and thats why she's had depression. She promised me she would tell her parents, as long as I kept my mouth shut. Now she refuses to tell, and she told me she has though several times as to ending her life over it. I got scared and told my older brother, he hasn't told my parents yet, but I don't know what to do. I`m scared for her [ she lives across the country so theres nothing I can do about that] I swore to her I wouldn't tell, but I did. I just don't know what to do. (link)
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You did the right thing. She probably needs to see a doctor. That isn't something to keep to herself.
Tell your parents. Let them take it from there. It isn't something that should be made your problem either. She told you, she wanting help. Give it to her. Her parents need to know, even if it makes her mad at first. :)
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how long can you safley wear a tampon? (link)
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Keeping it in overnight is okay. So probably 8 hrs or so. They might cause an odor if left in much longer than that...you don't want that.
If you're concerned about toxic shock syndrome don't. It is a concern basically for those who put one in...say around the end of their period, and then just completely forget to remove it. I have worked in emergency medicine and those are the ones who get toxic shock. Leave it in a week or more and you are in trouble. It does happen.
Just remember you have it in and you aren't going to have a problem. :)
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so i couple of days ago me and my boyfriend had sex..and the day after i started feeling like i had to pee all the time and its still continuing. and it burns. could this be a bladder infection or something else? if so how can i get rid of it???
thanks ill rate all 5's (link)
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If it is a UTI (urinary tract infection), you will need to see a doctor for medicine.
They do have a couple of over the counter medications for it but they don't tend to work very well. If you want to try one of them, ask your local pharmacy to recommend one for you.
Going to the doctor might be a better bet if you have insurance because if you are a teen the medications aren't real cheap.
Lots of things cause a UTI's. Your mother won't assume (or shouldn't) it was because you had sex. So if that's a worry...don't. :)
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Dear younggrandma,
Me and my bf has been trough a lot ....just to
be toghether
I had a big fight with his parents...(I post it on advicenators)..The problem was only with his parents..so we had his brothers and sisters coming to visit us almost everyday and that is fine but now it is getting to much ..we don't have privacy in our home and it is costing us to much money to have 4 extra people in house using electricity ,food and water .I have to cook for 6 people almost everyday ....and this cost money!!!!!!!
Last week the brother of my bf desided to stay for about 4 days and my bf did't ask for my permision..the thing is we have our computer in the bedroom ..he stayed on the computer
(with the radio on)till 6 o clock in the morning 3 nights in a row..The fourth day I told my bf that this is gettin to much ...we are only students and we can't afford to be spending so much money and that I couldn't sleep for 3 days long because of the noice..He told me that he was sorry but he did't know that his brother was gone stay for so long
I don't know what he told his brother but....
he got all mad and stuff ..the worst is he came last night and did't say hi to me and today he wrote ..."I don't need your house anymore to chat...thank God I have my own house to chat till the time I want"....on his msn
I really tryed to stay in peace with them because I don't want my bf to get in a fight with his brother for my sake ..BUT THIS IS GETTING TO MUCH!!!!!
How can he has the nerve to write something like that..after all I did for them
The worst is I'm feeling very sad...and anger ..
I wrote back to him telling him he is a ungratefull dog....I was very mad
Did I do wrong ......what should I do next??
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I don't blame you a bit. Seems his family are the ones who need to apologise for intruding.
Especially his brother.
You should tell him your very glad he can use msn until 6am at his own house. People at yours go to school and have lives somewhere besides the computer. He does have some nerve!
Don't feel bad about it. Some things you just have to do. Even if feelings are hurt. He will get over it. Best not to even let them get started on staying over all the time or much as you may love them...you'll never get rid of them!
Good luck. You did good. :)
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someone said;
"I got my permit"
what does the person mean? thanks..
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Probably they mean they got their learners permit. It is a paper saying it is okay to drive between,I think 7am and 7pm with a licensed driver in order to learn how to drive. :)
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i just graduated and im very worried about my old friends because im going
to high school next year and im scared that i not gonna see my old friends anymore..='( how do we keep in touch with ur old friendsand stay close to them? is it possible that if am lucky u get same class with my old friend? (link)
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Your sure to have some classes with your friends. You will see them at lunch and in the halls between classes. It won't be so bad. :)
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