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Rape Victim
On December 16th, my cousin was raped by her neighbor/exboyfriend. She has been in deep depression ever since, she just told me two days ago that she was raped and thats why she's had depression. She promised me she would tell her parents, as long as I kept my mouth shut. Now she refuses to tell, and she told me she has though several times as to ending her life over it. I got scared and told my older brother, he hasn't told my parents yet, but I don't know what to do. I`m scared for her [ she lives across the country so theres nothing I can do about that] I swore to her I wouldn't tell, but I did. I just don't know what to do.
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Your poor cousin sounds so mixed up and it's hardly surprising she really doesn't know whether she is coming or going. She needs urgent support from a professional. If she won't tell her parents you need to tell your parents so that they can. Yes she will be angry and will curse you for it but could you live with yourself if she goes through with the threat of suicide? Her parents need to know what is going on, otherwise they will just be left wondering why she has killed herself. You cannot keep this burden to yourself and I know that you told your brother, has he taken it further?
This is a very tough thing to do and you need to be brave. The only way to help her now is to be pro-active. I wish you all the very best and I hope your cousin gets the support she needs to get through this.
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You need to find a hotline where professinals can deal with this type of situation. There is a hotline for Abuse and Rape Victims. Rape is a terrible crime and your cousin shouldn't face it alone. If she is honestly talking about ending her life, someone needs to be told, like a trusted adult. Your cousin needs help and you just have to be there for her and do your best to do what you think is right. Best of luck to you and your family in the future!
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Dear Cousin of the victim,
Rape is such a horrible, horrible experience to go through and no one should have to go through it. No one deserves to be raped. After being raped people are no longer who they once were. I suggest that you and your cousin read the book SPEAK. That is a very good book that deals with rape and not speaking out. That should help a lot and if it doesn't then there is still more that you can do. Talk to your parents about rape, ask them what they think about this and ask it as if it was a hypothetical situation. This way you don't have to reveal anything if you don't want to. She said she wanted to end her life and that is a typical result of rape and it should not be her choice. If the world was just than her exboyfriend would be in jail and a ceremony restoring her humanity would take place- but unfortunately that's not the world we live in. You are right to be scared about this and even though it may not feel right, telling her parents and your parents is really the best thing you can do. I hope this helps...
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Hey I know what your Friend is going through This situation is really hard to get throught and shes your friend and i think she must trust you other wise she problay wouldnt have told you this
Your firned will most likely stay depressed for a long time now but only she can do something about it And what you can do to help is re introudon her to the world take her out make her trying forget about whats happened she will problay need al the surport she can get from you.
Your poor friend has been put throught hell You gotta reasure her or she will never get over thhis Be there for her Please For her sake and dont let her do anything stuiped take her to the movie spend time together.
Let me no how shes going OH that poor girl Wish her all the best From britney xoxoxo
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I can imagine how scary this must be for you, and I understand how violated your cousin will feel if you tell. (I was miserable when my cousin told a guy I liked him, and your situation is much more dire. You need to tell an adult. All of the evidence is virtually gone (I'm going to assume that your cousin changed her clothes and showered since December 16th lol.) Seriously, though, tell your school guidance counselor, your parents, her parents, any responsible adult. I wouldn't recommend the police because you don't have all of the details, and you can help your cousin on a smaller scale. An adult can get your cousin the treatment she needs, and then the criminal can be caught. If you don't tell anybody, your cousin's rapist will still be living a normal life, and may hurt another person the way he hurt her. You have to do something, for your own sake and for your cousin's. Maybe you and your brother can approach your parents together. It will be hard, but I promise you'll be doing the right thing. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope I helped.
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You really did the right thing.
I know it feels like you didnt, but if your friend is so depressed she cant think clearly, nor make good decisions.
You are doing all you can do, especially since she lives across the country.
I hope everything goes well, really I do.
Take care!
<3
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You did the right thing. She probably needs to see a doctor. That isn't something to keep to herself.
Tell your parents. Let them take it from there. It isn't something that should be made your problem either. She told you, she wanting help. Give it to her. Her parents need to know, even if it makes her mad at first. :)
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