I've been in that situation a lot of times. When you first see him, say "Hey stranger-how's life?" Ask questions that aren't yes-or-no, so he really talks to you. If the whole thing seems a little fake, tell him about something important that's going on in your life, like a problem you have. Don't get overemotional, but opening up to him will show him you trust him and you'll have an awesome conversation. If there's an awkward silence, touch his arm gently and say "It's REALLY nice to see you." Most importantly, keep smiling. Good luck!

I don't think you're selfish. It takes everybody a while to adjust. For whatever reason, your sister needs help, because she moved back into her parents house with her kids. I mean, from her perspective, how embarrassing is that? All she needs right now is extra pressure from you. If you really feel violated, talk to your sister and your mom calmly and maturely. Try bargaining with your sister-will she take the kids out on the weekend and leave your room to you if you babysit them on the weekdays? If the kids are getting in your stuff, make a bin full of things that they can play with. If they have access to some things, they won't be as tempted to mess with all of it. Sleep over at your friends houses more often, and be patient. When you need help in the future, your sister will remember how generous and sweet you were in her time of need. Good luck!

You're not alone...I'm 14, have never had a boyfriend, and never made out. (My first kiss was on a dare, with a guy who's had sex before, and I kissed another guy goodbye that same day.) Now, my really good guy friend has been flirting with me and is almost definitely going to ask me out. Trust me, when you do get attention from guys, it feels SO good if you've waited! Girls your age who have already lost their virginity probably don't appreciate the little things about guys-their adorable smiles, the way they compliment you, the extent they'll go to just to make you happy. Chances are, when a guy does show interest in you, he'll be an amazing, sweet guy who doesn't just want sex. Also, people brag about how far they've gone, but they don't brag about how far they HAVEN'T. When you hear girls talking about all the action they got, remember that the ones who got action are the only ones talking. There are plenty of girls who are just like you-you just don't realize it. Also, people lie about their sexual experience to impress guys or other girls. It's good that you're confident enough to admit that you haven't done anything. I'm sure you're an awesome, beautiful girl, and you'll find someone soon who'll make you happier than you've ever been. Good luck! :)

IMVU is pretty safe, but it slowed down my computer a lot. I thought I had a virus...Also be careful who you talk to. Everyone looks like a teenager, so I've found myself flirting with a 43-year-old. (I'm 14.) Also, it can be fun, but hiding behind an avatar may make you too comfortable. Be careful not to give out too much personal info. Other than that, have fun!

This just happened to me (I graduated 8th grade last week.) I got lucky, and the guy who was leaving and I was obsessed with decided to stay. I found out that he was staying on the day of graduating, and he decided the night before. I'm really happy...Point is, you never know what'll happen. Everybody's saying to take a chance but I actually understand how terrifying that is. Take a deep breath, and steal his yearbook. Write something really sweet in it, but don't confess your undying love. Anybody can see that. Write something kinda flirty but not really, like "It was a great year, and I'll miss you like hell in high school. Don't worry-we'll DEFINITELY stay in touch." Leave your email and cell number also, and sign your name with a heart. Later in the week, drop him a casual email and talk about your summer plans. Tell him where you'll be, and leave a camp address if you're going to sleepaway. Mention again how much you'll miss him and flirt lightly. See how he responds, but if he doesn't, send him some graduation pictures in the mail. (Make sure to get LOTS of pictures of him!) Him and his friends and you and your friends...Slip in one of you, still on graduation day, where you look really pretty. If it's not from the same day, it's painfully obvious and you look desperate. It can be one of you blowing a kiss to the camera, something stupid like that. He can think you put it in by accident, or not. Don't just tell him you like him if you're not positive that he likes you back....It's better to make him want you, and miss you, because once he decides for himself your BFF can't blame you. Flirt and flirt and flirt...Good luck!

I just graduated from middle school too, and about half of my grade is leaving. (I go to private school, and lots of kids are going to public or other schools.) Everybody feels lost and lonely, whether they're staying at their current school or leaving. It's the little things that count when it comes to this. Make a list of when your friends' new schools start, and call or e-mail them after the first day. If it went horribly, you'll be there to cheer them up, and if it went well, they'll have somebody to talk to who actually cares. (They can't obsess about their day to someone they just met, can they?) Make sure you have accurate contact information for everybody-buy an address book, and keep everyone's phone numbers, emails, and screennames. Even if you have them memorized now, put them all in one spot, because you don't know who you'll lose contact with. Before school starts in the fall, have a reunion party. Invite your entire middle school grade if it's not huge (I have 73 kids,) or just your friends. Mark your calendar every time you talk to someone, even if it's just a 5-minute IM. Make sure to reach everybody once a month or so, just to check in. It sounds stupid, but in the long run this stuff will make a huge difference. Hope I helped-good luck

Hey! I'm 14/f and I still haven't had a bf, I'm pretty but not gorgeous. I'm sure you have a lot to offer guys, and my parents always say guys are intimidated by me, but that's stupid. The truth is, all of the guys in your grade want the same 5 girls, but only 3 guys actually have a chance with those girls. Middle school/early high school is about figuring out who you are, and trying to look good in front of other people. Who you date when you're 14 years old shows a lot about yourself, and everyone is aspiring for the best. Most of my friends still only like the really popular boys, and almost never acknowledge anyone who's not 100% gorgeous. I'm a lot happier (and get a lot more results) flirting with guys who are hot but not noticed all the time. After the summer, all the guys are going to come back to school and say "Wow, she's hot." They just never noticed you but as they mature they'll realize what a beautiful, amazing girl you are...Good luck! :)

I can imagine how scary this must be for you, and I understand how violated your cousin will feel if you tell. (I was miserable when my cousin told a guy I liked him, and your situation is much more dire. You need to tell an adult. All of the evidence is virtually gone (I'm going to assume that your cousin changed her clothes and showered since December 16th lol.) Seriously, though, tell your school guidance counselor, your parents, her parents, any responsible adult. I wouldn't recommend the police because you don't have all of the details, and you can help your cousin on a smaller scale. An adult can get your cousin the treatment she needs, and then the criminal can be caught. If you don't tell anybody, your cousin's rapist will still be living a normal life, and may hurt another person the way he hurt her. You have to do something, for your own sake and for your cousin's. Maybe you and your brother can approach your parents together. It will be hard, but I promise you'll be doing the right thing. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope I helped.

He seems like a very confident guy (drinking beer when he's still in school...Hummer limo...lol) I think if he really liked you, he would just go for it. This seems like flirting out of infatuation, which might lead to a random hookup and then awkwardness between you for years. I think you should be slightly more forward though. Next time you're drinking something, grab his hand instead of your drink. (OK maybe not haha.) Do something little that FEELS big, and see how he responds. Good luck!

First off, if you straighten while your hair is wet, you will FRY it. (I'm 14 too and I've done this...NOT fun.) Secondly, don't straighten and blowdry. Pick one...Try blowdrying straight down to unpoofify it. Have your mother, aunt, or older sister help out. If nothing's working, go to a hairstylist (just the person who cuts it.) Ask them questions before they wet it, so they can see what you're talking about. Good luck-hope I helped! XD

To make sure you don't ruin your friendships with either this girl or her boyfriend, don't tell her anything that will make her break up with him. It sounds like she really does like you, so drop a SMALL hint. (By small, I don't mean outright flirting, because if her guy finds out you're in the doghouse...Stare at her across the room, and keep looking after you make eye contact. It's things like that that really get me, trust me, she'll love it. Also, there's no proof that you were flirting, so you can't get in trouble with your guy friend.) Stay friends with both of them, and keep dropping subtle hints to the girl. Don't get in the middle of their relationship, but eventually they will break up. After that happens, you can be the rebound man ;) Seriously, though, if you're by her side for the breakup, and talk it out, she'll love you. Stay sensitive to her needs, and don't sabotage your friendship with anyone else just for her. Good luck-hope I helped!

I have a Razr too, and I download ringtones right off of the phone. If you have VCast, I definitely recommend VZW Tones or whatever it's called-go to Get Tunes & Tones, Get New, and it's there. They're 3 dollars a song but worth it. I like Xringer too. Good luck!

(I know they're not free, but usually you can convince your parents to let you get one, because they're only a few dollars.) Hope I helped XD

Family Discount hires at 15, and you won't be serving fast food or anything...Definitely worth a shot if you live near one. Hope I helped! :)

You don't have a problem with your hymen, it's completely normal for it not to have been stretched. It's ok to be nervous about this-there will be some pain. One way to stretch your hymen a little bit is to stick your finger inside your vag***, and move it from side to side. Have your boyfriend do this! This way, you won't necessarily tear your hymen open, but gently stretch it. Do this for about 15 minutes every night you see him-within a month or so you'll probably have a big improvemnt. Hope I helped! :)

You need to sit your brother down together, after school when you are home. I'm in a similar situation (I get really good grades on the honor roll, and my sister who's 2 years younger than me is an average student.) My parents want me to be a good example to her. It's great that you're trying to look out for your brother, but you have to figure out a solution that won't get you in trouble either. Talk to your brother. Ask him what he saw and what he thinks you were doing. If you're lucky, he hardly saw anything, and you won't have to mention it. If he knows what you were doing, tell him honestly how you feel. Tell him that cheating is wrong, and you would be disappointed if you ever found him cheating. Tell him the reason that you did it, and that you know it was wrong, and don't do it often. Make it like half-lecture, half-heart-to-heart. Be firm but compassonate. Good luck! :)

This is hard...Did Bob have a girlfriend while he flirted with you and Kate? If he did, then he is a jerk because he flirts with girls when he's already "taken." If he did this while he was going out with another girl, he will do it when he's going out with Kate, or if he goes out with you. If this is true, then tell yourself: "He's hot, WHATEVER. He doesn't treat his girlfriends right, and I deserve better." If he didn't have a girlfriend, and he seems to be a nice person, just try to get over him! Make yourself as busy as you can for a week or two, filling up your time with friends and after-school activities. It's going to be hard, but try not to think about him. You don't have to hate Bob, but you're going to get depressed if you like a guy with a girlfriend. However it works out, try not to be mean to Bob. He's only a person, and he's probably happy now with Kate. If you break them up, it will make him unhappy, and if Bob ever finds out he'll NEVER go out with you! Be pleasant to Bob, and if he flirts with you, show him that you're not turned off, but don't flirt back. Try to be friends with Bob, and maybe when he breaks up with Kate you'll be the first one he goes to! Good luck :)

I think that the reason people at B don't want to be your friend is because you are still stuck in A! You think about your friends, your house, your dreams, and your life in A, without realizing that there's all that stuff in B too. I know what it is like to want something that you can't have-you feel helpless and horrible. But, you need to let go. Don't try to make friends with all of the people who remind you of A. Don't be the same person! Become more generous, funny, crazy, chocoholic, anything! You're in a new place, so start your new life. Pick something to do (like a sport or an after-school activity) that you never would have done in A. It can be so stressful to start over, but maybe it was just what you needed. Try as hard as you can to be friendly. Branch out to people who you wouldn't normally hang out with. Save your depression for the night, and during the day have as much fun as humanly possible! Flirt and hang out and never forget to laugh. Keep in touch with all of your friends from A. If you're still seriously missing A, have a serious talk with your parents. They need to understand what a big toll this is taking on your life. Good luck!

13/f

The same thing happened to me. One of my best friends is a guy, and I like him, and he likes me, but he has a girlfriend. Half the time he's all over me and tells me I'm beautiful and stuff, and the other half he's showing me pictures of his girlfriend and staying away from me. This is a confusing situation, and it can be horrible for you. The best thing to do is try to hang out with him as friends. Whatever you do, don't lead him on or anything like that. Don't go past hugging. Your friend needs to know that you care about him, but you respect his relationship. Hang out as friends, fantasize about him, and act like you like him but you're not interested in a relationship right now. It can be hard to tell how he feels because you are such close friends, but hang in there. When they break up he's all yours! :) Good luck!

I have the same problems with my friends! I love acting and writing (songs, poems, stories, etc.) Some of my friends say stuff like that to me and it really hurts. My friends that are like that are the friends I don't show my work to. When they say something that hurts me I just say something like: "You might think it's stupid but it's important to me" then I change the subject. Some people don't understand the value of art. You have to figure out which friends truly understand you, understand your work, and think it's cool. It doesn't mean that you have to stop hanging out with your friends who "don't get it." When you hang out with those friends just watch TV, shop, go online, talk, or do anything else that they like to do. The way you'll have the most fun is to save your important work for the people that it's important to.

I always wear shirts like that. (I'm 13/f too!) The question is, are you comfortable wearing it? It depends on the type of school, the people you are friends with, etc. I think it's ok to wear a shirt like that, but some people may make a big deal out of it. Just use your judgment-good luck!

Hey! I'm Elana. I'm 14 years old and I'm always available if you need anything. Even if you think it's a stupid question, feel free to ask...Hope to hear from you soon!!

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