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I'm sixteen years old, I'm a virgin, I've never kissed a guy, and I've never had a boyfriend.
I feel like if I don't do these things soon, I'm never going to do them. I feel like everyone around me is so experienced in all those things and I'm still just a kid. I've gotten really depressed about it because I feel like no one wants me.
Am I alone in this?
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dont worry about it
aww
be glad your a virgin...
wait... a guy will come into your life
there will be guys that will like you
right now just dont think about them
usually when i dont think about guys...
like out of no where they come and start talking to me
guys are nothing but trouble though
some guys just want one thing
"sex"
hah want anymore help/advice? just ask
Hope i helped
DONT SWEAT IT!
<3 Liz
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Your not alone--at all! I'm 15 and i have only like pecked some guys (they were dares and spin the bottle) but my only boyfriends were like 6th/7th grade, which dont really count. I feel the same way as you!! And i realize that this is easier said than done...but you just have to remember that it WILL happen, and you just shouldnt rush these things.
hope i helped!!!
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You're not alone...I'm 14, have never had a boyfriend, and never made out. (My first kiss was on a dare, with a guy who's had sex before, and I kissed another guy goodbye that same day.) Now, my really good guy friend has been flirting with me and is almost definitely going to ask me out. Trust me, when you do get attention from guys, it feels SO good if you've waited! Girls your age who have already lost their virginity probably don't appreciate the little things about guys-their adorable smiles, the way they compliment you, the extent they'll go to just to make you happy. Chances are, when a guy does show interest in you, he'll be an amazing, sweet guy who doesn't just want sex. Also, people brag about how far they've gone, but they don't brag about how far they HAVEN'T. When you hear girls talking about all the action they got, remember that the ones who got action are the only ones talking. There are plenty of girls who are just like you-you just don't realize it. Also, people lie about their sexual experience to impress guys or other girls. It's good that you're confident enough to admit that you haven't done anything. I'm sure you're an awesome, beautiful girl, and you'll find someone soon who'll make you happier than you've ever been. Good luck! :)
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Nope. I went through it. I got my first kiss at sixteen, but I'm almost eighteen now and haven't had any since then. Never had a serious relationship, either. It's fine. Go at your own pace. Here's a tip--we act like we're not worth anything if we haven't had a relationship or kissed somebody or what have you. Try your hardest to stop thinking that way! Is there a little child that looks up to you? Have your parents ever said, "Our child is so smart and responsible!"? Has a friend ever said, "I can really count on you."? Those are the types of things that you should be focusing on. Trust me, it will get your mind off "What if I never have a boyfriend?" And it will make a big difference in your attitude, which people do notice! A nice guy will probably take notice of it, and you could get a boyfriend without really trying!
Don't stress it. =)
-Lea
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Don't worry I'm 15 still a virgin! if you get a boyfriend and your serious things will just fall into place. Don't rush it.
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YOU ARE MOST DEF NOT ALONE!!
But don't rush ANYTHING even kissing a guy. Because you will only have your first kiss once and you don't want it to be a crappy one cause you felt like everyone else had. Don't fall into peer pressure just wait for the right..don't worry he will come.
Hope I helped
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NO YOURE DEFINATLY NOT ALONE! im 15 almost sixtteen and you can pretty much say the same about me.. ive made out with a guy once and was fingered by the same guy.. i wasnt in a relationship with him and had met him that day and never talked to him again. wierd i know but anyway.. i feel like i might as well be an 8 year old. what i think though is you should find someone you can be comfortable with as your first boyfriend. dont rush into anything. do what you feel like and dont worry about everything else. i know its hard to see others progress as you stay in one spot but sometimes you cant help that.. i think a way to help this is be more independent and do whatever you feel like doing at whatever time!.. i hope you understand what im trying to say and good luck. i hope everything goes well.
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Alot of people haven't done any of those and your not alone.You shouldn't get depressed over something like that.Your just waiting for teh right guy to come along then you will experience all that .. but don`t even worry about all & don`t let that get in the way of anything. ♥
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Hi, this can be quite painful for you. Just remember, sometimes in life we have to reach out and grab what we want with both hands. What I mean is, you've got to create opportunities for you to make friends or boyfriends. The important thing to remember is, your not alone in this. You just need to get out a bit more, show your face, join clubs, start conversations. You don't have to be popular to have a boyfriend. You just need to get out a bit more and create the opportunity. Your not a kid anymore. People are probaly only just starting these relationships at your age. We all want to be loved and cared for. But we also have to follow our dreams, by creating the opportunity. You are more than welcome to get back to me about this one. Start creating the opportunity when you feel ready. Get your background (depression) sorted out first though. Daniel.
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you are so not alone. let me tell you that i am thirteen so it is hard to get by in this world since i am a teen. some of your friends might be lying and say they aren't virgins but you know what? everybody thinks that everbody is doing something... but not everbody is doing it. so... do what YOU think is right. You have to trust yourself, this may sound like corny advice though, but if you want to have sex, it is your choice i got my first kiss in kindergarten acctually, it was this whole planned thing like we said hey at the dance let's kiss and i am like.. 'ok' so like don't be in a rush, ok? and it is acctualy GOOD to be a virgin just think of it this way ... you can be like your friends any day and NOT be a virgin, but guess what? your friends can NEVER be like you ever again and be a virgin.
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No, you aren't alone. Lots of people haven't done those things either. And don't get down about it. When the time comes to have your first kiss and boyfriend you will. Don't worry about sex. It's just not something to worry about. When the time comes it comes. A while back, like oldies days not everyone had those things right away. Remember that the media blows things up to a big extent. And don't listen to the media or what's in the crowd. Be you. Cause that's all you really can do.
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First of all no, you aren't alone. I didn't get my first boyfriend & my first kiss until I was fourteen. All of my friends had boyfriends & were already having sex & I was still stuck looking for a guy. I felt the exact same way as you feel now & I promise everything will be fine. Just don't go off & kiss the first boy you see. When you meet someone that you truely like you'll just know. And then you will forget all about feeling this way. When you finally find the right person, none of this stuff will matter. Just remember; things happen when you least expect them to. So don't sit around & wait for something to happen. Go out with your friends & have a good time. Try not to think about being depresed & feeling upset. And remember; a watched pot never boils. And if you keep on looking for Mr. Right, he will just take even longer to show up. So go out & have some fun. You are to young to be worrying about stuff like this right now. =)
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no. i have heard of people who were 18 and havent been kissed yet. the longer you wait, the more special it will be. if you have never had a boyfriend, then maybe your really picky and it takes a lot for you to go out with someone. thats no big deal. being a virgin at 16 is no big deal at all, either. and nothing to worry about. dont feel deperessed. if your really shy, then become more outgoing and confident. confidence = total turn on for guys. dont be scared to hang out with different people then usual, make more friends and dont be scared to go up to a random cute boy and ask him his name. have fun with it, dating is supposed to be fun. not something to stress about!!
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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Relax and no you are not alone in this. Think about it though: if you aren't in a relationship, you are free to talk to and be friends with whomever you'd like...and at the same time are not tied down to calling every so often, weekends, etc. Just because you havn't done things with guys or havn't had a boyfriend, doesn't make you a bad person. Actually, a lot of guys would probably want that in a girl; they would naturally want to choose that over a girl who's had a past with guys and sexually active, ya know what I mean? Don't let it bother you really. Cheer up, when the time is right you will find the right person...but don't focus all your time on looking for the right person or anything, because of two things: if you do find the right person, it might be after going through a lot of things (which could be bad); and also because you should concentrate on being a person who can actually love, that way you can form a relationship based on that and not on just who the guy is. Hope that helped, feel better, and good luck.
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Don't worry! I'm exactly like you. Although I'm fourteen, I haven't had a boyfriend, and I haven't kissed I guy before either. Almost all of my friends are in the same boat too. My advise is to just be patient. The right guy will come along, probably when you're least expecting it. And in the meantime, join some clubs or teams, and become active in your community.
Gwena
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