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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my sister moved in with my 4 year old niece and my 2 year old nephew and now they are sleeping in my room since we only have a 2 bedroom house and now iam sleeping on the couch and they are sleeping in my room and I don't think that is fair and when I talked to my mom about it she said I was being selfish am I being selfish?I have no privacy whatsoever and I think as a teenager I need all the privacy I can get and I have none how can I get more privacy?
please help me.
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your not being selfish well its hard for you since your big sister has come back home well how about this you can ask if you can sleep in your room and they can sleep with there mom. I used to do that when i was little
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Well, it really doesn't sound fair no, but I am wondering why your sister had to move back home. Maybe she is going through a really hard time or something. If it is only temporary then try the best you can to be understanding.
I think I would rather sleep on the couch because if the kids were sleeping in the livingroom you wouldn't be able to use that room when you wanted without waking them up. Personally I'd rather let a 4 yr old and 2 yr old sleep as much as possible.
If the room is big enough, or if you have a dining room perhaps there is somewhere you can partition off, put an air mattress on the floor, hang up a blanket for a curtain--anything to block yourself off from the rest of the house.
To get privacy when talking on the phone you may have to go to the car, or go outside, or on a porch, or even put a tent in the yard. Ask if you can stay at a friends a couple of nights a week. I know it will be difficult, but look at it this way. Years ago many people had two to three bedroom homes and raised 6-10 kids in them so everyone had to share everything, and somehow they got by.
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I don't think you're selfish. It takes everybody a while to adjust. For whatever reason, your sister needs help, because she moved back into her parents house with her kids. I mean, from her perspective, how embarrassing is that? All she needs right now is extra pressure from you. If you really feel violated, talk to your sister and your mom calmly and maturely. Try bargaining with your sister-will she take the kids out on the weekend and leave your room to you if you babysit them on the weekdays? If the kids are getting in your stuff, make a bin full of things that they can play with. If they have access to some things, they won't be as tempted to mess with all of it. Sleep over at your friends houses more often, and be patient. When you need help in the future, your sister will remember how generous and sweet you were in her time of need. Good luck!
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Yeah, of course you need your privacy, but so does your mother...and all of them. What exactly do you want her to do about it? Obviously your sister is going through some tough times and needs some help until she gets on her feet. Your privacy is secondary to that. I understand that it sucks but honestly, what to you want your mom to do? Kick her out?
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that deff is not fair, i mean its your room not theres,& your sleeping on the couch, your right you doo need privacy as a teenager, just talk to whos sleeping in your room & say its bothering you... just say on how you feel hopefully they will understand & listen. goodluck!
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