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Hi, everyone. I'm a 15 year old male, and so is this girl I like. I honestly don't know why I am attracted to her. She is overweight, and that's just a turn off for me, like most other guys. But beside the few extra pounds (actually about 30), she's gorgeous. (or so I think) She had chestnut colored brown hair, and paleish skin in contrast. Her blue eyes are amazing. We sat next to eachother in biology all of last year, as the teacher never changed the seating arrangement. We talked a lot, and I'm very shy, so it was a change for me. She talked to me first, and from then on we became very good friends. She bought me a cake on my birthday & gave it to me in class. She laughs at everything, so I don't know if she thinks I'm funny, or not. But I love it. I love talking to her, I love her laugh, I love how random she is, how different, how uncaring of what people think. (dont get me wrong, shes not a geek or anything, shes in with all the right kids, shes just overweight). I couldn't tell if she liked me, but there's something about her that makes me want to be with her all the time. As I said, this would be awkward for me, because she is overweight, and my friends would definitely have fun teasing me/her over that. I don't know what to do, I asked her for her number & aim screename, so I have those now. Whenever I see her get online, I IM her. I told her when I was doing driving school so she could maybe sign up. I think I'm just confused on what to do. Why is it I'm so attracted to her? Should I tell her how I feel? What about my friends? (link)
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A true sign of maturity is liking the person, not what they look like or what others may say. Sounds like you're almost there!
Really, your real true friends are not going to razz you about her weight. If they mention it at all a glare from you will should set them straight. Time to find out who your true friends are.
If she makes you laugh, brings you a cake on your birthday...she likes you. Don't miss an opportunity for someone good in your life because of superficial reasons. You can go for walks and swimming and many other things that will help her lose a few pounds without your even having to mention it.
I do hope you get pass thinking about her weight.
You are attracted to her on a more mature level and that is great! Tell her how you feel about her, without mentioning the weight issue. Any friends who don't approve are no real friends.
Good luck. :)
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So theres this guuy, lets call him "rick".(( we are both 13)so he always does this thing with me where he will start flirting like he likes me, then when i start liking him, he ignores me completley like he doesnt care anymore. well anyways this has happened about 3 times already. hes not even going to my school next year, so i was trying to forget about him. then he just starts texting me like saying "hey sexy" and stuff like tht. then i flirt back and after awhile its like he gets bored or somthing and just stops tlking without saying anything at all. i have no idea whats up. its like one day he likes me, the next he doesnt even care. i have no idea what to do. what happens if he does it again? should i flirt back or just ignore him? and im afraid to ask him upfront cuz i dont wanna like make it seem like i care too much or turn it into a big deal. what do i do!?!?! (link)
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I'm afraid you'll just have to wait for him to grow up. He is immature is all. Flirting with you is important one minute and then playing the latest video game is more important....it isn't you. :)
You can continue your off and on flirting with him. If nothing else, it is good practice. I don't think I would expect him to be a boyfriend or anything at the moment, but maybe he will grow up one day soon.
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My ex and i have decided to get back together, the only problem is, is that my mom can't stand him. My mom is so pissed and upset at him for breaking up with me the first time and she says she can't trust him! I don't know what to do! How can I convince my mom? (link)
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To be honest mom isn't the one who needs to trust him...you do. Her opinion should be taken into consideration but unless you are 13 and she outright forbids your dating him...its your decision.
So, you tell her that you and the ex are going to try again. Let her know you will be breaking up at the first sign it isn't working out.
Good luck. :)
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months-ish now. As of recently his mom and I have become really close and i've been finding out a lot of stuff about him that HE probably should've told me. I mean, I knew that he hung around with some pretty shady people but he didn't tell me that he has some guy coming after him trying to kill him, that he carries a knife around with him everywhere he goes, and that he's stabbed two guys with it. I talked to him about it and when I asked him why he didn't trust me and he said that the more you tell people the more they have against you and the more people know how to hurt you the more they will. I just don't know what to do because I would never ever hurt him and I want him to know that he can talk to me but i'm also mad because I trust him so much and he means so much to me and it's like, I thought he trusted me too. Any advice on what I should do to gain his trust or what I should do about the fact that some guy is trying to kill him would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I don't think its a good idea to date someone who hangs around with people of that caliber. He
can't be much better than those who are trying to "kill him". Sorry, I know you probably like the guy but I'm just giving you my honest opinion.
Anyone who would keep that information from someone they say they care about is worthless. By not knowing, you have been in jeopardy of being killed yourself every time you are with him and not even been aware of it. You really want someone who cares so little about you?
You can do nothing about the people who are trying to kill him. You can save your own skin though by running as fast as possible in any other direction. :)
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I have a bump 'down there' but Ive already eliminated possibilities. Its not an STD like genital herpes - Im a virgin. Its not razor burn because I dont shave. It hurts when I touch it and I just noticed it maybe 3 days ago. Its the size of a pimple. Is it possible it could be a pimple? Im worried..What could it be? (link)
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It could be a pimple or more likeley a boil.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boil
If it doesn't feel better in a couple of days then you may want to check with your doctor. If it is a boil it will go away...they just hurt like crazy, especially where yours is located. :)
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I have been dating 'Fred' for 3 weeks now. We normally talk every day for like an hour, but recently Fred has been very 'busy'. Once he just didn't want to talk to me and other times he just had some stupid excuse. He never calls me back or anything like that. I haven't seen him in a while, either. He says he is not mad at me or anything like that, but for some reason I get the feeling that he is avoiding me. Am I overreacting or should I actually say something? Because I honestly don't know what's going on, and I can't help but be slightly worried. (link)
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First you ask him what is going on. Tell him his excuses are lame and you want the truth.
I hate to say that he sounds as if he may be losing interest. I hope that isn't true but you need to know for sure so ask him. :)
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So there is this guy nick, and we met at a bat-mitzvah party in like september and had such a good time, joking around and laughing with my friend, Alita.
So the other day, we lots of my friends went to 6 flags. and like for the last hour, we changed groups almost...and i was hanging with nick ali and ali's boyfriend.
I was talking with nick a lot. And again, we were having such a good time. And I found out that Ali and him had talked over the year and stuff... but whatever. We were joking around so much and laughing like crazy people.
And I really like him. And I know this is gunna sound crazy but every time im around him, its just so much fun. Now my questions: How can I know if he likes me? And if he does, should I ask him out? Oh, and one more. If he doesn't like me, what should i do?
It's long... sorry!
thanks though! (link)
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OK first, does he live near you? At your age dating doesn't mean much if you never see each other, can't go to school dances etc. So, if he lives a ways away from you consider exchanging email or IM addresses and get to know each other even better.
If you had a good time with him then he probably had a good time with you as well. If you are able to go out on a date with him then by all means ask him out.
If he doesn't like you for some reason, there isn't a lot you can do about it. Just have to find someone else. :)
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I know that when you are younger. Guys tease girls if they like them. Is it still the same way in your upper teens.? (link)
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I think it depends on the way he is teasing you.
If it isn't a mean teasing then he probably likes you. You could consider it a form of flirting.
If he is rude or mean about the teasing then I don't think he likes you. He is just being an ass. :)
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the guy i like likes my best friend who knows i like the guy HELP!!! (link)
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You don't say if your friend likes him in return.
If she likes him too, please do not be one of those who says if I can't have him you can't either. It will be tough but if he doesn't like you there is nothing you can do but find someone better. :)
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Well back in september me and this dood BOB started going out. which made me real happy cus i liked him ALOT for a few years now. everything was good until one day he randomly dumped me for no reason he told my best friend to tell me it was over cus he felt like it. that was the only reason. It really hurt me. we didnt talk for 2 months. and we started going back out again in febuary. i guess things were decent. then over time i started seeing problems with him and then one day he randomly ditched me and would not talk to me for like 2 weeks (we live like 4 houses away from eachother and both have fones, so theres no rreason) and when ever id call him hes always busy with this slutty chick and his little friends. and the time that we ever did spend together, he was always high, and because he was high, he didnt listen to me, or understand, or focus and he would be such an ass.
So i called him and told him what i just told you and said we need to break up he said Ok iwas sorta thinking that too. and yet again didnt give me a reason on why he wanted to , or why he blew me off for two weeks. But for somereason, i still really like him. i feel like im over him, then i suddenly reallllly miss him. and im wondering if hes worth missing. I realllly loved him. he was the most greatest thing i had, until he started being so lame. I did like him, but i know i dont ned that kind of person in my life, some one whose always high and ditching me and breaks up with out a reason. i dont know if hes worth my compassion..? (link)
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You don't mention your ages but I'm guessing he is just immature. He probably isn't ready to be dating anyone. If he is always high then that is his main priority anyway.
Guys who use drugs don't make good boyfriends. You can't compete, it isn't anything you did wrong. Find yourself a nice guy and forget this one. :)
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I have never kissed my boyfriend before. We have only been dating for two weeks. I have only seen him 3 times. I talk to him on the phone everyday. But we have an age difference... 3 years! I really like him, but i'm not sure he completely feels the same way. I really want to kiss him so badly. But however i dont want to act like a little kid planning my kiss and sex. So should i ask him or should I just kiss him? (link)
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I see nothing wrong with you kissing him if you want to. I don't think he will feel it was planned out.
It hasn't been that long though. You may want to try and hold on a little longer and see if he makes the move. Does he consider you his girlfriend or is he just giving you a ride? You need to be careful not to scare him away if he hasn't gotten to the point yet of being boyfriend/girlfriend. :)
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So I'm interviewing this guy tomorrow. It's a half an hour interview. I saw his band at a local pub and really liked them. And since I'm part a community TV station, I asked if I could interview him.
But now I find out he's REALLY famous here and everyone I speak to knows who he is! He's been the host of a popular music show for a couple of years which I didn't know about.
I'm really nervous now about the interview and worse case scenarios kept running through my mind. I'm afraid I'm going to look like such a fool or have a mental blank or something. It's a half an hour interview that's being filmed and I have no idea how I'm going to fill up that time.
How can I relax a bit, and what are some good things to ask him? The fact that he interviews people constantly and gets interviewed himself means he probably has been asked the "usual" questions several times and I don't want him to be bored! I'm really panicking. How should I act? Help please? thanks. (link)
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Learn all you can about the person before you interview him. Not only will it keep you from looking goofy but will probably generate even more questions.
I doubt he will be bored by your questions. Famous people are often asked the same questions
over and over again. Try to find some of his previous interviews and maybe you can at least ask them differently.
Be yourself. Don't act any different than usual.
Good luck on your interview. You'll do great! :)
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Hey guys. I'm pretty pissed off. This guy I like hung out with this other guy that lives next to me, and they both came to my house and dumped a bag of mulch on my porch, just for a joke I'm guessing. Anyways, I'm kind of mad he would do that because my family has aenough porblems without him messing around with our yard. I;m just asking..is it ok to be mad? Or should I just be like oh right haha good joke? Will he think that I get mad over the stupidest things? please help. (link)
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I don't know why he would think your being mad is any stupider than his trashing your porch with mulch.
I think I would make him clean up the mess. Yes, it is OK to be mad. If you didn't think it funny then I would certainly let him know it. :)
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ok, my boyfriend and i have been going out for about two months and weve been friends for about two years. yet when im with him or talking to him, i go from a straight a student, to a blubbering, tongue-tied idiot (well maybe not that bad) anyway, how can i change that? (link)
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Keep in mind that you have already been friends for 2 years! Don't try to impress him or act any
different than you ever have around him. He likes you the way you are, so don't change. :)
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short story. i dated this guy in 7th grade (i am now a senior)...
well this boy has started calling me up. we have been hanging out a lot and when he is on the phone he tells all his friends he is with hir girl. but when we are around people he acts diff. well tonight we were together. we had sex then went to his house ( acted a lil shady ) well me and him smoke. we meet up with one of his friends. they where taken me home but meet up with this guy and bought some stuff..well he dude started snorten and then his girl did and then my boyfriend made hold the steering wheel while he snorted. now earlyer tonight he told me he doesn't mess with that stuff. then i asked him before he snorted that if he still does it and said sometimes.
after he snorted it he told me he was sorry that he loved me. he started comforting me cuz he cuz knew i was scared and upset.
((even though he said he loved me. we have been sayin that for years. but i am not the one to tell someone to chose this over me. so it would be hard for me to make him pick between me or coke.))
i need to know what i should say to him or if i should stay with him. i'm just confused outta hell. i'm hurt the he did that infront of me. i just don't know what to do... (link)
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Unlike smoking cigarettes coke is illegal. If he gets caught with it and you are around you go to jail too. So making him choose you or the coke is not a bad idea. You know as I do though that he will choose the coke, or at least lie to you about using it. Already has by the sound of it.
I would suggest not dating him or having sex with him. Coke is one of those drugs that will always be more important to him than you are, regardless of what he may tell you.
I also want to mention that being in a car with someone high on coke is just as bad as driving with a drunk driver. Don't ever get in a car with him driving you anywhere. It isn't worth dying over, OK? :)
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ok my parents r desperately waiting for me to get a girlfriend and always push me to do so. at this momment i just want to be single yet on the other hand i would like someone by my side and would like to be going out. im not sure what to do or how to do it. what should i do? (link)
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Simply tell them that while you want a girlfriend
sometime, you just haven't met anyone you care enough about to date right now.
There is really no need to rush out and find one.
She will show up eventually! :)
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Ok, I am 15 (female) and i have a bf, we like each other alot. But he seems to be very lazy (he is also 15) It seems like he dosn't ever want to spend time w/ me. Is there anything that i can do to make him feel more comfertable around me. Im not really sure what it is, but it seems like all he ever wants to do is eat, and sleep. I see my friends and thier bf's and they all get along really well. I just kinda wanna get stuck out of this rut. Is there anything that i can do?
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If a 15 year old guy would rather eat, sleep or watch TV rather than be with a girl...well, I would have to advise you to find a guy who is interested.
Most males of that age are eager to have a girlfriend and want to be with them. Have a talk with your guy and see what his problem might be.
If he doesn't think there is a problem then find another guy. :)
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yeah so this is it from the begining the names are changed tho! okay i started to go out with this boy josh ithought everything was great.i would call just to here his voice.he also went out with my close friend jessi. jessi like the thought of us together.almost a week later she had told me that he was going out with a girl name sara i told her no he just forgets my name sometimes thats all. then a week later i brought it up and he said ooh i didnt think we were to serious and hes the one who ask me out!! one of my other friends introduced us on aim.i felt hurt about it but i ignored it.then he broke up with sara and a day later dumped me he said i wanna date you some other time i was shocked.He would talk about us being sexual i liked it but i didnt want to get hurt.2 weeks later he went out with sara again. again the relationship ended.now i still have feelings for him what should i do? (link)
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Any guy who wants to talk about "being sexual" when you haven't even had a proper date is probably a boy you need to avoid.
He sounds like a real immature jackass. Find yourself someone who really cares about you. He is probably juggling so many "online" girlfriends he can't even keep them straight. :)
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if any of u know myspace i am on it and there is this one guy... and we have been best friends for a year. Being with him for this long... i am really starting to like him... i asked him out and all he is sending me is this bulliton that i posted a yesterday...
can some1 help me to understand whats going on? (link)
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I think you are going to have to be more specific.
What is the bulletin he is sending you about? I
don't understand what you are wanting and I'm sure others are having the same problem. Please add some details to your question and then we may be able to help you. :)
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Okay so my boyfriend and I had this big thing well I may of over-reacted but I feel as if I was in the place to just because of the situation.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 10monthes. When we first met he did all that chewing tobacco also know as *dip*, well I told him I didnt like it an stuff an he quit it. Thing is before like his friends would do it around him an he never let it bug him he would just go get some sunflower seeds or ya know so he wouldnt have to think about wanting to dip.
Well seems like I was at a ball game with him an his sister was like *how do you feel about travis dipping* i was like umm last I checked he didnt do that he quit when we met. And by the way his sister is like 35, so like his sister was like well i dont know I seen it in his pocket today an askd him what it was an told him that its not good for him. And I was like i dont know ill have to talk to him then. SO yeah we were in his truck after the game and I was kinda silent so he knew something was wrong! And he asked me an I told him what I heard from his sister an he was like * you dont understands its a bad habit to break blah blah* so like idk why its such a BAD habit to break if he hadnt did it in all the monthes we have been together? Like what makes him change his mind now? And like i dont know I got real upset and was crying because he lied like we made a promise NOT to do that, an he always avoided dipping when his frineds had it or offered it. But am I in the wrong? Like i dont know I was so upset and crying because I feel as if he lied to me and broke some trust!? So am I in the wrong and would you in my position feel the same way as I did?
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Tobacco is a hard habit to quit no matter how you use it. Very hard.
Be flattered that he was trying not to chew around you. That in itself was hard for him to do. While stopping tobacco use is a wonderful thing to do...the person using it has to want to quit. Someone not liking it usually just won't matter much.
You will have to decide whether or not you like him for himself. If his use of tobacco really grosses you out and you can't stand it at all then you will probably just have to end the relationship.
If you can tolerate it because you like him DESPITE the fact that he uses tobacco then your relationship stands a chance.
I will agree it is a nasty habit and one that should be avoided. But for now it is legal if you are of age so it is basically a habit you just don't approve of.
I know if my hubby didn't like me eating chocolate...we'd be in trouble. Its not good for me and is legal (for now) too.
Just another perspective. :)
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