I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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i make friends with girls pretty easy but i just am not that good with making friends with guys! can you guys please tell me some tips and how to be friends with guys??? THANX! (link)
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Ask your friends to introduce you to some guys. They're bound to know some. You'll be nervous naturally, but if you be yourself, you'll find that in a few weeks, you could have a new bunch of friends to hang out with.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay...
well i have ALOT of "girl" friends
i want some more guys friends..
you know?
i mean not to be like a slut...
but just so im not around too many girls...
thy're too dramatic
any one have any ideas? (link)
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Ask your friends to introduce you to some guys. They're bound to know some boys, no matter how dramatic they are. You'll be shy at first but this is natural, soon, they will become your friends and voila, you'll have some guy friends.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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OK this may not make sense to all of you, and if so, I'm sorry :P
Well the thing is..I feel more comfortable hanging around with guys than girls. I have an equal amount of guy and girl friends and I'm NOT a tomboy.
An ordinary girl.
But I donno, it's like with guys I'm more relaxed and more outgoing.
But then again, at the same time I have quite low self esteem.
Is there anything wrong with me? The way I feel more relaxed around guys, why is that?
Also what could I do to improve my self esteem? (link)
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There is absolutly nothing wrong with you. You are just more comfortable being around boys than you do with girls.
To increase your self esteem, take some risks. Go and do things with your girl friends and hang out with them more often. Don't expect an immediate result, building confidence takes a while but when it's built, you will feel great because you'll be able to hang out with both boys and girls and nothing to worry about.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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ii really like this boy :( (link)
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There is not a lot which you can do really. If he's in love with somebody else even more than you, then there is really nothing you can do to interfear.
I know that this might not be the answer that you were expecting but love is powerful. I've got a firm believe in everything happens for a reason...keep on reading...and i believe that the reason why he's going out with somebody else and not you is because there is somebody else out there who is the right guy for you. Still with me?
If he breaks up with her, fine, you can go out with him (unless you're going out with somebody already) but wait for a while until he's over the last realtionship. People who wait for others tend to rush into a relationship when that person's gotten out of one and that particular reltionship doesn't last for long.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I haven't hung out with my friend one on one in a really really long time. she finally says one day dude we haven't hung out in a really long time i miss you! it's like she finds time for everyone else but me.
i want to hang out with her, but should i even give her a chance considering she's been blowing me off so much? i'm not a high matinence friend it just seems like she never has time for me and always uses me when she's bored or other people are busy.
HELP! (link)
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If you don't then you could be ruining a friendship which could benefit you in the future. I haven't hung out with my friends in a long time and i never think of abandoning it just becasue we haven't seen each other in a while.
Give her another chance and make it plain that you would like to see each other more often than what you used to.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Oh well i went out with this girl for three and a half months well we got into a fight about 3 weeks ago and we broke up but being the kind of guy i am we were still going to be friends...so then 3 days ago we went to a basketball game and we made out for a little bit before i took her home however after i drop her off i find out she is going out with someone else so i feel like an ass for helping her cheat but thats just the start of this then sunday during half time of the superbowl game she calls me and says she is Pregnant(now first all we never had sex) So this leads to my questions 1) Should i tell her boyfriend she cheated with me on him? 2) Was i cheated on cause we just broke up 3 weeks ago today, and finally 3) What should i do to be there for her cause i still have many feelings for her???? (link)
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Yes, you should tell the boyfriend about this because it will show him that she doesn't really love him and that he can break up with her.
The cheating wasn't your fault so get rid of that idea from your head right now! How do YOU feel about being with her? Can YOU live with the fact that you're seeing a girls who used you to cheat on somebody else. You don't need to worry about her being pregnant because she isn't your problem, her boyfriend should deal with this.
I know that this sounds cruel and hurtful, but this is the truth, you cannot blame yourself for somebody elses problems which they got themselves into and trying to lay on you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I am having problems with a few things, but they all relate to paranoid tendencies.
At night, I have the feelings of someone trying to break in, or am scared that I am not going to wake up if we get broke into, or a fire breaks out.
Another problem, I am paranoid that my husband is cheating on me. Also, that he is trying to poison me to get me out of the way. I know that sounds nuts, but this is how I feel. It also feels like a conspiracy theory at times. I am always sick, and seem to be getting worse so. (I have been to doctors and had blood work, no problems with that).
Here's my question, does anyone know of any ways to help conquer, overcome, or cope with paranoid tendencies? Any help is appreciated, experienced or at least some knowledge is preferred.
Thanks. (link)
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Paranoia is basically fear, but escalated to a higher level.
There is something which is raising that fear which you need to identify.
Think back, is there any point in your life which might've caused this? Could it be a childhood memeory coming back? Basically, to be rid of fear, you need to face it and conquoer it. Think metally to your self or under your breath "I'm the stronger one, I can overcome my fear" and your confidence will grow.
Talk to your husband about your fears and he needs to help you through this. I know that it's hard to do this when you think he's going to poison you, but remember, he loves you and will always do and nobody or anything will destory that love which the two of you share.
The very best of luck with the future,
triquetra
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ok....i finally broke up with that guy that i was really unhappy with, but now i feel really extremely lonely. right now i don't know what to do about feeling lonely. i go out with friends and i am trying to enjoy the single life, but i'm not. i just want someone new to come around already but it seems like it won't ever happen. (link)
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This is what happens after you've broken up with somebody. You've gotten so used to him being around that now he's not there, you feel helpless.
Amazing things are already happening to you. You've gotten away from the guy whom you were unhappy with, your starting all over again, free from him. Remeber, you've got nothing more to do with him. The problem is, is that somewhere in your mind, there is a tiny nag which is telling you that you do have to answer to him.
Love takes time, you've just gotten out of a difficult realtionship so going into another would be the last thing to do. Wait for a while and forget everything about your last realtionship.
Think positive; somebody will come into your life again and this time, listen to your heart and see what it's telling you and whether this is the right guy or not. Meanwhile, enjoy your new life!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I met this guy almost 2 years ago, when I moved here, and in these last two years we have gotten to be close friends. At first when he started coming over, I was shy towards him because I didn't really know him. But after a couple of weeks of him coming over, I became less shy towards him, and we became real close friends. I have liked him ever since. I cant quit thinking about him, and I cant wait for him to come over. I have never felt like this towards anyone before. I have never told him that I like him, but I'm sure he's got some kind of a clue that I do. When he is over he will sit right next to me on the couch. I have this huge couch to sit on, and he sits really close to me. I also catch him staring at me a lot. He will be talking to me, but he looks directly into my eyes and his gaze will linger. When I get up to move, I can feel him watching me. Another thing is, when I go to the store, he will usually come with. Or when he goes to the store he will sometimes come over and either ask if I need anything or if I would like to go with him. One day when I asked him why he always comes with me when I go to the store, he just said that he would feel bad if something were to happen to me and he weren't there. I had also house sat for 5 days, and the first night we texted each other back and forth late into the night, even though he had to be up early for work the next day. Then the other four days he called me and we would talk until late into the night. He told me that he texted and called me everyday because he didn't want me to be bored or lonely. He always makes an effort to touch me. Like I will hand him something, and there is plenty of room for him to grab it where our fingers wont touch, but he will grab it up high so our fingers touch. If we go places, he will usually pay for me too. The other night we were wrestling with each other, and he had had me pinned on the floor and he had his face mashed into mine, and he didn't move for the longest time. So from all of this, does it seem like he likes me?
Well now here's the hard part. He has been engaged for the past year. I recently asked him when he planned on getting married, and he said it wouldn't be for another four years because his fiancé says she wants to finish school first. Then he told me about how she also said that she wanted to wait because with the amount of money she makes, she gets a bunch of money back on her taxes. That sounds like a pitiful excuse to me. Sounds to me like she doesn't want to get married. My mother had been over that day (she knows him too) and had told him that she doesn't think that they will get married. He got all defensive and kept asking why she though that. My mom pretty much told him that they act more like friends than a couple. They only see each other for a couple of hours on saturday, but other than that they talk on the phone a couple times a day. Is it strange that they are engaged and hardly see each other, and that they don't live together? It seems to me like they are in a relationship just because they can be. She leaves for her last 4 years of college in another city, and he isn't going with her. I guess what I am trying to ask is, Does he like me? Should I tell him even though he's with her? If so, how should I go about telling him? What do I say? And do you think (from what I have told you) that he will marry her? I do want to note though that as long as they are together I don't have any plans on interfering with their relationship. I'm not a home wrecker. But you cant help who you like right?. Sorry for all the questions, but I really am at a loss. WHAT DO I DO??? (link)
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Ask him, that's all you can do. If he's serious about this realtionship, wait for a while and see what happens.
Also, he shouldn't be sending out these signals to you that he likes you if he's getting married because you've how got feelings for you and if he goes trhough this marriage, will end up dissapointed.
Be clear with him that you've got feelings and that you don't want to be in the possision of disspointment. SO he needs to make a decision between you and her. The two of you can remain friends, keep that in mind.
I hope this helped and if you need anymore help, feel free to put a question in my inbox,
triquetra
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i like 6 boys, i don't know which one to pick.
boy 1:i went out with him for 6monthes, it's been 3 monthes since he broke up with me. i really love him, but he has a new girlfriend already. i have so many memories with him but he won't really talk to me anymore because he doesn't want his girlfriend to think something, i don't know i think it's stupid. i can't really get over him so i think it might not be fair to go out with someone else since i do still have feelings for him. ;;;;
how can i get over him?
boy2:i've liked him for almost a year now but he's boy1's best friend, we talk all the time. and went out once but it didn't feel right at the time so broke up with him right away. he went out with one of my best friends when i was going out with his best friend and i didn't really care, and i still don't but he cheated on her. i don't think he would cheat on me though because i know alot of his friends and i would most likely find out.
boy3:he is so freaking sweet.i talk to him about everything. so i talk to him about other guys too and he talks to me about girls,but i feel like i kinda do like him in a weird way because he understands me and is one of my best friends. but he's shorter than me. i don't really like that.
boy4:i went out with him once in 5th grade, but it didn't really mean anything. mmmm i don't think he's boyfriend material just because he's him..
boy5:he is my bestfriend. i have never thought about ever liking him but he knows alot about me, and even though he makes fun of me all the time the's really super nice. but since he is my best friend i highly doubt he would ever like me.
and finally,
boy6:he is bestfriends with boy3 and i've told him i liked him but he thought it was just to get over boy1 so he doesn't really trust me anymore. and he has a thing going with this other girl. we flirt alot though. i don't like admitting it though.
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which one boy should i pick? (link)
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Who do you think about most. When you see one of the boys, does your heart flutter and you get feelings for him? If so, that is the boy whom you should go out with.
Size, height, colour, religion shouldn't really play a part in this (i know that some are not of the above, this is just an example)because what will ultimatly matter will be the feelings you share for each other. Rule out the ones which you can't be with (boy 1, boy 6, boy 2 possibly boy 5) and see about the ones whom you can. Take some time to think it over and then decide about whom you can be with.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok so me and my bf are planning this big party. and i want to invite like everyone, because i dont want anyone to feel left out. so we have a huge list of like 100 people. but theres this one guy (joe) that my bf really doesnt want to invite, because he thinks joe likes me and flirts with me too much. i dont care if joe comes or not, but it would be really mean not to invite him, because we've both known him forever and everyone else is invited. so we keep fighting about it. what should we do? (link)
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If there is nothing to fear from Joe (from you that is), then you should try and tell your boyfriend this. Tell him things that there's nothing between you and Joe and also give Joe a verbal warning that if he approaches you, then he'll be banned from any parties which you hold in the future and you'll be the only one left out(tell your boyfriend about the verbal waning as well). But first, ask whether he wants to come and if he does, give him the warning and that you had to defend him so that he could come and plead with him not to mess up the party.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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16/f. Normally I'm not the one asking these types of questions... but here we go.
My dad has a friend with a son who is a little bit older than I am (not sure how much exactly). He goes to a different school. Recently, he started a part-time job working for my dad. I used to hang out with him occasionally but haven't seen him in 8 years.
Today I saw him for the first time in a long time (didn't get a chance to talk), and he seems like a really great person that I would like to get to know. Besides that, my dad likes him. I work for my dad a little bit too, but not too terribly often. In other words, I never get to see this guy ever and because we haven't hung out in a really long time I feel like I don't know him that well, so it's not like I could randomly call him and say, "Hey, wanna hang out?"
I would love to be friends with him, and I don't know if it could be more than that (worth a shot), but the only way to get to see him is if my dad set us up. And how weird that would be.
This summer we might both be working full time up there, but I'm not sure yet. (We work in completely separate parts of my dad's business.) Summer is a long way away, though.
My question is: has anybody else had this problem? What do I do? I don't get nervous around guys or anything, but I'm never even around this guy! (link)
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Could you ask your dad to transfer you to your friends department? If that is a completely different department to what your currently working in, there could be some difficulties.
But at lunchtimes, could you sit with him and engage in a conversation with him and learn about him? It wouldn't exactly be saying "Hey, wanna hang out?" because you're gradually getting to know him and visa versa. Then when you're ready to hang out, then you'll know or he will ask.
When i started at my current Secondary School, i didn't know anybody except for this one guy in a year above me who blanked me and acted as if i wasn't there(and still does). What i had to do was to sit with other people and ask who they were and about themselves, and they introduced me to other people whom i got to know and made friends with. It's not the same situation, but you can see that talking to people can get you a long way.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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Oka well this is my probblem.My friends and i well we are kinda falling apart, like we dont talk to eachother that much like we use to.And also we havent spend that much times with eachother it just seems like we falling apart.It all started when school started back and we been busy latly with other things and what makes it worst is that we all dont live close to eactother so that makes it hard to just go to each other houses.I just want to know what should i do.How can be become closer like we were before.I really need your help on this! (link)
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What i would surgest would be to tell them that you feel as if you're falling apart from each other.
But personally? I don't think you are falling apart because, like you said, you're busy with other things right now and you don't live close to one and another. The talking to each other not as often could be due to the fact that you're busy.
There is one way to keep in touch though, but it would require your friends to do the same, so ask them first whether they want to do this or not. Ever heard oF Skype? It is a free internet communications program which you can use to call anyone in the world and what's even better, is that it's free! I've got it and never had a problem with it. If your friends had it, then you can contact them when they're online. BUT, you would have to buy the headset (and a webcam if you wanted). Just go to www.skype.co.uk and download it for free. The ask your friends for their usernames then search for them.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok so my sister puts me down a lot and it makes me mad and when we actually start talkin about how we get into fights and stuff she said atleast
99% of the time its my fault and it really makes me mad . also i started talkin to a 19 year old guy and we weren't really datin but my sister got
his number off my phone and started texting him
and they were going to become friends with benifits and that guy told me he loved me but when my sister told me about all of this it really made me mad because she went behind my back to a guy who i told her i loved and wanted to be with him. so my question is is my sister a good sister at all? also me and my sister fight a
lot and shes always callin me fat and sayin that
my friends are her friends and not mine which i know they're mine because theyre alround me a lot but anyways what should i do bacuse i really don't want her in my life because she always seems to ruin wat i have . so any advice is helpful and fyi im a 15 yr old girl . (link)
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In each family, there is bound to be sibiling rivalry and this seems to be a case of it. Your sister isn't a bad sister, she's just somebody who wants to have want she wants and she just gets frustrated when things get in her way.
It's obvious to me that she also has got some feelings that she's got feelings for the guy. Just back off FOR A WHILE and wait to see what happens.
Speaking of which, i really don't want to be pushy but: don't you think that 19 is a little to old? I'm 15 as well and i find that 19 year olds are just way out of reach.
Just see what happenes between your sister and him and if they don't go out, you can decide what to do with him.
But please, i urge you to think about the age difference. I know that you've got feelings for each other but wait till somebody else who's just as worthy of you comes (and of your own age) and then you can have a relationship with him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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14/F
In Sept. '06 I dated this kid Jake [he was thirteen I was twelve] for almost a month. There was nothing wrong with him or anything, but I met this other kid while we were dating, his name was Joey, he was thirteen. On 10/10/06 I broke up with Jake and Joey asked me out the same night and I said yes. He had just got out of an almost year long relationship with this girl named Kasey. So in a way I was the rebound, anyway about a month later he and I broke up.. so he could get back together with her.
Anyway within about two weeks I had another boyfriend, yes my rebound. But we broke up cause I still loved Joey, and thats the reason all my realtionships end when I end them. Joey has had three girlfriends since we broke up. He's single right now and so am I.
I still love him over a year later. I even dated his Best Friend to make him jealous. I don't know if I can ever get over him, when he has a girlfriend I just want to CLAW HER EYES OUT. It disgusts me to think of him and another girl dating. But now that he's single I want to tell him I really like him, and probably always will. I don't know if it is the right thing to do. I don't know what to do, does anyone have any advice? (link)
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That would be the best move to make right now. He would then know how you still feel for him and he can understand that. Then (if you want), you could give it another shot with him.
But wait if he's just come out of a realtionship, because coming out of one, then striaght back into another came be difficult for people because they need to get over their last one. That is what went wrong first time round, you were both just out of a realtionship and then all of a sudden your going out with another guy. Take some time off when you get out of a relationship so you can get over the last guy and then move onto the next.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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last night i had a dream,where there was a tornado coming towards my house and then i was across my room .I tried to yell to my mom but i couldn't hear anything come out of my mouth and i was trying to reach forward but it felt like something was holding me back to keep me from going forward tehn i just kepy sayin devil leave me alone and then i woke up and i gasped.. somebody said that dream was an experience of a witch riding my back.. i want to know y did it happen.......please help (link)
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Could it be that you're feeling an imbalance in life? From what i've read, i get the feeling that there is something troubiling you which you've not recognised yet and it's trying to attract your attention.
When you tried to yell for your mom, and nothing came out, i think it symbolises that this is something which you've got to deal with by yourself and the 'holding back' feeling is the un-resovled issue. The reason why you reached forward is becaus you want to move on with your life, but there is something holding you back.
As for the Tornado, here is a clipping which i found which could help:
"Tornado
To see a tornado in your dream, suggests that you are experiencing some extreme emotional outbursts and temper tantrums. Is there a situation or relationship in your life that may be potentially destructive?
To dream that you are in a tornado, signifies that you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control. You will be met with a series of disappointments for the next week or so. Your plans will be filled with complications.
To see several tornadoes in your dream, represent people around you who are prone to violent outbursts and shifting mood swings. It may also symbolize a volatile situation or relationship."
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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hey its lisa again from below, w/ the the josh thing or w/e.
i just dont know how to find out if he is interested. should i ask one of his friends? or call him and just ask if he wants to hang out? because we seriously like never ever talk. even when we went out we hadn't really even been friends so its just super hard. i guess whats the worst that could happen right? i just dont know which way to go with or when to do it? maybe over break so we dont see each other the very next day? i just dont even know where to start... (link)
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The best way to start i think is to know him. Start out as friends and get to know each other. Talk to each other more often, find out as much about him and give the same back to him so that the both of you can learn about each other.
Relationships can often start out when the couple are just frineds, then they begin to notice each other a bit more and then begin to have feelings for one and another.
Take it slowly and don't being to make a move just yet. Wait until you feel that you're ready and he's ready for a realtionship (but you've also got to bear in mind that he might not want to have a relationship. I don't mean to be cruel or anything but i don't know about him either or of his past, so i'm just trying to keep in mind about what he wants to do. If it's fine with him, great)
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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[13 year old FM.]
One time, my friend *Jackie and i went to a party together. When i got there, this boy had his arm around her.Aperantly, they were going out. I didn't know that. So when my dad picked me up, i asked her [when my dad wasnt there] when she and that boy started going out. She said a couple of days ago.
It turns out that my other friends knew it as well, before i did. When it happened to be exact. I dont know why she didn't tell me, do you think she doesnt want to be my friend anymore?
*i didn't use acually names.
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I wouldn't have thought so, because if she did, then she would've sent out different signs like excluding you from other things.
She might've just want to keep this relationship private with only a few people to know. She didn't exclude you, she just wanted to make sure that only a small handful of people wanted to know.
Tell her that she can trust you with things like this and that you can keep secrets (well, you can, can't you?)
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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im 16 and f, he is 16 also-lets call him josh...
ok, so last yr me and josh liked each other for a long time but i went out with josh last yr for only 2 wks. my parents made me break up with him for various reasons. a couple wks later we began talkin again and he went around telling peopl we wer together again so i told josh we weren't a couple at the moment. he got mad and we didnt talk for a month.we talked on IM over the summer, i told him again i couldnt hang out with him but that i really liked him. then we had a really big fight 2 weeks later over something stupid. we didnt talk for another month. i hung oout with another guy, he hung out with someone else. i ended mine and began texting him again. then he ended his relationship and we told each other we still liked each other and such. i assumed when school started we would be getting back together. the first day back he was a really big jerk so that ended. i went out with another guy and josh still continued to make remarks about me and texted me a few times. i broke up with my bf after 2 months. josh showed a few signs of liking me but i know he liked this other girl who was teasing him and then ditched him to get back with her ex. i know he thinks i am hot but we dont really talk much except for the occasional hello when we see each other or text when we need something.
that first day of school i immediately started to get over josh until i thought i was totally over him. ive hung out with other guys and stuff too but i haven't liked anyone seriously since him. ive realy been trying to find someone but no one is catching my heart (at all). and a couple of weeks ago i started to get feelings for him again, very gradually so i thought they would go away. But now its a new semester and i have study hall with him and i know its pathetic but im having trouble handling it.
today i heard his friend tell him to ask me back out again and he said yea, maybe i should. but he didnt of course. and i really want to get him back but i always have this thing in the back of my mind that when summer starts im going to ask him to hang out, and i am positive that will work, but he is a pretty desirable guy so im not sure he will still be single then, and it just seems so far away.
also, im not very popular. he is pretty popular. i mean, goodlooking guys like me. but i am not exactly in their "group". i have my own group of like 25 friends that only hang out with them every so often. so that makes it kind of hard. it also does not help me that he is so freaking hot. he also does some illegal things. which in my opinion is okay but its not good when your parents know about it.
so my question is what to do...should i wait til summer and date other guys? or i dont know... im not even sure if would date me right now though. i know we would make it work but even if we both like each other someone has to do something to find out because we both are way stubborn and i dont usually talk to my friends about him because it just all seems to pathetic for them to hear.
sorry sorry sorry it is soooo long. trust me, that's the shortest version i could come up with.
thanks, lisalove16 (link)
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Whoa, this is really difficult question. I took a look at it this morning and it's taken me this long to think of the answer.
All i can think of is, is to talk to him. Ask what feelings he has for you because he may be just as confused about his feelings about you as you do about him and see what he says, then you can decide what to do. Summer is a long way away, so what i would surgest is to give him another chance but this time, talk through the issues you've got because otherwise it will just end up in you two breaking up.
Talking and listerning to each other is what will help the two of you out here, nothing else will. Shouting doesn't resolve anything, it just makes things worse. Couples going through these stages of a relationship often can't handle these issues and break up. But i believe that the two of you can make it because you want to have him.
As for this illegal stuff, i assume that we're only talking about small things, right? If you're fine with it, that should be all that your parents need to know and should respect that. If it is little stuff, try and stop him from doing it, because then your parents would be more at ease with him and will allow you to date him.
Good luck with the future and feel free to e-mail me (triquetra_advice@hotmail.com) if there are any other problems.
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k…well I’m 16 and my boyfriends 17.
I am so in love with this boy, but sometimes I wonder if we can make it. I’m really not good at long distance relationships, and he moved 3 hours away from me. I’m really upset, and this has stressed me out to the point of sickness. I don’t want to lose him, but here lately we’ve been arguing a lot. And yesterday he really made me feel bad. But I don’t want to break up, we’ve been together for 13 months, btw. What should I do?
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Many people find long distant relationships difficult, but some have managed to find ways around it.
First about your stress. I think you're love sick; meaning that you're so in love with him that you are scared that you'll lose him and never see him again and it overwhelms you and you feel ill. There is no cure for this, it's all in a state of mind. Keep on thinking to yourself that you'll be with him always and i'll tell you how.
Heard of Skype? Well, it's a free internet service where you can talk to other people who've got Skype through the internet for free!! Why don't the both of you download it and see what you think of it (mind you, calling land lines does cost money). YOu can see each other through a webcam and the connection is so good, that you'll think that he's standing next to you. I've called my cousin in Australia and i've never heard the connection so good. Just go to www.skype.co.uk and download it for free. Tell your boyfriend to do the same and you can talk to each other as long as you want.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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