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guy dilemma.
im 16 and f, he is 16 also-lets call him josh...
ok, so last yr me and josh liked each other for a long time but i went out with josh last yr for only 2 wks. my parents made me break up with him for various reasons. a couple wks later we began talkin again and he went around telling peopl we wer together again so i told josh we weren't a couple at the moment. he got mad and we didnt talk for a month.we talked on IM over the summer, i told him again i couldnt hang out with him but that i really liked him. then we had a really big fight 2 weeks later over something stupid. we didnt talk for another month. i hung oout with another guy, he hung out with someone else. i ended mine and began texting him again. then he ended his relationship and we told each other we still liked each other and such. i assumed when school started we would be getting back together. the first day back he was a really big jerk so that ended. i went out with another guy and josh still continued to make remarks about me and texted me a few times. i broke up with my bf after 2 months. josh showed a few signs of liking me but i know he liked this other girl who was teasing him and then ditched him to get back with her ex. i know he thinks i am hot but we dont really talk much except for the occasional hello when we see each other or text when we need something.
that first day of school i immediately started to get over josh until i thought i was totally over him. ive hung out with other guys and stuff too but i haven't liked anyone seriously since him. ive realy been trying to find someone but no one is catching my heart (at all). and a couple of weeks ago i started to get feelings for him again, very gradually so i thought they would go away. But now its a new semester and i have study hall with him and i know its pathetic but im having trouble handling it.
today i heard his friend tell him to ask me back out again and he said yea, maybe i should. but he didnt of course. and i really want to get him back but i always have this thing in the back of my mind that when summer starts im going to ask him to hang out, and i am positive that will work, but he is a pretty desirable guy so im not sure he will still be single then, and it just seems so far away.
also, im not very popular. he is pretty popular. i mean, goodlooking guys like me. but i am not exactly in their "group". i have my own group of like 25 friends that only hang out with them every so often. so that makes it kind of hard. it also does not help me that he is so freaking hot. he also does some illegal things. which in my opinion is okay but its not good when your parents know about it.
so my question is what to do...should i wait til summer and date other guys? or i dont know... im not even sure if would date me right now though. i know we would make it work but even if we both like each other someone has to do something to find out because we both are way stubborn and i dont usually talk to my friends about him because it just all seems to pathetic for them to hear.
sorry sorry sorry it is soooo long. trust me, that's the shortest version i could come up with.
thanks, lisalove16
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Whoa, this is really difficult question. I took a look at it this morning and it's taken me this long to think of the answer.
All i can think of is, is to talk to him. Ask what feelings he has for you because he may be just as confused about his feelings about you as you do about him and see what he says, then you can decide what to do. Summer is a long way away, so what i would surgest is to give him another chance but this time, talk through the issues you've got because otherwise it will just end up in you two breaking up.
Talking and listerning to each other is what will help the two of you out here, nothing else will. Shouting doesn't resolve anything, it just makes things worse. Couples going through these stages of a relationship often can't handle these issues and break up. But i believe that the two of you can make it because you want to have him.
As for this illegal stuff, i assume that we're only talking about small things, right? If you're fine with it, that should be all that your parents need to know and should respect that. If it is little stuff, try and stop him from doing it, because then your parents would be more at ease with him and will allow you to date him.
Good luck with the future and feel free to e-mail me (triquetra_advice@hotmail.com) if there are any other problems.
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