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relationship advice...he moved
k…well I’m 16 and my boyfriends 17.
I am so in love with this boy, but sometimes I wonder if we can make it. I’m really not good at long distance relationships, and he moved 3 hours away from me. I’m really upset, and this has stressed me out to the point of sickness. I don’t want to lose him, but here lately we’ve been arguing a lot. And yesterday he really made me feel bad. But I don’t want to break up, we’ve been together for 13 months, btw. What should I do?
xOxO
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i think you should stay with him im 16 and my boyfriend is 17 to my mom hates my boyfriend and we only see eachother at school but we have been together for a year now we used to not be able to talk on the phone for about 6 months of our relationship and now i got my phone back my mom still hates my boyfriend but were truly in love and nothing can tear us apart. if your truly in love with this boy and hes truly in love with you have a talk see where you stand do you want to be together or are we wasting are time. you got to think ahead me and my bf had some troubles but we talked it over and he wants to be with me so just have a talk long distance relationships is real hard you got to have trust and true love if your relationship has them two things then your good o my email is lexygrl015@hotmail.com if you have any more questions hope this helps
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Many people find long distant relationships difficult, but some have managed to find ways around it.
First about your stress. I think you're love sick; meaning that you're so in love with him that you are scared that you'll lose him and never see him again and it overwhelms you and you feel ill. There is no cure for this, it's all in a state of mind. Keep on thinking to yourself that you'll be with him always and i'll tell you how.
Heard of Skype? Well, it's a free internet service where you can talk to other people who've got Skype through the internet for free!! Why don't the both of you download it and see what you think of it (mind you, calling land lines does cost money). YOu can see each other through a webcam and the connection is so good, that you'll think that he's standing next to you. I've called my cousin in Australia and i've never heard the connection so good. Just go to www.skype.co.uk and download it for free. Tell your boyfriend to do the same and you can talk to each other as long as you want.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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What do you think you should do? I don't know that anyone can sit down and just tell you that you should either stick it out or run, we don't have enough information. What I don't want is you feeling stressed. I have done long distance several times in my marriage, my husband went to the middle east for a year and then to another state for several months, it's rough and it's so hard to be reassuring when you're unable to see them.. having a relationship with a voice over the phone is demanding, demeaning, and quite frankly almost doomed if you're not completly comitted.
I guess my questions for you are a) is he coming back? b) when will you be able to be able to be together? Things like that. Is there a light at the end of this tunnel or are you just torturing yourselves because you're so stuck on him? If he's not coming back then I suggest that you break it up, remain in contact, and live life knowing that if you're meant to be together then you two will be together LATER. If it is meant to be then he will come back to you and you'll be able to pick right up. I don't know that anyone can expect you to put your life on hold at such a young age if they aren't sure it's going to work out for you two.
I suggest that you have a conversation with him about what you two really expect to get out of this situation now and later. At that age if you're not planning on being married you're almost certainly doomed and to boot it's impacting your health.
I know this will be a difficult conversation and I'm sorry. Remember, everything in life worth having is worth working for. Blessed Be.
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Long distnace relationships can be hard, but I give you major props for sticking it out because it means you truly love him :] and that is soo cute. And he is probably stressed from the move and being 3 hours away is a long way from his home...so he is probably arguing with you because of the stress of the move, and he is taking it out on you, which is unfortunate, but just be there for him. If you don't want to break up with him, tell him how you feel, that long distance relationships aren't your thing, but you are willing to be in one because you love him soo much. Just talk to him and he'll listen, and he probably needs to hear this from you because he is probably feeling down because you're not by him anymore. Maybe even set up a date when you will see eachother, so you both have something to look forward to together :]
Good luckk
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