This is a pretty long question, but you can look at the last paragraph which basically is the question. The rest is background information.
When I was 15, I was diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa and had to go to a rehabilitation centre to recover. When I entered rehab, I was 30 kg (Around 67 pounds). When I left, I was 45 kg (Around 99 pounds), which I maintained as my weight for 2 years.
Now, I try to take care of my body more. I've always been pretty fit since I've been taking dance lessons since I was 4 and yoga since I was 11. I recently took up pilates and joined my school track team. And lost 3 kg (Around 7 pounds).
My mum is now convinced I am still anorexic and is going to send me back to rehab after I turn 17. I don't want to go back, but my mother won't believe it when I said I wasn't anorexic. She refuses to reason or even listen.
I have tried to eat more to prove her wrong, but she just believes I am binging (eating large amounts of food now and starving myself later), which is completely false.
I also have a therapist who notes what I eat daily, which I think is pretty extreme. And, basically, all she does it force me to eat more and more.
I'm scared I actually will gain weight to the point where I resort back to anorexia, which I do not want to happen. Please help to make my mum see I am not anorexic without giving up the physical programs I love or stuffing myself silly!
You might not be eating enough to counter all of the physical activities you are doing. You are probably doing 4 times the amount of exercise than the average American for sure.
The therapist is just trying to show you what is actually going in your mouth. They also use that technique to get people to lose weight. I know everybody has probably told you this, but if you can just have smaller meals at greater intervals you won't feel overly full. If you choose your snacks wisely, you will still be healthy. You could probably still gain a few pounds and still look great. Being healthy is more than just a number, its also how you feel.
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i just lost my virginity nd now im freakin out cuz we were dumbasses nd didnt use ne thin i forget wen i last had my period nd i don remember wen im supposed to get it next nd im like freakin out bout maybe bein pregnant or sumthin wut r my chances of bein pregnant?? i kno that there is a chance cuz theres always a chance but like is it a big chance or a small chance lol idk im freakin out so sumone lemme kno! thnx!!!
It does not matter whether his semen is inside you or he pulled out before he came. You could still be pregnant. Get to the doctor fast.
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I made some muffins the other day, and sprayed some Pam on the muffin trays before putting the batter in. Whatever butter was not covered by muffin batter burned onto the pan. I've scrubbed it three times in a row, but it will not come off, yet it still feels slightly sticky. Does anyone have a trick to cleaning burned butter off of a pan?
Heat up the pan and trying putting some ice on it to break the stain from the pan and scrub like crazy.
If you don't have a teflon coated pan, you could use an SOS pad (steel wool pad with soap in it).
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I want to move school. but i asked my mom & she said that i can`t move. i really want to because i hate it so much & i just want to leave that school straight away like now.. how can i convince her to let me move?
Learning to deal with adversity and doing things you don't want is a hard, but good lesson. You are going to have to find something good about your school and pour yourself into it. Mine was theatre. Yours could be a club, debate team, a trivia team, or some other rewarding experience. Even volunteering in the libarary might help you cope. Just be creative in dealing with your problem. After a while, it won't be so bad. Besides Thanksgiving is coming up and you can do something fun for a little bit.
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For starters in 14/f... I did something really bad with a friend's boyfriend. About a month or so ago, my bf and I broke up after dating all summer because he liked her, we'll call her Sam. I knew she led him on and that's why he was being such an idiot towards me. (He was my first real bf, him being 16) I couldn't take the jealousy anymore, and after we broke up she still talked to him and lead him on, even when she was dating one of my friends, call him Bob. About a week ago Bob, 2 of my other friends, and I were all hanging out. I don't know how it happened, but i was still so upset with Sam for doing what she did, and I don't have feelings for Bob or anything, but I gave him head just because that was something we both wanted to get out of the way for the first time. (While the other 2 friends did the same thing too..)
Everything was okay, and I regretted it but we all agreed not to tell *anyone* and forget it ever happened... Bob slipped to one of his friends and Sam found out. Now she's so mad and I don't blame her. Now, the ex that I've been trying to patch things up with won't talk to me, and Sam only blames me for what happened. I'm an awful person I know that... I should never have done that to her, but it was just all so hard after stealing my bf from me. Someone please just help me here.
Nothing like a breach of trust made worse with an act of skankiness. All you can do is apologize for what you did. I would move on and remember that two people can keep a secret if one of them is dead. Consider it a lesson learned and knowledge of the fact of "checking things off my sex list" has real life consequences.
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Ok. I want to lose 100 pounds or more in about 1 -3 years. Will this make me lose 100 pounds. For breakfast all I eat is cereal. Then I have gym for 4th period. Which 2/5 days I walk about a mile or more. For lunch I have a sprite and sometimes chips. Then for dinner I have whatever my parents make. Then after dinner I do 35 sit ups, 50 squats. 30 jumping jacks. Also, I do watch what I eat. I drink water most the time and sometimes Ill have a pop. I usally only have 1 pop a day. Is there anything else I should do to help me? And do you think that'll make me lose 100 pounds in 1 - 3 years? Ok thanks.
There is nothing wrong with cereal unless its loaded with sugar SUCH AS CHEERIOS. Put some fruit on that if you can. The stuff that Kashi makes gives you extra fiber, and it tastes pretty good. Use low fat milk. Sprite and chips have tons of sugar in them. That's like 400 calories right there. You could have 3 veggies and a lean meat for that! Especially if they didn't have butter and remember that beans and pasta are starches to be used sparingly since you already used one starch for breakfast. Keep it under 1000 calories and you will lose weight. I don't know how long it will take, but since you are already exercising it should start to come off soon. Just be patient.
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my friend smokes. and shes 13. she knows i hate it but still does it anyway. and in front of me too! i reli want her to stop. she stoped for a little while n nows she starting! ive treid everything! i lectured her about ive told the pl seh gets them from to not giv her ne. but its not working! how can i convince her to stop. and dont sey let her live her life the way she wants!
thanks....
Ok so she is totally in denial. Have you tried find pictures of exactly what smoking does to your lungs? Its pretty gross compared to what a healthy lung looks like. Or is there someone you know who has to use oxygen tanks to breathe because of their smoking habit. Get them to talk to her or if you have a nurse at school.
If she doesn't get the picture, there isn't much else you can do except pray she quits.
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I am 13/f
I have a friend. We'll call her "N". Well N is very moody sometimes. And, yes, I do know about PMS but its everyday. It seems like shes nice to me on and off or when she wants to be. I don't know if she is using me or anything but she just sometimes have this attitude when I talk to her. She doesn't listen or look like she is. And thats one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. But then she talks to me about her day and everything. And I listen and set the example. I think my friend is personally full of herself in ways cuz she thinks she can have any guy she wants and can be conceeded at times. And then calls herself the ugliest thing or not that pretty. (and she is absolutly soooo pretty) It bothers me cause she brings me down. I can never talk to her about my problems. But I have to listen to her?
Please help me
What should I say or do? Because she is very nice but the thing I just typed above..I want to stay her friend.
xo0x :)
She might have problems you don't even know about. Ok so you are the listening friend. It could be that you are the only one she can talk to. If you are having problems with her looking into your eyes when you talk, this is what one of my friends said to me: "If you look into my eyes, I know that you are being honest with me and yourself. If you believe what you are saying is important, please look me in the face." I had no idea I was doing it.
She has a small self esteem problem. You could tell her how upset it makes you that she keeps putting herself down.
As far as your problems, try to bring them up, but you might just have to find another listener to talk to. I have a friend that likes to talk but eventually I did get my two words in and we exchange a lot better than we used to. Keep trying.
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This is kind of wierd and I don't mean to be all snooty when I say it...
I love to go shopping, I love going to get my toenails done, I love going out to eat at fancy restaurants. But the thing is, my friends hate doing that kind of stuff. I would be like "Lets go get our toes done!" and they would be like "lol, No, thats stupid". I DO admit it. I'm the stereotypical 'Californian' girl who...spends money and goes to the beach and stuff. But is that bad? My friends never like doing that stuff... and I feel stupid. Its not like they don't have the money. We all have the money to do that stuff, they just think its stupid. What should I do? It seems like I'm the only "preppy" girl at school and I don't fit in with anyone. Yet I've lived in my town for 16 years...so its not like I just moved here and don't fit in. I'm just different. Is there anything I can do to convince my friends? How should I handle it? Because it kind of sucks... and I listen to like, Ashlee Simpson, Hilary Duff, and everyone hates those people... I feel so out of the loop, and yet I don't want to be in the loop...I want people to come to my loop....
Have you thought about trying to meet new people at one of the pedicure shops you frequent? It would be easier to meet a friend that is already doing it.
Maybe you should ask some people you don't know if they like to do those sort of things. It's ok to be different. Somebody somewhere is a closet Ashlee Simpson fan, you just have to figure out who.
You might be able to convince one friend and who knows they could get hooked. Offer to pay for their service (I know this can be expensive but at least you won't be a slave to the magazine pile.) I personally like to have my toes painted once in a while simply because I cannot keep my fingernails painted due to work, but I hate bubblegum pop stars. I am not supposed to like them anyway.
So just keep digging, and you will find them
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My mom is a cancer survivor--breast cancer and skin cancer. recently, a friend of her's son was diagnost with a sever type of cancer. He has to go through kemo and stuff. We're going to do stuff for his family, but thats not my concern
my concern is with my mother. she's been really worried and depressed about him since she found out on saturday. everytime she starts to talk about my future or about happiness she starts to cry, and says how unfair it is for a child to have to deal with that. she tells me almost everyday she wouldn't care how many times she had to go through cancer so i wouldn't have to. she says that she wouldn't know what the hell she'd do if anything happened to me or my sister.
i'm worried about her. is that normal? is there something i can say to her to make her feel better?
sorry this is long.
She is feeling empathy for her friend. She knows what it like to live throught chemo and all of the effects it has on her. It's normal to a point. If it continues long term, she might need to seek a therapist. Just help her with some of things she is doing for her friend's son, it is part of her "grieving" process. Doing things for other people when you feel bad usually helps you as much as the other person. Keep her busy.
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So my boyfriend and I, both almost 18, were together for nearly 11 months, virtually every single day. We were inseparable. We'll both be going to college next year, and we were planning on moving somewhere away and finding an apartment together. There was even tentative talk of marriage. I felt like I could really see where my future was headed. I was so completely in love.
But then he tells me, one month ago tomorrow, that it's just not working out. He says he doesn't feel the same anymore, and that he can't give his whole life to me. I was completely devastated and cried for days straight.
He's the most wonderful person I've ever met. We share our group of friends, so we agreed that we would both try our best to stay friends and avoid awkwardness, and forcing people to choose sides.
So I'm still around him all the time, and every time I see him or talk to him, I'm just reminded of all the reasons I fell in love with him and everything that I've lost. It just sends me spiralling into sadness all over again.
But he's helped me so much with so many things. He brightens my day, and he's a genuinely good person. I don't blame him at all for what happened. I can't bear to lose him completely, but how else can I get these thoughts and feelings out of my head?!
Go do something else. Concentrate on getting good grades and going to college. College is a whole new ball game, and new situations and experiences happen. If he really cares, he will be back. It will take at least twice the time you were together to get over him.
You might just need to lead a separate life for a little while.
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ok, i have been going out with this guy for maybe 2 and a half weeks. then i keep seeing him talking to this other girl that already has a bf. so i didn't think about it but now he is writing stuff on his hand saing stuff like i love then someones name but he won't let me or my friends c. then his friend said he wrote i love then then the girls name who he was talking 2, but he said he wrote my name....who do i believe and how do i know if i am going to get dumped? HELP ASAP!
If you can't trust him, maybe you should think about cleaning house and getting a new boyfriend. He is being silly and rude.
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17f...hey im really really really close with my mom...shes been dating this one guy for like 3 years..they were SUCCCH an unstable couple though like they argued and broke up like every week...my mom even called the police on him once because the fight was so big..he has so much money though its crazy...parts of me thinks thats one of the reasons why my mom is with him..but neway i HATE this guy and my mom knows it..theyve called eachother sooo many names when they fight..it was such a dramatic relationship..im like a fucked up kid from it now because ive witnessed all of it..wheneever they would "break up" he would ALWAYS call my mom begging for her back and saying how sorri he is and blahblah..then they would get back together..theyve gone thru counciling, all of it..the thing is they "broke up" like a month and a half ago and he hasnt called her like once..my mom is SO DEPRESSED off it now..be4 when they would break up she would be like i dont want that asshole, blahblahblahblah..now since shes being rejected i guess she is soo sad..ive tried talking to her and telling her the obvious: its not a healthy relationship, u 2 agrue too much, etcetcetc...but she doesnt get it..i dunno how to help her..they ARENT right for eachother and i DONT want them to get back together..any tips on how i could help her move on?
They say love is blind for a reason. I wouldn't worry about them getting back together for the moment. The point is that they aren't together right now. Spend some time hanging out with your mom and do some "girl friend" things together. It will get you closer to her and you can tell her a little about what you have been feeling about her relationship. If these fights continue, I would try finding a different guardian to live with because its not safe for you to live in that kind of environment.
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Okay.. i have had a secret that only my really good friends know but im not going to tell what it is. Well, in skool one day this kid chase shouted it out loud and everyone looked at me. I asked him who said it and he said it was my bestfriend! Well she promised she didnt do it so i forgave her and she told me my other friend jade said it.. but now i heard that this girl that i really dont like her name is shelby she told 2 of my friends that didnt know and i didnt even tell shelby about it my other friend shannon did. Today we were in s/s and my other friend amanda told me she said it! Im just so confused! should i be mad at all these people or should i just let it go?? please help!
A secret can only be kept by two people if one of them is dead.
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I think my best friend might be in an abusive relationship. Sorry if this is long, but I really need some advice... Its really important
Last year around this time, my friend met a guy. She had been in other realtionshops before, but this one was "different". She actually told me she loved him, and she lost her virginity to him also. They spent absolutley every minute together, and he would go with us everywhere...even when the girls went out for my birthday...he HAD to come. He showed up, on my birthday, at my house, with a rose. I thought you know, how nice of him...to bring me a rose in my birthday. But he gave me a dirty look, and told me "no, its for meg". He's not really social, and honestly, doesn't have any friends. All winter was like this. total obsession, sickening. So around the beginning of june, me and the girls took her out...and we got a little drunk. She kissed a guy, but only a peck. She felt guilty and immedatley told "him", who in return, flipped out completley. Dispite my harsh feelings for this guy, me and my friend would talk to him online and treat him as if he were our friends, even if it meant telling him how meg was decieving him...because, after all, she was cheating on him. So during the summer, she had a party. They had broken up for the summer, of course another meg thing to do, break it off so she could do whatever she wanted all summer. This night, though, was different. She was still telling him she loved him, and that they would get togheter, and the night before, they went to a concert togheter and he claimed it was the greatest day they had shared. Meg threw a party at her house, and her old boyfriend showed up. Jon found out and walked 2 miles to her house, knocked on her door and he answered. He flipped out, and punched him. He also punched a wall and shattered his knuckle. The first person he called was me, because i,at this time, did feel bad. He came in my house, around 1am...and i bandaged up his hand, which was completley out of line. I didn't want to attend this party because I didnt want to be involved with the concequences, but actually i was at the bitter end. Meg got drunk and had sex with her ex. Me and my friend dana didn't know what to do, at this time we were both good friends with jon, and we hated to see him hurt. So, we told him, adh he swore to secrecy he wouldnt tell. And he didn't, he lied that he found out another way. But they got back togheter, after all this, i can't even explain. Now that school started again, he doenst even talk to me, he igonres me and my friend totaly. He leaves her 10 messages on her voicemail a day. They are always together...still...despite all this. He throws chairs and gets mad and yells at her and they are still together. At first we thought it was cute, now its just turned in to this obsession. I dont even think he cares about her ..he just needs to feel secure. So this is where we stand. Our health class teacher told us these are all signs of an abusive relationship...but she won't listen. I need to do something...but what? Ive tried everything...please help me and thank you SO MUCH for reading this.
Ok, I have been here. See if you can get the health class officer to talk to her alone. Tell the officer what you told us. Then you have to wait until he does something so invasive that she comes to her senses. The ball is in her court as to what to do. It is a mentally abusive relationship and could lead to something much worse.
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okay i have this friend named gerri and well she has this bf named paul!! okay so my friends and i we go to skool together and we drive in a car!! so anyway my friend gerri calls paul in the morning on the cell phone in front of us!! and we're like that's rude so she is like turn down the radio and i tell the driver don't turn it down cuz it's wicked rude she is talking on the phone in the first place!! well yesterday she ((gerri)) was on her cell phone in the caferteria at lunch with the rest of us sittin' there!! i told her to get off but she won't!! and i gave her the dirtiest looks but she didn't get off her damn phone!! how can i tell her to stop using her damn phone to talk to her bf infront of us and how can i tell her to stop talkin about him because she is liked obssessed with him??
Get up and move away. If she is obviously ignoring your prescence, turn away and do something else. Hopefully, she'll get a clue.***********OK plan B. Everyone take out their cell phone and either call one another or fake it when she is talking to you (and not on the phone). Some people just don't know how rude they are.
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Do diet pills really work? I know there not healthy or anything. But i was thinking that if I went to my doctor they could perscribe me some healthy diet pills. Has anyone ever took them or a family/friend? And did it actually work. And yes I DO need to lose weight. Not a little about 100 pounds or so by next september or december. --And im also talking about the diet pills you can by in the stores. Thanks!
Diet pills generally aren't good for you and don't work. I feel your pain. I have lost about 12 pounds changing the way I eat and doing some exercise. I could stand to lose 100 myself. In fact, I have got to cut my cholestrol and salt intake, pronto.
Would you like to challenge to see who can lose the most weight in about 3 months? I am having probably the same motivational problems you are. Mostly I am just so busy.
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Okay i am really good friends with my boyfriend and we've been going out since about 4 months ago. (we were friends first) Lately it hasnt been is fun dating him as it was at first, he used to wait for me outside my classes and talked to me SOOOO much more. I really think we need to break up, but i still want to be friends. How do i go about doing this? -kelly
I agree with telling him, but be prepared for a little amount of time when he won't be as friendly. It's normal, but you two will be friends in the end.
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I absolutely love Christmas! I absolutely think its the bets time of year, and i begin celebrating it around the begining of november. Christmas goes by soo fast, why wait to decorate and listen to Christmas music and begin the christmas cheer? I feel like i'm the only one who feels like this..is there anybody else??
You know you could make some good money off of your obsession. People have little time to decorate. Place an ad and see if they might let you do it for them. Or you could be a window dresser for a department store.
Personally, I can stand it when people start decorating before Thanksgiving, but Christmas should be celebrated every day.
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ok, well, i was babysitting the other night for these people and they were each going off to do their own thing. well, the mom left first, and the dad was supposedly leaving pretty quickly after, but instead he hung around for awhile. i was like, ok, um..why am i here if youre gonna sit around? well, i soon found out. he wasnt going anywhere. he put his kids in thier bedroom while i was cleaning something up, and he came up behind me and started grabbing me. he told me that if i yelled, hed kill me. well, i punched him where the sun dont shine and he let me go, but im sure that if i hadnt got away, he would have attacked me. but now i dont know what to do. he didnt rape me or anything, so should i really tell someone about it? all he did was grab me. they cant put you in jail for that, can they? im just wondering what i need to do about him....im supposed to go babysit again next week, and i cant exactly tell her why i dont wanna do it..so...HELP PLEASE
Tell your mom what happened. He did do something called sexual assault. You don't need to be there alone with him. It might sound cool to try to catch him red handed, but it puts you in a too dangerous situation. Don't go there again.
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