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Getting over my first love
So my boyfriend and I, both almost 18, were together for nearly 11 months, virtually every single day. We were inseparable. We'll both be going to college next year, and we were planning on moving somewhere away and finding an apartment together. There was even tentative talk of marriage. I felt like I could really see where my future was headed. I was so completely in love.
But then he tells me, one month ago tomorrow, that it's just not working out. He says he doesn't feel the same anymore, and that he can't give his whole life to me. I was completely devastated and cried for days straight.
He's the most wonderful person I've ever met. We share our group of friends, so we agreed that we would both try our best to stay friends and avoid awkwardness, and forcing people to choose sides.
So I'm still around him all the time, and every time I see him or talk to him, I'm just reminded of all the reasons I fell in love with him and everything that I've lost. It just sends me spiralling into sadness all over again.
But he's helped me so much with so many things. He brightens my day, and he's a genuinely good person. I don't blame him at all for what happened. I can't bear to lose him completely, but how else can I get these thoughts and feelings out of my head?!
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start hanging out with other guys that could be potential crushes. it will get your mind off him and you could end up with someone who really is comitted to you..
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make a dart thing with his face on it with his current gf, then throw darts at it.
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the only way to get over feelings is to try to forget about it. this situation sounds extremely hard to handle, like a divorce or a death of the family. if u feel so bad about it, then tell him and ask him if u can still be good friends. hope i helped ya!
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they'll leave of their own accord, it's just going to take time. maybe you'll find a guy that's even better for you. afterall, if he wasn't the one for you and you still thought he was perfect, imagine how amazing it's going to be when you find the one that really is forever. best of luck chica, it's just gonna take a while
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ok.... i did the same thing to my boyfriend that he did to you about 2 days ago... we had been together for about 10 months... my whole family loved him and i just figured im too young to be with one person for so long and that i was gonna like look around you know.... but i already miss him sooo much so if you guys really felt strongly about each other then trust me he'll come crawling back to you
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Go do something else. Concentrate on getting good grades and going to college. College is a whole new ball game, and new situations and experiences happen. If he really cares, he will be back. It will take at least twice the time you were together to get over him.
You might just need to lead a separate life for a little while.
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It's only been a month. You're feelings aren't going to go away that fast. I'm young and I do know what it's like to be and love and then everything you've worked for come crashing down in a split second. You were in love with him and it's hard to forget someone that you were in love with. It's good that you've decided to be friends still and yes, it is awkward being around someone that was once yours and now he isn't. It's going to hurt for a while, and I'm not going to tell you that you'll get over it soon enough because then I'd be lying and I can't lie in this situation. It's going to take some time to get over him. You'll never be completely over him, no one is ever completely over someone they loved. As time goes on, you'll learn to live without their love, it's going to suck major ASS for a while, but you WILL find someone who is going to love you unconditionally and be there for you through everything. You'll find that someone, you just haven't found him yet. Let nature take it's course, be patient. "A watched pot never boils" Just give it time. It's going to hurt, I know it is but all you have to do is think of the friendship you'll have. You can't show him that your hurting though. You don't have to lose him completely, you can still have him there for you as a friend. You WILL find someone, I PROMISE. You won't be able to get the thoughts and feelings out of your head, you can't ever stop loving someone, you just have to learn to live without them loving you. You will be fine, and again, you will find someone for you. I hope you feel better and I hope this has helped.
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Well, at least your still friends. It's a bummer when these things happen! As time goes on those feelings anf thoughts will fade, it will take time though.
hope everything works out!
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he just needs time to think, and if he doesnt trulh wanna be with you nemore, you shouldnt force someone to
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aww... poor u! it really kind of helps to be sad about it, i know u dont wanna forget about him but jus try to find someone else. it may hurt for awile but eventually u'll get over it! hope i helped ~stef~
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You need to find someone new. You know that a relationship with him wont work out so you need to start looking for new guys. Is there any co-workers, class-mates, etc. that you might like or want to get to know better? if yeah, go for it..you need to see new people and when your with the new person you wont be in pain anymore.
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