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my friend smokes. and shes 13. she knows i hate it but still does it anyway. and in front of me too! i reli want her to stop. she stoped for a little while n nows she starting! ive treid everything! i lectured her about ive told the pl seh gets them from to not giv her ne. but its not working! how can i convince her to stop. and dont sey let her live her life the way she wants!
thanks....
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when she smokes round u leave let ehr c hwo u dotn liek ti she'll soon realize taht it affects teh ppl she hangs out w. n shoudl stop btu if she doesnt tell sum1 (an adult) cus wut she is doin is dangerous n she coudl kill her self!!!
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well tell her or just write a letter to her saying that u will not be her friend if she smokes and acts like that cause it is not worth a friend ship. hopeful if she is really best friends with u then she would stop. and if she will not stop then well do not hang with her cause u will know then she is not a good friend my friends friend had that promble so i told her t she write a letter saying to stop or u will roning tear our frind ship apart and she stoped smoking and drinking
so i hope this works k
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well i can relate cuz i have the same prob. or i did well... me and my x bf had alot of prob. like this u no i dont drink or do drugs or steal or any of that i stay out of that stuff u no i have fun in life and i point that out to her and you need to do the same jus let her know that it gives her yellow teeth and stinks and isnt very attractive at all and get some guys opinions on that to like maybe ones she likes and just ask her not to do it around you and that'd maybe help and tell her that you just want her to respect u and not do that in front of you
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Ok so she is totally in denial. Have you tried find pictures of exactly what smoking does to your lungs? Its pretty gross compared to what a healthy lung looks like. Or is there someone you know who has to use oxygen tanks to breathe because of their smoking habit. Get them to talk to her or if you have a nurse at school.
If she doesn't get the picture, there isn't much else you can do except pray she quits.
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tell her parents, its really dangerous
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her problem not urz.
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Tell her she's really retarded.
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Mk, if being around you is what she really likes to do, then stop and tell her "look, if your going to smoke, then I wont hang around you anymore." And stick to that. Yea, its gonna be a hard thing to do, but if that is what it takes to make her stop, then it'll make you feel alot better!
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Hi Sweetie,
I know you're worried about her-it's only natural! Unfortunately there comes a time when you've done all you could do. I suggest a few more efforts before waiting for her final decision (to keep smoking or to stop). After all it is HER decision.
There was a word you used I didn't really like. "Lecture". I understand why you'd do it but... I personally hate it when my friends lecture me. It's like a million times worst then when your parents or teachers do because you're frinds are supposed to... NOT lecture you. BUT I understand the issue is more delicate here... it's smoking.
Instead of telling her what smoking can cause her physically tell her... how its chnaging her. Tell her how people are noticing her odd smell (this was an example)... remind her that you care about her. You may want to share stories about people that you know who smoked and regreted it later.
After you've done all you could you'll be face with one last choice. You could tell someone (like the school councler or something). I know this sounds awful but sometimes its the best thing that could happen to you (I know, its happened to me). If you don't want to do this it's okay-I wouldn't either. What I would do is stay away and if she asks why or showed she care I'd tell her its because she smokes. Either way I'd stay away and just hope she does the right decision... perhaps from time to time remind her I'm still hoping she wants to get better.
I'm sorry I couldn't really help. I just hope somebody could. Best wishes to you and to your friend. ~Blessed Be...
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hey my ex bf used to smoke around me...when id be hangin out with him id just walk away n leave when hed smoke aruond me...hed b lyke o wats wrong? id just say i have asthma n i dun lyke when u smoke around me it makes me coff...when ur fiend lights one up just LEAVE! and if she askz where ur going just b lyke o i dun lyke smelling the smoke sry ill come back when ur done...n just kinda avoid her when she does it...around her tell her her clothes stink frum smoke n stuff....u could also search on the web n put a poster together with all the dangerous health risks and cancers related to smoking....buy her sum nicorette and say its a present! jsut tell her she needs to stop!
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Well, I know that story and you can't tell your friend what to do. What you can do is approach her and tell her you'd appreciate it if she didn't do it around you or talk about it either. If she wants to do it, let her experience it for herself. But don't feel the need to start because she is doing it. As for the guy giving them to her, he is an ass. He is 18 or older and selling them to young girls, not right. She needs to make mistakes as do you, but you can't force her to live the life you want! Sorry, but it's the truth. Comfront her as well, tell her how you feel, but don't make a scene because then she won't be able to trust you. Hope this helped *Laney*
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Tell her you care, and that you won't be able to be friends w/ her if she won't stop (unless thats not true.) Tell her the least she could do is not smoke around you, then hang around her a lot more to ween her off of it. I know you don't want to hear this, so I won't say it, I'll type it. Let her live her life. The only way to learn is to make mistakes. But when it's 3am and she realizes she made a huge mistake, and comes to you asking for advice, or forgiveness, or help, then HELP!!! If you fought over this, and she comes to you for help, be there. The most you can do is be there. Ask her why she does it. And if it actually get so serious where she's REALLY REALLY REALLY harming herself, ask a teacher abou it. Tell a trusted adult. Tell her fave teacher, tell your fave teacher that you're worried about a friend, and need advice on how to help her. Good luck with this. <3 K a t e <3
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