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I'm worried about my mom . . . sorry if this is long
My mom is a cancer survivor--breast cancer and skin cancer. recently, a friend of her's son was diagnost with a sever type of cancer. He has to go through kemo and stuff. We're going to do stuff for his family, but thats not my concern
my concern is with my mother. she's been really worried and depressed about him since she found out on saturday. everytime she starts to talk about my future or about happiness she starts to cry, and says how unfair it is for a child to have to deal with that. she tells me almost everyday she wouldn't care how many times she had to go through cancer so i wouldn't have to. she says that she wouldn't know what the hell she'd do if anything happened to me or my sister.
i'm worried about her. is that normal? is there something i can say to her to make her feel better?
sorry this is long.
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Your mom..has had a brush wiht death.
To a parent..losing a child is the most horrific thing that can happen.
She is using all the fear that hse has been going through and putting it on that childs cancer.
Tell ehr you love her..tell her that SHe survived it..why not this child. Tell her that getting so upset..will only make her feel sick..
if she really wants to help...help the child and the family..give her something to do so that she is not siting around thinking of death. Haver her cook something..take the child somewhere..donate her time to the cancer society..antyhing..that is PROACTIVE..not reactive.
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people w/cancer are so unlucky. my grandma died of cancer b4 i wuz born so i kno. its hard 2 deal w/chemo. and all the stuff u gotta go through. being depressed is normal bcuz there isnt a whole lot worse u can get after ur diagnosed w/cancer. u can always comfort her by telling her that she wuz lucky 2 survive and that u and ur sister dont plan on goin anywhere anytime soon. hope i helped ya!
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yes it is normal. i know 2 people with cancer 1 with breast cancer and i dont remember the other cancer well they cried when they told me everything i was crying also because they told me how life was going to be when they pass......i dont like to think about it but i am a supporter of ppl with cancer so if you need to talk im me at greekouzo4me123 on aim.
hope i helped
peace
xoxo
Lia
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She is feeling empathy for her friend. She knows what it like to live throught chemo and all of the effects it has on her. It's normal to a point. If it continues long term, she might need to seek a therapist. Just help her with some of things she is doing for her friend's son, it is part of her "grieving" process. Doing things for other people when you feel bad usually helps you as much as the other person. Keep her busy.
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u can talk to her about, say somethink like i know how hard it is but if anything dose happen u will noit have to worrie about it untill then.
thereis not a relly big thinmg to it she is a parent wut can ya do?
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