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what does it mean when your boyfriend who is also a single father is so defensive of his ex and his kid and keeps bringing up splitting up when you argue. guy's point of view please. thanks



Any single parent you date are package deals, When you began to date him you signed yourself up to except that he has a bigger responsibility in his life, his child.

This man is defensive because his ex is the mother of his chil. What exactly where the arguments about? Where they about his ex or child?.. Understandably he will jump to defense.

This doesn't mean he is attracted to his ex, Does he love her? Probably. Likely he loves her as a person who is raising his child. This man's main priority is to be a role model and father figure. The child will always be the number one. Unfortunately, It's up to you whether you can handle that or not.

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I'm a 13 year old girl and I am reeeaaaalllyyyy horny right now! I am a virgin but I masturbate and watch porn. I want to f*** a guy my age.. anyone interested??



This is NOT a dating site

Please consider the dangers of advertising for sex....
Also, Please educate yourself properly on sexual education.

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I am 15 and my boyfriend is always pressuring me about sex, what should I do?



Dump him

A boyfriend that appreciate you as a person will respect your values. Someone who pressures someone isn't only veing a bully but doesn't truly respect you or your feelings. Unfortunately, Sometimes we learn where we stand when someone begins to constantly nag or put someone under peer pressure. Time to end it

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So I'm a female and I am thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. I'm kind of shy and I can't really ask anyone I know but....on a scale from 1-10 how much does it hurt the first time? And what kind of hurt is it? If it's one of those questions that varies, then sorry for even asking, but I'm curious. Please and thank you!



I don't really get this question when it is asked...

I lost my virginity and experienced no pain at all. I don't even know why this question is so important to others as I feel it's sweating the small stuff.

What's important is that you are ready and you trust the person. Not who took your virginity and when.

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my boyfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago. The first week, I was in devastation. Being only 14, it was difficult for me to handle all of it, as I loved him alot. But then one day, I overheard his conversation with one of my friends ( she allowed me to be on confrence while I heard him talk about some other girl and totally random stuff.) When asked about me, he would answer with impatience in his voice. From that day on, till today I haven't picked up the phone to call him once. He told my bestfriend that "I couldn't sleep for a week, whatever anyone says I will always have a soft corner for you and that I am not myself." What is wrong with this guy? Why does each and every move of his hurt me so much? I am angry at him, really angry. I don't think he ever did love me for the four months that we dated, and usually I spend my time being happy. But there are still moments where I miss him. Why do I miss him if he doesn't miss me? What are his reasons for behaving like this? I know I haven't moved on but how long will it take for me to look at his face and not feel anything?



Breakups aren't easy for anyone, They take time to get over and more then 2 weeks.

You see, Some move on faster then others. I know you don't want to hear this but you both are young. No 14 year old is serious about a relationship at that age, It's just the way it is. I didn't settle down until I was 24 years old. Have I ever been through a breakup? Yes. I have been through it many times. It helped me grow and to become a stronger and better person. My advice, Don't sweat it too much. The last thing you should ever do is be friends or in contact with an ex as it leads to chaos. An ex is an EX which means someone from the past. This boy may like another girl but I promise you, She isn't forever. Focus on you, Don't allow a boy to drag you down as like I said you are both young and there will be many more coming and going.

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When I'm looking at myself, I see myself as a normal to chubby girl, but actually I'm underweight. I can't guess anymore what's normal, what's a attractive person, what's a normal meal.

Any examples for those points???


To view yourself to be something you are not is a sign of someone who suffers from an eating disorder.

You may want to talk to a doctor or a nutritionist.

Healthy meals include 3 balanced meals a day.

Fish, chicken, salad, nuts, fruits and vegetables.

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I moved to a new town when my hubby deployed, and I couldn't sleep without him. I dreamed of being held and snuggled, and I told him I wished I had a gf (I wouldn't risk another man). I'd had girl-girl make outs in college, but I love men, my husband above all.

He began scouring dating sites to find a woman for me to have sex with, talking to them online daily posed as me. The attentions he gave these women made me jealous, and he wouldn't talk about anything else... until he suggested a second man for double penetration, which sounds like something I'd wish on my worst enemy. I figured it was the desert talking, that when he actually got back and got laid again he'd settle down-and he has, mostly.

He just went to a bachelor party with strippers the first night and prostitutes the next, he walked out on the 2nd (he's faithful, these extra people in his fantaies are for touching me only, he says). I complained abt the party, so he hoped to make it up to me by hiring a prostitute to pleasure me (ethical and hygienic no-go, IMO, plus huge waste of $). He started getting pushy about it and saying I should do it for him, since I came up with the idea, and now he can't help thinking about it nonstop, that I'm denying myself some superior 3-way pleasure ~ backward responses to rectifying the things I didn't like about that party: sex workers, disrespect of monogamy, etc. He steers every conversation to it, or another man, giving me the silent treatment when I say I'm not interested. He usually talks things out like a champ. My fear was that being around guys/behavior like that party made him lose respect for me, that it's ok to do whatever he wants and my feelings don't matter. I hope it's the fact that he is just extremely stressed at work that's driving this again.

Please tell me how to get him to stop pressuring me to give in to these scary fantasies and to start respecting my boundaries and desires. I want him to keep telling me his mind, and I don't mind him having the fantasies (though I wish they were a little variable and not just all of the same the filthiest porns), but I don't want any real life person encroaching on us. I don't want to be intimate at all with anyone but my husband.



This may not be what you want to here..

I wouldn't risk a marriage over a fantasy. Although he encourages and gives permission to do so, I always said adding someone to your personal life is disastrous. A marriage should be about two people and two people only. Why is your husband looking on a dating site for you? Although I am completely against it, Why couldn't you look?... I think what could possibly happen is that your husband may find he is beginning to bond with another woman.

Why can't you just have friends? You could volunteer with animals or children who love hugs. Why do you feel the need to have an affair?

If your husband is pressuring you then you need to tell him to back off and respect you. Let him know you are not comfortable talking about the subject and to please drop it.

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hey, have you found out anything about how to pretend that you are a virgin? im in the same sutation i know lying is not a good start but i have no choice. i need help!!




Why would you lie? Isn't the whole point of a relationship to be honest? If someone makes fun or even a big deal out of something so small, Then maybe they aren't mature enough to ve in a relationship at all.

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My children and I had plans with a friend today. We made the arrangements ahead of time and decided we would eat lunch on our own and then meet up. Around the time we were supposed to meet, this friend let me know that someone else was joining us and the two of them would be getting lunch first. I didn't think it was a big deal, so I went along with it. Then, she was 30 minutes late. She didn't start eating for another 15 minutes. By this time, my children were tired of waiting. I decided to try to calm them down, but to no avail. An hour and 15 minutes after we were supposed to meet, we finally started to do what we were there for. But, my children were in such foul moods from waiting around that I had to leave. I felt that the whole thing was very inconsiderate since we had made plans the day before and she changed them last minute. I felt rude for leaving, but really didn't have a choice. Should I be upset for this person's lack of concern for my situation or just chalk it up life and not think twice about it.


You weren't rude at all, You were being kind of her tardiness. Your friend has no respect or common courtesy to call and let you know she was going to be late. Yet alone she went and made plans when she had plans which is rude. In some aspect you were blown off, She wasn't kind to you or your feelings. Maybe back off a bit... perhaps she needs to work on herself before learning what it means to be a good friend.

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I have known my girlfriend for 6 months and been dating her for 5. I am 28 and she is 30 and she is american and im english.

When we first met and started talking we hit it off big time. I told her from the first day that i wanted to be completely open an honest with her, especially after i had been lied to and cheated on in both my only 2 serious relationships....this meant telling her that as of the last 3-4 years whilst i was single i had dated alot and had had many casual partner & one night stands (i dont know my actual number but i told her it was 35). At the time she was shocked and didnt know what to think of me, but i really liked her and expressed my feelings for her and explained that as of the last year /6 months i had made a concious effort to stop partying, being wild, no more casual dates and to just wait for the 'right girl' i felt i could love and trust. Furthermore, as part of us getting know eachother we both talked about our last dates / relationship. The thing with my last casual / semi serious date is that it was with another american girl. I explained all this as honest as i could and explained i didnt have an 'american girl fetish' or anything...its just co-incidence how things have worked out.

She on the other hand has only has 2 serious relationships and says she has never been the sleeping around / casual dating type..which i truly believed...she has no reason to lie. Her past relationship was very abusive and she was physically harmed and it ended badly. i dont know whether this is a result of that, but she can be a very insecure person and often needs constant reassurance id never hurt her, or cheat on her..etc etc. an im more than willing to do this everytime its needed as i truly love her and feel sorry she went through her bad past.

anyway, after we got it all out in the open, she fully accepted what i was telling her and a month later we became serious and bf/gf.

Since then we fell truly head over heels in love with eachother and ive never felt this way about anyone before...i genuinely think (thought...seen as how shes now breaking up with me) that she was 'my one' and i told her this and she said she felt the same. ive been more romantic and done things in this relationship that ive never done before...showering her with flowers, gifts, travelling with her to the US to meet her parents and suprising her for her 30th birthday etc we've met eachothers familys and friends and everything was rosey....right up until last night

She began questioning me about the previous american girl i casual saw...asking specific times and months we dated, how serious we were...etc etc. I told her again what i told her when we first met...but played it down abit more than was actually the case, as i didnt want to make think that anything i had was as serious as what i have with her now...which is honestly the case. What i didnt know was that she'd been on my facebook page and trawled back thru all my old msgs, comments and photos between me and the other american girl, which are very 'coupley' and flirty. not only that but alot of what id wrote to her was similar to what ive wrote to my now / recently broken up with gf (english - american banter etc). She WENT ABSOLUTLY CRAZY BESERK.

saying that i lied to her, i was way more serious with her then i first said, that the dates and times i orginally said didnt match with fb dates n times (they were a month or so out here and there which i honestly didnt know...i dont memorise things like that). I told her i was sorry i didnt explain all the details about the previous relationship...and in all honesty it wasnt as serious relationship as what i have with her now. She did not and can not accept that. She says im a liar..i lied about something really important.

To make matters worse...she then trawlled through even more of my fb, looking as far back as 3-4 years ago and going through every girl im friends with. As ive stated before, i did sleep around alot had many dates...so over the last few years theres alot of fb comments, photos etc...not really on my page as i deleted alot. but theres alot on other peoples. When she saw this...how i spoke to them, how i flirted etc tec...she said she didnt feel special, nothing we had over the last 6 months was special anymore, id done exactly the same as id did with all the other girls already and that she didnt really know me anymore, or who i was...etc etc.

i pleaded with her that i told her this from the start, that it was my past, that i was ashmed of it, that i was a different person as of the last 6-8 months (basically just before i started dating her)and that id that all i ever cared about since meeting her...was her. furthermore...that i loved her and id never put as much love, romance, effort into anyone else before her. I couldnt describe enough how special she is / was to me.

She didnt believe any of it though. she kept saying i lied, i was a player, i would use her, nothing about what ive done is special, i treat her like every other girl before and that she wont be just another notch on the bed post. she the abruptly ended with me. all that in 5 hours in one night after 6 months. its been a day an ive not heard from her and dont know what to do?

Did i do anything wrong? what should i have done? what should i do now?

advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks



I give you a ton of credit for being openly honest with her. However, As much as you'd like to think she fully accepted everything you said, Sounds like she is back tracking and second guessing things. Perhaps she may feel like another rebound, Booty call or just another fling. She may be scared of being rejected somewhere down the line, Maybe she even wonders how you could still be friends with your past? I know I am the type of person who thinks if someone wants to move on then we need to leave the past the past. You should talk to her, Ask how she is feeling and what can you both do to make it better. The fact that she read your messages on facebook tells me that she has trust issues with you.

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So ever since I was little I have always been raised by my mother and no one but her. Of course when I got older I would sometime question about my biological dad and try to ask my mom, but then she would get defensive and would not want to talk about it. She thinks that when I ask her that, that its because I want to move in with him and then she gets all sarcastic and narcissistic about it. She quotes " that things are meant to be left in the past". And so I've asked other family members and then they told me little snippets that basically my father had a wife in a different country and was trying to get to her to come to America .. But while he was waiting for the process to come through he manipulated my mom and tricked my mom that he actually loved her. So then when his wife was finally able to come , he left my mom pregnant and joined his wife as if nothing happened.
My thing is that I just want to know what he looks like and what my "half siblings " look like and like a bit of facts about the family and him . I have no intentions on making amends or communicating with him considering he is a duche bag for what he's done. So then I tried asking my doctor what I should do and she said that she can't do anything if she doesn't know the name of my father ... So I'm back to square one.
I can't ask my mom the name cause I've been there and done that. I understand why my mom is the way she is... But I feel like I at least have the right to know this...
How can u find out about my biological dad?? What should I do?



I am an adoptee


I found 2 sisters and a biological brother by using www.adopteeconnect.com

Do you know your fathers name, birthdate? You could try googling his information. Try facebook...

Is there anyone in your family who may know information like your grandmother?

Do not give up, Took me 10 years to find my siblings but I found them. You have a right to know

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what's the difference between french kissing and making out




Sweetie, It's basically the same thing.

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I'm a thirteen year old girl, slightly insane. I have a neighbor/friend named Jonathoan. He's thirtytwo. He's a conspiracy theorist, and, although his ideas might be a little out there, I don't think they are all definitely wrong. We like the same kind of music- greenday, the beatles, matchbox 20, etc. We both enjoy learning, and want to know the truth about everything possible. He's funny, and nice. He isn't some weirdo who hangs out with little kids, I'm just kind of odd, and prefer to talk to adults over kids my age. The point of my story? I have a bit of a crush on him. I, of course, haven't told him, and don't plan on acting on my feelings.



I agree with Kitten, If you don't plan on acting then why are you asking? Are you looking for approval?

This man is an adult, He is old enough to be your father. You are a minor, It would be extremely wrong if you both tried to do anything. He could be forced to register as a sex offender.

Date someone your own age

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Is masturbation harmful to man health?


No, Masturbation is a healthy form of sex.

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ok so my boyfriend is bisexual. which is alright with me, the other day he confessed that he and my best guy friend were curious. my boyfriend gave the guy a blowjob. he said he doesn't consider it to be cheating, and he says he would never cheat on me because he loves me. I consider it to be cheating, I mean what if he gets curious again? what should I do? I'm so confused, please help.



He cheated, The whole idea of having a relationship or sexual contact with someone eles IS cheating.

Yes, I also agree he is using his sexual orientation as an excuse. It doesn't matter if he was curious or if was a male, female fact is he wasn't faithful. Obviously he doesn't love you enough to be faithful and committed to you. Time to kick him to the curb

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So say there's this guy, and he's like 23.
He's said that he has never dated anyone ever in his entire life and says that he is focusing on school. But then say you find out from a close source of him that he's a player and just wants to have fun. Not only that, he has done many one night stands and hook ups.. And that he has also one time hooked up with this girl and was seeing this girl for awhile afterwards but then that girl was already taken by another man but he knew but he still did it anyways cause he felt that she could've been the one... But it didn't work out anyways and has gone back to his old ways!
Anyways point of this question is do you think a guy like that could ever change his ways and be serious and be committed like say in the future? Getting it all out of his system ..
Or do you think he could never be changed and that if he ever did finally settle down , do you think he would cheat later on cause he would miss the wild single life ?



This definitely wouldn't be my idea of a perfect boyfriend.

Once someone geta used to a certain lifestyle, It is hard to break the habit. I am not saying it's impossible but in order for him to change he would need to want too. Someone who has a history of being a player woild probably be a potential cheater and may very well have issues with committing to a relationship.

This giy had contact with a girl knowing she had a boyfriend but did it anyway. Meaning, He agreed to the cheating.

I would pass

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when you have sex in the shower with a guy and he has a condom on and the condom gets wet, can a girl still get pregnant?



Yes its still possible

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Hi, I am a female, 30 years old. I was chatting to this 26 something year old and he asks me lots of question but avoids answering my questions. And makes a joke about things. How did I respond?


Sounds like a one sided conversation. Respond by saying "I don't feel comfortable talking about me" or pergaps do simple amall talk and when he ask questions, change the subject. He should get a hint

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Hello.
I was wondering; can I orgasm by masturbation if I am still a virgin?



Yes

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its been like a month my ex stopped talking to me, suddenly he stops, we used to talk once in a while and have long conversations and then all of a sudden when i used to say hi he would be cold lol :S , like i rather have him telling me he dont wanna talk to me instead of making me think whether i've done something wrong..
But seriously he didn't even bother wishing me happy birthday a week ago, the same way i did to him when it was his bday.. i just dont get why he would stop talking lol :/



Because he is your ex

He is no longer in a relationship with you and is not entitled to talk to you. It really sounds like he has no interest in even remaining in contact. When an ex is an ex it means they are the past, You really should move on. It is a shame that he doesn't have the balls to say it, but he is giving enough hints. Move on

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