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Is single father are worth to date?
what does it mean when your boyfriend who is also a single father is so defensive of his ex and his kid and keeps bringing up splitting up when you argue. guy's point of view please. thanks
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It's up to you if you want to date a single father.
When you date a single father, it's not going to be all about you. It's about his child. If he makes plans with you but then ends up having to stay home with his child, then that's his responsibility. He can't change that. I'm sure you know this already.
I don't know a lot about your relationships. A lot of single fathers will defend their ex because she is the mother of his child. He's being a good role model and doesn't want his child to think low of his mother. Even if his child isn't around, it wouldn't be right to talk trash on her.
As for him bringing up splitting up, you're going to have to talk to him about that. Do you guys argue often? If so, then that could be the bigger problem.
Talk things out with him and see how you feel about the relationship.
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It could mean that he is a decent father who has his priorities straight.
He has a kid and that won't be changing. He also has an ex who is the mother of the child, who he needs to learn to live with for the next decade or so in relative peace and respect. Whether he loves her or hates her, he MUST co-parent with her. He is in charge of his relationship with both of them - his girlfriend might have opinions when it comes to his child or his ex - but his girlfriend doesn't ever get a vote.
There isn't really enough here to go on, but you need to respect your boyfriend as a father, and let him manage that important part of his life. That doesn't mean he's innocent or blameless, but it does mean that you need to understand where your rights end, and his child's begin.
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Any single parent you date are package deals, When you began to date him you signed yourself up to except that he has a bigger responsibility in his life, his child.
This man is defensive because his ex is the mother of his chil. What exactly where the arguments about? Where they about his ex or child?.. Understandably he will jump to defense.
This doesn't mean he is attracted to his ex, Does he love her? Probably. Likely he loves her as a person who is raising his child. This man's main priority is to be a role model and father figure. The child will always be the number one. Unfortunately, It's up to you whether you can handle that or not.
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