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Best friend and guys
Im 23 f. I have a friend (girl) that I consider 1 of my best friends. but lately I’ve been upset at her and don’t know what to do.
We were at my birthday party and she was with a guy that i liked. She told me that I shouldn’t get with him and should move one. At the party she ask for his number, and now they text. Its not the only time this has happen we have had incidents in the past where Im attracted to a guy and she ends up getting really close to them. Sometimes in relationships. I don’t want to lose our friendship. But I feel like every guy is attracted to her automatically. It bugs me and I don’t think she notices it. What should I do?
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Liking a guy is not the same as having a solid relationship with him. If a guy is truly attracted to you, it doesn't matter what her looks and personality are, because he is attracted to yours and nothing else. Just as women have different likes in a guy, guys have different likes in women. The only thing that might make a difference in them hanging around paying more attention would be if she was outgoing and talkative whereas you were quiet and shy. If there is someone chatty in the room, most people will congregate around the one who is easier to have a conversation with.
YOu mentioned liking the guy but not that you have ever talked to him before. Was this a secret liking and you never got up the nerve to talk to him? Or you are actually seeing and dating the guys and then she horns on in. If this is what is happening and the guys go for her after she shows interest, then all the guys you have picked so far are not the right type for you. If they were, it wouldn't matter who flirts with them, you'd be the only one who lights their candle. So be honest with yourself, are you choosing the kind of guy who is right for her and wrong for you? Are you a bit too shy. Have you ever gone beyond the feeling attracted to stage? No body is a mind reader so if you have an interest, you will need to ask to see if he has one too. Are you looking for just any old guy, just someone to pay attention to you. Or you want mr right to come along and sweep you off your feet. If its the latter, you have to know first who you are at core...what makes you uniquely you, what are your likes, needs and wants. Based on that you might have a general idea of what you are looking for in a guy. If you are happy being the quiet type, then maybe you might want to look for the strong silent type. I think you get what i mean. If i have this all misunderstood and you have more info, feel free to look up my column and send message to inbox.
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I think you should talk to her about it. If she's a good friend and this is the only problem you have with her, it's not worth losing friends over boys.
So I think you should at least talk to her about it. Be straight up with her but don't start pointing fingers and blaming her because she won't respond well. Just tell her that you like a guy and you don't like it when she goes after guys you are interested in.
If she keeps it up after that, it's best to never tell her who you're interested in or just stop hanging out with her.
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Ok what im about to say might be harsh but its the truth. Okay do the same thing. Like when she like a boy and get close to him. But then when she get mad remind her of the dirt she did. But my 2nd thing is talk to her. Be like girl you need to stop hooking with the boys,like you seem like you don't want me to have a relationship. But there is a problem that you not doing. You need to at least try to say hey to the crush you have. That's the thing she doing. The boys don't just like her like that. She get to know them. I have a best friend that did the same thing. I liked a boy and she started to like him and he started to like her a little. But as soon as i started to talk to him he liked me more than her. So get some confedence and talk to your crush first before anybody else gets him.
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