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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long! (link)
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Hey make the best of it, don't turn up going to NJ shore just because someone else is gonna be there! Make the best of it and try and have as much fun as you can, don't worry about Catherine being there, just makes the best of it and have fun! That is the absolute best advice I can give you.
Hope this helps and you enjoy your trip!
-Ryan
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I really like this guy and well I try to tell myself that I don't. I have been going out with him on and off for a few years and well everytime we go out after a while he likes another girl and he goes out with her (he's done this twice to me) and so he breaks up with me.. we are still friends and talk but it kills me and I try to tell myself I don't like him because he's sorta a "player" but I don't know what to do...?? (link)
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He obviously doesn't like you like you like him. You deserve a better guy than that. He is just going to keep doing the same thing to you if you let him. I say get rid of him, he is only going to hurt you more if you stay around him and he obviously doesn't care enough about you to stop himself from cheating with other girls. Let him go and try and find a better guy because you deserve it. Even though you probably will think you can't live without him, you can and you will find a way, but to do that you have to seperate yourself from him and find someone better.
I hope this helped and you get over this guy and find a better guy!
-Ryan
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Is magic real? Can you really hypnotize people? I saw this thing on tv where this guy made this girl float..sounds totally not real but if you saw it you would probably believe it. But anyways, is it actually real? (link)
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First of all, people you see on TV doing that, use optical illusions and a whole assortment of tricks to acomplish their means of amazing the audience. My personal opinion, no magic is NOT real, not in the sense you are speaking of. The things you saw on TV, there are so many ways of fooling you into believing that he actually made a girl float that it isn't even worth mumbling the word "magic" to those shows.
As for hypnomization, yes that is possible. There are many ways to manipulate the mind and even more ways to exploit those means. You can make people think things that aren't really happening, make them believe people that they know, force them to do something againts their will, etc the list goes on. But hypnomization only works on humans whose mind is not fully prepared to resist a hypnomization. There are ways to protect your mind from being hypnotized, but it takes alot of mental training and though into it, shortly put it is hard.
Hope this answers your question. But it is your belief to believe in that kind of magic or not.
Need anything, drop me something in my inbox.
-Ryan
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i broke up wit my exgirl a couple months ago but i cant stand bein away from her i want her back i feel like i cant live wit out her wut should i do? (link)
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I've been before here dude. Trust me and just let her go. It's gonna suck yeah, but eventually your gonna move on and look back and realize "Wow I acted like an idiot back then when this happened...". Time heals everything and you need to move on and start looking for someone else. You can't dwell on the past, because in the end it will bring you down and destroy you. Look to the present and move on from the past, it's best.
I hope this helps and you get over her soon.
-Ryan
P.S. I know how you feel, trust my advice and you'll feel better.
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OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me. (link)
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Wow, lol what a jerk. Is that all he wants to talk about on the phone, are his multiple girlfriends and how good he looks? He doesn't still like you, it sounds like he just wants someone to gloat too. He doesn't want to talk about with any of his girlfriends on this so he is trying to keep a bunch of relationships at once. So no...He doesn't like you, he just wants to gloat to you and brag about his girls. I wouldn't even worry about even thinking if he still liked you. You don't want someone like that to like you because you can get so many better guys than this jerk. Tell him to buzz off because he isn't worth your time at all. Not if all he is gonna talk about that on the phone with you and treat you like crap when you date. Try and find a better guy and tell this one to take a hike, you deserve better.
Hope this helps and you get a better guy to talk to other than this jerk.
-Ryan
P.S. If he is really starting to get you mad and won't leave you be, then let slip that you will just make a mention to his numerous girlfriends that they aren't alone and he is cheating on them all. That will shut him up.
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My older brother is living with us now. Im the youngest one of the family so i still live at home. Any way. Me and my dad use to go places all the time together, like, he use to take me shopping at the mall take me golfing with him and do fun junk like that. Now all he wants to do is shove me off into a corner while he takes donnie golfing, and everything else he use to do with me and my brother treats me like crap!!!! I am getting sick of being left out!! How Should i deal with it?????
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Heck no you shouldn't deal with it! I can understand a LITTLE bit why your dad would prefer to take your older brother out instead of you (dad's have a thing with their sons doing stuff with their oldest, trust me my dad is kinda the same way *I'm the oldest in my family by 3 years to my sister*). But that is NO reason for him to just brush you aside to do things with your older brother. Try and reason with your dad, tell him about all the fun times you used to have and tell him how you would just love to go with him again. Also whenever you know he is going someplace, always ask to go. If he is gonna just refuse you going like everytime (maybe saying "Well me and Donnie were gonna go..." or "Sorry but this is something me and Donnie were gonna do..") then you know what, he doesn't deserve your company. If he is going to be that way then let him know how much it is killing you not being able to go and being brushed aside. Let him know that and if he still doesn't want to let you go. Then just forget it, you can find alot better of a time on your own than with a dad who could care less if you went or not.
Now about your brother...Either ignore him (which may or may not work), find ways to ignore him, let him know your really hurting from it, or try and get some kind of parental help (if your dad won't step into help you on this one, then he is just a inconsiderate father who doesn't really deserve to be called your father).
Also try and hang out more with your friends, that will give you something to do and you won't be left out (maybe not in the same way being left out with your dad, but you won't be left out with your friends). Try and find things to occupy your time.
Hey I hope I helped and that things get alot better for you!
If you need anything else, drop something in my inbox (again, lol)!
-Ryan
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Im going into 7th grade and never had a bf!
Everyone tells me im pretty and I've been popular and everything at my school. Im even a model!
But I dont brag or anything
But anyways theres this boy I like and I really want to get closer to him. Once he tried to kiss me but my mom walked into the house and he stopped. And now were kinda like friends. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me again? (link)
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First off, do not be fretting over not having a boyfriend in 7th grade. 7th grade is a little too young to have one, I could understand if you had one in 8th grade, but not 7th grade, so don't fret over it.
Keep being friends with that guy you were talking about. He showed that he likes you, maybe he is afraid something is gonna happen if he tries to get to close to do so that is why he isn't showing he likes you. I still think he does, I just think he was a little spooked because your mom showed up. So keep being his friend and let him know you like him and take it from there.
Hope I helped and good luck with that guy!
-Ryan
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i'm 15 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for like a year and a half. my question is:
if your boyfriend has been ignoring you for like a month, but hasnt like hinted anything about breaking up, whut does it all mean?
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Try finding out why he might be doing that. Sit him down and ask him why he is ignoring you, find out what's up. Maybe he has something on his mind and he is afraid to get you involved with it? Also because he is ignoring you maybe he is trying to hint at a breakup or maybe he wants to tell you he wants to break up but he doesn't have the guts to say anything so he just simply ignored you, hoping you will get the hint and innitiate a breakup. There are ALOT of possibilities.
Definately ask him whats up though, find out why he is ignoring you.
Hope this helps and you find out whats wrong!
-Ryan
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I've been going out with this guy for almost 2 months. He's amazing. He's good looking, Funny, Smart and basically everything I want in a guy. Except, He's 2 years younger than me. He's really mature though. If he tells his mom we're going out he'll get in trouble and have to break-up with me and it kind of bothers me cause his mom keeps questioning him why he calls me and why I call him. I really dont know what to do.. Can someone please give me some good advice? I rate really good. Thanks! (link)
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Well it is good to know that even under his parents suspicion he still wants to talk to you. Keep doing what your doing now, talk to him when you can and meet him when you can, you two obviously have something strong for each other so that will be hard to break. Even if his parents did try and force him to break up with you, it is only he who can break up with you, and not his parents. And I think that even if they did force it, he would still try and see you and talk to you. Keep talking to him and follow what your heart says you should do and do what you think is right. Keep talking to him, even if it is kinda secret and do what you think is right. It sounds like you two have something really strong for each other so do what you think is right and don't let anyone get in your way.
I hope this helps and things work out for you two!
-Ryan
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Ok i am not a skinny person i am really over weight and i wanna loose a lot of weight before christmas and stuff so i can feel better about myself and so people will stop making fun of me and stuff i would like to know what to buy how much to eat how much to exercise and what foods are good and not how long i have to exercise what to drink and everything. I pretty much only drink water so yeah.And i want to loose as many pounds as i can in a week/month/year. so plz give me soem advice. (link)
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Running, running is a GREAT way to lose weight and look better. 2 miles a day at a jogging pace is enough to gaurantee substancial weight loss in a 2-3 week stretch and 3-4 miles of walking to lose weight, but you won't get as much done for your heart, which is a big part of getting healthy. Also doing various muslce building excersizes will help to make your body look better and will help to bring back any part of the body you don't want sticking out. Also just any various excersizes (such as lots of jumping jacks, crunches, sit ups, push ups, etc) will help excersize your body and help tone it to where you want it. Salads are always a good item to eat (but not loaded with condomints and an excess amout of dressing) because they are good for almost any meal of the day and they work more with you body. Also eating balanced meals and measured meals (counting how much your eating) is a good way to control weight and bring it down. All these things working together with determination will help you lose weight and get your body into better looking shape.
Hope this helps and you lose some weight! Good luck to ya!
-Ryan
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ok...there's this guy that i might hook up with but i'm still not sure that i will but he was asking me if we hooked up if i would ever have sex with him and i said i didnt know...i dont know what to do because i dont think im ready for sex yet and honestly im scared...i want to tell him that im not ready but i dont know how he will react.. (link)
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First off, no your not ready for sex. It sounds like that is all he wants to get out of hooking up with you because before you even hooked up her was asking about when you two would have sex. You don't want a guy like that because it is only going to make trouble for you and will NOT turn out well. My advice is get rid of him, he doesn't sound any good to me and I think if you two hooked up it would not end well. But if you insist on hooking up with him, then let him know your NOT going to have sex and if he really cares about you, he will be happy to wait. If he gets mad at it, then it's pretty safe to say that's all he wanted from you.
Hope this helps and you make the right decision.
-Ryan
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okay so basically my mom is having a hissy fit because well i switched shifts with this one girl and now im opening (working 8-12) and shes all pissed off @ me because she "doesnt wanna wake up that early." and shes saying that all i do is think of myself... wow was i really thinking of myself because i thought i switched shifts with someone else to help THEM out .. ANYWAY - and i told her about one of my close friends parties on Sunday and she was thinking about it. UNTIL she realized that my brother is having his girlfriend eat dinner over for her birthday.. So what am i supposed to do?! the party is 7-11 and shes eating over at 8:30. (link)
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While you may have switched shifts with this other girl to help her out, maybe your mom doesn't know that you did it to help the other girl. Even though you did do it to help her out, you probably should have checked it out with your mom before you did anything. Yes it is YOUR job, but your mom is your ride to that job, and you have to try and make it convienant for her even though it is your job. But since you already switched shifts your mom needs to understand until your able to get yourself to work, that she is your ride and needs to have to get you to work.
As for your friends party, you need to tell her that she was thinking about and her telling you you can't go because she JUST realized your brother's girlfriend is coming over to eat is a complete disregard to your scheduel. You had plans, and your mom decided to alter them to fit another's scheduel, which isn't right. This is different from you switching work times with the girl and your mom having to get up early to take you to work because your mom isn't doing anything, her time is free for that time and doesn't obstruct anything she was doing. Whereas on the other hand, her not even thinking about letting you go to your friends party after realizing there would be company over is an obstruction of your scheduel (I've been here plenty of times) and your mom needs to re-think what you already had planned. You need to let her know it isn't fair that she just won't let you go because of something she just now remembered, that is a disregard of your already set scheduel and it isn't fair or right. Let her know that.
Hope this helps and things work out.
-Ryan
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i have a friend, and anytime we are hanging out alone or with other GIRL friends..shes normal and acts herself. but whenever we're hanging out with guys..she acts like a complete idiot, saying stupid things, acting stupid...just making herself out to be the stupidest girl ever!! and shes not stupid at all. after a party last night me and another friend told her and she was just like "you guys do it too and i don't care what people think" we do act dumb sometimes but we never take it a far as she does and after seeing her act so stupid- we will never do it again. she does it to get attention from guys and she gets it but its totally negative attention. its funny for a while, but then it gets annoying and everyone knos shes putting on an act. how do we get her to realize what shes doing is annoying and looking bad on herself? (link)
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You need to sit her down and talk to her about this. Tell her exactly what your feeling and tell her that she doesn't have to do all the stuff just to get guy's attention and add in it gets annoying and will probably end up driving them off. You need to get it in her head somehow that the way she is acting is NOT getting her positive attention from guys, it is setting her up for a rep that will only show her as a stupid girl who will do anything for attention, and that's not who she is. Definately get that in her head, be nice about it and let her know no one is buying into her act and it is only gonna ruin her if she keeps it up.
Hope this helps and things change around for her and you get through to her.
-Ryan
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im gonna have a presentation in front of class.. im kinda shy and i was wondering what i can do to overcume my shyness and not be so afraid (link)
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Practice in front of your friends or family or practice by yourself. Be clear, don't mumble when you speak. Stand strait, don't slouch when you speak. Make eye contact, don't keep your head and eyes down on your paper or whatever it is your presenting. Try practicing these things over and over in front of your family and friends and I think if you do that then you will be just fine with your presentation.
Hope this helped and good luck with your presentation!
-Ryan
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I'm korean and im going to High School next year. Well im kinda a slut so I was wondering if people will make fun of me ..and what do i need to know for becomeing a freshman (link)
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SINCE about everyone before me made some kind of ill-helpful advice suggestion, I am going to atleast give you some POSITIVE advice.
Yeah you will kind of be mad fun of at school for being that way. But you can change that if you stop doing it and show your not really like that. Show people what a good person you can be, but I wouldn't sleep with anyone, because that will DEFINATELY give your a bad rep and you will be prone to insults (I had a friend who was in this same situation when she was a freshman and word of her got out and she was insulted at every turn).
Also about being a freshman, there really is nothing too it. Just be talkative, cheerful, nice, and polite to everyone and you will have friends on the first day. Other than that it is pretty much the same as anything else in school. Go to class on time, do your work, etc.
Hope this atleast gave you some POSITIVE help and you enjoy being a freshman
-Ryan
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wow i cant handle this.. i like this guy a lott!! and hes always soo sweet to me and we had a lot of good times together and he told my friends he likes me and he told me he did.. but we wereon the trampoline and i wouldnt kiss him bc i didnt want to get him sick.. and all the other times i rejected him bc ive never kissed a guy before.. but i ddint really care anyway so i called him twice the next day he didnt answer.. so i left him alone.. the next day my best friend called him and then i called him and he came over my other friends house.. he totally ignored me .. he flirted with one of my friends and then said that i wouldnt get with him anyway so it didnt matter.. that really hurt bc i was gonna kiss him but he just didnt wait.. now i miss him like crazy and i need to know what to do!! do i call him? forget about him? leave him alone? HELLPP!!!
i rate HIGH!!!
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It sounds to me like he only wanted a kiss out of you, nothing more. That is very low of him to just want that out of you and because you didn't give it to him he completely forgets about you and ignored you. Forget about him, you deserve better than him for sure. You can find a better guy than that and you should definately forget about him and just leave him alone. I think that would be best.
Hope this helps and you move on alright and get a better guy.
-Ryan
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Ok, I like this guy that's about 2years older than me. I know him real well...he's one of my BFFs. How do I know if he likes me back, or hates my gut? I don't wanna embaress myslef when doing this, I still wanna be friends with him.... can you help????? (link)
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Well, there are alot of ways to go about finding out if he likes you. Try sending friends to kinda poke around at it and see how he feels about you. You could hint alot that you like him and see what his reactions are. Or you could just flat our ask him. Personally if I had a girl I had know for a long time and was best friends with and I liked her and wanted to find out if she likes me back, I would definately send my friends and have them snoop around for me. And I would atleast show some kind of hint to her. Ultimately it is up to you, but I am just telling you the route I would go. And since he is one of your bff's then how is he hating your guts? I think even if you did tell him about your feelings, he isn't gonna ever hate your guts. Your friendship may strain a bit, but it will bounce back extremely soon afterward. Also when do tell him, be sure to say something along the lines of "I really like you, but just so you know, I will always be your friend and I don't want this to affect our friendship in any negative way."
Hey I hope this helps and you get your feelings out and he likes you back!
-Ryan
P.S. I think everyone is embaressed (or embaresses themselves) when they tell someone else they like them, so don't feel bad if you are!
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I need to hear this from a guy....OOOK r you guys attracted to girls with curves?? Cuz i hav curves and im 13 and being a girl i hav crushes and i want atleast 1 of them to like me bak...so if u could tell me if guys like curves in a girl that would really help....i rate high! bii!
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You don't want a guy who is going to notice only your curves and like you for that reason. You want a guy who will like you for who YOU are, and not just on what your body is and looks like.
Personally, I am not going to look for appearence in a girl, but personality because personality is WAY more important than looks. Sure looks are important, but it is far overshadowed by the importantance of the girls personality. That is what I am gonna look for in a girl, not her curves.
Hope this helps.
-Ryan
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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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It sounds like he might be tryint to hide something from you that he is trying to keep all to himself. Talk to him in person and try and ask whats wrong *do what your doing now* and then when he says "It's nothing important", look him strait in the eyes and make eye contact and say "Please tell me if anything is wrong, I hate to see it when you are like this *which you said you are* and I really want to help me, let me listen please." And see what he does, usually when you make direct eye contact with someone it tends to alter the feeling the other person is feeling and may get him to say what is bothering him. Let him know your there for him constantly and you always will be.
I hope this helps and you find out whats wrong with him.
-Ryan
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I will be freshman this year. And I'm so scared and nervous. My curent friends are like family, but I can't really be myserlf around them. They are too much into guys. But I've been through alot with them in middle school. And I don't really have any other close friends. So what should I do? Should I find new friends, or stick with the ones I got? (link)
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Hey don't be nervous bout that, it's nothing to be nervous about! Keep the friends you got because those are the friends you have been through everything with and you have all the memories with them. But also make new friends though, and as a freshman in highschool you will have TONS of chances to make new friends. And even though you feel like your friends are too much into boys and you can't really be yourself around them, they still are your friends and you still can make the most of being friends with them. Be yourself around them also, because you should never try and put a front up when you are around your friends, that only creates a false image for them that eventually will come crashing down. If they are really your friends they will stay with you when you are yourself and like you for who you are.
So keep the friends you have and try and make new ones, it never is bad to have new friends, never!
Hope this helps and you have a good year being a freshman!
-Ryan
P.S. Don't be nervous!
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