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i rate 5's...sorry so long!!
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i have a friend, and anytime we are hanging out alone or with other GIRL friends..shes normal and acts herself. but whenever we're hanging out with guys..she acts like a complete idiot, saying stupid things, acting stupid...just making herself out to be the stupidest girl ever!! and shes not stupid at all. after a party last night me and another friend told her and she was just like "you guys do it too and i don't care what people think" we do act dumb sometimes but we never take it a far as she does and after seeing her act so stupid- we will never do it again. she does it to get attention from guys and she gets it but its totally negative attention. its funny for a while, but then it gets annoying and everyone knos shes putting on an act. how do we get her to realize what shes doing is annoying and looking bad on herself?
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You and her friend should show an example of her meaning you act like her and your friend is a guy...and then act how she would normally act when shes with a guy so she could realize what an idiot she is...:) hope i helped and good luck.
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i know how you feel..believe me..i have a lot of close friends like that..what i did in that situation was tell it to her face sayin that she's sending out the wrong message to these guys..i told her that she wants to seem like a lady not a tramp or a ditz..that makes guy play into their macho factor and guys can do stupid things like take advantage of her..and no one wants that..so just tell it to her like that..she'll understand..
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Just tell her that she's making herself out to be a fool in frotn of guys. If she doesn't listen, she'll see how much of a fool she acts like. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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Hey, thats a very hard question since she doesnt think shes doing it that badly. Some girls just act differently around guys for the attention and dont even realize it! If she has to act that way to get attention then she's just hiding her true beauty! Talk to her about it. Tell her that if she wants to find someone good for her then she has act herself and not put a cover on! I hope I helped! Rate me back please!
:->Michelle
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You need to sit her down and talk to her about this. Tell her exactly what your feeling and tell her that she doesn't have to do all the stuff just to get guy's attention and add in it gets annoying and will probably end up driving them off. You need to get it in her head somehow that the way she is acting is NOT getting her positive attention from guys, it is setting her up for a rep that will only show her as a stupid girl who will do anything for attention, and that's not who she is. Definately get that in her head, be nice about it and let her know no one is buying into her act and it is only gonna ruin her if she keeps it up.
Hope this helps and things change around for her and you get through to her.
-Ryan
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First of all girls act "so-called-Stupid" like your friend because they think that’s the only way a guy will know them. Now there is nothing wrong with BEING silly and doing crazy things, but not alright to ACT that way just to impress some boys (who all reality you’re better off avoiding at this time).
So what can you do? Well until pigs Grow wings, and birds gills, NOTHING! That’s right NOTHING. Your friend is making the decisions all on here own, only she can change.
However there are a few things you can do to help her realize what she is doing. Keep in mind these may or may not work. It all depends on the scenario and the people in it.
First of all talk to her, try to reason with her that the boys will only like how she is acting, not for what she's really like (in other words the boys like WHAT SHE IS DOING rather than WHO SHE IS). It will not be easy but it is a must if you want her to realize what she is doing.
Second, by your friend acting so stupid around the guys, she has got it in her head that that's the only way for a girl to get a guy. How did she get that in her head? Well I told this to someone else a while back and now it seams you need to here it too. "One gets such ideas into their head by; peers, today's media, poor family life, betray of some sort (or what they think was a betrayal), cultural, and most importantly a lack of example! All these things combine to hedge up the way to a one's feelings (there are other reasons but for the sake of this discussion I will not name any more)."
So what can you do about it [the influences]? Well some of the things you can effect. Which ones you must figure out on your own. It is not my place to tell you everything, but to show you the directions. Once you have isolated what you can do for your friend, begin to act upon that knowledge you have just required.
May you reach your friend before she is lost to you forever! I know it is a difficult and long road head, but I believe you and your friend will come out alright. Best of luck, let me know if I helped in any way.
~Teen Guru~
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well this is tough... she's in denial of acting stupid and i think that you should just keep trying to tell her how stupid she acts... i don't know if you'd like this idea.. but if she won't listen to what your telling her about how stupid she acts.. then if you have a digital camera that takes videos you can videotape everything she does around guys and then show it to her afterwards.. but if you don't want to do that.. then just keep telling her.. tell her that the guys aren't giving her good attention and its all negative.. tell her she should be herself and have a guy like her for who she REALLY is... hope i helped
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Don't be nasty to her, but if enough peolpe tell her what they think, or if she gets shocked enough (Like the boy she is doing it for telling her she doesn't like it) She will hopefully stop. Whatever you do, don't scream at her that she's an idiot. If all else fails, take it slow, drop hints until she gets it.
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