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to party or not to party??
okay so basically my mom is having a hissy fit because well i switched shifts with this one girl and now im opening (working 8-12) and shes all pissed off @ me because she "doesnt wanna wake up that early." and shes saying that all i do is think of myself... wow was i really thinking of myself because i thought i switched shifts with someone else to help THEM out .. ANYWAY - and i told her about one of my close friends parties on Sunday and she was thinking about it. UNTIL she realized that my brother is having his girlfriend eat dinner over for her birthday.. So what am i supposed to do?! the party is 7-11 and shes eating over at 8:30.
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While you may have switched shifts with this other girl to help her out, maybe your mom doesn't know that you did it to help the other girl. Even though you did do it to help her out, you probably should have checked it out with your mom before you did anything. Yes it is YOUR job, but your mom is your ride to that job, and you have to try and make it convienant for her even though it is your job. But since you already switched shifts your mom needs to understand until your able to get yourself to work, that she is your ride and needs to have to get you to work.
As for your friends party, you need to tell her that she was thinking about and her telling you you can't go because she JUST realized your brother's girlfriend is coming over to eat is a complete disregard to your scheduel. You had plans, and your mom decided to alter them to fit another's scheduel, which isn't right. This is different from you switching work times with the girl and your mom having to get up early to take you to work because your mom isn't doing anything, her time is free for that time and doesn't obstruct anything she was doing. Whereas on the other hand, her not even thinking about letting you go to your friends party after realizing there would be company over is an obstruction of your scheduel (I've been here plenty of times) and your mom needs to re-think what you already had planned. You need to let her know it isn't fair that she just won't let you go because of something she just now remembered, that is a disregard of your already set scheduel and it isn't fair or right. Let her know that.
Hope this helps and things work out.
-Ryan
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eat and then go to the party....its fine to be late.
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I'm assuming your mom is your ride to work, so you probably should have done the considerate thing and talked to her before you switched shifts with someone. While it IS your job and you're doing the work here, your mom is still involved. Apologize to her for not talking to her first, but tell her the deed is already done and you can't necessarily change it now. Tell her that in the future, if you'd like to switch shifts with someone, you'll discuss it with her first.
When it comes to party vs. dinner, I guess you have to do what your mom wants you to do. Your brother bringing home his girlfriend is a big thing, especially if it's her first time eating at your house. Your mom and your brother might want you to be there -- and who says the girl doesn't want to meet you? And anyway, don't you want to be there for the disastrous bringing-home-the-girlfriend meal? (Well, if she hasn't gone through all this already... just going on the information you gave me here.)
If you REALLY don't want to eat with the family on Sunday, talk to your mom about it -- this means a relatively mature and rational discussion. Let her know that this party means a lot to you and that you'd really like to go. If you want, you can promise her that you'll be there the next time your brother's girlfriend eats over. And don't back down on that promise.
If your mom still says no, you have to accept that. No sneaking out, no throwing fits -- otherwise, you'll be grounded and/or you won't be able to go to the next party your friend has. So keep your anger on the down-low, even if she says no.
♥ Hope I helped.
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Well if you really wanted to go to the party you could go for an hour and a half and then go home and eat dinner with your brother's g/f.
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Okay to solve your mom: Dont get mad or give her a reason to get more mad about something you know isn't fair. Let her know that it bugs you when she says things like that, expecially if they arn't true. but dont do it snyvly or cynically or any thing like that.
Now for the party: Your friend.. how close is she to you? Is it a Bday party of some significance? ... if not there are always going to be more parties on never ending lines of them. you will probably forget about it if you dont go. Plus how important is this girl to your brother? If she si important he wants you to share in his joy with you. You should consider being there for him. hope that helps if not drop one in my Inbox *this was the hardest one to answer so far*
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