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well me and this guy were together.. but i never kissed him bc i didnt think i was ready.. now i just found out that he was playin with my head the whole time and that he has a gf... i wanna forget about him but he just stays in my head! all the things he told me and everything is stayin in my mind! i cant stop thinkin about him even though hes a scumbag! wat do i do??
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he's not worth a dime babe. Look i went through that too. it broke me apart, like bad. try doing some extra cxurricular activities like a sport gardening, or hanging otu with tfreinds. write all of your feelings donw in a notebook and then burn them or throw them away as if you are saying i've said it all now i'm done with it. doing yoga and breathing techniques helped me alot. hope that helps!
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my best friends name is cara and we`ve been friends since 7th grade we are in 10th now. my boyfriends name is scott. we all went to the mall when they met and she was flirtin with him and stuff. when my dad picked us up to drive her home and scott was coming back to my house, cara was putting her hand on the seat kinda near his hand and scott told me he thought she was trying to hold his hand. whenever im with her she always tells em how happy she is that im happy and with a ncie boy that loves me and i care about. she was tellin me to have scott to her house along with our other friends brittney, and tim. caras "crush" was supposed to go but he didnt end up coming. last night we were all sitting outback of her house and had a fire and when i got up from the picnic table i guess she tried to kiss scott?! and he thought it was me and he almost did then he was like what the hell are you doing? and she was like i had to tell u sumthin but now i forget.. the whole time we were sort of drinking but cara seriously did not drink alot, there is a big difference between a little buzz and being trashed. its so annoying and she flirts with him so much and i just hated how she hugged him when we were leaving.. what can i say??? thankss (link)
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wow you've got your hands full huh? Well look. I can tell you straight up from experience *my BF of 7 months broke up with me for a freind.* that She is not being a very good friend.. if you have seen this go on continuously you need to stop it.. on the other hand.. scott didn't know it wasn't you.. i wouldn't totally blame him for that one at all.. but you should also maybe be aware of that... oh BTW there is no such thing a sort of drinking.. hehe... *dont worry i do too.* umm okay on another point she shouldnt' hug your boyfriend.. YOUR BF. kay? NO. You need to tell her how you feel, tell her that she is invading space and you are very uncomfortable with it... she might try to put it on scott but dont let her.. bring up all of the instances you cna think of to show her that it's true. Don't let her change the subject or ignore your questions. Tell her that if you want to remain friends then she needs to back off and let you be with your boyfriend and not her. Ask her if it's jealously and if you can HELP her to find someone she might be interested in.. if so then that will take her mind off of scott and vola double dates. Okay do you understand, if you need any thing else just give me a holler! hope i helped!~Dee
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ok...there's this guy that i might hook up with but i'm still not sure that i will but he was asking me if we hooked up if i would ever have sex with him and i said i didnt know...i dont know what to do because i dont think im ready for sex yet and honestly im scared...i want to tell him that im not ready but i dont know how he will react.. (link)
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When i had a boyfriend i had to make the biggest decision to have or not to have.. Well i chose not to have and i'm glad i did too. b/c he broke up with me after 7 months.. So you see no matter how much you might think you love them.. they always backstab you.. well at least in my case.. I would only suggest to you that you defiantly should wait *i've decided to wait till marriage* b/c then you could regret later down the road if you find someone you love MUCH more.. and at your age.. well it's just a shame. i had a friend who is like my sister who wasted that time with someone she is never going to see again. I really hope you think long and hard about this and tell your self that you are worth more than that. if he likes you. or loves you he WILL wait for you.
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Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.
Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators? (link)
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.. they had some good advice.. definatly do not invite her to a party where it's just going to be guys.. I know if it was my dad He wouldn't even consider it.. b/c you always hear about . girls getting in bad situations. any way.. yea go like bowling or something in a group like invite her and tell her to bring two her friends and you invite two of yours, or somthing .. oh hey DUCKPIN BOWLING.. is really fun.. but hard to find.. depending on where you live.. look it up. costs like 25 bucks for like 6 people to go for an hour. or so. and it's fun. or like go out to steak n shake with her and some other people *not just guys once again* something you can all do that involves both sexs here.. okay any thing else drop one in my inbox.
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okay so basically my mom is having a hissy fit because well i switched shifts with this one girl and now im opening (working 8-12) and shes all pissed off @ me because she "doesnt wanna wake up that early." and shes saying that all i do is think of myself... wow was i really thinking of myself because i thought i switched shifts with someone else to help THEM out .. ANYWAY - and i told her about one of my close friends parties on Sunday and she was thinking about it. UNTIL she realized that my brother is having his girlfriend eat dinner over for her birthday.. So what am i supposed to do?! the party is 7-11 and shes eating over at 8:30. (link)
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Okay to solve your mom: Dont get mad or give her a reason to get more mad about something you know isn't fair. Let her know that it bugs you when she says things like that, expecially if they arn't true. but dont do it snyvly or cynically or any thing like that.
Now for the party: Your friend.. how close is she to you? Is it a Bday party of some significance? ... if not there are always going to be more parties on never ending lines of them. you will probably forget about it if you dont go. Plus how important is this girl to your brother? If she si important he wants you to share in his joy with you. You should consider being there for him. hope that helps if not drop one in my Inbox *this was the hardest one to answer so far*
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My boyfriend started to french me but I pulled away and said I didn't feel like it. Well, truth is, I don't know how and I'm worried I'll be bad at it. Does anyone have any tips or websites that can help me out?
Thanks,
Angela (link)
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When i first started dating my Ex I was afraid of the same thing. well here are some tips i've picks up..
1) Dont' put too much toungue in his mouth.
2)Mirror what he does to you.
3)dont use too much lip either.. you dont want to slobber all over his mouth.
4) go slowly and passionate .. FAST kisses are meaningless and messy.
5)wear some kind of moisterlock lip gloss you dont want your lips to get dry or you can't keep them open!
6) if you have braces dont worry too much about them.. if he does.. dont worry too much about them.. but try not to touch teeth haha.
7) Brushy teeth or have a mint at hand.
good luck!
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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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Well it could be that he's trying to protect you from something.. Or maybe he's embarassed about it. But if it really bothers you then i suggest that you say "I know you might not want to tell me but I think honesty and trust is good in a realationship so if you can tell me then we should talk IF it will make you feel better." Or "Hunny, i love you and I need you, but we have to be open with each other and i'm worried about you will you tell me what's been bugging you." Something along those lines or you can *if you know what its' about *break the ice with a joke and then say btw about that.... and so forth. Hope that helps.
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OK....i am like BOY CRAZY....yet sometimes i look at girs but i still really like boys and i get crushes on boys all the time...im confused does this happen to a lot of ppl?? PLz help i rate high! (link)
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Dude you're fine.. even if you get that inkling that you like a girl it's likely that you just think they are pretty and could be jealously.. I get it all the time and trust me I"M STRAIGHT. don't worry too much about it.
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so my friend is like super hott and i am not a lezbo and she doesnt think so but she tries to kill herself and i have tried to like help her out but i am running out of ideas and i dont know what to do but telll her i am there for her and her friends are too but she wont belive me and i am kinda going through some of the same things like her away message is like i am going to draw a picture on my wrists i will do it with a razor and after all of my problems will go away i used to do the same thing after my dads accident but i dont any more nd i think she will do something she willl regret........................HELP (link)
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I have a friend just like her. except she was into drugs and alcohol, she was pretty, but she lost everything when she started getting depressed and angry at the world. I can see that this is what is happening. you've gotten some REALLY great feedback and i would listen to everybit you can get. I did tell parents at one point she had run away, she hated me but then she thanked me. She's back in juvy now, and probably will be for a long time bc she didn't listen to me. YOU need to get through to her. Someone said shock the hell out of her. DO IT. DO IT SO MUCH THAT SHE IS SCARED TO DIE. you need to. I wanted to die months ago but i didn't give up LET her know that she has SOO much more to live for. and hopefully that will help. I'm praying for you and her.
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14/f Ok i have really liked his one guy for about 3 years and we have dated a couple times but we never really lasted. But i just currently broke up with my ex boyfriend. But i was talking 2 them both last nite on the computer and i still have feelings for them both. My ex boyfriend he dumped me because there was just 2 much going on in his life like his ex gf was up and he didn't know what would happen. But now that shes leaving sunday. He wants 2 go back out w/ me. I dont wanna get played like that but i also have feelings for him. And my "dating guy" hes cute and all but i think all hes interested in is getting laid. He says he loves me but... im really confused please help! i rate high for good answers (link)
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Well okay i dated when i was your age and i have to say none of them meant anything. From my personal exsperience i would also say try to forget your feelings if you know one of the guys just wants in your pants he' NOT worth it, and you should recognize that. the other well he just wants a girlfriend and it also jsut sounds like it whatevers available. Hun i wish i had more to offer but i've been there and it's not fun. I hope you can find a level of understanding there and choose a good answer for yourself.
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I have a bunch of pimples on my chin and under my lips. I really hate them bc even with the tons of makeup i sover them up with they still pop out all gross and red. I would really love something that could make these DISAPPEAR!!! (link)
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although *and thsi has nothing against her * shining star said wash your face with soap in the morning and in the evining. but on the contrary i'v ebeen told that colgs pores and that actually causes more pimples. i use stridex pads, and instead of liquid makeup try powder instead it wont be oily one and although it might not cover your pimples it's better to use altogether. *i do use both liquid and powder though* washing your face when you wake up and before bed with water, and even a face wash meant for pimples are good. Hope that helped.
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Why are boys so... i dont even know what word to use.. i mean they tell you they love you just to get in your pants! and they are sooo confusing, they bring so much pain but i still want them! ... grrr, am i making any sense? all i truley want is this...
i want a boy---
who can wrestle with me
and let me win.
who i can talk to about anything.
who laughs at my jokes.
a boy who puts my cold hands
in his warm hoodie pockets.
who lets me use his sweatshirt
for a pillow.
who buys me 25 cent rings,
and sticky hands.
who says i love you & means it.
who will kiss me in the rain,
in the sunshine, and in the snow.
who calls unexpectedly.
who will have many inside jokes
with me and remember each one.
a boy who notices girl's haircuts.
who realizes that girls say things
but dont always mean them.
who i can go swimming with
on hot days.
who can tell me his problems
and let me help.
who will listen to me talk--
about the new nail polish i got.
who will bring me seashells
from the beach.
who will let me beat him up
when i get angry.
who writes love letters to me,
but doesn't send them.
who draws pictures and slips them
gently into my locker slot.
who saves his genuine, big smiles for me.
a boy with deep eyes,
that can see through faces into depths.
who wears baseball hats and
lets me wear his too.
who gives me his t-shirt to change into
and not expect to get it back.
who knows my favorite color, song,
car, vegetable, perfume and
the color of my toothbrush.
a boy who will shake my dad's handand look my mother in the eye.
who will call me by my full name--
first, middle and last.
a boy who will kiss me and
tell me i'm beautiful.
a boy who will let me cry to him.
who will squeeze my hips just right.
who suprises me and compliments
my manicure and plays with my hair.
who knows when i have a math test
or when i fail one.
a boy who smells like
he just stepped out of the shower.
who tells me i have a nice laugh,
and a smile that lights up the room.
a boy who's simply mine to hold."
that is exactly what i want!
why cant i get that? (link)
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Hunny .. so do I.. and i thought i had that But i didn't and I lost. b/c the truth is that they just like you siad tell you they lov eyou to get in your pants.. well he got far enough before he realized i wasn't going to put out ne more than i had already. hehe. Ne way.. The point is yes we all want that it's hard to find but for now what you need is a best GUY friend a guy who loves you and will kiss you but doesnt' want to date you until you decide and find that you do want to date and by then you never know what could happen. I dont know if that helped but good luck!
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i think i have artheritis in my arm. what sign should i be aware of. i know that its something to do with the joints and thats were the pain is..it happens anytime i lift something or add a little pressure to it. am a too young to have artheritis?? 13//totally FEMALE (link)
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hmm 13 right... okay.. here it is.. i used to have pains like that too. Guess what happened that year? I GREW! haha. okay look if these things dont stop the easiest thing to do is realize that your arms hurts and most likely could be joint swollen. use ice and heat on and off *alternating* and take asprin daily.. Ice is really good i swear! If it persists and continues to hurt and worsens see your doctor it could be soemthing bigger having to do with your muscles not growing or bones etc.. it's okay dont worry about it. K? If you need ne thing else talk to your mom about it. Good luck.
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ok...heres the story...
boys starts liking girl, girl doesnt like boy, boy and girl hang out for some time, girl starts liking boy but doesnt know what to do!!
*by the way, the boy is shy and the girl is far from it...please help!!!!!! (link)
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If you know he liked you .. then you shouldn't have a problem telling him how you feel.. I guess the problem lies with him being shy right? okay here you go:
You can try subtle hints and even smiles you never give him.. Or you can be blunt and say it nicely and calmly that you like him and ask him how he feels about that. if I was right then you could have a better relationship. I hope this helps. And good luck this sounds sweet.
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how can i make it so i puke in the morning so i dont have to go somewhere but can stay home? if i take to much cough syrup (but not enough to kill) when i wake up would that make me puke?? (link)
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That's SOOO NOT the answer.. omg.. that is so stupid.. ppl would start to think you have an eating disorder which i have to say are deadly... Look if you dont want to go somewhere Either get out of it by saying I dont want to go. Or fake a cold instead i mean really.. Dont make your self sick especially with cough syrup you may think it's just enough to make you sick but that sickness could turn worse and worse. use a thermometer or make clammy hands by stem.. uhh raise body temp i dont care JUST DONT MAKE YOURSELF SICK! come on.. go watch ferris buelers day off or w.e haha. Oh and btw if this is to get out of school i'm gonna hit myself. cuase that's also stupid. You aren't stupid just your rational.
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okay so im not ready to lose my virginity yet
but ive been with my boyfriend for a long time
what are some fun sexual things we can do that arent actual sex? (link)
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this is an odd Q to answer. but uh try foreplay.. lol use fun things even teasing. i'm not ready either but those are things you CAN try.. do something you both will enjoy but not ruin your self for it either. and most of all dont regret any thing. Good luck!
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