|
..sex at 14..
ok...there's this guy that i might hook up with but i'm still not sure that i will but he was asking me if we hooked up if i would ever have sex with him and i said i didnt know...i dont know what to do because i dont think im ready for sex yet and honestly im scared...i want to tell him that im not ready but i dont know how he will react..
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
just tell him how you feel and that you're not ready yet.. if he'll get mad at you and if he'll force you.. dump him.. cause if he really love yo he should be willing to wait for the right time... hope i helped...
++extraordinary, but not perfect++
]
Wait until you KNOW you're in love. Honestly, wait. I'm in love with my boyfriend and we TALKED about sex and both came to the conclusion we're not ready for it. SO WAIT please. There are SO many consequences... and when you're older I'm sure you'd regret it. Regret not waiting for the right person.
And if you're not ready. Tell him. If he pressures you, that's totally illegal so tell someone and stay away from him. You need to tell him your honest feelings. This is your virginity we're talking about here. Once it'a taken you cannot get it back.. ever.
]
1.)Well how old is this kid?
2.) If you have ANY doubts in your mind then u DO NOT HAVE SEX
3.) If he is a true man and gentleman then he will understand and after you say no he will not bring it up or pressure you again
14 is a little young to start anyways. Just tell him your scared and you dont want to have regrets later. If he pressures you or brings it up then u tell him to go get a skank because your not one you dont jump at his command. hope i helped
]
If he truely has feelings for you, he can put up with his hand for a few more months/years/how ever long it takes. [Phahaha]
But seriously, if he can't wait call him a manwhore and exit.
--Social Suicide
]
you should do what you want to do....for all you know you may break up after,and then u may meet sum 1 really speacail and you will regret it......its tour choice
]
When i had a boyfriend i had to make the biggest decision to have or not to have.. Well i chose not to have and i'm glad i did too. b/c he broke up with me after 7 months.. So you see no matter how much you might think you love them.. they always backstab you.. well at least in my case.. I would only suggest to you that you defiantly should wait *i've decided to wait till marriage* b/c then you could regret later down the road if you find someone you love MUCH more.. and at your age.. well it's just a shame. i had a friend who is like my sister who wasted that time with someone she is never going to see again. I really hope you think long and hard about this and tell your self that you are worth more than that. if he likes you. or loves you he WILL wait for you.
]
First off, no your not ready for sex. It sounds like that is all he wants to get out of hooking up with you because before you even hooked up her was asking about when you two would have sex. You don't want a guy like that because it is only going to make trouble for you and will NOT turn out well. My advice is get rid of him, he doesn't sound any good to me and I think if you two hooked up it would not end well. But if you insist on hooking up with him, then let him know your NOT going to have sex and if he really cares about you, he will be happy to wait. If he gets mad at it, then it's pretty safe to say that's all he wanted from you.
Hope this helps and you make the right decision.
-Ryan
]
Hey, do you like this boy a lot or are you just hooking up with him for the fun of him. If he likes you he will understand your decision and be happy that you told him the truth that you arn't ready. Your only 14 so you have plenty of time to have sex in the future and it may be better to wait like your doing now. There are times that you will want to have sex but its not worth wasting it at such a young age! I hoped I helped! Rate me back please!
:->Michelle
]
Ok i know exactly what you are going through, i have a bf and i feel the same way, but you need to be honest with him if you like him, if he likd u then he would respect the fact that you are not ready, dont rush, make sure that you are totally sure about it!
]
Well you shouldnt care how he'll react.. if you feel your not ready then let this guy know.. and it sounds to me you should probably look for a better guy you dont feel funny tellin things to.. he might just only want sex in your relationship if you have one.. just tell him how you feel about the whole sex thing.. and if he cant respect it then screw him..
]
hun you really dont need to worry how he will react. this is your choice..BAM lay it out and tell him. if he has a problem with it...then hes a loser because that means all he wanted was sex from you..
if hes cool with it then good sign! he passed the test
but you cant be worrying how he will handle it
-melissa-
]
I think that 14 is WAY too young for sex in modern times (A long time ago, it is encouraged for someone your age to start a family!) But if you're not ready, then don't do it. Tell him that. He won't freak out, he'll just be like "Oh, ok..." And that's about it. Now, please wait, because, there are so many teen pregnantcies, and a lot of these young mother's don't want the child, so the child get's aborted. Or all of these STDs that go arond. You shouldn't have to go through that drama.
]
first off do whatever you feel comfrontable with.. dont do anything that you might regreat and if he pressuring you to have sex with him then i dont think iti s a good idea to go out with him.. he might just be using you to have sex. if you dont want to have sex bc your not ready tell him striaght be like," if i go out wit you i wont have sex with you because i am not ready" ifhe doesnt respect that then he isnt worth your time. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
]
You need to do what your gut tells you. If you think that you are not ready for sex then tell him that and if he pressures you or calls you names then he isn't the right guy for you. You need to find a guy that is willing to wait for when you are ready.
]
ok.. i perdonally think that 14 yrs old is too young for sex.. if your not ready for it than don't.. there's so many consequences from having sex.. since it would be your first time.. wouldn't you want it to be with a guy you REALLY like??.. if this guy really likes you then he won't pressure into it.. if your not ready then you have to tell him, don't worry about his reaction.. if he gets all mad and starts to pressure you.. well then he's definetly not the right guy for you and there is someone better out there for you.. hope i helped.. don't worry.. you'll be fine
]
Ultimately, it doesn't matter how he reacts. You are the only one living your life, and you are the only one who has to deal with the consequences of choices you make.
If you are not ready for sex and feel scared, then don't have sex. If this guy doesn't accept that, it's not your problem. If anything, you've saved yourself time by finding out the sort of character he has.
And besides, if he's already asking about sex, I think it's pretty clear that his focus is on his penis rather than on your soul.
Listen to yourself. You know the answers.
]
if you are not ready, tell him. dont let any guy intimidate you into having sex with him. believe me, its not worth it.
]
Just tell him in a good way.Just say Im really not ready now.And if he makes a big deal of it them you know he wants you just for sex.If he says it in a sencere way that its fine well then you know he understands and he wont pressure you.
]
Hi there,
I suggested not to have sex with that guy because if he only hooking up with you to have sex with you, that just not good. SOme guys are nice, some are just plain j-e-r-k. Also if you feel peer-pressure to have sex always practice saying "No." Don't ever care about what other reaction would be. It's your life, its your decision and its not going to be him to decide for you. Don't let anyone put a pressure on you for this. Every relationship does not require sex. Remember this.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
]
heyyy grll dis yo grl da twin ying yang hehh. well sincu u r muh friend n im not sure who dis guy is but who ever he is dont have sex.DONT. fuk him if he cant respect your desicion he a jerk an asshole. i love how we curse on here hhehe. but im serious. plzz dont do it no matter how mcuh pressure he gives you. well cmox babde keep in tounch.
]
More Questions: |