Hi everyone,
My name is Patty. Or atleast that what I being called. I'm 16 years old and have been in many teen websites and answer questions through the year. I'm pretty much an outgoing activist person. When I listen, I listen with my heart, mostly and sometimes with my head when it come to question I have to search for the answer. I usually give a straight, honest, answer to every questions. Feel free to contact me at daydreamz89@hotmail.com or pop by a question at my column. :)
Take care.
-Patty-
E-mail: daydreamz89@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Occupation: K-12 Student
Age: 16
MSN: daydreamz89@hotmail.com
Member Since: August 5, 2005
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This sounds stupid but yeah..
Ok, so im a young teen, and my friends are more "matured" then me.I mean like they have boobs and i dont ; they have their period and i dont.I went for that check-up thing when your about 12-13 .. and they said i wouldnt start maturing till im a freshmen, well its not that long away im going into eigth grade .. but i feel like boys wont like me and i feel unconfortable in bathing suites around boys .. what should i do .. just deal with it? (link)
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Hi there,
I got your point there. Well, you see somepeople grows fast than other. I for example have period when I was 9. And that is heck of early age. Some people have it when they are 12-13, but someo doesn't get period until they are about 16-17. When I was 9, I don't even know what period is and none of my friend does either. It was freaky. About your question considering breast size, breasts size varie from person to person, some peoeple have small breast and some people have big breast. But it doesn't really matter, because people that become "mature" earlier might go through the same problem.
Take care,
Patty
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how do you have sex with your parents being home. if there room was downstairs and yours was upstairs and you wanted your boo to stay the night. how do you do it without gettin caught! (link)
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Hi there,
well i suggest not doing it while your parents are home cause well when i did it i done it when my parents are out to work and i sneak my ex to my house. anyways even if this way is staff always remember even if there's no parents there's still neighbors. there's once i rode a motorbike out with him and i just kind of run into one of the neighbor gladly i think she didn't notice me but ...god that just can give a pretty good heart attack. And even if you can moan softly how to you suggest your boy to sneakt out? by the window? don't think so, and closet wasn't that good idea either, don't you think. if you really want to have sex have it somewhere else where's your parents are not insight. and don't even consider having it at youur boy's house, his mom will be on your back for the rest of your life.
or if your boy happen to live with the old aunt or something like that that might the case u could try cause i did that with my other...date..
ok.. anyways tell me how its going..and oh don't forget to use condom..or if you don't want to in that case there's always emergency birth control pill where you take right after you have sex and again 12 hours later.
take care,
patty
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I have a best friend named Rachel. She's so awesome, I love her to death. She's like, the perfect best friend. But there's one problem and it isn't her fault. We're going into 8th grade and Rachel and I are in a huge group and have all of the same friends. They all like to hang out a lot, and so do we. My Mom doesn't care what I do, and if I want to run down the street naked all she'd say is "Have a nice time!". So anyway, it's Summer and out of all of our friends in our group we're pretty much the only two girls. There are also other girls we hang out with, but they don't hang out with the guys that we do. I have a crush on one of the guys, and one of the other one's is Rachel's ex bf and she still likes him. But a lot of times Rachel's Mom won't let her do ANYTHING! For example, this week I was suppose to hang out with her on Thursday and then she asked her Mom. And she didn't give an answer so she kept asking and she said yes. So Thurs. I got ready and then she called me and said she was babysitting her cousins and that we could def. hang out the next day. So the next day came and I got ready. Then she called me up and said her Mom said no again because her Mom was going out to dinner and Rach has to go to her Grandma's. So I got really mad. I told her she needs to talk to her mom b/c it isnt fair to me. She said she tried and her Mom understands but then she does it anyway. her Mom never makes up her mind. what should i do? and please dont say 'find new friends or hang out with other people' because I do, but Rach is my best friend and I really wanna hang out with her more. please help, i rate high!! (link)
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Hi there,
It could be that her mom busy or her mom feels the need of Rachel to be around. Or for whatever reason try to talk to Rachel about it and if it doesn't work. Maybe you keep get up your courage and try to talk to her mom, if she has any problem with you two hanging out. I kinda had an idea of what you going through. I had a friends whose moms are like that. Im not sure which one fits Rachel's mom type, but try and read it cause i found it pretty amusing. The first friend is 19 years old now and ok still living with a parents, or let put it this way, can't go anywhere without parents permission. The funniest thing is everytime I try to get her out to a movie her driver just has to tag along because her mom worries about her so much and if that's not worse enough that we don't have some privacy. When we go to the movie her parents just has to tag along and sit right beside us. Everytime i try to get her out we have to beg for a person to go out from her mom. and when said "we" i basically really mean we, as in me and her. because after she told her mom about me ask her to movie. and everytime she asked me to go to movie with her she has to tell her that i invited or else she won't let her go. she then passed the phone to me and i ended up have to speak to her mom and her dad, her sister, and her driver. and her mom is just so overprotective that she's say i must take care of her daughter, its like im babysitting a friend more than going out with a friend. and im 16 and that girl is reaching 20. her mom would call intoery her cellphone almost every 10 minutes and end up watching movie right next to us. the second case was one of my friend everytime i want to hang out with her i have to make an early appointment with her two weeks before it happen just to make sure she won't end up babysitting one of her mom's friend's baby or have to go out with her dad. and then when it close to the day we go out and we confirm it when the day came she just out of no where said sorry i oughta babysit my mom's friend's kid...i have to go with my dad...my mom going out with her friend... i have to stay home..so i end up spending most of my time at her apartment since she can't get her butt out of her apartment. but then she start talking to her mom begging her until she probably get annoy. so we get a chance to go out.
Pretty long post- just kinda to tell u, i understand.
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My boyfriend started to french me but I pulled away and said I didn't feel like it. Well, truth is, I don't know how and I'm worried I'll be bad at it. Does anyone have any tips or websites that can help me out?
Thanks,
Angela (link)
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Hi there,
Try check this website out. It tells you how to french kissing..even include pictures. hmm
http://www.links2love.com/teens_french_kiss.htm
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okay, my goal this year in school, is to get really popular. Can anyone help me accomplish that? Can someone give hints to getting into popularity? I really need it, alot. If anyone can help, Ill rate a 5 for useful information.
ex oh
not-so-popular
P.s- please don't tell me to be myself, I already am, and people don't like who I am. (link)
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Hi there,
Want to be popular, here some tips:
-Make yourself over meaning if you were glasses, change to contact lens, or high light your hair or color your hair. etc, etc.
-Audition for everything available in your school
play, parts, teams. You'll make loads of friends doing that.
-Join activities that you interest or close to being interest.
-Get yourself into being a student representative a.k.a student council a.k.a leadership organization.
-Join a cheerleader team
And atleast one of them will work, because it works for me. consider myself as a pretty activist person and I get loads of friends. (however im moving into new school)
Tell me how its going. Take care.
Patty
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ok...there's this guy that i might hook up with but i'm still not sure that i will but he was asking me if we hooked up if i would ever have sex with him and i said i didnt know...i dont know what to do because i dont think im ready for sex yet and honestly im scared...i want to tell him that im not ready but i dont know how he will react.. (link)
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Hi there,
I suggested not to have sex with that guy because if he only hooking up with you to have sex with you, that just not good. SOme guys are nice, some are just plain j-e-r-k. Also if you feel peer-pressure to have sex always practice saying "No." Don't ever care about what other reaction would be. It's your life, its your decision and its not going to be him to decide for you. Don't let anyone put a pressure on you for this. Every relationship does not require sex. Remember this.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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Has anyone switched from Lexapro to Paxil CR?
I was wondering about the transistion time.
I was taking Lexapro (20mg daily) & my Dr switched me to Paxil CR (starting w/25mg daily).
While I was on the Lexapro over the last 4 months, I just kept waiting for it to start working & felt hopeful - but it just got worse. I felt extremely hopeless, was missing work & had uncontrollable crying, to the point that I didn't want to get out of bed.
This is still happening & I was wondering how long it will take to start feeling the Paxil. My Dr had said the transition wouldn't be too bad since I was switching & not starting out fresh with the Paxil. He had me cut the Lexapro to half the dose (10mg) for 4 days, and then exactly a week ago I started with the 25mg of Paxil CR.
I not only suffer from depression, but also anxiety & OCD. If I'm not worried or obsessing about something then I go into a depression. I'm 48 years old and this has always been my pattern.
I've had many unsuccessful tries w/the other SSRI's over the years & am hoping the Paxil will give me some relief. At this point, my self-esteem, which has never been very good, is all but gone.
I see a wonderful counselor in addition to my Psych, and have tried every self-help & group therapy approach there seems to be. I feel very frustrated.
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Well I did pretty much changed from different medication through time. At first I was on quetapine, then I changed it to paxil, year later I was doing haldol and paxil, then now im doing topamax and zoloft. I believed what your facing is a side effect of paxil, I pretty much going through the same thing too when I was using paxil. I think if its get worse or haven't go away soon, consult with your psychiatrist.
Take care of yourself.
-Patty-
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ok i am going into 7th grade and i am worried if guys lik me cuz when i was in emementary skool everybody didn't lik me wat should i do?>
plzz help me (link)
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Hi there,
Is it possible that you think people didn't like you and its not that way. Or could it be it seems like people didn't like you because you don't really talk to people. First question is to defy your problem. If you really think people didn't like you. Why so? If its your look, I suggest if you happy with the way you look, don't give ....what other thinks but if you don't. THere are thousand healthy ways you could do to fix that part. Personality, are you too quiet, are you too shy? Defy exactly why do you think and return me some answers and I'll tell you if thats true or not because from the way you sound like, you didn't sound that bad to me.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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dont you just HATE it when people rate you really low just bc you tell the truth?
cookierat123 (link)
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Hi there,
I kinda got your point. I answered from other websites, being teen counseling at other websites and it just wow...but I don't know i guess sometimes you have to live with it because some people want to hear the truth and some just prefer something nicer. Cause sometimes the truth hurts, you know.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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I just thought it was kind of sad that some people really in need get less answers or suggestions than someone wanting to redecorate their room. It's just a suggestion, but why don't we all reach out a little more? (link)
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Hi there,
I simply agree with that. Well if there's anything I can do, pop me some question. Take care.
-Patty-
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ok lots of my girl freinds say im atractive but wenever im talkin to someone online that i havent seen they alwyz say i have a nice personality im scared of showing them or meeting them or w.e cuz maybe they wouldnt like me so wat do i do? this guy is goin to my sckool this year and i talk to him online hes my friends freind and like i dontt want him to think im really ugly or wat not (link)
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Hi there,
Seem like the only thing you don't have is not the looks or the personality, but more self-confidence or self-esteem.
Boost it up. Believe in yourself, if your friend said your attractive that must have meant something, or else, why would they lie? Just keep your head up, think your attractive and your funny and good personality. If you have a positive attitude toward yourself people will have positive attitude toward you. So how can he think your ugly. There's such thing as ugly people and even if someone is really not that good looking they might have something else hidden inside of them beneath their look. Look in yourself in the mirror, and say to yourself I am attractive and I have a great personality. Try to boost your self-esteem up because thinking negatively is not going to help.
Tell me how its going. Take care. Remember you are attractive, whether its your look or your personality. :)
-Patty-
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ok im growing outm y hair im male and i wanna know some good hair styles so if you have any ideas tell me. thanks! (link)
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Hi there,
Check these out:
-Askmen.com male hairstyles
(http://www.askmen.com/fashion/trends/13_fashion_men.html)
-Male hairstyles at about.com, include photos.
(http://beauty.about.com/od/hairstylesformen/)
-Yahoo search Hairstyles for men, long lists of websites.
(http://dir.yahoo.com/Arts/Design_Arts/Fashion_and_Beauty/Hair/Hairstyles/Men_s_Hairstyles/)
-Long hair styles for men.
(http://www.thehairstyler.com/long_men_hairstyles.asp)
-Male Celebrity hairstyles
(http://www.beautifulhairstyles.com/men/bradpitt.html)
-Men haircuts
(http://www.1001-hairstyles.com/mens-haircuts.htm)
-Celebrity hairstyles (again but there are alot more in this sites)
(http://www.celebrity-hairstyles.org/men-hairstyles.shtml)
Tell me how its going. Take care. And if anything I could do to help search for. Feel free to pop in some question. :)
-Patty-
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Hello. I don't really know how this works, but I am taking a crack at it. Lately, I have been reading many sites that teenage girls like me have been making about anorexia. Most often then not they are praising it, but I have found few who tell me to look away. I am about to be 15 years old in a month. Soon, I am going back to school. I weigh 204lbs. Everyone tells me I don't look overweight, but its not just the way I look. I feel heavy. I feel sick and digusted, but I when I read these websites I get inspired to lose weight. Though, never to such an extreme as to starving myself. Are there any diets or tips out there that can help me? I'm feeling really inadequate. (link)
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Hi there,
Try checking caloriesperhour.com I just check that to answer the other question similar as you. By the way don't ever think of starving yourself even if that's the last thing you can think of.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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well there are those night where i cry n cry i just think about me dying. n i really am ready for death even though i will miss my family. no what you need to understand is i dont feel like this at day time only at night ill cry sometimes n i want to die. im not afraid of death im ready. ill talk to god n tell him yell( i talk to him from my mind) i wan to die. i dont need any profesionals to ehlp me. but y shouldnt i die u tell me? (link)
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Hi there,
Maybe the reason you haven't die is because your time hasn't come and I see no need to rush it. You don't need any professional, but I think you need someone to talk to. I'm not professional for one thing. Is it possible that you get lonely at night and it cause you to feel really bad and want to die. I have that feeling too, most of the time I can't sleep. But I can listen. If you want to talk feel free to email me at daydreamz89@hotmail.com or pop something in my column AskPatty.(I know the background colors are just not good, im fixing it) I check these things everyday.
Tell me how it going. Take care of yourself.
-Patty-
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I have really liked this guy for like 3 months or more. So then i went to a group were he was and we talked and then he asked me if i had a crush on him and i said "YES" then we stared going out. We only went out for 3 days but i still really like him. We are still good friends but then i asked him on the computer would you ever go out with me again and do you still like me he said he would probley never go out with me and likes me as a friend. I was fine with that but then i went to the group again and he totally ingored me. So from then on i ingored him then he e-mail me on the computer and asked me why i was ingoring him. (this was after a weeks of no talking). SO my question is why didn't he talk to me at group?? then i say him today and he also completly ingored me today too. so whats his problem?? please help i'm so confused...I RATE HIGH.oh and i also e-mailed him back and told him "because you didn't seem like you wanted to talk too me" he also read the e-mail befor he saw me today.. if that makes any diffrents.. THANK YOU (link)
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Hi there,
I'll answer question by question. "Why didn't he talk to me at a group" might be because he's embarrassed of his friend, and what I meant was not he embarrassed of you. It just guys you know they hang out with their friends and they don't want to get tease about you and all these things. So usually they pretend to ignore you and again guys, when you ignore them back some guy got the sense that something they used to own is slipping away. So they try to get your attention back. Three days, that's not long, but hey everything is possible. He might be confusing about how he's feel about you or he might just have things on his mind. It kinda hard to talk guys because basically when they have problem they want to be left alone. So I suggest you could just send him email and say something like you understand what was going and we're still friend and if there's anything he wants to talk about. You'll be there. and right now, just let him be don't run after him, cause it possible he could get annoy. But wait for him to call you first, or email you first. And we'll see how it goes after that.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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is their any way to get rid of freckals with out sergery or using make up like when i wash my face their not as noticeable and i dont got really notice able frecjkals but still i want them gone. (link)
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Hi there,
I recommend you to check out my column about freckles I pretty much had it all there. But I just copy and paste so you could see it again.
Well tell me how its going. :)
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Ok i am not a skinny person i am really over weight and i wanna loose a lot of weight before christmas and stuff so i can feel better about myself and so people will stop making fun of me and stuff i would like to know what to buy how much to eat how much to exercise and what foods are good and not how long i have to exercise what to drink and everything. I pretty much only drink water so yeah.And i want to loose as many pounds as i can in a week/month/year. so plz give me soem advice. (link)
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Hi there,
Well there are ton of website for this. And I really don't recommend diet pill if that is ever become one of your choice. There also shop like GNC where they sell diet supplement. Well the part about what food are good and how long you have to exercise is basically depend on how much you eat each day and how much time you have for exercise. Because exercise really should be done regularly. As much as drink water will help because it remove wastes from body, eat veggie and fruits are also going to help. Avoid soda, candies, chocolates are really enemies of diet. Sweet stuff, sugary stuff, and oily stuff. But this doesn't meant you have to turn into a vegetarian you just have to balace your diet.
Always know too that losing weight too fast is not that good. Its not good for your health and there's a chance you will bounce right back to become even more overweight. I will try and search for books and websites for this. But try go to the bookstore and find the categories about health and fitness, some books has all it said. Don't stay still, moving, walking, even laughing burns calories :)
If you need anything, pop me a question. :)
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
ALSO check out caloriesperhour.com It gives pretty good advice.
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Well there is this kid we met this year and we went out together at one point but then we broke up and we were still friends. But now he hates me and won't talk to me and I have no idea why. What should I do I'll rate high! I'm female/13 (link)
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Hi there,
Well it could be for many reasons. It pretty hard for a person to be friend again after they broke up. For some reason when you guys were friend and changed into more serious relationship, things just changed. Of course it does work out for some cases. And if this is your case I suggest, move on. He's not last guy friend you will ever met in this world.
But...hold it right there.
If this isn't your case, if you guys already cool and become friend and out of a thin air he just acts all weird and mad at you. Something might be upsetting him? It could possibly be something you said, or it could be just him need sometimes alone. One day just talk to him when he's alone ask him what was wrong and if he's cool to talk about then that's good. But most guy isn't that way. So you just have to let him be for a while and tell me that its cool if he wants to talk about anything. You'll be there.
Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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What made you want to start putting your pics online for everyone to see?
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Hi there,
For me it was more like for people online that wanted to know what I look like. I answer other website as well as a teen counseling and sometimes u just have to wonder "who that chick that answer my question" I suppose it could also be for fun or looking for new friends on the internet.
Take care.
-Patty-
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I've been going out with this guy for almost 2 months. He's amazing. He's good looking, Funny, Smart and basically everything I want in a guy. Except, He's 2 years younger than me. He's really mature though. If he tells his mom we're going out he'll get in trouble and have to break-up with me and it kind of bothers me cause his mom keeps questioning him why he calls me and why I call him. I really dont know what to do.. Can someone please give me some good advice? I rate really good. Thanks! (link)
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Hi,
You know age difference really not a big deal. If you see on a new some people that are 20 marries someone that are 50. The question is "why" is he parents against it? If you and him have absolutely no problem with this. I suggest you try to speak to him to ask his parent about this. And in the meantime you two take things slow. Because at the end it was "he" who dates you not his mom so he has the decision. Tell me how its going. Take care.
-Patty-
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