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Friend In Chains
I have a best friend named Rachel. She's so awesome, I love her to death. She's like, the perfect best friend. But there's one problem and it isn't her fault. We're going into 8th grade and Rachel and I are in a huge group and have all of the same friends. They all like to hang out a lot, and so do we. My Mom doesn't care what I do, and if I want to run down the street naked all she'd say is "Have a nice time!". So anyway, it's Summer and out of all of our friends in our group we're pretty much the only two girls. There are also other girls we hang out with, but they don't hang out with the guys that we do. I have a crush on one of the guys, and one of the other one's is Rachel's ex bf and she still likes him. But a lot of times Rachel's Mom won't let her do ANYTHING! For example, this week I was suppose to hang out with her on Thursday and then she asked her Mom. And she didn't give an answer so she kept asking and she said yes. So Thurs. I got ready and then she called me and said she was babysitting her cousins and that we could def. hang out the next day. So the next day came and I got ready. Then she called me up and said her Mom said no again because her Mom was going out to dinner and Rach has to go to her Grandma's. So I got really mad. I told her she needs to talk to her mom b/c it isnt fair to me. She said she tried and her Mom understands but then she does it anyway. her Mom never makes up her mind. what should i do? and please dont say 'find new friends or hang out with other people' because I do, but Rach is my best friend and I really wanna hang out with her more. please help, i rate high!!
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I'm so sorry! maybe if she needs to babysit- you could go with her. Maybe hang out during the day if something is going to come up at night. Other then that I don't know. Rachel can't really do anything about it because she shouldn't ruin her relationship with her mom. but good luck! and i hope it works out!
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The best thing I can tell you to do is for YOU to talk to her mom. Tell her that Rachel is your best friend and you would like to see her more than you do already... Tell her that some of the times or days that she suggests for you to SEE Rachel are inconvient to you and you would like to see her more on weekends and hang out and stuff. I'm sorry but in a situation like this, I don't know what you could do, but that! If Rachel has already talked to her mom and she won't listen, then maybe if YOU tell her, she'll listen more and understand that what she is doing is affecting not only her DAUGHTER'S social life but yours as well. Sure, you have other friends but Rachel is the one you REALLY want to hang out with. Tell her that. You and Rachel both. Next time you see her, sit her mom down at a table or on the couch or on a bed or somwhere! and explain to her the things that are on yours and Rachel's minds.
I'm sorry I couln't help you further than what I did. I wish there was more that you could do but this is the only thing you could do in this situation...
Best of luck! :-)
Hope I helped! ♥
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Hi there,
It could be that her mom busy or her mom feels the need of Rachel to be around. Or for whatever reason try to talk to Rachel about it and if it doesn't work. Maybe you keep get up your courage and try to talk to her mom, if she has any problem with you two hanging out. I kinda had an idea of what you going through. I had a friends whose moms are like that. Im not sure which one fits Rachel's mom type, but try and read it cause i found it pretty amusing. The first friend is 19 years old now and ok still living with a parents, or let put it this way, can't go anywhere without parents permission. The funniest thing is everytime I try to get her out to a movie her driver just has to tag along because her mom worries about her so much and if that's not worse enough that we don't have some privacy. When we go to the movie her parents just has to tag along and sit right beside us. Everytime i try to get her out we have to beg for a person to go out from her mom. and when said "we" i basically really mean we, as in me and her. because after she told her mom about me ask her to movie. and everytime she asked me to go to movie with her she has to tell her that i invited or else she won't let her go. she then passed the phone to me and i ended up have to speak to her mom and her dad, her sister, and her driver. and her mom is just so overprotective that she's say i must take care of her daughter, its like im babysitting a friend more than going out with a friend. and im 16 and that girl is reaching 20. her mom would call intoery her cellphone almost every 10 minutes and end up watching movie right next to us. the second case was one of my friend everytime i want to hang out with her i have to make an early appointment with her two weeks before it happen just to make sure she won't end up babysitting one of her mom's friend's baby or have to go out with her dad. and then when it close to the day we go out and we confirm it when the day came she just out of no where said sorry i oughta babysit my mom's friend's kid...i have to go with my dad...my mom going out with her friend... i have to stay home..so i end up spending most of my time at her apartment since she can't get her butt out of her apartment. but then she start talking to her mom begging her until she probably get annoy. so we get a chance to go out.
Pretty long post- just kinda to tell u, i understand.
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Hey theres not much you can do at the moment since you both still live with your parents. When you can drive and when you get older and move out of the house things will be very different. Stay close to her and make plans with her as much as you can. I know it's aggrivating but you have to just deal with it for right now! Some parents are just that way and theres nothing you can do about it! I hoped I helped! Rate me back if you think I answered your question good!
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Well, You Could Ask To Talk To Her Mother and calmly explain the situation and see if you can work trough the problame and rachel can sit and talk to with you 2... Hope I Heeped!
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hi! im sorry to hear about your problem! there is nothing you can really change about her mother, but that doesnt matter. all you have to do is invite her over to your house! like when she had to go to her grandmothers house, you couldve just had her over at your place. if her mom doesnt agree with that... gosh crazy woman. i hope i helped!
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