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Q: hey yall...this question is pretty blunt, but im in need of it. What are some good flirting tips or a great way to get guys to notice you. ima nice girl, not ugly, but sumtimes it seems the guys always go for the bad girls. sluts...yeah but anyway it seems like all the guys id consider liking, i dont kno how to talk to them or let them kno i like them. any tips?

-thanks guys!

BE ABSOLUTELY 1005 NOTHING OTHER THAN YOURSELF! If there is one thing guys hate, it's fake girls! Also don't wear too much makeup. Try too be a little more social, but not too social.. it can get annoying. that probably isnt what you wanted to hear, but its the truth! i hope i helped!
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Q: I have a best friend named Rachel. She's so awesome, I love her to death. She's like, the perfect best friend. But there's one problem and it isn't her fault. We're going into 8th grade and Rachel and I are in a huge group and have all of the same friends. They all like to hang out a lot, and so do we. My Mom doesn't care what I do, and if I want to run down the street naked all she'd say is "Have a nice time!". So anyway, it's Summer and out of all of our friends in our group we're pretty much the only two girls. There are also other girls we hang out with, but they don't hang out with the guys that we do. I have a crush on one of the guys, and one of the other one's is Rachel's ex bf and she still likes him. But a lot of times Rachel's Mom won't let her do ANYTHING! For example, this week I was suppose to hang out with her on Thursday and then she asked her Mom. And she didn't give an answer so she kept asking and she said yes. So Thurs. I got ready and then she called me and said she was babysitting her cousins and that we could def. hang out the next day. So the next day came and I got ready. Then she called me up and said her Mom said no again because her Mom was going out to dinner and Rach has to go to her Grandma's. So I got really mad. I told her she needs to talk to her mom b/c it isnt fair to me. She said she tried and her Mom understands but then she does it anyway. her Mom never makes up her mind. what should i do? and please dont say 'find new friends or hang out with other people' because I do, but Rach is my best friend and I really wanna hang out with her more. please help, i rate high!!

hi! im sorry to hear about your problem! there is nothing you can really change about her mother, but that doesnt matter. all you have to do is invite her over to your house! like when she had to go to her grandmothers house, you couldve just had her over at your place. if her mom doesnt agree with that... gosh crazy woman. i hope i helped!
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Q: Hey you know how people put those popup messages on their sight so that the message pops up when you enter or leave... I keep getting differnt codes for my myspace so i could put it on but it doesnt work i dont know why though if anyone has a suggestion on a code or on why it may not be working and how i can get to it work please help and if you have a code on your sight that does work can you please send me the code much love peace! Laugh out loud... Ill rate u...thanks in advance...

i dont know how to make the ones when youre leaving but the ones coming in are this:
alert('TYPE YOUR MESSAGE HERE')
dont delete the little '' things!

Q: What are some jewlery stores that sell rings? I cant find any that i like!!!!!! Please Website would be helpfull! !

Signed,
Ringless

www.pacsun.com is always an awesome place to buy anything! check it out.

Q: My boyfriends gone away to camp for 2 weeks. He just left n its been really hard on me. Ive been really sad without him here. I must have cried atleast 3 times today. What should I do. My friends are all workin so its kinda hard to go out with them

whoah okay thats sortof strange that you cant go two weeks without your boyfriend... theres no need to cry - he'll come back! but hey, if you really do want to talk to him, try calling his mom or dad and ask them if theres an address you can write to or send him emails while hes at camp. most camps let you do that. well i wish you the best of luck with your boyfriend! i hope my advice helped at least a little!

Q: Hey everyone.. well i'm kinda worried.. i don't kow what is wrong with me! i feel really guilty whenever i eat. i'm pretty sure it's not anorexia but i just dont know what it is. i've gradually started eating less and less because the guilt is just overwhelming. im 99 pounds and 5'2" and i know that's liek average or whatever but when i look in the mirror i always just see myself as HUGE. i have been getting really bad headaches lately from not eating as much as i usually do but its not enough to make me eat more because i just keep thinking about what my thighs would look like if i ate say a cheeseburger. at first i just started eating healthy foods but now im even afradi that THOSE foods will make me fat. help!!!!

hey! im sorry that youre having problems, maybe i can help. well first off, you are definately not fat. im 5'2 also and i weigh 115, which is perfectly normal! but i guess thats not your problem is it. well if i were you id try taking up a sport. sports often give people a lot f self confidence, and thats what you seem to need right now. also, sports will help you keep your weight under control. well i really hope i helped!

Q: im really craving lemonade! but i dont know how to make it! can someone tell me how! ill rate!

just buy some powdered lemonade at the grocerie store. the directions should be on the box.
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Q: anyone know any good sites i can go to that's about like activities with your best friend, or friendship quizzes, things like that for someone and their best friend? thankz!

try www.gurl.com they have tons of awesome stuff! hope i helped!
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Q: ok so I've liked this guy "cody" since september 2004 (its april 05 now) and it seemed as though he liked me a while back too. he would always talk to me. we'd hang out at school. talk on msn and he would basically just tell me everything about himself and ya, you get my point. in november a lot of people new I liked him however he didnt know who I liked so he bugged me about it on msn and I folded and told him I liked him. of course he liked "bethany" at the time so nothing happened (plus he was supposed to have asked her out but that never happened either) So when he stopped liking bethany things were still the same between us however slowly when february came we started drifting further apart and basically its gotten to the point where the only thing we do is make smart comments to each other. I really dont know what has happened but I still like him and my friends think he may like me a bit but I find that hard to believe cause he's more mean to me than he is nice. I'm wondering whether I should move on and forget about him. or re-tell him that I like him and see what happens. please help. anything you can tell me would be great. thanks!

hey! im sorry to hear youre having problems! well, if hes being mean to you, i dont see why you like him, but obviously you do, so thats not for me to judge. i think you should just try to talk to him: ask him why hes mean to you! i know that sounds really hard, but i once did something similar, and now me & the guy are friends again. listen, if you want him to be nice to you, just talk to him and give it some time. i hope i helped!!!
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Q: how do you boost your self-esteem? mainly about your body image. i've been having a lot of trouble with my body image =\, and i don't know what to do. whenever i eat i regret eating. when i pinch my stomach i have about 4 inches of fat (and thats standing up!).. i try to keep myself away from food, but then that's all i think about & i eat alot.

thanx in advance.

ok, well my school counciler in 5th grade taught me this one! its scientifically proven that it takes an average of 13 good thoughts to cover up for 1 bad thought. so what you should do, when youre in a good mood write down 13 good things about yourself. then when youre feeling bad look at them. now about your weight! you should DEFINATELY not think youre over weight! im only 5'1 and i weight that much, but guys still think good about my apperance! thats really dangerous is you think youre fat! just stop thinking that! well, i hope i helped!
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Q: I have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time now. I love him so much and he asked me to marry him. I told him yes of course because I have never felt this way about anyone and he is flawless. But the thing is, I am only 16 years old. And latley, aka as of two days ago, I have been having doubts and it doesnt feel the same. Nothing happened between us, it just feels different. I want to love this guy again, because the love I had for him was perfect. I dont want to lose him for feeling this. What can I do to 'rekindle' the flame again?

Well, first of all, you shouldn't be getting married at the age of 16! if he erally loves you, he will be able to wait until you are out of collage. You see, if you get married now, you will probably not be financially stable for at least 10 years! and especially since you are having doubts about him... for the second part of your question, thinkabout this. In your life, things have probably gone wrong. Was your boyfriend there to help? did he make you feel like you were the most beautiful girl in the world? if not hes probably not the guy for you, but if he really loves you he'll really show you, so you should continue to love him. i hope i helped!
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Q: Ok see i like there two boyz and one opf them is my ex bf and the other is my best friend's ex bf but the 2 guys i like r friends and im not sure which 1 i like better? help plz!

well, since i dont know you, i also dont know the guys, but heres what you should do. a lot of times this can be really hard, but you have to be patient! Wait until you are absolutly POSITIVE you know which one you like more! and who knows, maybe neither of them will be the one for you! just play it out and follow your heart. i hope i helped!
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Q: how can you find your bra size? like is there a way to measure yourself? maybe with a tape measurer or something?

i know tis may seem really embarrassing, but you can go to bra stores and some of them will actually do the measuing for you! i know it may seem sick, but its the best way to get the right size! i hope i helped!
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Q: i have this friend, and he is a year older than me(im 13, he is 14). we met through another friend and we have talked for a long time. He is really hott and hard to resist. we both have webcams and we had gotten naked for each other and we would do stuff for the other one to watch. he had always had a girlfriend during this time and it never seemed to bother him. about 2 weeks ago, we were gonna go on cam again. i took off my shirt and my bra and he was watching and everything was like normal, then, when it was his turn to show, he used the "i cant do this, i have a girlfriend" excuse. i dont know if he really meant it or not or if he just wanted to see and not show. that doesnt really bother me...its just now...that him and his gf broke up, he wants me to show him stuff again and i dont want to anymore. what should i tell him with out actually saying that? please help...i will rate!

whoa... ok you need to stop right now!!! im 13 also, and i have no clue how you could get yourself into that!!! heres what you should do. get the webcam all hooked up and tell him your gonna do it. then, just start telling him how sick he is and that you dont wanna talk to him! just promise me youll never do it again!!! thats sick! i hope i helped!
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Q: 14/f
I'm a Christian so I want to be a virgin till I'm married, but lately it's been real hard to stay that way. I'm letting my hormones make me too curious. (I've never actually even seen a penis before.) I get really horny a lot and sometimes I ever masturbate to get over it. I'm way too young to have sex but lately I've wanted to give a handjob or even get laid. How can I keep motivated to stay a virgin? I know I'm not ready for sex.

hey! the one thing that should always keep you motivated for virginity is Jesus Christ. remember, He died on The Cross for you, and the least you coulud do is keep your virginity. I know it may be VERY VERY VERY hard at times, but you always have to back to your faith. remember, Jesus is always there with you no matter what happens. i hope i helped!
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Q: ok... i realllllllllyy like this guy and he is in 7th grade and im in 8th and i heard that he likes another girl but if he gets to know me better then he would give it a chance...but i dont know!!

hey! ok, what you should do is this: start by just talking to him as a good friend. when you get to know him a little better, you can call him or ask him to hang out with you and your friends. if he starts to show any signs of affection, just tell him how you feel! i know that may sond like it would take a long time, but if you really like him, you should be willing to wait! i really hope i helped!
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Q: my step-dad made me download mozilla firefox because it is supposed to be better than microsoft internet explorer.. so my question is.. is it really better? and i also am having a problem seeing my mail on optium online

ur right. mozilla firefox isnt that great! its hard to see a lot of HTML on websits and it can get annoying. if i were you, id get internet explorer.

Q: Ok...I've never met this kid in person but I talk to him online all the time. He's lets call him J's friend, and lets call him B. Well J told me that B likes me...I want to know if it's possible to like someone that you never met in person? I think I like him.

well before you answer, i think you should tell J that youd like to meet B. Trust me, I;ve gone out with i guy i hadnt met before and it sure didnt turn out pretty...! i hope i helped!
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Q: I hate my column colors, their getting old. Anyone have any cute colors that go good together? Other than Pink/black. Right now its pink/black/baby blue and I want something different. I rate 5's if you try! =)

hey! instead of using a bunch of different colors, try just using different shades of one color. i.e. - navy & sky blue & white or sumthin like that! i hope i helped!!!
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Q: ok my sister's 16 birthday is coming up! i want to get her something special beacuse ...u know its her 16! but i dont no wut to get her!
any suggestions!
i rate high!

thanks!

hey! one of the best gifts you can give that is pretty cheap is a subscription to one of her favourite magazines. its something that will keep her entertained for at least a year or two! i hope i helped!
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bio

Hey!! My name is Holly Lynne Brackin. I've gone through a ton of stuff in my life, and I'm still learning, but I think you can trust me! I love helping people out and I really put thought into my answers.