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The perfect guy
I have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time now. I love him so much and he asked me to marry him. I told him yes of course because I have never felt this way about anyone and he is flawless. But the thing is, I am only 16 years old. And latley, aka as of two days ago, I have been having doubts and it doesnt feel the same. Nothing happened between us, it just feels different. I want to love this guy again, because the love I had for him was perfect. I dont want to lose him for feeling this. What can I do to 'rekindle' the flame again?
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I know two people who are 15 and 16, and they know their future, and I truly believe that they are meant to be. However, maybe you are overexaggerating when you say that you want to love him again, because if you TRULY love him in the first place, your love will never die for him. I don't mean it for you to get offended, but you have to be true to him and don't think about the past and just hang out with him normally again and go on dates, w/e. You shouldn't be worrying about the marriage issue for a good 6 or 7 years, so just have fun, and enjoy your time with him, and not worrying about the rest of your lives. Just be normal with him and do stuff that you did when you first started going out to remind yourselves of how much fun you've always had! Hope I've Helped!
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It's the pressure and the reality of the situation hitting you - you are too young to be engaged. I'm not judging you here, because most people feel they will be with their high school sweethearts forever (and many seroiusly discuss marriage), but the fact remains that your personality isn't even finished growing until your mid-twenties. Neither is his.
That's not to say you can't or won't end up together, but that it is too soon. Your mind recognizes this on some level, which is why your feelings have changed.
It's too soon to be engaged. If you are both truly in love, then you should be able to explain to him that the situation is too rushed. Let him know how deeply you love him, but that you are not ready for a marriage type of committment. That way you can stay together, grow up individually, and see where you grow together as a couple.
It's not a bad thing to do this - it's the only way to give your relationship a fair chance. Best of luck.
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Hey Hun,
First off, congrats on getting engaged.
I'm sure what you're expierencing isn't anything to worry about it, alot of people I know have had 'second thoughts' about getting married.
You should tell him you both need to wait for a couple of years till you get married, till your both older and both know what you want. If he loves you which I'm assuming he does seeing as he asked you to marry him.
Spend some extra time with him doing romantic things or anything that you like to do together see if your mind changes. Just don't jump to conclussions too fast and call off the engagement because you might be misreading your feelings.
Hope I helped
& congrats, good luck ...and all that good stuff =P
♥Em
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It's called cold feet. It happens to practically everybody. Try spending some romantic times together. Like walks on the beach and simple stuff that still means alot. Think about what first attracted you to him and the day you first met and all that stuff.
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For one thing getting married at 16 is not a good idea. I think you know this and it is clouding your ability to have a good time. Put the wedding plans on hold for now and see if things don't go back to being like they were.
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tell him that you are having second thoughts about getting married..if he really loves you and you really love him..he will understand.. but since ya'll are engaged wait a few years until you actually set a date to get married. just have a long engagement so that way you no FOR sure what he will be like once you two get married! hope i helped!
~*Sarah*~
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Well if your not to shur about it just ask him to wait a little longer to see how things go...and just think about the good times that u guyz had!GOOD LUCK!I hope it worx out!
cody
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hey,
This was a kinda tuff question. But i think i can help, but you might not like it. Try to read it anyway. First i am sure everyone has told you your to young to marry. Well i do agree with that, you know why? Because of what you said. You don't feel the same way about him. You have a lot of growing up to do, don't deny yourself your teenage years. You are growing up and changing. Thats why parents and friends always tell young people to wait, becuase they have so much they have yet to do and feel. I don't think you should try to help this flame. Let it dye out. Its ok! Try and think of it this way, right now you are having a hard time feeling the same way, well think of how hard it will be to rekindle this flame 5-6-10 years from now. Give yourself time to grow up. And even then, marriage isn't somthing you have to do, or rush into. Love doesn't ever go away, or fade. Try and remember that.
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Just try doing things that you don't usually do, or that you used to do when you first started going out. Try not to do the same old things, because then you take the old things or possible different things for granted. Try hanging out at a different place or just doing different things together.
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Well, first of all, you shouldn't be getting married at the age of 16! if he erally loves you, he will be able to wait until you are out of collage. You see, if you get married now, you will probably not be financially stable for at least 10 years! and especially since you are having doubts about him... for the second part of your question, thinkabout this. In your life, things have probably gone wrong. Was your boyfriend there to help? did he make you feel like you were the most beautiful girl in the world? if not hes probably not the guy for you, but if he really loves you he'll really show you, so you should continue to love him. i hope i helped!
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