~*Kristina here, you need advice, I'm here to try and help. Favorite topic, love life, social life,anything among them lines.
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Alright well I'm a 14/f and I went out with this guy for 9months and he was sweet and stuff but we fought too much and my parents don't approve of him so we broke up well it's been about a month since then,we dont talk at all anymore and i really miss him, but I get these days where all I can think about is him and I wish we were going back out and then other days I dont wanna go back out.How can I figure if I want to be with him or not? Should I talk to him and tell him how I feel or just find a way to get over him? PLZ HELP (link)
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If you feel it is the right thing to do, tell him how you feel. But if its been a while and you havent even talked then it might not be so smart. I was in the same situation and my parents really didnt approve and all we did was fight and i tried it again and went through the trouble of begging my parents and trying to make it work but it just all turned out to be the same as it was before. if you werent happy with him and he treated you bad then chances are he'll do it again. try talking as just friends and see how that goes. then after if you get along still try telling him. if he was your first serious boyfriend youre going to feel this way. i still think bout the guy i had and feel like i miss him then i realize hes a total jerk now. dont rush into things again take your time and see what happens.dont think about how much you miss him or want to be with him, think about if he could truly make you happy n let that be the dealbreaker. Good Luck
*Kristina*
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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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He was probably telling you that so he could get his mind off of him being overweight. Chances are he knows he has a problem but doesnt feel like doing anything about it. Don't let him get to you. Talk to him about it and tell him that he really upset you when he told you that and see what he says. after that if he is still being a jerk then you deserve better. There's always someone better out there that could probably make you a lot happier and wouldn't criticize you but hed compliment you... thats the type of guy youll be happy with. like the quote says *Dont settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you cant live without*
*Kristina*
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Every guy in my grade thinks im prude. They Think im pretty and hot and all, but they wont date me becuase they think i wont do anything. I WILL though, i just am relly self consious and i always think there is something on my face or something when boys talk to me. How can i change this?! please help me :] (link)
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Prudeness can be a good thing whether you believe it or not. If a guy wont date you because he thinks you won't do anything sexual then hes not the guy you should want to be with. A guy will come along that will want you for you and it will have nothing to do with sex. That is the type of guy you need because when a relationship starts off about sex, it will stay that way whether you want it to be more or not. Every girl is self conscious about how she looks. It can be the prettiest girl in your school and she is like that but some dont show it as much as others. next time youre talking to a guy try toconcentrate on him and not yourself and youll feel more relaxed and it will probably go better. Good Luck
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I have only been in one relationship before, and that was with a guy who was completely clueless about everything. That relationship really didn't last long.
But now there's another guy on the scene, and I am aware that he is a little more experienced.
I am very self-concious, I am not happy with my lower body (from the hips down really), and I'm not sure how comfortable I would be doing things with this guy. I really really like him, but I have never done anything beyond kissing before and I think this guy would want more.
What should I do? The relationship is in its early stages and I have made it clear that I want to wait, but for the time being it would be nice to have an idea of what I should do.
There is also the problem of me not knowing WHAT to do, which also contributes to the problem.
All advice welcomed. (link)
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Don't rush into anything you're not ready for. Don't have sex or anything when you don't want to just because you think you'll lose him if you don't. It's not worth it and if that's the only way he'll stay with you then you don't need him anyway because thats not the type of guy you want to be with. I made that mistake and lost my virginity that way and believe me i regret it because i thought i had to to make him happy.. But now we don't even get along and im still not over him because of that. I wish i wouldve waited for someone i love. If this guy cares about you he'll wait and listen to what you want. There's no reason not to like your body, don't worry about that because you should be happy with yourself not stress yourself worryin that you're not perfect, no one is. On the case of knowing WHAT to do, really once it happens its pretty much a natural instinct and you won't have any problems. Don't worry about that. Well i hope that helped and good luck. Always here
~*~Kristina~*~
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Me and my fiance have been together for going on 3 and half years, that was until Wednesday. We have now split, because I ask him to show me that he loves me more often, because I ask this he blames me for "cussing" at him to much. I know that it is hard for him sometimes to show me this but it is something that I feel that I need, even though I am pretty sure that he does love me. i have never cheated on him or anything to hurt him, he means more than life to me, and will give it all that I have to make sure that he is happy. This is not the first time that we have seperated, and after a few days and does eventually return but this time, my heart is not so sure. Can you tell me from a guys ppoint of view what you think will happen to my bf and I. Will you also give me advice on what to do to make sure that this never happens again??
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well from a girls point of view i see where you're coming from. everyone wnats to feel loved and appreciated. I don't blame you for asking him to show you he loves you more often because I wouoold have done the same thing. Tell him how much happier it would make you and tell him you'll show him as much as you can also. If he usually returns he probably will this time since it's not that much of a big deal. You need to tell him that you can't handle him leaving over every little thing. For the guys point of view i got the opinion of a friend he said just to give him time if it didn't take long for him to return before and let him settle his problems or try to on his own. Well i really hope it all works out and good luck i hope i helped.
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OK well theres this kid at my school. (Hes in 10th im in 9th) Well we always got along because we have alot of the same friends and do one sport together. But I never really liked him that much untill we both started spending alot of time together. I really started to like him and he even kissed me once. Well after that we kinda stoped talking, but then one night we talked again and i started to like him again. He even asked to go to the movies. But I was talking to one of his friends and he said "well hes not looking for a relationship" but im confused because i was messing around with the kid and i said "What if I was like I love you and can't live without you will you go out with me" and his response was "i would proally be a little shocked but then prabably say yes" Help im so confused! (link)
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I know EXACTLY how you feel, im same age, same situation. It's really obvious he likes you. Keep hangin out with him and hopefully it will lead somewhere. But don't mess around a lot because he will think that's all it's about. You seem like you would be really happy with him and really wanna be with him so try and go for it but don't ask him out, let him do it. Just hang out and throw out hints that you really like him and see if he feels the same and tell him how you feel. Most likely considering the situation you'll end up together. Good Luck
Always there,
Kristina
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I am 13 and a girl. i like a boy and he is my friend and we went out and then he dumped me 3days later and he still liked me or thats what he said. now i like him again but he is going out with some girl who i dont no! what do i do to get him back? (link)
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Try to find out how he feels about her, if he really likes her or what. Just start hanging out with him again and try to talk to him more to get his attention. If he likes you already then this will make him fall for you even more. And if he likes you enough hje might see that he shouldn't be with her and he should be with you. Just become good friends and try to earn his trust and everything and throw out hints that you still have feelings for him to let him know.
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hey so im going out with a really hot guy who is really nice and loves me a lot. he calls me like 50 timeseveryday, and i can trust him with anything. one problem... hes not the guy i truely like. usually, i would break up with him in hopes of going out with the other guy, but this time is different. you see, the guy i really truely like isnt that cute and hes never had a girlfriend before. me and him are really good friends, have most of our classes together, and play soccer at the same club. i know he probably wouldnt go out with me until highschool (im in 7th grade) but i feel guilty going out withy a guy i dont really like. what should i do? (link)
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You shouldn't stay with him just because he's hot. Don't be with someone who you don't really have feelings for because it will just hurt you even more and him too. Who cares if the other one is hot or not, if you like him go for it. and if you think then he might be worth the wait. You need to do what will make you the happiest, who cares what other people think. Try to get the one you like to like you and hang out with him and everything. Good luck.
Always there,
Kristina
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Hey!
I have a case of boredum!
lol
anyways-
what are some good sites to go to when you are bored?!
Like some that have those quizes like:
ex:
1-whats your fav color
2-whats your fav drink
or
1- where did we meet
and/ or those when you pick your fav color and its says something like "blue means that....."
you know?
any one have some of those that they could send to me? or any sites?
Thanks In Advance!!
*-KeLsA-* (link)
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go to www.quizilla.com it has quizzes about pretty much almost anything you can think of. I go there when i get bored a lot. Hope i helped.
~Kristina~
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I'm torn between two guys. They are both really great and I like them both. I have no clue which one I should be with. I know I have to be with one of them, but I don't know what one. *Jake is 16 years old. He's an awesome guy but sometimes we get into fights and say really hurtful things to eachother. But I still really like him, because he always shows that sweet side to him around his friends, when he's known as a "Tough" guy at school. *Erik is 17 (my age) and is an all time sweetheart, he's always there for me when I need him. He's just plan amazing. I like something about both of these guys, but I'd like a little feedback from you guys about what I should do. Which one should I choose/not choose? Thanks. (link)
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Well *Erik seems like a lot nicer guy and the one that you'd be better off with and that would make you happier. You need to find out how each of them feel about you. But just in case Erik doesn't like you doesn't mean you go right to Jake. With Jake, it's not a good sign with the arguing and especially when he's known as a tough guy at school and is different around everyone else. I dated a guy like that and he turned out to be a real jerk. It shows that he might not be a totaly honest person and he might try to be someone he's not. Erik also seems like he's a good friend but if he doesn't like you don't let it ruin the friendship, it'll make it even worse. But he's the type of guy you want to be with since he's always there for you when you need him. Hope I helped and I know how you feel and where you're coming from. Good Luck
~~Kristina~~
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okay i have a b/f now well call him "K" okay well we've been goin out for a lil while but i wanna call him but im afraid his mom or something is gonna answer what do i do/? (link)
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Just call! even if his mom or someone answers you're going to have to eventually meet them anyway if your relationship to go ANYWHERE or if you want to hang out you'll have to deal with it.
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