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14/f, mildly confused
I have only been in one relationship before, and that was with a guy who was completely clueless about everything. That relationship really didn't last long.
But now there's another guy on the scene, and I am aware that he is a little more experienced.
I am very self-concious, I am not happy with my lower body (from the hips down really), and I'm not sure how comfortable I would be doing things with this guy. I really really like him, but I have never done anything beyond kissing before and I think this guy would want more.
What should I do? The relationship is in its early stages and I have made it clear that I want to wait, but for the time being it would be nice to have an idea of what I should do.
There is also the problem of me not knowing WHAT to do, which also contributes to the problem.
All advice welcomed.
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it all depends on if you want to or not. if alls he wants is head, and you dont want to, then dont go out with him. plus your only 14 and 14 year olds shouldnt be doing that. be safe, the less people in this world the better.
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No matter what he tries to make you do I will stress ALWAYS RESPECT YOURSELF FIRST. If you feel uncomfortable with your body as it is you will not feel comfortable with sex because sex is the gift of your body to someone you love and trust. You're only fourteen and have alot of time to wait until you're comfortable with a relationship that's advanced.
REMEMBER that to love another, we must first understand and love ourselves.
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Don't do any thing you will regret. WAIT.If this boy really wants more and starts to pressure you then he is not for you.
Karazi Kenzee
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If you already told him that you want to wait then he should understand. If you want my advice, you should go at a steady pace and see where it leads. If you're ready for a more serious relationship then you should tell him.
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If you are not comfortable with it then don't do it. You are still a little young for all the complications that go along with a sexual relationship (even though you probably think so!).When the time is right for you, what to do will not be a problem.
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well if you dont want to do something then dont do it. but if you do the guy usually takes the lead and if he doesnt then dont do anything you're not comfortable with. good luck with this new guy!
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Don't rush into anything you're not ready for. Don't have sex or anything when you don't want to just because you think you'll lose him if you don't. It's not worth it and if that's the only way he'll stay with you then you don't need him anyway because thats not the type of guy you want to be with. I made that mistake and lost my virginity that way and believe me i regret it because i thought i had to to make him happy.. But now we don't even get along and im still not over him because of that. I wish i wouldve waited for someone i love. If this guy cares about you he'll wait and listen to what you want. There's no reason not to like your body, don't worry about that because you should be happy with yourself not stress yourself worryin that you're not perfect, no one is. On the case of knowing WHAT to do, really once it happens its pretty much a natural instinct and you won't have any problems. Don't worry about that. Well i hope that helped and good luck. Always here
~*~Kristina~*~
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By him being more exspierienced did you mean that he has had sex before? If so, he shouldnt exspect you to have sex with him or the other stuff that hes exspierienced with. 14 is a young age to do more then making out, but thats just my opinion. Hopefully you dont have sex with him because even if you use protection you could still get pregnant and 14 is a young age to be a mother. This guy should respect what you want and shouldnt force you to have sex and do other stuff if your not ready. Good Luck Hun.
~Brina~
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i had this prOblem befOre. same exact thing. i had a bOyfriend that was twO years Older then i was. just make sure yOu talk tO him abOut hOw yOu feel. talking wOrks. make sure yOu tell him that the reasOn isnt him yOur just nOt readii yet. what dO yOu mean nOt knOwing what tO dO. my b/f helped me with that One tOO. ask him abOut things. im shure he will be glad er happy tO talk tO yOu and help. tell me hOw things end up nd if yOu need anything else write back.
hOpefully i helped yOu sOme what,
- cOlleen *
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Well if you're not comfortable, then make him wait. I know you'vve expressed this to him, but most guys hear what girls say, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Why exactly aren't you happy with your lower body? Your question is a little unclear, but I'll do my best. If you're unhappy because it is large, (your butt maybe) you can tone it with lunges (where you stand up, put one leg in front of you, and bend until your leg is parallel with the ground then come back up and switch legs) It really helps with the toning issue. if you are unhappy with it for other reasons, ask your boyfriend what he thinks and ask him to answer honestly. Honesty is an important vertue in a relationship.
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