Hey everybody like I said I'm a beach girl! Born and bred in Seaside New Jersey, with about two generations of lineage going back!
I got passed away from home to home my entire life (Seaside, Toms River, Ortley) luckily always near Seaside but my life is utter turmoil. My parents bred young and thus poor, divorced when I was five; and my mother remarried.
I have lots of friends that I love and am grateful for, socially I am very outgoing, intellectually I'm an iron fist so ask me anything!
Hmmm... oh yeah one more thing- love my music and poetry and writing and reading and history and science and psychology ~pants~ philosophy... etc.. I Like smart people stuff, to be more "bite sized"
~cHiLL~
E-mail: cleanfreakfromhell@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Seaside New Jersey
Occupation: student/work as badge gurl in summer
Age: 15
AIM: beachbtch5
Yahoo: cleanfreakfromhell
Member Since: March 6, 2005
Answers: 42
Last Update: June 16, 2005
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O.K. I'm not trying to be nasty or anything but my boob is like really sore and it has been sore for like 2 days now. What should I do? (link)
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go to the hospital
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I used to be so outgoing, I would just totally be me, and go crazy and everyone loved me for that. But now I'm like constantly tryin to be popular and I'm to afraid of what people will think if I go back to my outgoing *personatlity* Any tips on how to go back to being the true me? I'Ll rate Lots (link)
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beat somebody up... thatll break the ice and let everybody know what ur alll about and still ull remain dominant
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I am so Pro-Life and the "N" word hurts me so much when people say it!! and I am like so oppinionated as it is, but i cannot just sit by and let people say abortion is alright, and/or let them say the "N" word around me! it hurts so much! any tips on what to say? or anyone feel the same??
thanks-
Kelsa (link)
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ur a pussy
abortion is the right of every woman and no one should determine what goes on with her own body, but her.
you don't care if people say nigger? Does it affect you when people say jew, spic, cracker, etc? Crying yet?
My true suggestions? Stop being such a limp dick and keep your damn lame opinions to yourself. Don't like hearing about it? Buy earplugs you ignorant grandma-humping drone.
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ok well my freinds think im like feeling deprived because i havent cried in 3 years and i like never tell anyone what im feeling and stuff like that because i dont think that kinda stuff matters all that much. i guess i have just been playing soccer too much like my most used saying is suck it up and my knee cap is displaced and the same thing is wrong w/ my freind and she like cries all the time and she is haveing surgery done and i dont know if i should to or not because we have the same thing wrong but since im so used to not shareing my feelings i dont think it is all that bad so i dont know what to do and all my freinds think that something is wrong with me because i never tell them how i feel and i also hang out with the people at my school that cut themselves but that is only because im like trying to help them because one of them asked me to and so my other freinds are questioning me
any ways i got off the subject a couple of times but oh well just tell me if you think that there is anything i can do to help anything that i talked about (link)
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uhh... ~smoke slowly unfurls from ears~
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Ok i didnt really start like this kid until i heard that him and his g/f broke up because she had sex with another guy.. and when i found that out he started to talk to me alot and in gym class he started to come over and play tennis with me and some friends...well after a couple of days of that i told my friends they could tell him after gym soo they did and he said he may possibly like me too ( of course he didnt give them a complete answer cuase i mean he is a guy)..well that day i heard that his ex g/f wanted to go back out with him and she asked him back out(they went out 7 months b4 the break up)well i was hoping they werent going to go back out but then the next day in 5th hour she told me they were dating again after class i told my friends and broke down in tears i cried all 6th hour and when i got home i stayed in my room and didnt eat....i felt terrible..he stopped playing tennis with me but now 2 days later he is playing with me all the time and is always flirting but he has a g/f.....sooo should i like him still. . .forget about him and just be friends or is there anything else i can do. . .Please help . . i may be falling for him!!! (link)
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There is no giving up. Be coy. But if he ever tries to cross the line make it clear that you'll not be treated as an "on the side."
He'll respect you for that and treat you as worth it if you come across that way.
... As for now, I know it hurts.
Take my advice and don't talk to too many ppl about this. If word gets around he'll be angry that you're assuming gf rights too early.
Trust me... I learned that the hard way.
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omg so i thought i was pregnant and i put the form in my wallet and i left it out in my living room and my mom found it..shes coming home in 15 mins now and said she wants to talk to me abuot something and i looked though my wallet and the pink form was gone....omg what do i tlel her???? im soo scared (link)
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Well if you are, you're absolutely dead and she might make you get an abortion. ~shudders~
That would be a real shit storm so brace yourself.
If you aren't she'll tell you you're too young to be sexually active. Not as bad... but still- brace yourself.
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I got my prom dress todaii and its strapless...do you think it would look better to have my hair in an updo or styled down? (link)
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If you have skinny arms and little bust wear it up to bring attention to the grace of your thin neck and limbs. If you're on the fleshier side- with thicker arms amybe or a larger bust, wear your hair down to draw attention to that area without bringing attention to your armpits. Fat armpits aren't attractive. The hair down look will give you the whole innocent virgin look. Hair up gives you more of a kind of classy, sophisticated look.
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This guy I know has told me he liked me a few weeks ago. I STARTED to like him BEFORE he told me. When he told me and continued to confess his love for me, he just got less and less attractive. He got clingy, and obsessive. He calls me 3 or 4 times a day and can't go a day without tlaking to me on the phone, as if we are in a relationship! I suggested we hang out during spring break so I can get to know him, but then I got too busy. Then he made me promise I'd go out with him during the summer when I'm not too busy! OMG! I have tried not talking to him on the phone and avoiding his calls, but nothings working. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I DID tell him I wasn't into a boyfriend right now. Any advice? (link)
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Sounds like an unhealthy infatuation. Don't let pity for this kid force you into a relationship. Tell him to give you space or you will never be able to like him, even as a friend. Limit his phone calls and threaten to break everything off with him if he violates.
Take no prisoners. Show him who's in control.
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so i have this boyfriend. almost 3 months. but we have only held hands and hugged. he is going sooo slow. every one is like .. make the first move. but im really shy. like.. really shy. but just around the boy im going out with. are there anyway i can sortof give him hints.. but not make the firt move? 13/f (link)
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Guys can't exactly refuse doing stuff. So make the move, if you value that over the quality of your actual relationship. You're only thirteen. So relax. His balls haven't even dropped yet, probably.
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I went to a dance last night and had a BLAST! My friends went up to the kid (Ive admired from a distance lets say for like 2 years! lol) and they asked him (Logan) if he would dance with me and I guess he said yes (I wasnt there though.) So, the next slow song came on and he asked me to dance. =) Yay! And we both seemed to really like it and I could tell he was nervous which happens when you like someone right? But, then I kept trying to get his attention on the FAST dances. He would be right next to me and not even look over @ me! I mean, all these other guys told me I looked hot nd stuff byt Logan didnt even care! I was so mad. I was dancing with all my friends and we were dancing really dirty ..lol but obviously it didnt get his attention. ANyways, he didnt ask me to dance at all again the whole dance! So I danced with other people but he didnt dance with any other girls so thats a good sign?? At the end of the dance, my friends dad picked me and my friend up because I was sleeping over her house. And, we were stuck in traffic for like 3 seconds, and i saw mike with a few friends and he looked at me and i looked at him from the car and i smiled and he smiled back! We used to flirt all last year, but then he got really popular and wasnt in any of my classes. DO you think he likes me?! i hate boys ..what would you do NEXT if you were me? I dont know what the next step is for logan and me ..or if there is one at all . SOrry its long! (link)
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Maybe he's gay.
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ok... my best friends and i were sitting at lunch and we had to move because other ppl were sitting there. so when sarah got her lunch she went and sat at her old table. so i said " hey, sarah why aren't you sitting by us? she said in a attitude idk i just don't want to sit by you guys. so i assumed maybe she was mad at one of us . i said SORRY I ASKED! she said what did i do wrong .? i was so mad right then! so i turned around and started talking to my other friends. then in an attitude she said don't flip your hair at me! i was about to scream. ! i was so confuused and mad. is she mad or not? Please help
signed
confused (link)
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Kick her ass.
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Ok...ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and i love him with all my heart. Im only 14 but i know what love is. My mom said i cant see him that much. He lives about 30 min. away from me so i want to see him as much as possible. I walked out on her a few minutes ago and i dont intend to go home tonight. I dont really know what to do because she thinks im to young to be in love and i cant get her to understand that i really do love him. What should i do?? (link)
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If this is the first time you've ever felt that way, I'm sorry to say it will not last and you'll soon learn that it's merely hormonal puppy love.
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I rate ***** 5 *****
Well dont laugh but i want to be a dolphin trainner/And move to america/I live in the uk right and was gonna' move to florida last year but begged mum not to because my of my life back here. When i am older id like to be a dolphin trainner.
But to be that i need to study and learn about them and other things. I have no clue what i need to learn though.. anyone can tell me like what i need to study?
Then in grade 8 i need to pick my subjects that i have to do coursework on.. well i dont know what subjects will get me to being a dolphin trainner or even an author..?
So any help and i rate ***** 5 *****
lush me x (link)
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If you want to do anything in the sciences you have to be a math wiz and go to college. The pay sucks. But you need to know alot ALOT of math to get into it. But if your heart's really set on it, then go for it.
And why the hell would I laugh?
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I was wondering if there's anyway to get rid of a real tan? I went to the lake this past weekend and got wayyyy too tan becasue we were out all of the 3 days. It makes me look so fake and gross. (link)
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I'm sorry... why would you not want to be tan?
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i went out wit this kid a while ago and we really liked eachother , cept he went to a different school so we didnt see eachother that much or talk in that case, and after a couple months we just decided to wait till the summer to go out so we can do stuff with eachother. then a couple months later he started liking my best friend and the two of them hit it off behind my back. but ya now i dont kno if he likes her anymore and i take it the summer plans are off, but i still like him alot and miss him, should i give it up or wat? help! (link)
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Guys that hit on friends are untrustworthy. Screw him. Move on.
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I've heard everyone say bleach is really bad for your hair. But there is a brand I found, that I'm not sure if it's good. It's the "Punky Color Bleach Kit" if anyone can tell me if this works good that would help a lot. By the way I have dark brown hair so.. I sorta need the bleach, because I'm going to be using a neon orangish color. (link)
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All right... don't bleach it's absolutely terrible for your hair. If your hair is soft now you'll absolutely hate your texture afterwards. It will feel fried. Your ends won't know where they end.
Trust me- bleach ruins lives.
Stay away.
Try some red hairdye, mmh? Try a nice auburn look? Or maybe some violent-looking red highlights???
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The other night, I was out with a friend, and we met up with these guys. I guess you could call them 'skaters'. So. The two of us walked around, while they skated around us. They asked us if we'd let them finger us, and we joked around saying yeah. We told them we'd have sex with them in an instant, even though we were kidding, which I guess they didn't realize.
So, we headed for a park by a school, and they got behind a bush and pretty much just pulled it out right there, and they were begging us to come back there and, well jerk them off. I wouldn't do it because quite frankly, I've got a little more self respect than that. I wouldn't let my friend do it even though she was tempted because she has a boyfriend and she knew she'd regret it right after she finished.
So, these guys were telling me I'm a total "downer" and a "prude" and later they told my friend that they really didn't like me, just because I wouldn't give them a handjob.
So, I feel really bad about myself, like I let them down or something, even though I know that they're just huge jerks. For some reason, I can't stop thinking about it and wishing that I had just done it and everything would be fine now.
I'd really like some advice about what I should do. Thanks. (link)
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EW! Not worth your time! These are fly-by-night manwhores, not God. Who the fuck cares what they think? You're not a prude- you have SELF RESPECT. There is a huge difference. Do you think it really would have been a better decision to do things with people you'd just met? What if it really had led to sex? How would you view yourself after that? And how do you think people would view you?
Personally I'd rather be viewed as prudish than some dirty slut.
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well tomrrow night im going to this concert thing and im really not sure what to wear. I have a white tank top with flames on the bottom of it but what can I do to cover it up like a jacket? (link)
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who cares?
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i want to curl my hair or something but i dont want a perm. my hairs like wavy kinda so i straighten it and the other day i tried to scrunch it but i dont know wut products to use. So how can i curl and scrunch my hair??? (link)
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Ever tried to braid your hair and sleep on it? It comes out awesome- all kinky and crazy. Try sleeping with curlers. Avoid irons or hairsprays that can kill your hair.
Ever heard of wrap snap and go? Look it up they rock.
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My friend T (shes 14) lost her baby in feb.. and obviously she is really upset.. but i dont no how to comfort her and make her feel better.. cuz its not like i can be like everythings gonna be ok.. because its not gonna be.. and this entire week she was sick and today she got really sick in school and Couldn't move so they took her to the hospital.. and i feel bad for that.. How would I comfort her in These 2 situations
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There is no sorrow... abosultely none.. which can be matched as that of losing a child.
Chances are you cannot, no matter how much you wish to, relate to her fully as of now. Be there to give hugs, and try to give her time. And if you believe in "all that" pray if it would comfort you.
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