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Trying to get a clingy guy away
This guy I know has told me he liked me a few weeks ago. I STARTED to like him BEFORE he told me. When he told me and continued to confess his love for me, he just got less and less attractive. He got clingy, and obsessive. He calls me 3 or 4 times a day and can't go a day without tlaking to me on the phone, as if we are in a relationship! I suggested we hang out during spring break so I can get to know him, but then I got too busy. Then he made me promise I'd go out with him during the summer when I'm not too busy! OMG! I have tried not talking to him on the phone and avoiding his calls, but nothings working. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I DID tell him I wasn't into a boyfriend right now. Any advice?
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Okay! So I have had the same problem before. And if you don't want to talk to him about it, just tell him your parents are getting annoyed so it is best he only calls like once a day. And just let him know that you have other responsibilities and can't always spend your time with him. But the best thing would probably be to tell him straight up. Goodluck and I hope he gives ya a lil room to breathe! LOL
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I've had a guy like that...and what i did to aviod him was i told him to stop calling so much and that yall arent dating so yall dont have to talk everyday and just tell him that you liked him better when yall were friends.... and or just keep avioding his phone calls and he'll calm down from you and get the idea
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Sounds like an unhealthy infatuation. Don't let pity for this kid force you into a relationship. Tell him to give you space or you will never be able to like him, even as a friend. Limit his phone calls and threaten to break everything off with him if he violates.
Take no prisoners. Show him who's in control.
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You may just have to get nasty. I know you don't want to hurt his feeling but he doesn't seem to be getting the message. So, if your absolutley certain you don't want to go out with him...Get nasty!
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Well, you CAN'T be afraid to "break-a-heart" ! he will have to get over it. its not your fault that you don't like him as much as he obviuosly like s you.
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I think maybe he just likes you a lot and he doesn't want to lose you. Flattering...but yes...annoying. You should definitely hang out with him occasionally to calm him down. Sit down with him and tell him directly how you feel. You do not want a boyfriend. You are a busy girl. And you think he is being too clingy. You two can hang out sometimes, but you need some space.
Don't ignore him completely because that may make him psycho and try to spend time with you even more. Just tell him to take it slowly. If you can't handle it, tell him you need a break from each other. After the break, if you still feel things aren't working out, you need to tell him you are not interested in him and he should find another girl. Hope it works out.
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The best way to deal with boys like this is to let them down easy. Tell him that you are not interested in him and that it's not really him rather you are kinda busy right now and don't have time to be on the phone every day and sometimes when you do have some you time you don't wanna be on the phone, or promising things. And then let him know that it's not right to either of you to have to pencil in time and to be tied down. Tell him you both are young and can be friends but nothing else. Good Luck!
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