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ok well my freinds think im like feeling deprived because i havent cried in 3 years and i like never tell anyone what im feeling and stuff like that because i dont think that kinda stuff matters all that much. i guess i have just been playing soccer too much like my most used saying is suck it up and my knee cap is displaced and the same thing is wrong w/ my freind and she like cries all the time and she is haveing surgery done and i dont know if i should to or not because we have the same thing wrong but since im so used to not shareing my feelings i dont think it is all that bad so i dont know what to do and all my freinds think that something is wrong with me because i never tell them how i feel and i also hang out with the people at my school that cut themselves but that is only because im like trying to help them because one of them asked me to and so my other freinds are questioning me
any ways i got off the subject a couple of times but oh well just tell me if you think that there is anything i can do to help anything that i talked about
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alright well you just have a different way to cope with things. You sound like a little tough girl. thats fine. theres nothing wrong with you. but about the surgery. you should take care of that now before you get the "you cant play" speech. i play soccer too and ive been there. You should definately be there for your friends that cut but make sure your other friends understand what youre doing. they sound like really great friends that care about you a lot. you will eventually have to find adult help for your friends that cut. But try to wait until the best moment to speak up. your friends have to have the right additude if help is going to help them. My best friend used to cut real bad and still does it sometimes. you cant make them stop on youre own. if you do then you need to be the one giving me advice. good luck to you and all your friends.
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I think they are concerned, not trying to pry in your personal life, they are loving, caring, and concerned friends. Basically the surgery IS your decision, but it wouldn't hurt to explain to your friend why you do want to or why you don't. Sometimes explaining to people how you feel is a release of stress and sadness if we have a lot in us.
If you still don't wish to tell them, at least explain to them that you are ok, and this whole knee surgery, and being around people who self destruct stresses you out, I know you want to help this cutter, but soon you are going to have to get your friend directed to adult help, helping her quit by herself makes it harder to quit alone itself, because you don't have much support when you are quitting, she needs her support system so she will feel the love shes got around her, obviously shes feeling like nobody cares by hurting herself. So you should probably get her to help, or you will make this quitting process slower or impossible.
Sorry for taking so long on that topic. But, you should tell your friends that you are only helping, and you just need their trust for now. You sound like a girl who needs someone to talk to, maybe you could try sharing your feelings, give it a shot, because you never know what you'll feel when you tell people your feelings. If you don't like it, then you don't have to do it anymore, but its always worth a try, you can start with the little things, like instant message talking, and then move on to the phone. You can even talk to me, I won't ask who you are, I'll just listen and try giving you all of the comfort I have, just inbox me if you want to try sharing your feelings.
-TheTeenGirl
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What you are feeling is very important. Everyone handles things differently and just because you don't cry and tell people when you are upset does not mean you are deprived. It seems, though, that your friends would like to talk to you more about how you are as they care about you and want to help you. Try to let them if you can.
About surgery can you talk to your parents and a doctor? I wouldn't decide solely because a friend was having it done as you do not know the implications of the proceedure or if it would definately apply for you. Book an appointment with your doctor to see if you want to although if you don't feel that is it that bad then maybe you don't want to go through with it. You need to work out if you want this done or not.
Try to talk to your friend about what she is going through. Doing this may lead you to open up too as you might be able to relate to her and can say simple things like, "I feel like that too". It may not be a lot but it is a start to opening up.
About your friends who cut- doing this is a way to vent and let out pent up emotions for many. Could you suggest counselling for them- is there a service available in your school? It may be an idea to suggest that they write down their feelings in a diary- and you too if you want to. It is briliant that you are trying to help them. If your friends are questioning you, ask your other friends- who cut- what you can say? Eg. is it okay to say that they cut and you're trying to help? It may not be though and if this is the case maybe you could just say you are helping them with something. Don't devote all your time to them, though. I understand that they are very emotional and going through a lot at the moment, but try not to neglect your other friends as these are important too.
I hope this helped. Take care xxx
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Hi. There's nothing wrong with keeping your feelings to yourself. Some people are just more open than others. But there's also nothing wrong with sharing your feelings. People often feel better after they shared their feelings with others. Sometimes, you get to see a problem from a different perspective and at other times, it's just good to know that someone gets you and that you're not alone.
About your displaced knee cap: I think you should talk with your friend and have a doctor take a look at your knee. If your friend is having surgery, then she has a good reason for it.
That's very sweet of you to help that person out. Tell your friends the truth that you're only trying to help them so they won't worry about you. I hope this helps!
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