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I am so Pro-Life and the "N" word hurts me so much when people say it!! and I am like so oppinionated as it is, but i cannot just sit by and let people say abortion is alright, and/or let them say the "N" word around me! it hurts so much! any tips on what to say? or anyone feel the same??
thanks-
Kelsa
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In most cases, theRe Really isn't anything you can do about it; you can't change someone elses peRsonal opinion, but you most ceRtainly should let them know that you find theiR speech to be offensive. You could also ask them why they said what they did, and why they feel that way. The best way to do this is if you believe that you can *both* handle a civil, imfoRative, adult conveRsation, tRy aRguing theiR points with youRs to compaRe and contRast. Goodluck! Hope I helped!!
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There is nothing you can really do, I mean it offends me too but you can't do anything other than letting the person saying it that it is offending you.
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Kelsa -
If you want your opinion to be acknowledged and respected, you must do the same for those for the opposing argument. Realize that you learn most and better understand a subject by listening and taking into consideration the perspective of the opposing platform.
As for the N-word, it's used so casually these days. Usually it's not used against African-Americans anymore for the racial bias policies, but I hear it more often used referring to friends or "homies". Like I hear white guys all the time look at each other and say, "Hey nigga, wassup?!?"
But if it bothers you that much, stand up for yourself and say something!
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You have every right to your opinions, and it's good to talk and debate about what you think is right. However, others have equal right to their opinions, and this means that you will run in to people who you disagree with. The best way for an opinionated person such as yourself to combat this is to talk to people you both agree and disagree with about the topics concerned, as listening to all sides of the argument helps you learn and develop your own opinions further.
If somebody uses language that you find offensive, call them on it. Don't be rude or aggressive, but if you calmly ask them if they think that's an acceptable word to use, then you are drawing attention to the fact that not everyone is comfortable with this type of language, and will hopefully also prompt them to think about the implications of what they are saying. Sometimes all it takes is for one person to make a stand for things to die down.
With contraversial political topics such as abortion though where you may want to dive in with bold statements about how you feel, you also have to be aware of how others feel and be a bit sensitive to others opinions. If you just jump in shouting "but how can you think that? Abortion is just wrong!", or similar, people are unlikely to want to talk about the issue with you as you've failed to say anything constructive. As with the prevoius issue, if you want to debate, approach the topic calmly, inviting the other person to talk about why they feel the way they do, before you explain the way you do, and this way you can actually hope to educate the other person about the way you feel. You can be passionate and firm in your opinions without becoming aggressive to people with different opinions or patronising them.
However, there are some fights that you will never win, and it is worth knowing which battles to pick. Even with intelligent debate, you are unlikely to convert somebody who is pro-choice to your viewpoint, just as they would be unlikely to convert you. That doesn't mean talking to them isn't worthwhile for both parties, but you do need to know when to back down and accept that it is something you will just never agree on.
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That bothers me too but people will never stop saying it as much as it bothers you. I dont think you should say anything to them at all because they wont care. Just try to ignore them or tell them to shut up! Dont even be by them. If I was you I would probablly end up hitting them. l0l x0
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ur a pussy
abortion is the right of every woman and no one should determine what goes on with her own body, but her.
you don't care if people say nigger? Does it affect you when people say jew, spic, cracker, etc? Crying yet?
My true suggestions? Stop being such a limp dick and keep your damn lame opinions to yourself. Don't like hearing about it? Buy earplugs you ignorant grandma-humping drone.
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I love that your opinionated and you have a strong view. If someone uses the N word around you, just ask them why they call each other that and how you think its garbage.
As for the abortion topic, when it comes up in convo just state your opinion and back it up with facts, etc. Everyone has their own opinion, so if someone disagrees, i would just agree to disagree..feeling strongly is good, telling people your right and they are wrong , isnt. what im saying is, dont hound the topic, just say your opinion and let them talk, then just agree to disagree on the matter if they are pro abortion.
Me personally? I dont know how i feel on the subject..i go back n forth.
-melissa-
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I deff. feel the same..i cringe when people say abortion is right...there should only be 1 time where abortion is right and that is when the person is raped. It hurts to think that people could accutally kill their child...purposly...i suggest a book for you to read its called Gianna by Jessica Shaver and its about a girl who aborted her baby but gave birth to a live baby instead of a dead one...its a really good book. as for what to say when people say that abortion is right just come back at them and tell them your reasons why its not. dont be afraid to stick up for what you feel. i have gotten into arguments with teachers about this and it opens your mind, so just go for it. hope i helped! need any more leave one in my inbox
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1st off, If you hear then N word tell people not to use it because it's offensive. That should be stopped and even people who use it know better.
2nd, the pro-life/pro-choice thing, if people are talking about it don't jump in and start fighting them. Your might loose friends that way. If the time is right you can say you don't beleive in that and state what you beleive, but don't like "attack" people with it. If you do, they'll never want to listen to your opinions.
Sorry if that sounded harsh, I coulden't really get it to sound non-harsh.
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Abortion is wrong. Many people feel that the baby isn't alive yet, so it's not killing anybody. By far it's killing an innocent person. How is NOT killing someone when you can see and feel the baby inside you. How is it not a living being when it kicks? It is living and people who don't see it that way are sick minded people.
-therocket♥
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