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so i have this boyfriend. almost 3 months. but we have only held hands and hugged. he is going sooo slow. every one is like .. make the first move. but im really shy. like.. really shy. but just around the boy im going out with. are there anyway i can sortof give him hints.. but not make the firt move? 13/f
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Me too! but im almost 5 months along. We hold hands at movies and hug all the time, its just i really want him to kiss me. I know im only 13 but i really like him, and i really want to kiss him but im very shy. im thinking soon mabey ill kiss him, but he has alot of chances and i dont know why he doesnt take them, and i think he doesnt like me because of that. I dont care if he kisses me or not, its mostly just pressure from my friends, but i know how you feel.
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Well being 13 the easiest way is to do the "friend Chian" (you know Bob told mary that sue said).
Tell your friend to tell a friend of his that you want him to make the first move, and his friend will tell him that allowing him to know that he should make the first move.
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Maybe when you hug him kiss him on the cheek. You wont be making the first move really, just helping it along and it will give him confidence to make the first move.
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Guys can't exactly refuse doing stuff. So make the move, if you value that over the quality of your actual relationship. You're only thirteen. So relax. His balls haven't even dropped yet, probably.
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He is deffinatly as shy as you.Make the first move.Whats the worst that could happen?
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Ok, well this happened wtih me im a 13 year old boy, and i was very slow, about five months first kiss for me , and trust me you dont wanna go to far at such a young age, i havent done sex, but im just saying everything builds up. You might get bored of just kissing and work your way to something that will be more harmful, so make sure you have a good relationship with your boyfriend and you will stop forgetting about those kissy days.. good luck hope i helped
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13 year old boy's just aren't real Romeo's yet.
Don't rush it. To soon you'll have to beat him off with a stick! Don't worry about making any moves. You might scare him off.
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you're only 13, chill out!
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My boyfriend and I didn't kiss until we had been going out for seven months. If you really want to kiss him, you should make the first move. Just take every opportunity you have with him when you two are alone to get close to him. Or just plain flat-out tell him. Or you could say, "You know, I always wondered what kissing was really like..." I know it sounds corny, but it works. Just drop subtle hints like that. Chances are he wants to kiss you, but he's just too nervous/shy. Hope you have fun!
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You are shy? How do you think he feels. He is scared to make the first move to because he probablly thinks that you wont like him to. You need to if he doesnt because then you guys wont get nowhere!! x0
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You are too young to be doing more anyway. Do you really wanna remember your first time as you rushed into it when you were 13 and now you wish this guy hadn't givin in. Plus you must remember that guys are tyring to wait until they are ready too. If he's not ready you should respect that. But if you need to know then you should bring it up in t conversation. Oh and by the way, if you get too shy to even try and make the first move with this guy then do you really think you're going to be comfy kissing him or having sex with him? Let it run it's course, maybe you two just need to take a look at what you want out of it. Are you wanting sex or just a kiss? he may think kissing is a big deal.Talk to him, if anyone knows why he's going so slow it would be him. he could be scared, guys get insecure just like females. Good Luck!
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talk to him about it!!
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I am really really shy too around my bf somtimes but if u wanna give him "hints" and not tell him then when u hold hands snuggle up to him more and even though you don't wanna mae the first move, when your coming out of a hug with him, kiss him lightly on the cheek and im sure that should break the ice and give him a clue that its ok to kiss you or whatever.
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You have to pick one or the other. If you want to be shy, you have to wait until he makes the move. If you want to kiss, you have to make the first move. No way around it.
My boyfriend was really shy when we first started going out. I was always the one to make the first move for everything and we hadn't kissed yet. We had moments where we almost kissed, but we were both too shy. Finally one day he kissed me. If you're lucky, that'll happen to you too. But think about it...what if he NEVER makes the move?!
So my advice would be to take the matter into your own hands. Just go for it. If you are too shy, talk about how you've never kissed anyone before and ask him straight forward if he could give you your first. Hint you can give are to lean your head close, continue looking into his eyes, glance at his lips and then smile back and look into his eyes, kiss his cheek, etc.
So you have a few options. Make the move yourself. Give him big hints. Ask him to kiss you. Just remember though that if you don't make the move there's no guarantee he'll ever kiss you ;) Good luck!
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First off, you're 13, what's the big deal? Second, if you're scared to make the first move my suggestion is always to get really, really close. It's all about positioning.
Watch "Mean Girls"... you know that scene where the #1 hottie is tutoring Kady and she gets closer and closer until he kisses her? Way to work it!
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Have your best, most trusted friend talk to him. Just have her/him let the guy know that you don't mind him going a little faster. Keep in mind, he might be just as shy as you are. Hope it works out!
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Jus make the first move if you want it so bad..
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