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Prudeness
Every guy in my grade thinks im prude. They Think im pretty and hot and all, but they wont date me becuase they think i wont do anything. I WILL though, i just am relly self consious and i always think there is something on my face or something when boys talk to me. How can i change this?! please help me :]
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Yo I don't know if this will help any but...if you are talking about changing being prude or the boys thinking your prude then here i go... there is probably no way to change this unless u prove your self which i don't recommend... and i am in that situation right now and i haven't tried to prove myself once and most of the boys who are talking about me are either prude themselves or sex freaks. It's crazy but really true. so I hope i helped even a lil bit.
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if they wont date you because they think you wont be sexual with them then dont bother trying to change and impress them because they will just use you. they dont like you for you, they want you for your body and the moment they think that you are easy they'll use you and tell all their mates about it.
dont let them treat you like this, you deserve better.
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Don't try to change it. Being a prude isn't a bad thing. Don't just give yourself away to any guy so that the guys won't think you're a prude anymore. You don't want a guy who only wants to fool around with you, you want a guy who loves you for who you are.
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Prudeness can be a good thing whether you believe it or not. If a guy wont date you because he thinks you won't do anything sexual then hes not the guy you should want to be with. A guy will come along that will want you for you and it will have nothing to do with sex. That is the type of guy you need because when a relationship starts off about sex, it will stay that way whether you want it to be more or not. Every girl is self conscious about how she looks. It can be the prettiest girl in your school and she is like that but some dont show it as much as others. next time youre talking to a guy try toconcentrate on him and not yourself and youll feel more relaxed and it will probably go better. Good Luck
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First of all, there's nothing wrong with a little prudeness, it's way better than sleeping with any guy that happens to walk by :)
Second, guys shouldn't date a girl because they want to get fuzzy with her, they should because they like you for who you are, including your lack of confidence.
As for that, self consiousness is very common among girls. Some hide it, some overdo it, but most girls are very self consious. There's no real trick for this, you'll just have to step over this and practice to not let it control your actions. You can learn to be more comfortable around guys as you spend more time with them. If it's really severe, there are support groups for this problem, but most girls don't need that, they just need to step over that. It's not an easy step but it gets easier every time.
To give a signal to the boys that you're not prude and willing to date, take initiative! Though most women wait for the men to take the first step, we men just LOVE it when a woman does. The downside to this is that getting rejected is bad for that confidence, but just remember that those boys think you're pretty, so there are probably enough guys who wouldn't reject you.
Good luck.
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